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NOTE: I have started and stopped answering this post a few times. You can say our coming of age or better our cumming of age was a very positive for me and I am pretty sure for her it was what she wanted. We took our time and the big moment happened when we were both ready to take that step. My first love was a girl I knew very well as our parents were good friends and we grew up as friends. Friends, classmates and almost cousins even if we weren’t related. Our parents always made comments that it was cute that we were so close. From being family friends to spending plenty of time together to going on a friends date. I remember having feelings that she was the one even if I was way too young. My first kiss on a park bench with tongues dancing. Yes I remember that kiss. We became boyfriend and girlfriend for real then. The summer before ninth grade was the first real feeling her up, the first time she allowed me to touch her breast while kissing. Making out. We didn’t go much further at first then we were grinding with clothes on and I got hard. Towards the end of that summer with our parents at work we went to her apartment, her sister was going into the city and wouldn’t be home. On her bed we had our first real touching with me touching her under her clothes and me opening my pants with her hand going in for the first time having myself touched by her. I didn’t go far that day because I heard her gasp as my finger entered. I am thinking this was the way we made out for the next month whenever we had time alone. The next step was when we finally got naked in her bed knowing we were going to be alone for hours. My first real look at a naked girl and her pussy and her first time having a penis out in the open. It was better for me that day because I had my first hand job while I think she I had pain from my fingers. It was the first time I came from another person. I think you can tell we cared and liked being together. Did we say love? It’s only memory but mine was she was as much into this as me, we made names up for our parts, mine was Boots and hers of course was Puss. She would show me how to touch her and I would guide her hands. Things kept going further and further until that special day. Our first time was a Wednesday afternoon. Now I’m laughing HumpDay. The big laugh was her trying to put on my condom which fell off. I remember the mixed tape we were listening to. She said it was great while I knew it was great for me. I only worried two days and then she got her period. Sex with her didn’t end with a one time bad experience, it lasted for years. Like others time goes on and things changed. I have good memories and I can only hope she didn’t have regrets.

