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To me there are two aspects to exhibitionism and voyeurism, nudity and sexual. When I am in Europe, I like going to nude spas. There is one not far from where I go for business. It's nothing sexual - old people, young people, families enjoying the water, air, sunshine in the saunas, hot tubs, steam rooms and pools. If someone is checking me out, I don't mind. Myself, my attention is drawn to other women. Sexually, I am primarily a voyeur of the others in my family, watching them enjoy themselves. I don't mind if the others watch me (or even if strangers did), so long as I'm not interrupted or distracted.

I share my Viagra with my partner, if they want to. Yes, Viagra will cause the blood to rush to a women's clit. Just like in a man, it doesn't increase your libido, but if a woman takes viagra her clit will look purple and swollen like an eggplant when stimulated.

I was very fortunate to have such a great introduction to the wonders of sex. It was a truly amazing week. We're in touch in that we're friended on Facebook, but we haven't chatted much over the years. She got married a couple of years after we parted ways, to a guy whom she met in the Army. She's had a number of kids, and lives across the country now. We did talk on the phone for about an hour roughly 20 years ago. All was well with her then. From what I've seen on Facebook, everything still seems to be going well. And yeah, the most earnest of promises tend to evaporate once Mr. Happy decides to have a say in it! 😅🤣😂

No videos or pictures for us. Digital files can get loose too easily. While in the abstract I wouldn't care if someone saw me naked or having sex, the real world has different consequences.

Always. Usually more than once. Actually, it was an emotional, sweet time. We had wild times before and after, but our wedding was a confirmation of our relationships.

You are correct. It is, however, more generally part of a nonmonogamous lifestyle.

This post of mine keeps coming back into my head for two reasons. The first was when David, Red, and I went to our room where the reception was held, David said to Red, "Have you met my wife?" I started to cry. The second is as Red and I began our ritual to have sex (you know, those small things familiar partners do when you know it's going to happen). David, who likes to "watch the show" and never before left when he was there while Red and I had sex, left the room and went back to the reception. Both Red and I cried. The next day before David and I left for the airport, Red and I had sex again with David there. We had adjusted to our new life.

I am one of those brides who had sex with a man other than my husband on my wedding night. David, Red, and I were already living together as a theesome. David and I were going on an extended honeymoon, so Red and I made love in anticipation of me not seeing him for two plus weeks. David didn't do this to be aroused, he did it to be fair and generous to me and Red.

You know, until this was posted, I never thought much of nipple / aureole color. My wife has rather pale nips. Since she's never really had tan breasts, I'm not sure what that would be like. I've seen women that go from very pale to very dark in that area. And it seems to me that the darker the nipple, the darker the aureole. I'm going to start observing this more now . . . Thanks!

I have to disagree, JandK. I do think men can be shamed and we've seen that in terms of boys who are gay. The pressure to conform to a hetrosexual society leads many to suicide or denying to themselves for years that they are homosexual. We can even witness in the swinger community where male bisexuality isn't as welcomed as male bisexuality. Men can be shamed to changed their behavior just as women can. A male having unprotected sex with many women can also spread disease just as fast.

First off, to all those lovely ladies out there, HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY! I wonder if a lot of the fear has to do with the fact that our country was founded by Puritans?

Really? It's not that complicated, if you have some concept of the broad scope of history. You don't even have to go that far back. In a more primal, less technologically advanced society, women NEED men to care for both themselves, and their children. It's more economic than emotional. Men have no problem supporting THEIR OWN children, for the most part. Men who don't have been scorned by society in the past just as much as a promiscuous woman. It's all different now. It's a common human flaw to not account for different historical perspectives. The birth control pill was only invented back in the 1960s. That changed everything! It was a cataclysmic shift in the relationship between the genders. Before that, consequence free sex WAS NOT POSSIBLE! We're still grappling with the changes that were caused by that. Then people forget that DNA tests have only been around since the 1990s. Again, men have no problem supporting THEIR OWN children. Before these wondrous inventions that happened within the lifetimes of many, if not most, of the people reading this, the only way for men to ensure that the children they were supporting were their own was to impose societal rules on the behavior of women, which have also historically been supported by the very same women. Societal shifts of that magnitude take a LOOOOOOOONG time to work through. We're still dealing with it.

I hadn't thought about this question before. Yes I do talk, but it is different with David and Red. With hubby David it is pretty much a realistic conversation, even the fantasies. We talk about what we are going to do and in what order (Do you want me to lick you first?) I really like to get him to talk about other women he has had what they looked like naked, how they had sex, etc. and fantasize about other women, especially Anna. I will also talk sometimes about what I liked about the sex Red and I had (sometimes just had) or are going to have. Stating the fact I have a lover and a boyfriend, or that there is another woman hubby is fucking, is a big turn on fo me. When Red and I are making love there is a script and it is assertive. We got into the groove early on, before I even met David, of Red asking me if I want him, if I love him and me saying to him that "This is your pussy," "You can have my cunt anytime you want it," "I want to keep your cum inside of me," etc. If anything, this riff has gotten only stronger since Red and I stopped living together and when I married David. (David has heard all this and calls it my "porno talk.") Red is a good guy, self-absorbed, and I think he needs these reassurances since he is the beta male in the relationship and I am his only love and sex partner. Another thing that we do that is a strange turn-on is that Red now asks if I need money. At first I turned him down (although Red is now doing pretty well, both David and I still each earn much more than he does), but now I sometimes say "yes," and ask for $10 or $20. It's not a prostitution fantasy, but he wants to show that he wants to and can support me. For me it's the turn-on of being wanted. I told hubby about this, and his response in his typical fashion was, "Why don't you ask him for a new car?"