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That is true for us. We looked for sexual partners who we want to spend time with. We don’t want just a sexual experience then go home without ever knowing the people we were intimate with. Yes we did and the fear of age was unfounded. We realized she has been interacting with her husband’s friends who are our age and she wasn’t an immature young lady. After a short time the age difference disappeared in a social context. I can’t deny that in a sexual context I certainly knew I was with a younger lady. Not sure if it is age that had me experience something new with her. Now that we got by the age question I want to add the Debbie had a great time with the closer to our age husband. His energy level and outlook were youthful in a way that made the experience fun for all of us.

Deb and I are adjusting to meeting strangers on swing sites. From finding people from our past, seeing people we know from other places to not feeling it when meeting the first time. I get excited just knowing Deb is looking at profiles, what catches her eye and wonder why she passes over some. I wonder why she gives a thumbs down on some of my suggestions, some are just a feeling she gets. The day after Thanksgiving she was looking and asked me to take a look. I will emphasize that if you post make sure your picture is a great one, clothed and together, especially if you want to catch the eye of a woman. I feel creepy saying looks count, it does for us. It’s what makes Deb stop and look. My eyes go to the female while Debbie looks at the couple. Post was an attractive male, fit and I would label Mediterranean, female all American and my guess younger. One of the pictures was a wedding photo, another a beach picture, another taken very casual. No red flags on the profile I gave Deb a thumbs up to contact them. I think it is better for the women to have first contact as it shakes out fakes. An hour later a response from him but Debbie was emphatic that she needed to hear from the wife before any more is said. I figured that would end it. My surprise she was contacted with a phone number to call. Debbie called and got the details. There is a 20+ year difference in age. He’s an attorney, second marriage, she is a school teacher that met him on a vacation three years ago. They are married almost two years.

I'm amazed this question even comes up. A lady is a lady regardless of race, creed or looks. The requirements is that they enjoy sex and are comfortable in their bodies and with themselves.

Aren’t we passed this type of question?

"What I can’t get out of my head is…. Why would she want to leave a lifestyle she seemed to really enjoy for only me? " The LS can be very good at providing many bodies to pleasure and be pleasured by. It is not any where near as good at providing meaningful interpersonal relationships such as love. Friendships it can yes, life partners not so much. She is of an age where maturity sets in and she might very well realize that a life partner trumps bed partner. My advice would be to trust how she feels and do not even try to understand. Take some pride in the fact that with a substantial base for comparison she is choosing you.

This proved true again last night. We were at a sports bar near MetLife stadium where the game was horrible and the weather worse. Nobody wanted to sit in the rain so the bar was busy. We had no idea who would show up Christmas weekend on a Thursday night game and we didn’t book a hotel. Michael likes to watch me flirt at the bar, I didn’t dress up, just jeans and sweater and started talking to a few Jet fans. I have perfected a way to find if guys want to do more without coming off as an escort. My biggest problem is convincing them that there is a man, my husband, who wants to watch and I don’t want money.

Just thinking that it’s Debbie that found the posting and she is looking at them as a couple. My thoughts ran to me having sex with a younger woman while it may be Debbie’s desire to be with someone younger. I know all of her searches were filtered to include bisexual females, a new preference for Deb and an added excitement for me. Just doing more thinking, maybe I am a voyeur wanting to watch Debbie enjoying as much as me participating. Just a year ago I was secretly happy her first partner, our friend, didn’t make her orgasm the first time, but when she finally did I was way more happy. One of the things I am enjoying is posting and thinking. As I post it makes me think about what we want and what I want, now I’m thinking what Deb wants. I should just ask her more questions, that’s always fun.

We only use condoms for anal when there is a great deal of back to back. with that said, bareback anal happens more than you'd think because there is not a wife among us that doesn't get off watching our man take it anally and getting cum filled. It is how we clicked as a group. We masturbate to this more than anything else. Our husbands are 100% with us on this, they love to see us take it anally bareback getting cum filled. Everyone cleans well afterwards before any more goes on. We have extra showers to accommodate. Over time you will find modifying your home comes in extremely handy once you have a well established sex group. So we definitely prefer bareback. Everyone in our group is about the real deal, real feel, real cum. We like the act, the visuals, and the cum play. As for penises, a bare penis is the best feeling penis, no doubt. We trust everyone after getting to know them well so far no one has blown it, no stds. We have a few newer couples slowly integrating. We are keeping it fairly safe with them so the husbands use condoms. I know the wives well enough to see whatever they do with their men is most likely okay for the rest of us yet we still take the cautious road. Once we get to know people, see how they interact in a sexual setting, learn their tendencies, we are open to bareback sex. I encourage building your own group of trusted sex friends.

So what I found to be handeld differently between the majority of Swingers I know in RL (mostly people from three diffrent Europen Countries) and on this board (mostly US people) - Over here people don't care about cheating singles. We think it is their problem if they get caught doing something they should not do - The idea of Off-Premise. While there are M&G gatherings where people can go just to meet and talk, they usually have a back room for play also. - The Onlookers. I don't think I ever came across someone who was just in a club to watch the freaks having sex. I guess the entry fees here are high enough to ensure that only people who at least have some interrest in swinging actively think it is a better place to hang out then a regular night-club - The idea of bareback. If it happens then only behind closed doors. People who (would) openly admit that they don't use condoms (would) have a hard time finding playmates or in the case of some clubs even being allowed inside. - F/F play On a regional plattform it is often said by some bi-women that most couples that are listed with a bi-curious female are not to be taken siriously. Those profiles are mostly being handeld by the husband who wishes that is wife would engage in bi play before his eyes. But if they happen to get together the woman often turns out to be against it outright or that she will lay flat on her back and endure it because her guy wants her too. I also see very little f/f play in the club, but I guess this is because my club of choice has a monthly girls only party, and that most genuine bi or bi-curious ladies attend there. I guess this is it for now...