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Michael has no problem with me enjoying a random man we can talk into joining us in a hotel room. I feel the excitement of the whole meeting starts with our conversation with a stranger, how they will react and what will happen. Most men we engage are happy to get a blow job, many will have full sex. Some will get hard immediately, some can’t. Some will go 10 seconds, some go very long. I normally say size doesn’t matter yet it does in the first viewing if he is outside a normal average. Pickups are not the only meetings we have, it is a fun side of our swinging. Convincing a couple is much harder to accomplish, very rare, and then there was a one couple who we have stayed in touch with who doesn’t live near us.

I agree with the general concern, consent. And both of us never play with those who are deep in their cups. We generally only play with those we know well….and know us. New playmates we normally play with those who have not been drinking….or have had only a glass or two. Consent is HUGE with us. However please keep in mind that “Kyla” had given her consent. And they only play with those in their closed group. An older group…..most all are retired. According to Kyla who spoke very enthusiastically about this adventure she loves it. Her choice. I know this isn’t our cup of tea. The Queen has no interest at all. For me I need and thrive off the woman/women I’m with, their reactions to what I am doing. The excite noises…moans. So some one essentially passed out or unconscious, at their request, does nothing for me. I/we have participated in those blind folded, hooded etc but they all have had their voice to respond. Again, Kyla’s kink.

Part of the fun of swinging is the novelty of new partners. Regular swing partners can get repetitive or stale. We met a couple with a three times (to play) and you’re out. Interesting.

Sometimes you have to swallow your pride.

I swallow, in fact, a good load it is what I expect if I am finishing off a guy with my mouth

Right there with you. If you blow a guy to climax, you'll likely get the first pump in your mouth. So even spitting it out leaves some of the taste. If you give blowjobs regularly, you know when the guy if about to cum. His body language gives it away (and many times he moan 'I'm going to cum'). I guess you can pull it out right before he cums but that seems like a let down for him. If you pull the head towards the back of your throat, the cum gets pumped down your throat, avoiding the taste buds on your tongue. For me, I enjoy the taste of Mr's cum. I swallow every time I finish him with my mouth.

We reignited our search for new swing partners and I’m wondering how others handle who they meet and why you meet. We both agree that there is magic in meeting a new partner, a feeling you have only once. We used to build relationships, make friends and have ongoing sexual play with those we met. Over the years we met those that we have remained friends with over years of play in spite of moving to different areas. With the new search in a new area we had a talk about building new circles of friends or expand to finding multiple play partners. Being honest my wife said she enjoys newness and the added excitement of new partners. I didn’t expect her to say that. The talk led to do we just meet anyone or set up standards, of course we have standards. I am excited to meet new partners too, the newness and variety many of us want but trying to keep safety a priority. Are we becoming sluts in our midlife or is it normal to want variety? Are others feeling as we do that variety is the spice we want.

I am married but my wife is not much interested in sex. Occasionally I get in touch with an old girlfriend who is very much interested. We have video calls from time to time and I masturbate while she watches. It’s a huge turn on for me having her watch until I cum. Sometimes she is topless while I’m jerking and once in a great while she gets naked and joins in. Just thinking about it gets me hard

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Sometimes, that's how things start...

My wife and I do oral on each other as foreplay, and I usually cum in her pussy. Sometimes she takes me all the way and it's so intense! If you can imagine it, it's like her taking my cum instead of me giving it to her. It's like she's taking it from me and I have no control of it. That's why I don't like most porno depictions of blowjobs becaus invariably the guy has to finish himself off and shoot on her face or tits or whatever. I love finishing with a blowjob, however rarely, because that's something I can't do for or to myself. Ah yes to lay back and receive those sublime ministrations, feel myself get tingly all over, feel my weiner get harder than I ever thought possible, feel my body go off the cliff of no return, feel that lovely bliss for what seems like forever between the point of no return and when the contractions start... A true out of body experience! Oh yeah, to the topic on hand. She's swallowed every time I've gone off in her mouth. Even the first time she ever did it A trooper that girl! She swallows too fast IMHO. I commonly want to share it with her.

Mostly regular partners for us with a few friends of friends sprinkled in.

