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Interesting. The first time a woman who was playing with hubby let me be there and participate, I was jealously determined to reclaim him. First I sucked his dick for a short while (he was too depleted to be interested), then I aggressively went down on her (she was an experienced Lesbian, a first time ever for me) to lick his semen out of her.

Ok so this may be a bit taboo and yes there are plenty of issues that come with this… but our conversation (and fantasies) revolve around swapping and sex in this fashion. It might sound silly but is this frowned upon in swinger circles? Would we be blacklisted or is there a place for this? We wouldn’t be sleeping around and maybe hope to find a regular couple or 2 to have this fun with, but as a general rule what’s the community’s approach to those coming in and looking to have bareback sex?

I am fine. Not bad feelings. I love my husband. I post this know Michael will read as we share everything and we don’t hide posts or feelings. No negativity only an adventure. Here goes. Friends that are swingers introduced us to new friends who were friends of their friends. Most new people we meet are normally found this way. I could see the attraction first physically and they were both similar to us 10 years ago. Swing experienced with couples and parties they never had a threesome alone. They said they only played with women in a group setting and never found a single woman. I’m not 100% sure why they needed to experience this at this time, the conversation continued. At some point Mike joked that I could help. The talk became more serious in a fun way. I was not pushed. I was not forced. There are others in our group who I would say are more attractive in my eyes. I did relent and became a Unicorn for a day. Who would think I could be a unicorn at this point in my life. Mike wants to find us a Unicorn now.

What the hell is wrong with single men in this lifestyle? My wife and I recently decided to seek out a single guy for some occasional threesome fun, and besides the usual morons who replied and bragged about being a “dominant bull” (GOODBYE!!!), we had a few promising replies who initially abided by what we stated we required. I (husband) do the initial screening, chat with the guy for awhile, where I set the ground rules, including that he’s already gotten all the pictures (G-rated) he’s going to get, and to show respect for my wife. I then have my wife communicate with him directly (her desire). Invariably, the guys then lose their minds, request naked photos, try to get sexually graphic, etc. They literally fuck up a free lunch, because they can’t control themselves. What the eff is wrong with these guys?? Abide by our rules, be respectful, and you can possibly have regular NSA sex with a gorgeous woman, but they still manage to fuck it up. <rant off>

Newbies are acting out fantasies thinking how exciting it could be without the reality of how hard it is to take that first step. We have learned that when things go too fast the couple are most likely not new. We never rush and use what you call FIB as part of what what we enjoy, for us it is our foreplay as well as fact finding. Not everyone who has every intention to have that first time go through with. We have talked others away if we thought both were not fully committing. Unfortunately some women only do this to please their partner.

It was. The local College -- State University of New York at Fredonia -- has a yearly Marx Brothers' movie fest, called "Freedonia Marxonia".

We like beginners, as long as they are both into it and not into drama. The excitement of the new.

Have any women here tried any of these medications? I've read that they can have some beneficial effects for women. I don't have problems with desire or performance (I'm aroused, get wet, and cum easily and often) but am curious. I don't use any drugs or drink. If anything, I would say that sex is my drug, my hobby, so it would be interesting.

I love swinging The first time I went to a club as a single male There were a number of ladies alone and a few small groups I had taken viagra so was soon fully erectI loved walking around showing my firm erection to ladies I was surprised ladies chatted to me and love talking to an obviously turned on guy with a full erection i ended up masturbating for a group of 4 ladies on a night out The climax was a large breasted lady who allowed me to titfuck her as her friends watched im happy to wank on line for any ladies who like a disinhibited man

What a sexy scene!!! I’d love to be a part of that male threesome with you being the sexy audience! That sounds hot as hell.

I’m not bi. Or so I thought, until yesterday evening. My husband had dinner with one of his clients, a female CEO. I know they are friends and he never actually hit on her, until yesterday. He told me « tonight I’m gonna try to seduce her Join us at the end of the dinner ! » So, around 21:30, I joined. Obviously they had had a good time already, smiling, laughing, drinking an excellent wine, and their hands were sometimes touching above the table. This beautiful woman was obviously into my husband, but also into me. She was looking at both of us like if we were delicious cakes behind the glass of the pastry shop. That’s when it hit me. I wanted her too!!! For the first time ever, yesterday evening, I felt a strong desire for a woman, a beautiful girl with massive breasts, a body to die for, and a smile that could conquer Rome! I am not sure I would know how to handle her in bed, though, cos I’ve never been with a girl before. But for the first time, I am REALLY attracted !!!!!! Hubby says it will come naturally, and that I should not worry. Still, I would appreciate your advice, ladies. How was your first time with a female body in bed? How was the first time you ate a pussy, you played with boobs that were not yours, etc. ? :))) Sorry, I feel stupid but all this is very new to me.

