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This is a very common beginner question. We had the same debate for a long time. I thought that it would be best to try with strangers who can be easily kept at a distance and scrubbed out of your life, she felt more comfortable finding someone we knew. I was wary of drama. I think most people here will tell you that converting vanilla friends is a high-risk activity, and single males in the lifestyle also have an unfortunate reputation, in part because they're often just desperate vanilla males who are single for a reason. People make it weird, gossip, catch feelings, etc. They may or may not have the skills to be cool about it if you can't easily cut them off after. In our case, we ended up having our first experience with a couple we knew personally, long-time friends of hers and somewhat removed from our life, who turned out to already be familiar with swinging. It was very good luck.

For us it was friends and it worked out great. I had my doubts when my wife talked me into having sex with good friends thinking it was her having the hits for our friend then I thought heck yeah I get to fuck her girlfriend. We have played with strangers that is exciting also but it was friends that got us started.

The OP title said it “in the heat of the moment”, things happen and at times the brain doesn’t function the way it was planned. Many set rules before then in the heat of the moment rules change or are forgotten. If you can’t get passed the boundary crossed it is time for the two of you to call a time out and reassess your goals and relationship.

Hello FreshCouple607, Welcome. One bit of advice; you can find something until you know what it is that you are looking for. Have the two of you sat down and really dug into what you are looking to get out of this pursuit? If not, do this before you go any further. Re: the friends or strangers, what we can offer is that the predominant view here seems to reflect a preference for making friends out of play partners rather than trying to make play partners out of friends. Find people you click with and be open and honest with them; things will progress at the rate of the slowest horse as they say, accept that.

Middle of the night or middle of the day it’s all good. Since we re-entered the lifestyle scene we are having more spontaneous sex at home. Most of the middle of the night sex is initiated by me first by spooning and waiting for a reaction. Unfortunately for me Linda hardly ever starts the action mid-sleep which I’ve mentioned to her.

Surprise him sometimes and make a move that wakes him up. Most guys don't like being awoken except when it's by a horny woman looking for sex. Nice.

But back to the OP's original transgression, they had been having sex as a couple within a group for what sounded like several hours. When he left for condoms for a few minutes she didn't see that starting up with one of the guys she had been fucking on the same night was cheating. For chrissake, she knew he would be back momentarily with condoms, presumably to fuck one of the other girls at the party!

Oh my goodness. I love it! The baby sitting for each other. We do as well. Can you imagine saying or your "other" baby sitters finding out, "Hey, we are going on a date next door with our neighbors for wild group sex." Bit of a stretch but it could slip out. We do prefer taking turns but once in a while will hire a couple of baby sitters as a group.

Other sources telling stories about that time are unreliable.

We are a poly family of three women and two men, so I am talking about among us. We women are bi, the guys are not. Which brings up a good point: we adults have recently consolidated ourselves from three bedrooms to two to give the growing kids more space. It used to be that in our minds we called each of the three bedrooms by one of the woman's names, now we women choose to sleep in "David's room" or "Red's room."

For us it was easy! Strangers. Too many reasons not to with close friends and we were not attracted to any of our platonic friends in any way and attraction is important to us.

We generally played with strangers. We did have one funny experience which I previously recounted here. We met a couple on SLS and agreed to meet at a bar. They opened their pictures on the site, but their faces were obscured. When we met, the other woman and I realized we knew each other very well. We worked across the hall from each other in an office building. Her boss and I are friends and I frequently dropped over their office. She no longer worked there. We told our partners that we knew each other. Her boyfriend said “This is so wrong, we have to do it!” We hosted them to meet for play shortly after we met. Both my wife and I thought it was a great session, but we never had round two. The bf regularly contacted me for another meeting, but they pulled out when it got close. Maybe my friend was spooked. It was worth it. Who would have thought that would happen?

is there a sign up sheet? did we miss registration?

I love to swallow cum, it is so naughty and I love for my husband to as well. I love to feel his throat as he does. We both also love kissing afterwards and with mouthfuls. I love the smell and taste of cock and cum on my man as he does on me. We both now also love getting filled with cum (anywhere). This is one of the reasons years ago I wanted to go bisexual with other bi couples, one needs more penises to do it all. Darn guys they have such cool creamy real filled tools.