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It is difficult to try to get into another person’s thinking of why they do anything. While my situation is different, I was younger and not previously married, I was what some might call wild. I slept with many partners including other women and a number of group sex play. When I met my husband I became monogamous without hesitation and continued our monogamy for years without any regrets. Life changes and priorities change, my past was my past. I would have been very happy to never have sex with anyone other than my husband. The main reason we started in the lifestyle was Alan was curious to a part of my life he felt he missed out on. Your new partner has found happiness in you as you have with her. I am guessing at your age you had sex with others on vanilla terms. When you become a couple you make choices including changes in life, you are not dating others and neither is she. If your jealousy overwhelms your thoughts it is your problem not hers. If you think her past will bother you, you need to move on as her past will always be there.

My wife says: “ What’s passed is past.” Start today, look forward. That’s all that counts.

Daniela and I have done anal this way between ourselves and with others. The best thing for the woman is for another woman to be able to tongue her clit while she is getting ass fucked.

My feeling, and I believe that the consensus here, is that a strong, emotional relationship/marriage and nonmonogamy, i.e. sex with others (even if it includes some emotion) are not incompatible. My now wife and I went the monogamous route after we fell in love before we were married and afterwards for a couple of years, but then eased into playing with others, first her then both of us. As many here have also experienced, it actually made our love and marriage stronger. Talk about it, everything you both are curious about, what you and she enjoyed and did not, then move forward on your adventure, which doesn't have to be symmetric. In our case my wife started first by renewing sexual relationships with ex-boyfriends. After a while she really wanted me involved, first having MFMs with them and later moving to couples swaps. With the right person, it is work, it is fun, it is exciting, it is satisfying.

I try to be very sensitive to what a woman wants if she is being kind enough to suck my dick. Two things are at the front of my mind. The first is whether she is trying to suck me to completion or is doing it as foreplay and is planning to fuck. Over 90% of the time we have agreed that it is foreplay, so I hold back and/or pull out so we can have a good regular sex session. The second thing is if she does want me to cum, does she want me to ejaculate in her mouth. Among our group all the wives do and they all swallow, so no problem there. Then the third is where she wants my hands. It's divided among the women that some want to be finger fucked, some like a finger in her ass, some don't want any play on herself, she's concentrating on me. For me, I like to play with a woman's breasts while getting a blow job - even a different woman's tits (in which case I can kiss her as well). Finally, I always ask if a woman wants me to reciprocate, either as foreplay or after we fuck; I like eating pussy, especially to get a woman to orgasm. I let her know that the offer stands, even if it's later after she has played with others, if she wants to be licked, I'll do it. So this simple question has a complicated answer, but after all these years, it's my game.

I am not a licensed psychotherapist, but before my professional career took a radically different turn I had four years of doctoral training in clinical psychology. My advice, Ray, is that if you believe this relationship is a passing one, end it now. I don’t think you should let what you acknowledge is your own issue make her life more complicated. But if you believe that this is the sole issue standing between you and a longterm durable relationship with this woman then I recommend you (or the two of you) get some relationship counseling, preferably with a therapist who is well-versed in sexual issues in relationships. If you are able to resolve your issue the two of you can pursue the relationship. If you cannot banish from your mind fantasized images you find troubling of your girlfriend engaged in casual sex with others — or learn to not find them disturbing— I believe you will be unable to establish a durable and mutually satisfying relationship with this woman who has been honest and open with you about her personal history.

She was seeking sex like most people once they are awakened. Maybe her ex didn’t please her. Maybe she repressed her sexuality. Maybe she asked why not. Does she ask you about your sexual history? I for one would shy away from a partner who is celibate in their 40’s. You said she has been in the LS for two years after her divorce and is willing to give it up now that she met her love partner just as I would think you are giving up sex with others. As Cpl posted, if you can’t live with her past you need to cut her loose. I’m reading you will always hold this against her.

Wu and I had great times back in the 70's and 80's out on the freeways. She would strip down and snuggle and open my pants to fish out my erection. From there we went to finger fucking her to multiple orgasms and finally before we got to our destination I would slow down as needed while she got me off orally. We drove the truck speed limit in the right lane, only passed if car or truck slower, never paused or hide day or night. Great vehicles and times and memories even if we must have been nuts! Helpful when the steering wheels could be swung up higher, love those auto engineers for that one. Got to wonder if the safety people got rid of the bench seat because of folks like us, hated those early buckets.

Seriously, as an article on WebMD noted: Having vaginal sex after anal sex can also lead to vaginal and urinary tract infections. ( https://www.webmd.com/sex/anal-sex-health-concerns ) Years ago I played with a couple who were also social friends. They had never had any detailed sexual education and when they were first together basically learned through experimentation. They regularly alternated vaginal and anal in the same session without using condoms or thoroughly cleaning his penis. She eventually developed a reproductive-tract infection that affected her ability to become pregnant. (Happily she eventually did bear a child.)