We went back to our online account to see who is on and who we would want to meet. I am not a prude or normally wouldn’t be offended by reading or hearing and words or phrases that are sexual. I never thought of myself as foul mouthed even if I could curse with the best of the truckers on the road. I most likely have heard every word that is used in a sexual context, maybe even used them. Now I stop and feel some words are used to demean. Pussy and Cunt are the same, pussy is fine for me, cunt bothers me. A man saying he wants to fuck my pussy, an immature statement, I say of course that’s why we are on the site. A man saying he wants to fuck my cunt stops me making me think you are an asshole. Are you a Cocksucker stops me and thinks you are jerk, asking about sucking cock I can play along and tell you how I enjoy it and how I would make your toes curl. Rocky laughs at me when I’m writing to real people and the posers. He said I get too excited and upset and I should chill.

It has happened to varying degrees among all of the couples in our group, but sex is only one of the drivers. The woman who I am most attached to, other than my wife, is not the one who I have sex with the most, although we do frequently get together; she is the one wth whom I share common interests that our spouses don't. It is the woman who I have most often gone on overnights, long weekends, even a vacation by ourselves. Even that, however, has made me appreciate my wife more. The relationship with the woman who I am attached to is like two dimensional - our shared common interests and sex. With my wife it has many more dimensions besides sex and common interests: family, house, our future dreams.

Another variation on liking to see her pleasing and being pleased.

As sexual as this sounds we keep reminding ourselves this is a living arrangement. Sharing a house has responsibilities and rules need to discussed. We offered to pay rent and share household costs that include food and utilities. We don’t want to be freeloaders.

Figure we will be called out on this. We leave it to our partners.

We have been part of this practice at most every level…..but most always with those we met and knew well…..rarely on a first or chance meeting. Even more rare during themes, group, team, tag, multiple or gang activities where outside help or participants were recruited. but for our semi private group, most gatherings and parties condom less sex was customary for most pull out to cum….all dependent on the ladies desires at the time. Many times finishing inside….and having multiple partners finishing inside during a single session was fairly common and some receiving members expected it. But again not open to the public. from our experience it is more often the ladies preference. Most assuredly a couple has discussed and crossed that road together. If it is a trusted male and he has had a vasectomy he will see the most play that will end this way. my personal experiences especially with younger women I am a safe choice having been snipped….no pregnancy worries. this isn’t meant to be taken lightly. We primarily play with those we know well. We were never considered bed hoppers…..bed post notchers.

That's an excellent point Numex; a monogamous couple probably has a much higher chance of cheating that a non-monogamous couple. Placed into the context of a closed group, and yeah that works very well. From an STD perspective, assuming everyone is honest, the chances of getting an STD are probably lower than a vanilla couple, given how many vanilla couples cheat. My wife and I are currently beginning down the road of potentially being part of a group like you describe, There's one other couple so far, and maybe 1 or 2 more in the future. We're both comfortable with feelings developing, which is to be expected after having sex with another partner many times. Sort of a natural progression. We'll see how it goes.

What a great fun idea to keep track of our new found friends. Maybe a spread sheet with rankings. What we found is we have different thoughts on some of the people which is most likely because she is with the men and me with the women. Oh not 100% she is with women too. When I read this post I asked her who were the best of the new friends. I was thinking sex and she thought who were the nicest. Funny where our brains take us.

As was said elsewhere, let your wife take the lead, and by that I mean things don't have to be symmetric. She may play and you don't at first. Maybe you do FFMs but not MFMs. Let her explore sexually, you support her choices and vicariously share in her pleasures, and she will love you all the more. You will grow to love and savor what she does with her sexual freedom.

A psychiatrist friend once told me, "It's not what someone thinks that defines them as crazy, but what they do."

I read posts like this and wonder if you clean your pc after posting or are your hands too sticky.