Yes. BDSM activities involve a lot of trust and accountability between the people involved, and this shifts that onto the "awake" partner in a big way. Even in a very high-trust situation, there is a lot that could go wrong. I would hate to be on the blaming end of a "you let WHO do WHAT, didn't you know better"-type conversation that was very avoidable by not indulging this particular kink.

The guys have told us that Clair has the practice of gently tugging on David's or Red's dick (whoever she's with) to wake him and excite him when she wants it. That's her middle of the night initiation of sex ritual.

Have not tried it, but most subby women I've known had fantasies that overlapped with this. For some, the kink is in the loss of control and the anxiety that comes with being in control. Literally not knowing what happened feels like a fairly extreme form of that. I'm sure many women would be intrigued, few would want to try it, and fewer still would have a partner they could trust to try it with. You'll probably find this is a very touchy thread for some, as BDSM topics are often divisive and this overlaps with some very sensitive consent issues. It's clearly not for everyone. I suspect that if I had a partner who asked me to arrange this type of scene, I would probably tell them "no", at least not unless I knew for certain they were already comfortable with the people involved.

Still thinking about to try it

I would tell it would always be a mix of both regular and new partners. Both have their own advantages. For Tomy he prefers always new partners as he likes variety and for me it is about mix of both. The regulars know what you like and how and the new ones is always an experiment.

Why is it that to qualify as a slut means to have continuing new partners, rather than a husband and two guys on the side? I have a variety of sex with my men (and women); more I think, than swingers who just venture out a couple of times a month. I feel left out. 😉

Q: Who's turn is it? A: Tyler's. Apparently.

We hate labels, slut is not in our vocabulary. We decided that one night or one hour meetings are fun, exciting, and different every time. The big problem is finding couples that only want a one time meet meaning Michael usually has sex with our regular friends. Finding single men for anonymous sex is easier, we find men at hotels or sporting events. We don’t use slut yet I can act like one if I want.

You can't force her to want to. Tell her just once or twice that it's your fantasy, then drop it. Ask her what her fantasies are and help her pursue them. That's what my husband did, let me fuck another guy for two years while he remained monogamous. Then the I reached a point where I gave him everything he wanted and more. Not because I felt obligated, but because it turned me on.

I said I would never eat lamb. now I love it and choose it over steak on many nights out. tastes change.

I considered myself straight until I got up the courage after two years to let hubby play with other women (my friends of my choosing) after him letting me to keep my boyfriend. The times i got to watch, I had the same urge as you and went down on her to reclaim his cum. Now I'm as much Lesbian as straight.

We always get a chuckle out to these kinds of discussions relating to dick size, vagina size, or other physical attributes over which people have little, if any, actual control. More to the point, these things are almost completely irrelevant to having enjoyable, satisfying sexual experiences. We've always operated with the understanding that the brain is the largest (and most important) sex organ and that everyone is responsible for his or her own orgasm. We realize that second part may seem very alien to some people. But, it's really just a straightforward acknowledgement that we all need to take ownership for our own sexual gratification. Big dick, little dick, somewhere in between? Tight pussy, loose pussy, somewhere in between? Tall, short, somewhere in between? Big boobs, small boobs, somewhere in between? Heavy, thin, somewhere in between? Hardbody, soft body, somewhere in between? None of it matters so long as it is attached to someone whose fun, sexy, and genuinely "into" you and vice versa. Outside of the sex we share between each other, some of the best sex we've ever experienced has been with very average, ordinary appearing people. But, they were exceptional lovers. They knew how to make magic, not just Stick Tab A in Slot B. We'd like to think we're pretty good at it, too 🙂

All up to her but I know my wife won't rule out to swallow other guy's cum as a gratitude to show how she appreciated if she enjoyed the sex.

My current GF has been curious about swinging and nonmonogamy in general, and not found anyone she could be open about it with. When we started talking, and she found that instead of the idea bothering me, I was an enthusiastic supporter, she was able to talk about some fantasies that she's never been able to say out loud before. I don't think she really believed that it was okay with me. The first time she came to me after a hot date, she was so excited to shot me her creampie, and she came almost instantly when I pushed into her. I think that afternoon, she was finally able to relax and trust that I like her, even when she's leaking another guy's cum. She's still at the early stages of the lifestyle, and I"m encouraging her to take small steps so that she's comfortable at each new experience. But so far, it's been a helluva ride. To think that several guys let this one get away... well, it certainly works out to my benefit. As to sloppy seconds (or thirds, or fifths, or whatever), the hotter and slippery-er (yes, that's a word now) she is, the better. Also, the more turned on she is the better. She gets SO turned on showing off for me, that the sex can't be anything but amazing.

