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To be honest, our first MFM wasn't great. It wasn't bad mind you, but it wasn't great. It was good to break the ice of swinging, and start to figure things out for us. But, it wasn't great. My wife and I had agreed before we dipped our toes in the pool that we would keep at it for a bit, and not base our opinion of swinging on one or a handful of times. We understood that just like vanilla dating, there was going to be a few duds along the way. We might get lucky the first couple of times, and we might not. We connected through SLS, and met up at a swinger club in the region. The second time was with the same guy. I honestly can't remember the details. Again, it was ok but not great. If we'd based our opinions on those two MFMs, there's a fair chance we would be monogamous today. I think we would have concluded, "Fun, but not really our cup of tea" and moved on. Now the third time.... We met this guy for dinner, and we all really clicked. I'm a veteran, and this guy was still on active duty. My wife has a bit of a thing with guys in uniform. My wife and I have a non-verbal means of communicating when we're deciding on whether to play with someone. Along the way, one of us will squeeze the thigh of the other. The other will squeeze back; one squeeze is yes, two is no. After a while, I squeeze my wife's thigh. I immediately got a very enthusiastic squeeze back, and knew she was really into him as I suspected. We went back to his hotel room, and things got busy pretty quick. I think my wife was naked in about 5.3 seconds, and us two guys rapidly followed. We spent quite a long time having sex. Primarily, it was the other guy having sex with my wife. I was very happy with that, as my thoughts were that I could have sex with her any other time, but she couldn't have sex with him any time. My wife had an absolute blast. She could not get enough sex from this guy. She loved it all, made absolutely delicious noises while he was fucking her, and probably came a half dozen times. It was toe curling sex for her. One of my favorite memories from that was her on her hands and knees, he was fucking her from behind, and she was giving me head. The combined motion of her being moved by him vigorously fucking her and her moans of ecstasy while I was in her mouth were absolutely delightful. After we left, and got in the car, my wife said with a huge grin on her face "Ok, now I'm a swinger!" A few days later, she got to have a solo date with him, and once again had an absolute blast. During that solo date, he told my wife that he hadn't been able to cum from oral sex alone in many, many years. My wife took that as a challenge. She is quite talented at giving oral sex, and ...challenge completed It's 14 years on now, and we continue to play. It's not as often as it used to be, but we still very much enjoy it. The journey continues.

Well my true first MFM was in college. Drunk and at a party with a guy I was kind of dating and his best friend. Drunk as well the three of us ended back at my apartment and in my room enjoying ourselves. Fast forward to after being married and being open to swinging and it happened with one of my coworkers at the time. I was working at a store as loss prevention and we hired a new guy that I was to be training. Basically our job was to watch people shopping on security cameras or go out and walk around the store as shoppers and see if we saw anything. This meant a lot of time together and talking so him and I got close and he began referring to me as his best friend quite frequently with some flirting as well. Not to hide anything from my husband I did introduce the two of them and they got along well so it was not uncommon for the three of us to hangout or spend time together. My husband would often say that he felt my coworker had a crush on me and wanted to be more than best friends. The three of us ended up going on vacation together and one night while on vacation we were enjoying a hot tub and a fair amount of drinks. Apparently my coworker was being quite flirty but I had not really noticed but it caught my husband's attention. At one point my coworker went to get a few more drinks and my husband and I had a quick conversation about this and should we see what would happen if we played into it. My coworker returned and we enjoyed our drinks and I was a bit more flirty myself before my husband decided to be the bold one and suggest we go up to our room and see what happens. I do not think either man even hesitated and soon we were back at the room enjoying ourselves.