I will try to explain who I am and how we frequently play. I rarely play a passive role in meeting men or swinging with others. Michael loves that I am aggressive when meeting new men and I enjoy taking control of situations. Surely I enjoy being sexually satisfied it’s just that the sex act of fucking is not the only satisfying aspect of sex. He knows what I enjoy and he enjoys letting me enjoy and regardless of what I do with a man he is always there to continue and finish my satisfaction. My aggression when meeting a stranger which 99% males is getting quickly to the main point, getting to see what he has. My main focus is orally pleasing and less being pleased. Most men are very willing to let me enjoy and will take a lay back and enjoy approach. If a man wants to fuck I look at it as how I failed to please him. With this couple I became completely passive by their request. I have since compared it to a day at a spa, being pampered having my needs attended to. They undressed me and led me to a soaking tub to relax before sponge bathing me. I was touched in sexual ways and tried to give back and was stopped from doing it. Afterwards I was given a four hand massage, very relaxing and sensual. As much as I wanted to participate they insisted I just receive. They had toys and used many methods to bring me to many points of excitement and relaxation. What they did was the opposite of most of my swinging history has shown me. You asked how did it make me feel, it at first made me uncomfortable which then turned into something great.

Finding a unicorn is never easy. Better looking for a couple with a bi wife. I hope you know this is not a hook up site.

Excellent advice! We are still discussing the MM thing. I’m not going to put down anyone for preferences and fantasies. Imagine if he said no to my fantasy of riding a symbian for a crowd (unlocked that one last summer !) we are slowly going out of our comfy zone circle. Screening will need to be more careful. Thank you for the tipz Love and Daisies, the Popcorns

As others posters in this thread have recommended, talk it out coolly and calmly with your wife about what she really wants, then give it to her and make her happy. (Although the conversation will start dispassionate, you'll probably end up making love afterwards.)

Like many others have said in the heat of the moment and when everything is coming down are two different worlds. Have sex, enjoy yourselves and after both of you have calmed down then bring it up and discuss if this is something you enjoy as a game or are you actually curious about looking into it. Using toys and talking naughty or very different then actually seeing someone you love with someone else.

Since you're up for it, move the conversation along. Ask her who she would be interested in fucking. Regardless of who she suggests, don't criticize her choice, play along. Suggest someone you want to see her with. Be generous with your wife as you discuss and explore. And sometimes reality far exceeds fantasy. My life, and particularly my sex life, is now better than I ever imagined.

I would gladly jump into a all guy threesome. I have never tried it but it would have to be fun if all were of like minds... With M/F couples I tend to be sub so I wonder what it would be like with alll men?

You know Ny! Ours is a small burg but close enough to a small city so it is nice and balanced on the whole We have talked and talked about the oral play and I think I am willing to try it again. He enjoyed the action that much. Maybe I can leave the room like you say. Finding a fit healthy partner who likes couples and one on one is no small task. The late great jim Henson said There is not a word yet for old friends who have just met. — our sexy right playmate is waiting to be found!

Prince Henry wears a black ring and I'm pretty sure he isn't a swinger...its a ring that monitors his activity (like a FitBit) so I wouldn't use that as an indicator either. Papas grass and white landscaping rock...nope. Tide box in the window...wouldn't count on it. There just isn't a good indicator since most swingers want to be anonymous. I've said it in the past: once a rainbow meant you liked rainbows or (if you were raised in a Christian school like I was) it was God's promise never to flood the world again after He did with Noah. Now if you see a rainbow and one thinks of the LGBTQ movement. A secret sign is only good as long as it is secret but it will never stay secret long, especially if it has anything to do with something sexual. There are a few symbols that are supposed to indicate you are a swinger, but once again, if all the swingers know, then usually others have found out too. Personally, I like this shirt:

