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I wouldn't say it's a huge issue, but it may cut down on your play opportunities. Everyone is entitled to have their rules and boundaries. The tighter they are though, the smaller the sea you will be fishing in. Nothing wrong with that, just be upfront with people about where the limits are at and then they can decide whether they are compatible or not. For us, it wouldn't be a total deal-breaker. Even sex with each other may or may not involve oral foreplay. We can have satisfying sex without oral. No kissing, that is a rule that is a deal-breaker to us though. I guess because we can't imagine intercourse without at least some kissing involved somewhere between start and finish. Oral sex we can.

Think I read that the PBR is looking for new young bulls. Think you call yourself a stud, you should see what real studs look like.

This thread reminds me of dreams that I've had where I'm the only naked one in the room. Both disturbing and exciting.

Yes. And iam dying to go again and again and again. It's the best time I have had on Earth.

Something that you need to realize is that most people in this lifestyle can separate love from sex. You can have sex with someone you don't love and you can love someone you don't have sex with. That she is willing to give up having sex with others that she doesn't love (and can be empty if you are really seeking love) isn't that big of a surprise. She would rather have someone to love and loves her back. What I think the bigger question is why you don't understand how she can do that so easily. IT'S JUST SEX. Although other people have tried (unsuccessfully) to replace love with sex, it doesn't work. Take the knowledge that she is in love with you and treat her and that as the special gift that it is. If you want to try out the lifestyle in the future (which it sounds like you might), then do that...in the future. First, you need to make your relationship as strong as possible. Love, trust, communication...you can never have too much of any of those.

Then a club should work just fine for you. Most people will ask before joining another couple and (even if they don't ask...there are a few), a simple 'no' will usually take care of them (and just in case it doesn't, the club owner will finish them). If you want to be watched without fear of being arrested, the club is the place to go.

While the lifestyle is fun and I can see a single lady having lots of fun, it's mostly centered around couples doing it together. We've had a lot of fun as a couple but the ls ebbs and flows with us depending on life. I imagine like most people you could enjoy the single life for a time, but eventually you'd want a partner and while we have a great time doing this it's just a fun hobby.

We had a great time at desire last week. The staff was probably the nicest and best customer service I've ever experienced at any kind of hotel/resort. The facility was also really nice and well maintained. Everyone we met was really nice and fun loving which we figured. We've been to week long hotel pool parties and whole those are always good fun, I liked being able to pivot between chill or party mode at Desire. We will definitely go back!

My feeling, and I believe that the consensus here, is that a strong, emotional relationship/marriage and nonmonogamy, i.e. sex with others (even if it includes some emotion) are not incompatible. My now wife and I went the monogamous route after we fell in love before we were married and afterwards for a couple of years, but then eased into playing with others, first her then both of us. As many here have also experienced, it actually made our love and marriage stronger. Talk about it, everything you both are curious about, what you and she enjoyed and did not, then move forward on your adventure, which doesn't have to be symmetric. In our case my wife started first by renewing sexual relationships with ex-boyfriends. After a while she really wanted me involved, first having MFMs with them and later moving to couples swaps. With the right person, it is work, it is fun, it is exciting, it is satisfying.