I really like sucking dick (I cum when I gag lol) and unless the guy wants to cum on my tits or something I always swallow

I love to swallow cum, it is so naughty and I love for my husband to as well. I love to feel his throat as he does. We both also love kissing afterwards and with mouthfuls. I love the smell and taste of cock and cum on my man as he does on me. We both now also love getting filled with cum (anywhere). This is one of the reasons years ago I wanted to go bisexual with other bi couples, one needs more penises to do it all. Darn guys they have such cool creamy real filled tools.

Swallow for sure, but she prefers cum in her pussy. The Reality is, we find guys don't tend to cum as easily with a BJ as they do fucking. I know I don't, regardless of the woman. I do love it when what I thought was foreplay turns into her giving a full on Beej until I cum. A nice change up. Still, I think my favorite way to cum is in her pussy.

It also sounds like a good way to get an eye full of Cum which is why I started sucking them down in the beginning lol. I never worried about trying to get him to cum outside and the negative outcomes since I prefer it in me and not on me. Guys like it even better when I make a show of rolling their semen around in my mouth and displaying it on my tongue before the big swallow. That never appealed to me, the injecting of semen right down my throat. I've done it a couple of times, but no more (see above).

I frequently swallow. I really do not see the big deal, if a guy blows in my mouth, it is already in my mouth, I've already tasted it, if I was to spit it out there is no way to get it all out some of it gets swallowed regardless. So I swallow it all. Plus, guys think swallowing is sexy and it gets me closer to them being hard again for more playtime.

In our play group, blowjobs are almost always foreplay without ejaculation. Cum eating is done by the women going down on another woman with a sloppy pussy.

I swallow if the guy deserves it. To me, swallowing is a sign of attraction and compatibility. If I meet a guy at at swing party or event and we have great conversation and he's an overall nice guy, I'll swallow his load if it gets to that point. I like cum, but love it if it comes from a nice guy.

She has always been a swallower and knows just how to apply the perfect sucking pressure to the finish. I was surprised one night when she knew I was about to cum that she took her mouth off and pumped me into her mouth. It seems that a man she met enjoyed that and she thought I would too.

Your first time you made him cum and swallowed the entire load without any problem. Give yourself some credit.

Don’t think it’s impressive, I didn’t know what to do I am sure. He most likely could have done it alone without me. If I remember after all these years it didn’t take long. Maybe I had a talent as I think at that age it was normal for most. It was not deep throat fucking I am certain. Maybe some guys cannot cum from blowjobs, I don’t think I ever met a guy who didn’t cum if I wanted him to.

I don’t think any straight guy can understand what a girl is going through the first time she is giving a blowjob. My girlfriend gave a boy a blow job before me and warned me about her first time and she let him out of her mouth and got a mess on her clothing. Her next time she swallowed and said it wasn’t bad. Me being a cool friend I offered her brother a blow job. He knew it was my first time so he just opened his pants and let me go slow. I kissed it and kissed it. He said I could take it in my mouth. He was teaching me. He had slowed me and told me to stop and I thought maybe he was finished and then he was sliding in and out. When he came I swallowed and then another gush and another. Felt like he was gushing a cup full and I swallowed as fast as I could. I later told my friend that it wasn’t bad, in fact I was afraid I was going to come off as not knowing what I was doing.

She is not a fan of covered BJs - if he cums in her mouth she swallows

If a man is in my mouth when he ejaculates, I have no problem swallowing. Guys like it when a woman swallows their cum, especially if you make a big deal of it and roll it around in your mouth beforehand. Although I almost always suck a man's penis as foreplay, I much prefer for a man to leave his sperm in my vagina. It goes back to my Catholic school days when sex ed was mostly about biology and baby making, rather than sex. That's why my fetish are guys' testicles and sperm living inside me for several day. More than one man's sperm, even better.

