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The legality of dogging is going to vary from country to country and perhaps from county to county or some other local political subdivision. In the UK, it's not illegal per se to engage in dogging. But, if you're spotted by someone who wasn't intending on seeing something like that, it can be considered a public offense and you can be charged. Other countries and jurisdictions are going to vary. I'm sure in some parts of the world you could be sentenced to death for it. Check the local laws, be sure you know what the situation is, and proceed carefully. As to how safe it is? Personally, I wouldn't do it. I have similar thoughts about adult book stores with back rooms, and adult theatres too (and I agree with GoldCoCouple; I'd be surprised if they still exist). If you're wanting to have sex in public, that's done easily enough. My wife and I have done it many times. If you're wanting to have sex with others, that's done easily enough too. The two together? I wouldn't venture down that path (no pun intended!).

You know what I think is an excellent boundary to not cross? Not calling other people on this forum a dumbass. It's fine to disagree. It's not fine to start casting insults. Please stop.

My first time with two guys was so hot... My sub arranged a massage with two guys. He arranged a nice hotel suite and he told he has a surprise for me. Two guys came into the hotel room with a massage table. I hoped on it and i loved the 4 hand massage... and then it started to get hot... one guy opened my legs and touched me between my legs. I was already wet and the other guy told he after a while to turn around... now my front was massaged and it started to get more erotic and sexual. I loved it a lot... and my sub watched the whole thing... hot - hot - hot

To be honest, our first MFM wasn't great. It wasn't bad mind you, but it wasn't great. It was good to break the ice of swinging, and start to figure things out for us. But, it wasn't great. My wife and I had agreed before we dipped our toes in the pool that we would keep at it for a bit, and not base our opinion of swinging on one or a handful of times. We understood that just like vanilla dating, there was going to be a few duds along the way. We might get lucky the first couple of times, and we might not. We connected through SLS, and met up at a swinger club in the region. The second time was with the same guy. I honestly can't remember the details. Again, it was ok but not great. If we'd based our opinions on those two MFMs, there's a fair chance we would be monogamous today. I think we would have concluded, "Fun, but not really our cup of tea" and moved on. Now the third time.... We met this guy for dinner, and we all really clicked. I'm a veteran, and this guy was still on active duty. My wife has a bit of a thing with guys in uniform. My wife and I have a non-verbal means of communicating when we're deciding on whether to play with someone. Along the way, one of us will squeeze the thigh of the other. The other will squeeze back; one squeeze is yes, two is no. After a while, I squeeze my wife's thigh. I immediately got a very enthusiastic squeeze back, and knew she was really into him as I suspected. We went back to his hotel room, and things got busy pretty quick. I think my wife was naked in about 5.3 seconds, and us two guys rapidly followed. We spent quite a long time having sex. Primarily, it was the other guy having sex with my wife. I was very happy with that, as my thoughts were that I could have sex with her any other time, but she couldn't have sex with him any time. My wife had an absolute blast. She could not get enough sex from this guy. She loved it all, made absolutely delicious noises while he was fucking her, and probably came a half dozen times. It was toe curling sex for her. One of my favorite memories from that was her on her hands and knees, he was fucking her from behind, and she was giving me head. The combined motion of her being moved by him vigorously fucking her and her moans of ecstasy while I was in her mouth were absolutely delightful. After we left, and got in the car, my wife said with a huge grin on her face "Ok, now I'm a swinger!" A few days later, she got to have a solo date with him, and once again had an absolute blast. During that solo date, he told my wife that he hadn't been able to cum from oral sex alone in many, many years. My wife took that as a challenge. She is quite talented at giving oral sex, and ...challenge completed It's 14 years on now, and we continue to play. It's not as often as it used to be, but we still very much enjoy it. The journey continues.

We prevent these slip-ups by... not having any rules. What do we do when something surprising happens in the heat of the moment? Celebrate afterwards. The first time my wife said "I love you" to another husband in our group? I said that I hope he feels the same, it's good to care. When another wife in our group made an unplanned stop at our house on her way home, and Daniela wasn't there? My wife later asked me if it was good and sucked my dick to confirm what happened. Heat of the moment, it's rare and good.

