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That's surprising? Talk about shooting a man's horse, dang. Now you don't know what to do? I'd pull back on the swinging and reengage with each other. This is a bad road you're on. Seems you two have an interesting approach to swinging. For those we've encountered (and us) swinging is an addition to our incredible sex life. It isn't where we seek an individual that we prefer. For us, adding in a partner is to bring a MFM, FMF or MFMF dynamic that can't happen when it is the two of us. We don't partner up with others. If you feel he prefers someone else, and you say out loud <gasp!> that you prefer another man...your marriage is heading down (as others have said) and if you want to say it, get off the swinging road.

It has happened to varying degrees among all of the couples in our group, but sex is only one of the drivers. The woman who I am most attached to, other than my wife, is not the one who I have sex with the most, although we do frequently get together; she is the one wth whom I share common interests that our spouses don't. It is the woman who I have most often gone on overnights, long weekends, even a vacation by ourselves. Even that, however, has made me appreciate my wife more. The relationship with the woman who I am attached to is like two dimensional - our shared common interests and sex. With my wife it has many more dimensions besides sex and common interests: family, house, our future dreams.

That's an excellent point Numex; a monogamous couple probably has a much higher chance of cheating that a non-monogamous couple. Placed into the context of a closed group, and yeah that works very well. From an STD perspective, assuming everyone is honest, the chances of getting an STD are probably lower than a vanilla couple, given how many vanilla couples cheat. My wife and I are currently beginning down the road of potentially being part of a group like you describe, There's one other couple so far, and maybe 1 or 2 more in the future. We're both comfortable with feelings developing, which is to be expected after having sex with another partner many times. Sort of a natural progression. We'll see how it goes.

Perfect. It is the path we traveled. Started out regular swinging, but found like minded couples who also wanted to go bareback. It took a while, but we all got tested several times while remaining bareback monogamous with our spouses and only playing within the group using condoms before the all clear. If anyone wants to play outside the group, ok but let us know and leave the group. No one has. I also figure the odds of someone actually cheating is low because 1) the penalty is death, and 2) there is so much sexual variety and quantity within our group the desire to cheat is low, less than a non-swinging monogamous couple stuck with only themselves.

Ok so this may be a bit taboo and yes there are plenty of issues that come with this… but our conversation (and fantasies) revolve around swapping and sex in this fashion. It might sound silly but is this frowned upon in swinger circles? Would we be blacklisted or is there a place for this? We wouldn’t be sleeping around and maybe hope to find a regular couple or 2 to have this fun with, but as a general rule what’s the community’s approach to those coming in and looking to have bareback sex?

If I were you I’d be looking for a good attorney and a new place to live. Telling your husband that to his face is unforgivable and easily a marriage ending decision. Personally I would have thrown you out after that statement and never looked back. You are a cruel human being!

Thank you for your encouragement. That is often what I say. 🙂

We only use condoms for anal when there is a great deal of back to back. with that said, bareback anal happens more than you'd think because there is not a wife among us that doesn't get off watching our man take it anally and getting cum filled. It is how we clicked as a group. We masturbate to this more than anything else. Our husbands are 100% with us on this, they love to see us take it anally bareback getting cum filled. Everyone cleans well afterwards before any more goes on. We have extra showers to accommodate. Over time you will find modifying your home comes in extremely handy once you have a well established sex group. So we definitely prefer bareback. Everyone in our group is about the real deal, real feel, real cum. We like the act, the visuals, and the cum play. As for penises, a bare penis is the best feeling penis, no doubt. We trust everyone after getting to know them well so far no one has blown it, no stds. We have a few newer couples slowly integrating. We are keeping it fairly safe with them so the husbands use condoms. I know the wives well enough to see whatever they do with their men is most likely okay for the rest of us yet we still take the cautious road. Once we get to know people, see how they interact in a sexual setting, learn their tendencies, we are open to bareback sex. I encourage building your own group of trusted sex friends.

We have been part of this practice at most every level…..but most always with those we met and knew well…..rarely on a first or chance meeting. Even more rare during themes, group, team, tag, multiple or gang activities where outside help or participants were recruited. but for our semi private group, most gatherings and parties condom less sex was customary for most pull out to cum….all dependent on the ladies desires at the time. Many times finishing inside….and having multiple partners finishing inside during a single session was fairly common and some receiving members expected it. But again not open to the public. from our experience it is more often the ladies preference. Most assuredly a couple has discussed and crossed that road together. If it is a trusted male and he has had a vasectomy he will see the most play that will end this way. my personal experiences especially with younger women I am a safe choice having been snipped….no pregnancy worries. this isn’t meant to be taken lightly. We primarily play with those we know well. We were never considered bed hoppers…..bed post notchers.

Whether or not bareback is possible depends on the couple. In my experience, condoms are a given in most circumstances. On your profile, you can indicate a preference for bareback. That might help you, and might dissuade couples that otherwise would play with you. My wife dislikes condoms more than any other woman I've ever known (and talked with on the subject). We've always used condoms except with two long term boyfriends she had and a couple whom we were exclusive with and tested. The two long term boyfriends started out with condoms, but over time, a willingness on their part to be exclusive and testing, the condoms were no longer necessary.

Me and my wife have been swinging for about a year now . We both really enjoy it the problem is when we get to the room I get really anxiety filled and start think about if I’m going to be ablyto get my dick hard and perform .. Every time I do end up getting hard it just takes 30/45 minutes and makes it an awkward situation I don’t know what I’m doing to make it this way . I’ll be having an amazing time the hole night them once we get to the room I freeze up . After we finish playing and we both go our ways my dick stays rock hard i fuck the wife over and over with a rock hard erection but when the couple that we are playing with is there it’s not that way my dick will get hard but all I’m doing is hoping the hole time that it stays up and I can’t even focus on the moment can anyone give me tips or help me with this situation

Just my two cents worth, I’m the male half and I’m 57 yrs old and know how my penis works very well. If I’m comfortable with whom I’m with and in the surroundings I’m okay with then I have no problem getting hard and staying hard. I’ve had sex with three woman including my spouse, no problem, in fact the two gals asked my wife what I had for breakfast! Add one other man to the mix and I was barely able to get hard, totally uncomfortable and had a horrible time. Telling someone who normally don’t have issues getting hard to take Viagra is like telling a woman who’s not into it to take enough drugs to relax and be okay with whatever happens. That the most ridiculous idea ever. If he normally gets an erection and he doesn’t with swinging HE’S NOT OKAY WITH WHATS HAPPENING. Your probably putting him in an uncomfortable situation. Mens penis just don’t stop working when your sexually excited.

It is a regular occurrence for us. In a play situation, however, it has gotten to the point where the women are pushing the men aside to go down there.

We enjoy something similar IRL. When my wife has come home from a quick encounter with one of our play partners, I'll be horny as hell. So I eat her for a short while until I can't stand it, take sloppy seconds, then calmly give her another orgasm licking her double sloppy pussy.