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Some on this board are aware that I trained at the doctoral level as a clinical psychologist prior to pursuing a very different career. I agree with the comments made in this thread thread that singles and/or couples who are in therapy (other than, in my opinion, for strictly behavioral matters like quitting smoking) should be candid with their therapists about all aspects of their lives, even if they don’t necessarily seem relevant to the presenting issue when beginning therapy. That said, not every person who hangs out a shingle as a therapist is as open-minded as you might wish. Even if they don’t see their own blind spots they may, outside their awareness, have blind spots. And while they should be getting supervision on all their cases to help them see those blind spots, that isn’t always the case. There are more therapists out there — particularly but not only in the case of pastoral counseling — who might say (and think) they are accepting of a client’s unconventional sexual/affectional life, but see it as a problematic aspect in the relationship. All else being equal (and of course that’s not always the case) I think it’s wise to choose a therapist who specifically states in their public-facing communications that they work with clients whose sexuality is outside the mainstream. Failing that, as others here have suggested, bring the subject up in your initial meeting with the therapist. And ask about their values around consensual non-monogamy. You can find lifestyle-friendly therapist through Google searches. It took me about 30 seconds to find an example: https://www.bethfirestein.com/alternative-lifestyles/

Yep, wonderful how it works that way. Even when hubby has already cum and ejaculated in another woman, having watched (or even just knowing what happened with your spouse) makes us both ready to go again. Tasting her as I suck him back up and the sight and sounds of sloppy seconds is intense.

My girlfriend really likes inside her. Even during mfm threesome she prefers myself and the other guy to cum in her.

I also prefer it inside, especially my mouth as I can then kiss my lover (or lovers) and share the cum. I got my hubby to go with my fantasy, and now we share his yummy cum, but also my other lovers'. We both like fine wine and cum. Laura Laura and Dave

Michael and I continue to see a therapist both together and separately. Over the years we have both become more open to telling her what experiences and feelings we have with others and the reasons we enjoy others. I will never know what he tells her in his private sessions though I am very open in our joint meetings. We have told her that we post some of our experiences on a swingers site, it’s more me posting, Michael doesn’t post anymore. She asked if I embellish my posts because many post on sites about fantasies more than realities. I think I post real feelings as best as I can but I know what she means that posting has an excitement factor like reliving an event. Others will post something they wished they did almost as if they did it. Michael and I were very hesitant to open up to our therapist our alternative lifestyle thoughts when we first met her. I opened up first in my private meetings and then only in a broad way with no specific acts. I didn’t think she would understand what we were doing or how she would judge me. Therapy was to take away my odd feelings which ended up adding to my thinking my actions were odd. Once getting over my fears of opening up my deep thoughts it has freed up anxiety of enjoying. I think I have a healthier outlook now that I have freed myself of worrying what others think and what a therapist thinks. Our joint sessions are now very freeing allowing me to express my feelings to Michael and understanding his feelings. How open are others? Do others discuss true feelings to a partner? Are you honest to a therapist?

Telling a doctor is not that easy for me. My original OB/GYN delivered my children years ago who has since retired just like many of our other doctors. I never found going to him a pleasant thing not for any real reason. His replacement was a female who has also retired. A few years ago a younger female doctor who is very sweet and thorough is also an Orthodox Jewish mother. I have no doubts of her capabilities or knowledge I just have an unreasonable shyness discussing my sex life with her.

I have a very hip therapist. I like to think I can tell her anything. We sometimes visit with her together. I wish I could tell her that we are swingers, but so far I just tell her that I have those desires, as well as bisexual fantasies.

Not really. If one is not on bc pill, there are new ways to predict fertility (kit, apps, etc) and avoid those days as an extra layer of protection.

As far as professional revelation.... MD of course it is a relevant fact. If I had a therapist of course I would. What is the point of seeing a therapist and intentionally hiding something with powerful emotional and spiritual ramifications? Dermatologist , no. Lawyer probably not unless it became pertinent. Non professional? One person outside of the LS. Who has instructions to "clean" our bedroom if we both suddenly pass. Wife's BFF whose tenure is older than mine.

During swing play, he can cum inside me but with a condom. Or he can cum outside, anywhere on me. For my SO and bf, they can cum inside on safe days. And of course, in mouth or bum.

Second the casual but nice. For clubs, I usually go with a nice pair of stylish jeans and a button up shirt pair with sharp shoes and belt. When things heat up, nothing at all

Casual but nice is usually the dress code for men. As things heat up, things usually are removed.

...a sex toy that runs on 240v? Now that's frightening...

Toothbrush and toothpaste. Your favorite adult beverage if the club is BYOB. And with COVID still around, hand sanitizer and wipes.

As a woman I prefer to feel his orgasm and ejaculation. The pulsing of his prostate, the pumping of his semen. In my vagina (where God intended it), in my mouth, in my bum (where He doesn't). If I haven't cum yet (or even if I have) it puts me over the top.

^^^ This. I've had the good fortune to have sex with my wife many times after one of her (long term; only they get to go bareback) boyfriends has just cum inside of her. I absolutely leave penetrating her feeling her so sloppy with another man's cum and completely open, receptive, and very warm. It's quite intense! I've never been able to do that after two (or more) men have cum in her, but I'd love to try.

I love it when hubby goes balls deep and pushes as hard as he can and I feel his cock pump deep in my vagina. When I ride him, I love feeling his cock pump like that deep in me. Then I lift up and sit on his face and mouth so he can swallow everything I push out and then lick me clean of his cum mess.

I never understood why either the guy or gal would want to cum on the women's face, must be a porn thing. Call me old fashioned, but I prefer to cum in her pussy, bareback! And as far as using condoms, I think women don't want to use condoms as much as the men, I have had women tell me that either they are allergic to latex or it rubbs their pussy raw.

I agree with Erika, we gals like to have the warm sensation of cum, but bareback only with those guys we know and trust. I have had up to nine different guys from our club fill my pussy and ass, and I like my hubby to clean me out and share with me. That's love and lust together.

When I am with a close friend or my husband, I go bareback. At these times, I prefer the intimacy of being pumped with my partner's semen. If I am with a few close friends in one night, I feel incredibly sexy knowing that sperm from many men are finding their way to my uterus. I usually use condoms with playmates whom I do not know well. Even with a condom, it excites me to know that they are thrusting and coming deep inside me.

It depends on if I am using a condom or bareback with my partner. Bareback inside and as deep as possible, if using a condom then anywhere else, after I remove the condom.

Chiccouplexx, I know that my hubby loves my gulps too when I have more than one or two guys with me. I love his 'gulps' when he is with a lady who squirts and I get to watch. Laura

I prefer it in me. First choice in my vagina, second in my mouth (I swallow), third in my bum. Outside is ok and somewhat interesting, especially if the guy produces a lot of semen, but I like the feel of his dick pulsing and the flow of his cum.

I find that I really love feeling a man cum inside. I'm pretty tight and sensitive so feeling him swell and then explode with heat is amazing. Personally I hate it on the face. My husband did it once and I felt so disgusting I cried and we didn't have sex for like two days. Though in contrast I love when he decides to cum on my little breasts, he's a heavy enough cummer he pretty much covers them. I've only recently had a man cum in my asshole. I'd done a little anal but my husband had always pulled out and either gone back to my pussy or my breasts. One of my new guys came really deep in my anus and it actually felt really good.