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Don't worry, it will burn itself out. There hasn't been much discussion of it lately here, but new relationship energy (NRE) is common. It flames fast and hot, then dies quickly. You're not wrong, he's wrong. The approach I suggest is to tell him that it's ok for him to have feelings for the other woman, it's natural and you respect him for being more than a sexual animal with her. BUT, the rules of the game are that he needs to share his feeling for her with you and show you everything. It's part of what makes swinging and your marriage special. And from what you imagine in your mind that they are saying, tell him that you think that it is hot. Then when he does share, be gentle and don't criticize him. Kiss him, tell him that you understand and love him, because in doing what he is doing, he doesn't love you any less; by understanding and letting him continue, he will love you more. Also, be extraordinarily nice to her.

couplers is spot on. There was a lady that I was full blown in love with. If disease hadn't taken her I still would be. My wife and her husband were in the know and very supportive. It is an interesting dynamic when you have two couples each as protective of the others marriage as their own. My wife still dates him, and we are close friends.

You are not wrong, and your husband is 100% wrong. I would stop seeing anyone else until you get this straightened out to your satisfaction.

No you are not wrong! You should always be number one for him and you have the right to know everything when it comes to your swinging activities. Playing with this couple would end immediately if this shit was going on for us. If he has a problem with that then his priorities are no longer you and your relationship together.

Transpercey in the lifestyle has the same weight like the honesty, oderways it will not work.

I am a proponent of developing feelings. THIS situation is not being well handled. You are well within your bounds wanting to be inside the loop. Your husband is wrong keeping you out. The two of you need to get the transparency required fully functional.

No, you are absolutely not wrong. I would STRONGLY advise you stop playing with the other couple, or anyone else for that matter, until the two of you figure out your trust and communication issues.

I read posts like this and wonder if you clean your pc after posting or are your hands too sticky.

My husband and I have only been in the lifestyle for around 6 months so I don't know a whole lot of the basics. We have been exclusive with a couple for about 3 months and it's a good relationship. However, the problem that I'm having is that he's infatuated with the other wife, and has gone as far as not letting me read their texts. To me, this just seems like a red flag. He gets angry at me for even wanting to read the texts and says that it's private. Am I wrong to want to see what they are chatting about??

We went back to our online account to see who is on and who we would want to meet. I am not a prude or normally wouldn’t be offended by reading or hearing and words or phrases that are sexual. I never thought of myself as foul mouthed even if I could curse with the best of the truckers on the road. I most likely have heard every word that is used in a sexual context, maybe even used them. Now I stop and feel some words are used to demean. Pussy and Cunt are the same, pussy is fine for me, cunt bothers me. A man saying he wants to fuck my pussy, an immature statement, I say of course that’s why we are on the site. A man saying he wants to fuck my cunt stops me making me think you are an asshole. Are you a Cocksucker stops me and thinks you are jerk, asking about sucking cock I can play along and tell you how I enjoy it and how I would make your toes curl. Rocky laughs at me when I’m writing to real people and the posers. He said I get too excited and upset and I should chill.

You're over thinking this. I prefer that a man finishes in my vagina, but if he ejaculates in my mouth I'll make a show of proudly rolling it around with my tongue for a few seconds (guys like that) then swallow. Taste is pretty much the same. Delay swallowing if another girl wants for us to pass and play with it. The End.

Why, to make you feel better? Sorry, we’re not required to do that. Some people like to get pissed on or play with feces, that also repulses us, that doesn’t mean we hate anyone. The problem with using strong words like hate as a punchline is that they lose meaning for when they are appropriate. How about you choose better words? Seriously.

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We prevent these slip-ups by... not having any rules. What do we do when something surprising happens in the heat of the moment? Celebrate afterwards. The first time my wife said "I love you" to another husband in our group? I said that I hope he feels the same, it's good to care. When another wife in our group made an unplanned stop at our house on her way home, and Daniela wasn't there? My wife later asked me if it was good and sucked my dick to confirm what happened. Heat of the moment, it's rare and good.

Oh dear. I'm going to have to address the elephant in the room... If your dick is hard (or is getting hard) while you're looking at another guy's dick that is hard (or is getting hard), - regardless if he's fucking a hot babe and high-fiving you or whatever, -you and your company are not quite as an arrow-straight as you say you are. Now don't worry, no one is saying you're gay or bi. Swinging is about openness an experimentation. It's ok to get hard when you're looking at a cock! How could you watch porn otherwise? Female solo only? Now, if you're full swap and you need separate rooms to pop a boner, guess what. You're probably gay. If you're that afraid to see a man naked and appreciate the sexuality of the situation, you have issues. I've been around this lifestyle for a while. Everyone is on a sliding scale. You don't have to admit it, but always be kind.

"Thanks for remembering. I had forgotten."

Use the old Animal House trick. Hi Honey, how are you. "Hey, listen did you manage to get to the store and get the groceries for this weekend? Oh and we really should get the lawn mowed on Saturday, maybe clean up the garage as well, have sex with strangers and oh, do you need any help with he dishes tonight? Love you.