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"What I can’t get out of my head is…. Why would she want to leave a lifestyle she seemed to really enjoy for only me? " The LS can be very good at providing many bodies to pleasure and be pleasured by. It is not any where near as good at providing meaningful interpersonal relationships such as love. Friendships it can yes, life partners not so much. She is of an age where maturity sets in and she might very well realize that a life partner trumps bed partner. My advice would be to trust how she feels and do not even try to understand. Take some pride in the fact that with a substantial base for comparison she is choosing you.

Menopause has been a blessing and a curse for us in that it took away one of the fears of sex, pregnancy, which went along with dryness. So far for me menopause has not reduced my desire to have sex, it may have had the opposite effect for me. The dryness was a gradual occurrence going from being very lubricated to the point of pain during sex. Innocent me knew about lubricants I just didn’t know how or where to apply it. Now I have a launcher that was suggested on here. The beauty of asking without embarrassing conversations. At our age Rocky and I are playing with couples on both sides of menopause where I am not the only woman having dryness something some women are more willing to open up about. Some are taking hormones, HRT, others are using different forms of lubricants and finally I am opening up to have the talk. I didn’t complain to my GYN, a mistake, as she sees this on a day to day problem. I don’t know what the future will bring right now my desire is still strong.

All you can do is engage and be charming. But don't go having sex in public where it's not condoned.

For us as she went through menopause it all slowed down. She still tried very hard to give me time but many times it was obvious that she wasn’t really in to it, just something she did for me. She would attend parties and events and time with our friends but her drive and interest came to a stop. Once the life of the party she just didn’t have interest any more. She also lost much of her self confidence and became very critical of herself. When our last club location shut down she said she really didn’t want to attend any more and thought we should just move on. We still have many great friends and attachments that we still maintain and enjoy time with but primarily social.

That's how we started years ago, 2 couples with our same partners having sex. I think that everyone will take a peek at the other couple, but that is a starter, or it was for us. Then the next step is letting the other couple watch and then a full on swap. Take baby steps till you get comfortable, and it will. You will get one hell of a rush knowing couples are watching you have sex! Go for it, you only live once!

We are still fairly new to the LS, and decided to do start out with same room. We may be open to separate room in the future, but for now it is what we prefer. Our reason is mainly because we enjoy sharing the experience together. But for me, I like the comfort of having my husband with me because I do tend to get nervous especially with a new couple. It is a little strange playing with someone other than my spouse since he had been my only partner for over 15 years. I also enjoy the girl/girl play which requires same room.

I prefer more group sex than actual swapping, so we go for same room. I like to be able to touch, feel, kiss my husband while I'm with someone else, too. I like to be able to see the pleasure he is giving and receiving as well as have him see mine. The exception to this is when we have been with someone(s) a few times and want to branch out. It does happen, and hubby in particular really enjoys hearing my playtime stories after the fact. I am much more visual than aural, though, so 9 times out of 10 I still prefer same room. In a nutshell, it's a shared experience so we go with same room unless it is a repeat swing partner that we think would be interesting to approach differently.

MFM does not mean DP to any extent greater than sucking cock means you have to deep throat. DP is not that common in my real life experiences.

Menopause definitely slowed swinging to a crawl. My wife hit menopause the same time as the covid lockdowns. We had been looking forward to returning to pre-covid lifestyle activity but now i don't think we'll ever get back. We played four times in 2022 down from about 12-14 times in 2018.