For me it's penis-in-vagina number one always, giving oral to a woman second, receiving oral third, dick ejaculating in my bum fourth, and sucking dick and swallowing fifth. Simultaneous combinations in an FFM are best.

So then he's says, "Yeah, ok, but how much do I have to pay him to leave us alone?"

I don’t know why you are surprised by age differences in couples. Throughout history older men have been attracted to younger women and some women have found security in older men. Then there are Cougars, women who search out younger men and the men who are willing to satisfy the cougars. My husband knows my sexual preferences because we talk and he is happy to find partners to satisfy my wants. If we are with friends that are swingers, those that we will be more than sexual outlets for we look for age equivalent people. If we are looking for a one time no attachment play I prefer a younger partner. Fortunately younger men still find me attractive enough for a no strings attached quicky. I think it is easier for me to find a younger man vs. Mike finding a younger woman unless we meet a younger couple.

Just thinking that it’s Debbie that found the posting and she is looking at them as a couple. My thoughts ran to me having sex with a younger woman while it may be Debbie’s desire to be with someone younger. I know all of her searches were filtered to include bisexual females, a new preference for Deb and an added excitement for me. Just doing more thinking, maybe I am a voyeur wanting to watch Debbie enjoying as much as me participating. Just a year ago I was secretly happy her first partner, our friend, didn’t make her orgasm the first time, but when she finally did I was way more happy. One of the things I am enjoying is posting and thinking. As I post it makes me think about what we want and what I want, now I’m thinking what Deb wants. I should just ask her more questions, that’s always fun.

Yep, wonderful how it works that way. Even when hubby has already cum and ejaculated in another woman, having watched (or even just knowing what happened with your spouse) makes us both ready to go again. Tasting her as I suck him back up and the sight and sounds of sloppy seconds is intense.

I agree with Erika, we gals like to have the warm sensation of cum, but bareback only with those guys we know and trust. I have had up to nine different guys from our club fill my pussy and ass, and I like my hubby to clean me out and share with me. That's love and lust together.

My girlfriend really likes inside her. Even during mfm threesome she prefers myself and the other guy to cum in her.

I also prefer it inside, especially my mouth as I can then kiss my lover (or lovers) and share the cum. I got my hubby to go with my fantasy, and now we share his yummy cum, but also my other lovers'. We both like fine wine and cum. Laura Laura and Dave

I find that I really love feeling a man cum inside. I'm pretty tight and sensitive so feeling him swell and then explode with heat is amazing. Personally I hate it on the face. My husband did it once and I felt so disgusting I cried and we didn't have sex for like two days. Though in contrast I love when he decides to cum on my little breasts, he's a heavy enough cummer he pretty much covers them. I've only recently had a man cum in my asshole. I'd done a little anal but my husband had always pulled out and either gone back to my pussy or my breasts. One of my new guys came really deep in my anus and it actually felt really good.

We all know what it really means. It means the bi-curious female is selfish and likes to have her pussy licked by another woman but won't return the favor.

This fact DRIVES ME NUTS! However, it is also completely true. Yet, commonsence would tell us, "You can only be bi curious once. " If you dont like it, you are not. If you do, you are! Simple. Another reason people list themselves as bi-curious is a marketing ploy. Dishonest? Yes. But, it has almost become a requirement these days for women to be Bi. At least that is my understanding of the complaints I have read.

I have used that position before, it's probably my second favorite position for anal (although anal is not one of my favorite things and something I do fairly rare). My favorite position for anal is with me on top, as I can control the speed and impact of the entry. However, missionary has also worked fairly well. I would think that Ves' suggestion might cause more difficulty as it would tighten the anus a bit more (I would think), but perhaps a pillow or two under her butt?

Have we ever had sex in a car...well, lets see... 1. 73 Mercury Comet 2. 74 Vega 3. 67 Pontiac Catalina 4. 77 Ford Pickup 5. 70 Chey Duallie 6. 69 Pontiac GTO 7. 73 Chevelle 8. International Combine (On Ted's 17th birthday ) 9. 79 Mustang 10. U-Haul truck. 11. 78 International Scout 12. 97 Dakota (MFM threesome as well as just the two of us) 13. 2000 Jeep Cherokee (riding down State Rd. 55 in Alabama, actual intercourse, as well as numerous BJs) 14. School Bus 15. Charter Bus 16. Dodge Caravan (quite a few of these as it's what Ted's company uses and I travel a lot with him in them). I'm going to stop now before everyone starts thinking we have a vehicle fetish Teresa

I have to concur with the majority............nothing beats a cream pie!

We both say "inside her vagina". I love the feeling of filling her up with my semen, and she enjoys the sensation of feeling it shoot out of my penis and spurting into her. With other guys, 95% of the time he's wearing a condom, but even then she likes it inside. She enjoys feeling his penis throb and experience him trying to desperately thrust inside of her, even if all of his semen is being collected in the little reservoir tip.