Just recently we began friendships with two other couples. We eventually discovered that one couple were veteran swingers of 4 years and the other couple recently had their first couple of experiences, which includedbeing with our mutual couple friends. My wife and i have been talking about getting into the life style for about 2 years so this presented an opportunity. My wife has always been the driving force behind swinging, i was never against it, but also wasn't hunting for it. I just wanted my wife to have a good time and for us to share this experience together. We had a mild buildup with our friends, mostly flirting, but nothing of a soft swap nature, but we still managed to come to an arrangement to have a six way orgy as our first time swinging experience. In retrospect, probably not the best idea for a first time. We all got a hotel together, one big play room and individual rooms for couples to retire to at the end of the night (thank God we did that). My wife ended up having a great time, primarily with the male veteran of the group. I, in the other hand, was unable to RISE to the occasion. My wife is a very vocal, active lover, so i of course heard her audible enjoyment, but the other 2 females of the group are more quiet and passive in their participation, so i had a hard time knowing if they enjoyed the alternative sex acts i was performing throughout the night. This lack of positive reinforcement only added to my performance anxiety, leading to me eventually spending more time on the "bench" than participating. This was a big problem for me as a dominant alpha male (i know, get over myself). Unbeknownst to me at the time, all the guys had a hard time getting UP. The veteran even had difficult times - my wife was barely penatrated, but still had a great time. At the end of the night, my wife's experience was categorized by butterflies, excitement, and euphoria. Mine was categorized by embarrassment, shame, jealousy, and a complete drop in confidence. A few days After the experience, the group had a talk about what we thought went well and what we would like to improve moving forward. Wife and i discussed maybe next time just a good old fashioned 4 way would be better (no duh lol). The veteran male was very kind sharing his own experiences with performance failures and the women didn't make our lack of erections a big deal, so it helped, but I'm still in a slump. I'm having trouble sorting and processing my feelings about the whole thing. My wife has been patient and reassuring, but is starting to get frustrated at my negatively and misplaced jealousy of the veteran. I'm creating a self fulfilling prophecy of future performance failure. So far the recommendations have been "don't think about it, mantra positive thoughts only". Easier said than done. In the future we'll try starting with our life partners to get us UP, then transition to playmates. THE BIGGEST ISSUE i think is that my wife and i are on very different wavelengths - she is excited and ready to go again, i am afraid and jealous that she is having such a positive and I'm not. Yes i know i should be happy that she's excited and having a good time, which i am, but it's not changing my resentment. It's been about 6 days since the experience and i feel like I'm pulling away from my wife, but i can't narrow down the root of my problem. I do want to try again bc i don't want to make permanent decisions on the lifestyle based on my first, negative experience, but I'm very nervous that next time will be a repeat and my wife will be highly pleased by the veteran male, and I'll be left in the dust again. Any similar experiences or advice would be appreciated.

Since all six of you had already had sex with each other, it seems that the door had been opened. The play had not stopped, just moved to another venue. (With swings and everything!) No disrespect to your husband or anything, but it just seems like an overly rigid interpretation of the rules.

Our was totally unplanned. Hubby and I were experimenting with anal play at the time and we were using toys to simulate dp. We talked about how great it would be to have two real penises but it was nothing more than pillow talk for our own titillation. Then one day on holidays we were at a resort in the pool very early in the morning and there was another guy there. He was clearly checking me out and hubby and I played up to that. Then as bold an bold could be he came up to us and said it would be more fun with a third and asked if he could kiss me. We told him to f**k off. But after hubby and I had a chance to talk and he was totally into the idea I swam up to him and planted a big kiss. 20 minutes later we were in his room and didn't leave until very late that night, It was a one time only thing and we didn't have another swinging experience for 12 years which was only a month ago. We're older, more mature, more established and more comfortable in ourselves and our relationship now so that experience a month ago has opened up this whole lifestyle for us now. Don't be shy now, we'd love to hear your story.... or anyone else's for that matter.

I love how so many cheaters just say it happened “in the heat of the moment “. i could also say I fucked your sister “ in the heat of the moment “ or I stole a car “ in the heat of the moment “……I wonder if the cops would just let it go…you know, “ in the heat of the moment” all just shit excuses for not being responsible for your own actions!