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I've mentioned this in prior posts, we're in the lifestyle to enhance our sex life. Together our sex life is amazing. Bringing a new dynamic (another male, another female, couple, etc) is to experience things we cannot do alone. Partnering up and going to separate rooms doesn't achieve our objective of enhancing our sex life. It is merely having sex with someone else, which isn't of interest.

Amy and I just finished discussing following a visit from swinger friends. Amy said a sex must be different for a woman since all cocks are different. She enjoys my shorter length in a different manner to which she enjoys 9 inches from Steve. It takes longer to get ready for his bigger cock and lasts longer when things get comfortable. Apparently Vicky said she likes a shorter cock inside her so there's lots of room to play inside her pussy. Steve never hits her G spot with the head of his cock and always finishes deep-deep inside her. Vicky ,ikes the feeling of cum inside all of her pussy. Amy said she likes cum deep inside her because she lovesthe feeling of it trickling out.

It is absolutely different. Everything that feels good to a man happens inside our bodies. Then add to that if they refuse to wear protection, and refuse to pull out we face the consequences of potential unwanted pregnancy. Men can get their dick wet and walk away, while we potentially have to deal with the consequences. Then finally there is the issue of if we decided to stop because the man is hurting us or doing something we are not comfortable with we always have the fear that the man will just hold us down and do what he wanted anyways. Ever have a man decide to choke you during sex, well I have and that is scary as shit. We do not all have that fantasy. Ever seen a well endowed guy decide to fuck her throat for a just little too long. I've had that one too, we can't breath so that's scary. We also do not all love anal sex, yet I've had five men decide to do it anyways. If you're not ready for it a dick in your bum really hurts. Or you could just try to kill us. They say a man fears being rejected by a woman, while women fear being killed by a man. So yes, sex takes trust for a woman and yes it is different. .

I prefer more group sex than actual swapping, so we go for same room. I like to be able to touch, feel, kiss my husband while I'm with someone else, too. I like to be able to see the pleasure he is giving and receiving as well as have him see mine. The exception to this is when we have been with someone(s) a few times and want to branch out. It does happen, and hubby in particular really enjoys hearing my playtime stories after the fact. I am much more visual than aural, though, so 9 times out of 10 I still prefer same room. In a nutshell, it's a shared experience so we go with same room unless it is a repeat swing partner that we think would be interesting to approach differently.

We agree with the rest, safety is a big issue. More than anything else we enjoy watching eachoither giving and receiving. Makes us both hot.

We used to be same room only, we liked being together for safety reasons and it made us comfortable to have each other there for support. We do still like same bed, same room swapping, but are no longer exclusive to those. I think for many couples (us included) in the beginning it helps them to feel connected. In addition, it helped us both feel that what we were doing was out in the open, without shame, guilt or fear of reprisal.