Both my wife and I agree on that, cum is an important part of fucking. That's why we play within a closed group of married couples who also agree - all the thrills very little risk. I let my wife do whatever she wants. With regards to sex, she has always had good taste and judgment with people. Now being with a closed group, bareback fucking isn't an issue. Our group is daring in other ways, we engage in alone play, going on getaways with not our spouses, saying I love you. Feelings have developed among some of us, but it's secondary and hasn't caused any problems. Sort of the opposite of the "stranger" encounter thing. But I'd rather have someone have feelings for my wife than just see her as a cum dump.

Sometimes wishes come true.

My wife and I are a HMWC and got into swinging 5 years ago. The primary reason was so she could experience other men. She had a burning desire to be other men as I was the only partner she had ever been intimate with. Since was extremely timid in the beginning. She laid there so quiet that I was sure she was in pain or feeling humilated. She never experienced anything close to an orgasm. I was so sad for her that I wanted us to stop swinging. As a matter of fact, on one occasion after her white male partner came for the 2nd time and my wife had not even let out a small moan of pleasure, I actually tried to stop the swinging from continuing because I just couldn't see my wife being a cum receptacle for other men! Well, we were going to call it quits when she told me that she wanted to have sex with a black male before stopping because watching a black man and a white woman in some of the porno tapes we wold view was a turn on for her. Did things change when my wife had her first experience with a black male? First, my wife is as white and fair skinned as you can imagine. Her nipples are pink she is so fair skinned. Yet she had this one request. So I honored it. Her first black lover was very well endowed. When he got naked both she and I thought he was going to rip her in half with his HUGE manhood! Instead, he was passionate, experienced, and extremely talented at pleasuring women, even really tight, white women. She felt stretched and it was very tight. But my wife orgasmed more than a half dozen times that night because he went where I had never gone before DEEP inside her! Fast forward a few years and here we are in 2008. My wife will ONLY swing with very well endowed black men now. She has become extremely vocal, multi-orgasmic, very active in participating, and is VERY happy with her lifestyle choice. She has decided to spend more time nurturing more of a monogamous relationship with her swing partners being exclusive to one partner until the time comes to move on to another partner where the monogamous relationship commences once again. She tells me the gentleman she is with right now, I always am in the room with them, is the very best lover she has ever had. More importantly, she has developed a very strong emotional connection with him. Thay have been monogamous for over 3 years now. They use the word love quite often. They are open and honest about the fact that their sex has been elevated to love making. And they are proud of the passion and desire they share for each other. Am I jealous? No! Has it affected our marriage? No! It has improved our sex life 1000% though! They f**k like wild animals in heat! That passion and lust has carried over into our bedroom. Was our sex boring before swinging? Yes! Is it boring now? No! Am I afraid that my wife's love for her lover is coming at my expense? Absolutley not! This is the way she explains it to me...we have 3 children and even though each one is entirely different, she loves them each unequivocally. Plus, she loves her siblings, her parents, my parents and my siblings. To love one additional person will not come at the xpense of anyone else receiving any less love. As a matter of fact, our marriage, friendship, sex, lust, passion and love for each other has never been better! Her friendship, sex, lust, passion, and love for her lover has never been better either! She sees her lover, in our home, in our bed, with me present at least once every 2 weeks with goal of always trying to be together at least once per week. That fits perfectly into our schedule because we try to be intimate at least a couple times a week, and when the time, children, job pressures, etc. allow, even more frequently than that. I wouldn't change anything. My wife has become a "size queen" for black male lovers. This is the very BEST thing that has happened to our marriage, and we have been married almost 20 years!! We hope the next 20 are as good as the past 5 have been because we don't see any problems and only see great things on the horizon! And all this came from my quiet, shy, timid wife finally finding herself sexually and me, her husband, not being threatened by it, allowing her to explore her sexuality until she found what really pleased her. Now, a good marriage and good sexual relationship has turned into a great marriage and a great sexual relationship! I would highly recommend every happily married white couple bring an experienced black male swinger into your bedroom for an experiment. As living examples we know you will be a much happier, more committed, deeper loving, and more sexually satisfied couple by trying this. Go ahead, live a little! Your wife deserves the chance to grow and feel her body awaken so you can share those pleasures with her.