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I like the mutuality of 69, but your right, for me at least, it's more distracting, harder to breathe, and more difficult to cum with a dick in my mouth. P-in-v is best for mutual satisfaction.

That’s called starting the year with a Bang.

We are invited to friends home for a party on New Yeas Eve. There will be five couples, all swingers. We are wondering what kind of swinging will happen. Possibly a couple of gang bangs? Two lucky ladies could have the pleasure of the attention of 5 guys. My wife agrees but says no anal or DP for her if she was selected. Or there is a possibility of a group orgy. We never had a five couples swap before. Everyone has previously met. Any suggestions from readers would be appreciated.

We had a double-date with a couple we hadn't seen since pre-pandemic last NYE. Technically, we "swapped" and were each other's dates as soon as we got to the restaurant, but it must have confused the waiter because the mixed dynamics were visible. It was a really fun evening and a good way to jump back into it activities.

Offering a thought I've shared elsewhere: Growing up in the evangelical-leaning midwest in a certain age bracket, women generally exchanged oral with men very casually. It's not quite fair to say it "didn't count", but it certainly wasn't intercourse and was often a polite gesture at the end of a nice night or something that could be done between friends. For a long time, I thought very little of it, even with attached or married women. (Possibly, some of this had to do with the very intense rhetoric we got about avoiding teen and unwed pregnancy.) Mrs. E, growing up in a Catholic school, in the northeast, a few years older, got a very different perception, that oral sex was much more intimate and to be reserved. Casual intercourse, also, was shunned, but it usually came first in intimate relationships. Regardless of ethnic background, that was pretty consistent, down to the Puerto Rican girl who would roll her eyes at oral sex but had three or four men in rotation to keep her fucked at any time. I'm not sure how much of that is cultural/geographic and age-specific, but there are differences there in social groups. Also, I've known a number of women who disclosed that they had very specific breeding kinks that involved being somewhat anonymously "used" for pregnancy, as well as women who would prefer to have intercourse with someone they didn't really like over oral, and while that's far from universal, I can see the logic of how intercourse is less intimate. Performing oral is usually deeply sensory beyond touch: tastes, smells, often a lot of eye contact. It's full of deliberate choices about how you'll use your lips and tongue to manipulate someone else's body. I don't think there a clear answers there. As I've gotten older, I've developed a more casual view of intercourse. As Mrs. E has evolved into this, she's developed a more performative and casual view of oral sex.

Rubbing noses is the most intimate act.

So now the trick is can you all climax at midnight? 😆😆

Yes! For me (us women generally) having an oral orgasm before and/or after the main event is easy and routine, no need to reload like the guys. We women like tending to a sloppy spent dick, especially when it's just finished in a different pussy (it's a bi thing). But if he's got more to give, it's usually going back into a vagina. Our family is three women and two men, so we conserve resources. 🙂 As it should be. Mine is FFM.

You never know what is going to happen. That’s why it’s fun.

My feeling, and I believe that the consensus here, is that a strong, emotional relationship/marriage and nonmonogamy, i.e. sex with others (even if it includes some emotion) are not incompatible. My now wife and I went the monogamous route after we fell in love before we were married and afterwards for a couple of years, but then eased into playing with others, first her then both of us. As many here have also experienced, it actually made our love and marriage stronger. Talk about it, everything you both are curious about, what you and she enjoyed and did not, then move forward on your adventure, which doesn't have to be symmetric. In our case my wife started first by renewing sexual relationships with ex-boyfriends. After a while she really wanted me involved, first having MFMs with them and later moving to couples swaps. With the right person, it is work, it is fun, it is exciting, it is satisfying.

Not sure what the problem would be with couples with big age differences, but I know it clearly is for some! I think people sometimes assume when there is a big age difference in a couple that it must be a gold digger situation or something. Maybe they think there is no way they could be a legit couple that are in love. As a couple that has a 13 year age difference ourselves her being 38 and myself being 51 I can say that it is definitely not a money thing, because when we meet I had just came out of a 16 year marriage and had nothing, but myself and two daughters to take care of. As for us being a legit couple I don’t know anyone closer and more connected then we are. Personally we don’t really give a shit if people reject us or judge us, because of the age gape. They are more then welcome to look elsewhere. As a 51 year old man I look younger and am in better shape then many of the guys that are 10 to 15 years younger then me so if they want to pass on us just because of my age go ahead. Truth is she would be passing on many of them anyways, because looks and attitude do matter to us way more then age ever will.

(Cathy) Wel now that I have stopped laughing over your post hon I can respond... Humming! When you least expect it you may find me humming the Star Spangled Bannger or Somewhere Over the Rainbow!

Somewhere on this board I read something about trying to relax the back of your throat. I can't explain it, I just did it...lol. And I only sort of gagged once. I think that I tried to relax all of me, so that I could concentrate on the throat. LOL. I think that I moved the head into a different position in my mouth than I normally do as well. Ok I'll pay more attention next time and report back!

My hubby gives me a backrub while he gets his blowjob. The better job I do, the better job he does. And the better job he does, the better job I do. It's a win win situation all around.