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  1. 5 points
    Amber, when my wife and I first got into swinging, she wasn't entirely comfortable with me having sex with other women. We did do some soft swapping, and that went ok, but we didn't do much of it. She just wasn't ready for it really. You're having an emotional reaction to a situation that logic says is selfish. Emotion <> logic. They don't speak the same language and they don't understand each other at all. Neither is right, neither is wrong. What is right is what works _for you_. I'll differ (with respect) to some who posted above; I don't ascribe it to being selfish. After a couple of years, my wife began feeling more comfortable with the concept of me playing with other women. We ventured down that path, and we've done that, but stayed mostly with MFM or her playing solo. She's had two long term boyfriends that turned out quite well for some years. I was happy to go along with how she felt, and keep our communication 100% open. She is now comfortable with me having sex with other women. She's not turned on by it, it doesn't do anything for her, but she's comfortable with it. I, on the other hand, get very turned on by her having sex with other men whether I am there or not. I prefer being there, but it's also hot for her to come home and tell me about her evening while we have sex. Getting here took time and patience. There are some here who feel an asymmetrical setup doesn't work, and is a recipe for disaster. I don't disagree with them for some couples. But, for us being asymmetrical worked out very well. We've been swingers now for 14 years. Our relationship is stronger than ever.
  2. 1 point
    Michael and I continue to see a therapist both together and separately. Over the years we have both become more open to telling her what experiences and feelings we have with others and the reasons we enjoy others. I will never know what he tells her in his private sessions though I am very open in our joint meetings. We have told her that we post some of our experiences on a swingers site, it’s more me posting, Michael doesn’t post anymore. She asked if I embellish my posts because many post on sites about fantasies more than realities. I think I post real feelings as best as I can but I know what she means that posting has an excitement factor like reliving an event. Others will post something they wished they did almost as if they did it. Michael and I were very hesitant to open up to our therapist our alternative lifestyle thoughts when we first met her. I opened up first in my private meetings and then only in a broad way with no specific acts. I didn’t think she would understand what we were doing or how she would judge me. Therapy was to take away my odd feelings which ended up adding to my thinking my actions were odd. Once getting over my fears of opening up my deep thoughts it has freed up anxiety of enjoying. I think I have a healthier outlook now that I have freed myself of worrying what others think and what a therapist thinks. Our joint sessions are now very freeing allowing me to express my feelings to Michael and understanding his feelings. How open are others? Do others discuss true feelings to a partner? Are you honest to a therapist?
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    Question: Is swinging right for me and my partner? ( Asked at chat.OpenAI.com/chat ) Answer: The number of sexual partners someone should have is a personal decision and should not be based on societal expectations or norms. What's most important is that any sexual activity is safe, consensual, and respectful to all parties involved. Sexual health and behavior are highly personal and individualized. People make choices based on their own beliefs, values, experiences, and comfort levels. The only "right" number of sexual partners is the one that feels comfortable and fulfilling for each individual person. It's also important to keep in mind that the number of sexual partners someone has does not define their worth or value as a person. Ultimately, it's up to each individual to determine what's best for them when it comes to their sexual health and behavior.
  4. 1 point
    No. There is too much evidence to the contrary.
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    You say insecurity shouldn’t be an issue then why would you have a problem with him getting the same thing you are?
  7. 1 point
    So you're into cuckolding in all but name. If you're both into it, that's absolutely fine. He may enjoy seeing you with another man more than he would enjoy another woman for himself. So there's no real fairness problem to address. Some folks are just wired that way.
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    Thank you your reply has helped We are new to it It originally started as he desired to see me with someone else as this excites him and I've always been honest that seeing him with another woman does not excite me However at 1 club there was touching and I was OK with that and went with flow This weekend when a woman sucked him off I got upset I agree and understand now that boundaries need to be set I know I sound like a self centred bitch and that's last thing I want We seem quite new to this compared to others and I love the thrill of it. We adore each other so insecurity shouldn't be a issue and he says what happens at the club stays at the club I want a future doing this I love the dressing up ready for it and always aim to look good as does he I was hoping someone would have some advice if they had been in similar situation
  9. 1 point
    Thank you for reinforcing my self-image among those here who matter.