Mrs Doc swallows me always if I cum during oral. She does with others too but not always. In our swinging experiences, oral for her is often just foreplay and she rather make sure a dick is good and hard and then ride it for her pleasure (and his) rather than just sucking him off. Part of the fun of being married to her tho is that I don't EVER know what she's gonna do sexually. Just before the virus outbreak, we were going to dinner (only dinner was the plan) with one of our swinger couples. When we got to their house for a before dinner cocktail, the other wife said to my wife, "We have a little time before our reservations. Lets give the boys a thrill". Mrs Doc got a sexy glint in her eye and said, "Ok, what do you have in mind"? The other wife led as to the bedroom and told both guys to drop their pants and lay on the bed. She started to work my cock and I saw Mrs Doc starting in on our friend. My wife took her boobs out (easy access top/no bra) and started to rub along he's thighs while she licked his cock. The other wife was bending over me and sucking while standing next to the bed, after a bit she move my hand between her legs where I discovered no panties and a very wet pussy. So, Im fingering a lovely and sexy woman while watching my topless wife blowing our friend. Mrs Doc is very skilled and in no time our friend warned her he was about to cum. When she didn't pull back I knew this would be one of THOSE times. She slid down his cock as he started to cum and held it there until he was done and then she swallowed. Needless to say, watching that whole scene unfold next to me set me off too. And yes, the other wife swallows too. Both women headed towards the bathroom to brush. As they walked away the other wife said over her shoulder, "pants up guys, we don't want to be late"!! As we sat by the pool yesterday afternoon, we decided that we miss our swinger friends way more than our vanilla friends during these times!

No Roliin, you are most definitely NOT. No bareback play here. First of all, my wife cannot use any other birth control other than barrier methods (condoms) for medical reasons, and she is still within childbearing years. However, even if this were not true, given the state of STIs today, unless we knew the other couple VERY well (and let's face it, you can't really know anyone as well as you know yourselves) it wouldn't happen anyway. And, even if there were not possibility of STIs or pregnancy, my wife feels that bareback sex with anyone but me is just too intimate, and rather a violation of our bond together. T

If you're swinging, sloppy seconds is going to happen. Why not enjoy it?

I love it

We do the "sloppy seconds" thing & I absolutely LOVE it!! My man loves fuking me right after another has finished inside of me. He tells me to stay laying down on my back until he is ready to enjoy me (normally after our company leaves). We stick with a small circle of playmates & he always screens very well for us so we play as safe as possible. I can't get enough of the way he lingers with & admires my body after getting filled by another man. I can really tell how much he enjoys it by how he takes me afterwards! I hafta admit that one major reason I enjoy being with other men is because of how great & sexy he makes me feel after! I also like to clean off my hubby's dik after he soaks it in my filled V. If we play with a female I always hope she is also okay with getting filled up because then I eat my hubby's cum out of her & clean her up as much as possible. However, we do feel like pubic hair is pretty gross & we prefer you shaved. Its cleaner in general but you can also tell if there's any visible soars or what not.

Among our closed little group, the guys certainly don't let sloppy seconds stop them and the women enjoy the mess. As to going down, the guys don't necessarily seek it out, but will do it for us if asked. We women are bi, and like licking pussy and sucking dick after two have finished.

It is definitely a different feeling, especially when her BF is thicker than me. I would do it over and over, it is freaking fantastic.

For some of us, it is the number one turn on. You feel so vulnerable when you are coming and to have someone swallow is the ultimate experience. Number 2 is a complete deepthroat without swallowing.

Jeez, my wife and I have been together for 33 yrs now and I can count the times she's actually swallowed probably on one hand. The first time she almost gagged to death and it was shortly after I met her when she was 18, essentially had her backed up against the headboard and let one fly so she didn't have much choice other than to accept it. The other...two??...maybe, she was actually more than happy to accommodate. One particular extraordinarily hot and heavy session she actually jumped off after i had cum in her and began frantically going down on me wanted more cum out of it. I vaguely recall one other time...IN 30 PLUS YEARS! So essentially I'm averaging 1 swallow per decade.

Did the guy smoke tobacco? Laura thought smokers' come tasted bitter. Pussies of women who smoke don't taste as nice either.