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Living in NJ and hearing and reading that there was a nude beach close to where we were living we went to explore late one summer. We never told anyone we were going to go and prayed we wouldn’t see anyone we knew. We were very surprised how full the parking lot was and was about to go to one of the other beaches when a spot opened. Little did we know that the hesitation and finding that spot would lead to a new freedom for us. With finding that spot and a spot on the beach near two couples we learned about the history of the beach and the proper protocols of nude public bathing. Our new beach friends were friendly offering to share the wine and cheese they had, liquor has since been banned on the beach. I think it was us who brought up what we thought was illegal sex on the beach. In retrospect that innocent comment was all they needed to start the swinging talk.

WE wish someone would set a definitive standard for "soft swap". For us there is a pretty wide range. Everything from no contact, watch only to absolutely everything but intercourse with orgasms all around. We willingly meet and play with newbies. Those are separate concepts. Meet can take a bit of time if they are still thinking things through. Being there to answer questions and propose a few, if we think that there are missing something is a privilege. Our first meet back in the day never turned into play. We owe that couple a debt of gratitude. They normalized the whole thing for us. Somehow though, it would seem a bit like fucking our godparents . Playing with newbies can take some thought and finesse. We will not have intercourse on the initial dates. "Do no harm " is our motto here. We encourage them to set a conservative pace at the outset, encouraging them that we will not be disappointed. We want to be good for them as a couple. Things seem to flow naturally even if occasionally we have to pump the brakes if things start to get beyond their expressed comfort level. Our experience has been smiles all around, and good, relaxed, breakfast conversation the morning after.

We were all newbies so thank you to the couple we met and the couples who made the experience easy for those who like us didn’t know where to start. I say we hit the lottery of swingers looking to expand into a sexual unknown. No pressure, plenty of talking and very concerned with our questions the people we met had experience with other newbies. We couldn’t be the first for a newbie when we first started, we were asked. We didn’t want to ruin a first time for a friend who learned we started swinging. I thought if something went wrong we would lose a friend. We have no regrets introducing our friends to the wonderful couple who we met for our first. The new dynamic is we are all friends now.

Well, I've had one friend say,"I let Captain Kirk go where no man's gone before." For me, with the two new couples we've been with, we simply were the catalyst they needed. I kissed one woman and she purely melted into my arms. It was everything she had wanted. In another case, the man was so responsive to me, it opened his wife to the idea there could be more for them, My husband has fucked a girl or two to new heights. Yet, when handled correctly, it's not a jealous moment for the husband, he becomes aware of new potentials. My husband can be slowly sensual and fuck a woman into next week. It's great and I'm happy that it doesn't always have to be with me.

We met our first partners on a vanilla cruise and continue vacationing with them in mainstream resorts.

You should check out Hedonism 2 in Jamaica. (hedonism.com) There are people from all over of all ages, shapes and sizes, and walks of life. A bunch of great, friendly, open, non-judgmental folks who want to have fun. There is no pressure to do anything you don't want to do. No means no. But also opportunities to explore whatever you happen to be into. Lots of good food, entertainment, water sports, activities, etc. Hang out with your swimming suit and your Kindle on the prude side, or get naked and join the party. You can find the groups going on the website. Some are more nudist, some more lifestyle, some diverse. Find a group that interests you and book. Nearly impossible to have a bad time there. Good luck!

We like vanilla cruises with a lifestyle group best. I can message you the website of the agency that we use. The Bliss cruise is pretty wild. Have you been to Hedo or Desire?

Maybe it was good that our entree was in separate rooms. I enjoyed that my first time with another man was romantic. I don’t want to feel that the man I am doing the most intimate things with is using me. I want the connection. I don’t remember the specific things that made that first night so romantic. Location, moonlight, soft touches and possibly words. I do know the romance was not there in front of my husband and his wife. The atmosphere changed, the sex changed. I told my husband that I enjoyed the romance, I told him I felt like I was being made love to. Not being in love but making love. He was happy for me and appreciated that our new friend respected me privately. We have met this couple again and again. There is a great relationship we share. My husband knows I am safe whether we are in the same room or different rooms.