Welcome Lifeisnow! You're definitely in the right place. This is a wonderfully supportive forum. Let's get the FMF covered first. I don't mean to dissuade you, but finding another woman who is interested in bi (or, really, not) is very difficult. Around here, we call such women "unicorns"; fabled to exist, but no one has ever actually seen one. Ok, that's not entirely true. Some couples do find single women that want to play with another couple. But, it is rare. I'm not suggesting you shouldn't try for it, but don't get frustrated if it doesn't happen. Single men on the other hand are very, very easy to find. The trick is to find nice single men. That's not as rare as the unicorn, but you have to do some searching. Ok so your wife doesn't want to do it again. Forgive me, but I want to be clear; she doesn't want to do something with another man involved? Going with the flimsiest of knowledge about your relationship and her in particular (going of course off of only what you've posted), it sounds to me like your wife very much enjoys the idea of having another man, and is maybe so interested that it scares her a bit. It can be a bit terrifying; what if she likes it "too much"? What does "too much" mean? Does it supplant the sex you two have? Does it erode it? Does it make it seem less hot, less satisfying? These are unknowns that are hard to understand. They are emotional reactions, and not logical ones. My wife has a sexual tiger inside herself that was awakened by swinging. Your wife may be a bit fearful of just what, exactly, is inside her that she has yet to explore. Your wife could also have objections based on societal/moral/religious standards, and feel like she's breaking something while doing this. The pathway through this is communication. Having deeply open communication can be hard. Many couples never get there. Being open means being able to talk about your innermost thoughts and feelings. Being receptive to each other in listening is critical; no judgment, no sarcasm, no teasing; just frank, open honesty. Listening can be a difficult skill to learn. Getting to this level of communication will bring the two of you ever more intimate to each other. Ask about fantasies, whether either of you feels they are wrong to fulfill or not. Ask about unusual ideas in each other's heads. Ask what you think about when masturbating. There's lots of ways to help encourage such discussion. Doing it in the bedroom is fine, but also doing it outside the bedroom is good too. My wife and I spent many months talking about such things and also about swinging before we took our first dip in the pool. It made a big difference. Another idea; this sub-forum on first swinging experiences has a vast history of things couples did when they were first starting out. There's also a sub-forum called "Swinging Situational HELP!" It can be interesting to read some of the first posts in the threads of these forum and then discuss between you and your wife. What was interesting about it? What about it would be challenging? How would you handle it? Did you enjoy the idea of it and could you imagine yourself doing it? These threads can be excellent conversation starters. Once you have a better understanding of what each of you want, dream, and desire, you will feel more confident and secure in moving ahead. You noted about having a one off with a stranger, and that would limit risks. This is very true. There are couples who have a rule of playing with someone only once, and never again. That works for them, and might work well for you. If that becomes a rule, it might change for you. My wife and I realized over time that finding good play partners was in many ways no different than 'vanilla' dating. You're going to find some duds, some people whom you don't have a lot of fun with, etc. We felt that since it was so hit and miss, that it would be better to maintain relationships with the ones that were fun. But, I wouldn't advise trying that until you're more comfortable. How to start is really up to you, and what you want to do. There's plenty of ways to start. Ok, finding the FFM might be hard. But, you can help her explore her interest in other men. One idea; in your day to day lives as you're out doing errands or whatever, have her pick out men she finds attractive, and you do likewise. It can be a bit of a fun exercise and helps internally open the door that it's ok to imagine being with someone else. You could go to swinger meet-and-greets where there's no play, just meeting up with other swingers. That can help make swinging seem less intimidating, as you begin understanding that swingers are really just like everyone else. There's no swinger 'type'. There's also hotel takeovers that can be fun, even if you don't play. You could also go to a swinger club and be spectators, or maybe play with each other only (whether other people can see you or not). Another idea; go to a dance club of some kind and dance with other people. Get physically close with them, and see how each of you feel. Doing an online chat is very different than in person. There are many ways to get closer to swinging without actually swinging, and help test the waters and begin to wrap your brains around the idea of being non-monogamous. What rules you set are also very much up to you, and highly dependent on where your comfort levels are. What are you not comfortable with each other doing to something else? What feels like too far, or too much? I wouldn't try to come up with too many rules; try to focus on only those things that you think will upset either of you. Having too many rules can make having sex with others feel almost rigid. My wife and I had a number of rules when we began; no kissing, no solo play, no anal, always use condoms, etc. Over time all the rules but one fell away. The last one to fall away was always using condoms. Not using condoms now is allowed if it's a regular, long term play partner who has been tested for STDs. So, in a sense, I guess you can say that's still a rule but has conditions. The one big one that has never fallen away and never will is the one we call the "golden parachute". If for any reason either of us does not feel comfortable and wants to exit the situation, they voice it and we both get dressed and leave. No discussion, no checking to make sure, etc. Just leave. We will talk about it after we leave. We've never invoked that rule, but it's nice to know it's there. Planning it in advance; seems odd to plan sex, doesn't it? I wouldn't plan to have sex per se. Plan and expect to have fun, and have no other expectations. It would be good to establish what the limits are for a particular evening; touching and kissing ok, but no further? Anything ok but actual sex? Sex with another person is ok? One thing to be cautious of; changing limits or rules while in the heat of the moment (or approaching it). There will always be another day. Going too far, too fast can be a recipe for disaster. It sounds like both you and your wife enjoy the idea of the other having sex with another person. It can be intensely erotic. When we got into swinging, I had no idea how much I'd enjoy watching my wife have sex with another man. It's absolutely incredible. I love watching, hearing, and helping her have a great time. It sounds like the two of you might be very much the same. This is a good sign for the two of you getting into swinging. A few other bits of advice. However you proceed with this, move at the speed of the person going the slowest, whether it's you or your wife. That applies in general to all of it, but also to specific things. For example, my wife wasn't comfortable with the idea of me having sex with other women at first. We had lots of MFMs before she started feeling more comfortable with the idea. So in one aspect, we moved ahead quite a bit. In another, we moved more slowly. That's ok. Always make sure that you (as in both of you) are in charge of birth control. Those whom you play with may be in charge too, but don't leave birth control solely up to the people you're playing with. Focus on each other. It may seem paradoxical, but swinging isn't about other people, but more about the two of you helping each other achieve more self actualization. Another crucial bit of advice; keep posting here and asking questions :) We're happy to answer, and will tell you if we think you're making a mistake. That's one of the things I really love about this forum. Oof, looking back over this it appears I've written a book. Setting my proverbial pen down for the moment ... :)

I’ve been married three times. But because of swinging, all told I’ve had sex with five women on their wedding evenings. 😉😊 I would have been up for that, but my wife didn't start fucking other guys until a couple of years after we got married.

We have videos of ourselves and with others with consent only.

To me there are two aspects to exhibitionism and voyeurism, nudity and sexual. When I am in Europe, I like going to nude spas. There is one not far from where I go for business. It's nothing sexual - old people, young people, families enjoying the water, air, sunshine in the saunas, hot tubs, steam rooms and pools. If someone is checking me out, I don't mind. Myself, my attention is drawn to other women. Sexually, I am primarily a voyeur of the others in my family, watching them enjoy themselves. I don't mind if the others watch me (or even if strangers did), so long as I'm not interrupted or distracted.

69 is my choice with a partner that enjoys 69 as much as me!

I like both, especially on a nude beach. I like to be the peacock and flaunt it. In a club or house party I love to perform sex in front of anyone that wants to watch. My voyuer comes out on the nude beach, I like to people watch, especially to see who are the exhibitionists.

I was very fortunate to have such a great introduction to the wonders of sex. It was a truly amazing week. We're in touch in that we're friended on Facebook, but we haven't chatted much over the years. She got married a couple of years after we parted ways, to a guy whom she met in the Army. She's had a number of kids, and lives across the country now. We did talk on the phone for about an hour roughly 20 years ago. All was well with her then. From what I've seen on Facebook, everything still seems to be going well. And yeah, the most earnest of promises tend to evaporate once Mr. Happy decides to have a say in it! 😅🤣😂

People eat eggs, even from some dirty animal. Why not sperm from a nice clean human?