I see from other posts of yours that you're a single male. I've written some advice for single males before, but I don't know that I can readily find it. Here's a few tips; There is far more supply of single males in the lifestyle than there is demand. That said, there are far fewer single males in the lifestyle who are good single males in the lifestyle, and I'd venture to guess that the supply of good single males more or less equals demand. So, how do you make yourself a good single male in the lifestyle? Generate a paid profile on swinglifestyle.com. If you go free, you won't be able to communicate. If you go free on any swinger site, no one will take you seriously. If you're paid, you show serious intent. Your profile puts your best foot forward. If you can't assemble a sentence or two about yourself in your profile, most couples won't pay any attention to you. Be clear about what you want, what you're offering, what kind of guy you are. This is your chance to advertise yourself. Don't **** it up by talking about how big your dick is and how you're the best swordsman out there. Be respectful of both the wife AND the husband. This should go without saying, but a lot of guys screw this up. You are being given a gift. Treat the experience as such. If you can't show respect to both the people in the couple, you're not going to get anywhere. Don't send dick picks. Few, if any, women want to see this. For some couples, this is a deal breaker as it shows you're the type of guy they don't want to play with. Don't be a flake. If you say you're going to meet a couple at a place at a particular time, be there on time. If you miss out, you're unlikely to be contacted again. Always, always, always wear condoms. Don't even ask not to. Understand your role. You shouldn't be in this for a relationship, and the couple in question isn't looking at you as a potential relationship. Know your boundaries; you are a toy. Sounds demeaning, but it isn't. You are a sexual fantasy being explored by the couple. Assuming you're straight, understand you're in the middle of this for her pleasure, not yours. If you focus on you, you won't ever see them again. Focus on her. Find out what she likes, what turns her off, what turns her on. There's lots more advice to give. You can search this forum for more. The above is a good place to start. Best of luck!

Be in the moment. Period. Just be there. Because if you get all like, 'oh I got to do this big thing', it just never works. It iust doesn't work. You've just got to let go. If it happens it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. Whatever you do is ok, just be truthful, honest, real, and that's all you can ask for.

Michael could never experience things the same way because he is doing different things. He can’t know the feeling I get with a man the same way I will never know the feeling of putting a penis in a woman. Michael is very good at noticing my reactions when he watches. He knows when I get excited or disappointed. I don’t remember sounds I make giving a bj or that I at times reach between my legs when a man comes. It’s two views of the same act.

It is interesting how two people experiencing the same thing will come away with different memories of the event! I've remembered my wife doing things while swinging and she has no recollection of it, and vice versa. "I did that? Really?"

Sounds like you have the framework for a number of good stories!

It sounds like you took the act of frivolous sex, which is fun, and added homework to it. 🤣

My fear was that this post was going to degenerate into a shouting match of fresh vs. canned, sliced vs. diced vs. whole, Dole vs. DelMonte, but once again everyone has been civilized. ?

This is the bisexuality and swinging forum after all. You can easily avoid it by not clicking. For many on here, bisexuality is a powerful desire and no place better to explore than in the lifestyle community. Just make sure it is discussed ahead of time.

My first time was I with a friends wife doggie style and he was licking her at the same time. As I came and pulled out, he took me in his mouth and cleaned me off. I liked tht and have done it many times on both sides many times. the wife loves it that way.

We were with our neighbor. There was a ton of sexual tension between my wife and him. We ended up drinking and flirting. He and I began rubbing her tits nd making out. She undressed for us and and started sucking our cocks. She sucked his cock while I fucked her from behind - his dick was perfect and a lot bigger than mine. I could tell she was totally into him so I invited him to switch with me. I got on my back nd had her straddle my face - i figured it would drive her wild to have be eating her while he pounded her with his big cock. She came very fast and I shot a load in her mouth. when she was ready he put his cock in her again. While he was fucking i just instinctively rubbed his shaft with my tongue. As he pulled out of her i took the head of his cock in my mouth. He went back and forth between my mouth and her pussy until he finally went balls deep in her and ejaculated. I sucked his balls and could feel his thick cock pulsing as he put his load in her. It was a first for all of us. My wife was so turned on by the whole experience. We laid around afterwards and she continued to kiss us and play with our cocks. I held his cock as she sucked him off - he came again. My wife masturbated watching him sucking my cock. We sat back nd jerked off together until we both shot another load. She continues to totally get off seeing me with another guy.

The first time was playing with another couple, the women are bi and wanted us men to suck one another after a swap. Did it to make them happy, and it was good. Later with another couple, the husband had already cum in my wife's ass, while I was in his wife's pussy, but hadn't cum. My wife joked that I should now stick it in his ass, his wife agreed. So I withdrew from her cunt and finished in him. It was hot enough that I got hard again not much later and bum fucked his wife too.

Recently met a lady who not only likes to participate in mm action, but has a 8" strap-on to participate with. I am certainly hoping to develop that friendship further : )

All male threesomes are hott! I now enjoy having a cock in my mouth with another guy is fucking me, while my girlfriend is enjoying the view

Oh MY how I'd love to sitting in a comfy chair naked, fingers and toys going at it, while two men took my husband's holes... OOOOHHHHHHH I am so turned on now, thanks a lot Jackdav!