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I'm a 39yr old guy, and after decades of observing how sex is talked about and portrayed in society and with my friends and what I hear from my wife's friends I am truly wondering what the deal is with me/us. Not in a bad way, just...different from what is portrayed as the norm. So, I can come 3-4 times easily, without need for a refractory period or going limp (after number 3 things start feeling kinda weird, and it's hard to cum again, but I stay stiff and can keep going). We almost always have simultaneous orgasms from P in V sex, she never has problems cumming without direct clitoral stimulation and cums almost every single time at least once per each of my orgasms (this was alto true with my only serious sexual relationship before marriage). She also says this (P in V) feels by far the best and is the most satisfying kind of orgasm, even over various toys or squirting or whatever. This has been true for every position we've tried (and we've tried quite a few), and was also true with my previous partner. What's the deal? I hear all these statistics about how hard it is for women to orgasm at all, let alone through penetration only, and about how guys have a hard time cumming more than once without a significant break, or how women have to fake orgasms, or how they prefer getting oral to being fucked, and it's all in direct contradiction to my personal experience. We're both pretty healthy, we like each other a lot, are very physically attracted to each other, so I'm sure that helps. But still - anyone else have questions about this kind of thing? It just feels weird to be living a sex life that's in contradiction to what's apparently going on around me. Thanks in advance for sharing your thoughts/experiences.

Is a leg covered by a fish-net stocking more attractive than a naked leg? Is a bosom pushed up by the shape of a brassiere more alluring than the pendant realities?

Every person is different. Some guys cum in great amounts and are spent for a while. Some guys cum just a little bit and can keep doing it over and over again. I'm among the former. This has always been true for me. When I was in my early 20s, I could get in a lot of orgasms in a day if I tried really hard. Now more than two is seriously pushing it. With women, I've seen both ends of the spectrum and lots in between. I had a ~week long fling with a woman who was a great deal of fun in bed. What a week! But, she never had an orgasm that entire week. She said she wasn't orgasmic, and I believed it. I wasn't inexperienced. It wasn't for lack of trying and making her feel great. She loved the sex, loved the physical attention, and loved playing for long sessions, but she never had an orgasm. A couple of years later, I fooled around with a very nice young lady who had never orgasmed. It took a bit of patience, and slowly working up to it, but I was able to make her orgasm. I remember her saying "I see stars!" Most recently, I've been playing with a woman who told me before we even started playing that it was quite hard for her to orgasm. Every time I've played with her, she's orgasmed. Go figure. We're all different.

I enjoy either. I think if it makes a woman feel good, sexy….provocative about herself that is awesome. I love unwrapping a gift like that….

She will stick her finger in her pussy and rub it on my upper lip right below my nose.

Men look after themselves differently than women. While that may be cultural, at least in the US women make--and guide--a lot of the healthy behaviors. What this means is that while some men are good at self-care and healthy behaviors, others wander off and end up immersed in work, immersed in a hobby, or otherwise distracted. Sleep, exercise, moderation in eating and in intoxicants, relationships, and...yes...sex are all part of a healthy life and all need to be managed. Women do better at this than men, and no matter how hard their partner tries, some men simply do not get it. Same goes for some women, of course, but the imbalance is real. Our observation--LS couples tend to feature strong women as equal partners. The men listen and respond to their guidance on health matters. There is a "which came first" aspect, of course, but at least among the long-marrieds, long in the LS couples we are close to, a lot of effort goes into that list of healthy life behaviors in the prior paragraph. They look after each other, and enjoy doing so.

Not a woman, but I am going to reveal my super secret move while I am giving a woman oral. I place their bare foot on my erect penis. They rub it with their foot and they seem quite stimulated by it. Obviously, so am I.

My wife once told me she could have never married a man who won't rim her ass. We both enjoy giving and receiving rimjobs!

That was very generous, understanding, and mature of both of you. You two have a great marriage and a great sex life.

We have a joke line "Are you leaking?" I tell him "Yes"

We avoid attached males due to many reasons including ethical considerations! The point is if we already have in our profile we are not at all interested in attached males and they still feel the need to message us then they should not act surprised when we say we are not interested and tell us we are judging. If we put something in our profile it is there for a reason. People can save some time and actually read profiles before they send messages. We do. If someone wrote in their profile they are not interested in men over 50, or curvy bi women that squirt we are not going to message them and tell them they are judgemental for not being interested. We are just not going to message them.

My wife tried to to a DVP with me and her lover. We almost succeeded, but it it didn't quite work out. There's definitely some gymnastics involved. It would have been incredibly hot if we'd been able to do it.

We are hotel club members, I'm partial to the ladies in a nice dress, nothing underneath. although some carry off sheath and see through with panache. Once the social hour is over and the party starts I like skin to skin although I know a bi-guy who wears thigh high hose to carry his condoms, convenient if one needs a special size.?

I don't think you're as far off as some people are saying. I have a friend that can stay hard and cum multiple times. It's certainly not the norm and it does make me a bit jealous but it's not unheard of. And my GF cums quite frequently from vaginal intercourse without clitoral stimulation. That's not to say she doesn't prefer some clitoral stimulation but she doesn't need it to orgasm. And she prefers vaginal sex to oral sex, masturbation, etc. Everyone is different. You two might be in the minority but I can assure you that you're not alone.

My big question is how man times did you cum while posting this? Did you stop typing after each orgasm to regain your thoughts? Did you use F to T (fingers to type) or V to T (voice to text)? What made you join a Swingers board to post your prowess for your first post? Welcome to the board!

You are off the charts. Both of you. Enjoy it while it works. Do you play with others? I am presuming truthfulness and not trolldom to tease the swingers.

Naked is the best for me. The next step is bondage. Fishnet. Caught. Restrained.

Also depends on how it's sold. The most expensive lingerie in the world won't cover up discomfort; and a cheeseball Walmart bra can be sexy if a lady is working it.

I think we might have some unanimity on this one! (...nah, that isn't going to happen, what am I thinking?). Anyway, my opinion, the properly packaged woman is lovely. The naked woman is terrific, too. I have received compliments on my appearance when wearing a nice suit and tie. I'm pretty damn sure I would not receive compliments if I sent a dick pic. And another thing--I think pubic hair and natural boobs (big or small) are much more attractive than the shaved, scratchy area and those hard things masquerading as boobs. Just my opinion.

To answer the question, in my opinion I prefer the natural look of a female physical make up. All else is just false advertising.

Yes! I can think of one person, who I dated in high school and then in college... Also, my main high-school crush is my wife!

My husband's fetish is feet. Mine is another man's sperm inside of me. My "creampie" fetish is a very, very rare treat for me since there are only a few trusted men I allow to be inside of me without a condom. I'm too afraid of an STD. But in that rare occassion, it easily pushes me over the cliff of orgasms. If only the world was perfect and all STDs gone. Then watch out world, here I come!