When I attended college, there was a bar that was notorious for college boys and older married women to hook up. One night I met an older lady in this bar and she invited me back to her house. When we got to the house, she introduced me to her husband and said that he wanted to watch us have sex, that's all. I was skeptical but agreed as long as he just watched. She crawled on top of me cowgirl and her husband walked to the bed and pulled my cock out of her and began to suck it. He sucked it for a while and then stuck it back in her pussy! Whenever I came inside her, he came over and sucked my cock again to clean me up. I got dressed and she drove me back to the bar and she told me that she was looking forward to more visits to her house.

My girl always squirts. Every time. It's very exciting, but we have to prepare with a waterproof blanket and oil based lube. Sometimes it breaks the continuity.

I don't squirt, but I can soak my pants with my natural lubrication juices when I'm excited. It can be a problem sometimes.

Missus E is a frequent squirter and yes we both love it! If others don’t like it they can go play elsewhere. Their loss.

I agree with Erika, we gals like to have the warm sensation of cum, but bareback only with those guys we know and trust. I have had up to nine different guys from our club fill my pussy and ass, and I like my hubby to clean me out and share with me. That's love and lust together.

When I am with a close friend or my husband, I go bareback. At these times, I prefer the intimacy of being pumped with my partner's semen. If I am with a few close friends in one night, I feel incredibly sexy knowing that sperm from many men are finding their way to my uterus. I usually use condoms with playmates whom I do not know well. Even with a condom, it excites me to know that they are thrusting and coming deep inside me.

Wife says inside always. Feels so good and taboo.

I prefer slower and sensual when receiving head. I like full stroke with one hand fully gripping my cock not too tight, not too lose. Her mouth up against her stroking hand and my cock sliding through both her hand and lips while she is sucking with moderate suction. Sloppy wet is fine with me. I want her to look at me often. I want to see her eyes while my cock is in her wonderfully wet mouth. I love it when she moan with pleasure knowing she is making me fell great. I like when her other hand is gently, I say gently caressing my balls. And gently tickling my taint or asshole. I'll allow a woman, or my woman to finger my ass. It makes me cum hard as fuck. Just like when you have anal sex and the woman cums and you can feel the anus contractions, so can she on her finger when you are cuming. My ex girlfriend loved knowing how good it was when I was cumming while she gently and not too deeply fingered my asshole. If I was laying on my back she would gently lick and tease my taint and asshole with her tongue too. Oral is just so much fun to give and get. Love it! Almost nothing I live more then eating my woman pussy and any of the past women I've been with too. It's my favorite past time lol.

There is a definite difference between head as foreplay and head as the sex act. For me to come from head requires a 'list' of things that need to be going right. My mind has to be at ease, meaning recently showered so I'm not stressing about some odor, the house quiet, and a little high. The position has to be comfortable, laying on a bed rather than standing on the stairs in the garage. I have to feel that the giver is doing this because it's something they really want to be doing. I could never orgasm from 'obligatory' head, no matter how good the technique. But that said, seeing someone enjoying my dick, looking at the orgasm as a reward, can get me off, even with mediocre skills.

I'd have to lean towards slow and sensual. I usually don't orgasm from oral no matter what the style is, and there was one playmate early in our swinging career who took that as some sort of personal challenge. I had mentioned that in the talk leading up to the playdate, and she was convinced that with her skills, she would be different. I tried to explain that it was totally ok, I like oral, that's for sure, but how it ends is of no concern to me. She wasn't really listening. So, the night arrived, she was giving me oral, I was liking it, but no orgasm. I was ready to move on to the main event, but she wasn't until she made me come, despite what I had told her. I kept letting her go at it for a while, but the longer it went, the more aggressive and vigorous she got, until finally I had to cry uncle on that deal once it definitely crossed the pleasure to painful threshold. When giving oral sex to a woman, from what I've been told, my style is "sooooo attentive" I focus 110% on making HER feel good for as long as she wants to feel that way and don't try to rush things along or ignore what I'm sensing she likes best in favor of what I like.

As long as it's my cum..... I'm fine with it.

Dito I feel the same way there are just times you don't want it inside you to run out later but Oh, how I love to feel him cum inside of me. I also love to have him cum in my mouth facelick but Mr Spoo is the only one for various reasons STD safety etc. There is a lot to be said for seeing it to so on my breasts or belly works great for that. What can I say we love it everywhere it just depends on his or my mood and what we are really wanting at the moment. As for our playmates . . . It's usually going to be in the condom or on me that's about the only option they get . . . my preference is on me. Mrs Spoomonkey

Well it totally depends to be honest with you. If it's night time and I don't have a lot of running around to do I prefer he come inside of me where I can feel his cock throb while he cums. I just love to feel that. If it's morning sex and I have a lot to do I prefer he cums on on my belly or breasts. I know no one wants to hear this but I prefer to not feel it leak out of me all day. I had an incident the other day where I let him cum inside of me before we took off and I forgot to put in a pantyliner. Well about two hours later while standing in line at McDonalds I just felt this gush and my panties and pants were soaked! He cums so much at a time I would just assume it was outside to not deal with the mess later on. I know, not the sexiest reply you could have gotten