  10. 1 point
    You said it yourself twice and PeterJ confirmed it for you - For now at least, you play and your husband doesn't, since you are both good with that. Just make sure that the circumstances are what your husband enjoys: he's there (or not), he watches (or not), he participates (or not), you don't do any acts he feels are off limits, and you give him everything he wants afterwards. And don't be surprised if you change your mindset at some later time.
  11. 1 point
    The way forward is for you to allow your husband to be with other women if that’s what he wants. Now if he’s content to *not* do that while you screw other men … fine, because it’s HIS decision. But your unwillingness to allow him the same freedom you want for yourself is the epitome of self-centeredness … something that doesn’t work *at all* in the Lifestyle. If you can’t give him that freedom, then you need to stop what you’re doing now!
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    Your selfishness is stunning. It's been all about more cocks for you but a woman gives a quick suck and you're distraught and end the activities... Same advice here as a few other threads about jealousy. Stop swinging. You want whatever you desire and flip when your husband gets the same thing? This goes nowhere good.
  14. 1 point
    My wife and I went to a Lifestyle get-together last weekend. When we got there, we mingled and as it turned out, my wife meet a couple. She was sitting next to them having drinks, laughing, and having a good time. I walked over she introduced me. I sat next to his wife, and we were all enjoying the evening. The other wife and I got up to get some drinks and we chatted at the bar. "It looks like my wife has taking a liking to your husband," I said. "Yes, they both are," she replied. I asked, "Do you think you guys would like to come over to our house and we could continue the party there?" She politely made it very clear she was not interested in having sex tonight. I said, "OK, thanks for the heads up." As we sat there at the bar a friend come over to say hello. She got up excused herself and returned to the table with her husband and my wife. As the evening progressed my wife came over to me at the bar and told me she invited them to come home with us. I was a bit confused but said sure. We all left together, my wife in his car, and his wife in my car. Our conversation during the drive was very nice and easy, and I thought she had changed her mind. In the club, I could see my wife was very excited to be with her new friend. We got to our house and sat around and had some drinks. All seemed to be good. However, when we decide to go upstairs, his wife restated she was not interested in playing tonight. My wife and I left them in the room to talk, and when we came back, he apologized and said sharing tonight is not going to happen. I felt bad for my wife who was starry eyed at this guy. He was telling her she looked like a women who was beautiful and fun, and he was very much looking forward to being with her tonight but maybe some other time. My wife and I went in the kitchen to get some drinks for everyone, and I explained to her that the other wife had told me she was not interested in the bar. "I thought she changed her mind, but I guess not," I explained. "I see you want this guy. I don’t want you to be disappointed, I see and feel the attraction you two have. When we go back into the room why don’t you ask him if he wants to see the view from our bedroom? That is our usual break the ice move to get things started. I think this was his game plan all along to be with you even though she was not participating. But I’m OK with it for your pleasure." I saw how hot she was for him. So I thought to myself don’t screw this up for her, she should get to enjoy the moment. He jumped at the request, and they were off. I sat with his wife and said, "Are you ok with them going upstairs because I don’t think they care about the view?". She did not say anything but also did not object to what was going to happen. As it goes, my wife had a great experience, so they were up there for an hour. I am sure they enjoyed each other. When they came down my wife gave me a sweet kiss. We sat for a while then all politely said goodbye. The next weekend we went to a party at our friends' house. It was a vanilla evening but a number of friends were there. We had played with the host couple once before, but tonight was not that type of party. The next morning my wife realized she left her purse at Tim and Jean's house. She asked me to go and pick it up. I said I would on the way back from my bike ride. On the way back I detoured and stopped at the house. Jean answered the door and asked me in. She asked if I would like a cup of coffee, I said sure. I asked where Tim was, and she said he had left early this morning for an overnight ski trip with some of his buddies. We were in the kitchen and Jean was filling the coffee cups. I was looking at her in her robe as she delivered the hot coffee. We sipped the coffee and chatted but my thoughts while looking at this beautiful woman, came out of my mouth, “Are you wearing anything under that robe?” She smiled and got up and brought her cup to the sink. She walked back to the table where I was sitting and said, "You will have to find out for yourself." I was stunned thinking she was kidding. She said again, "All it takes to find out is to pull the robe's belt and open the robe." She stood in front of me as I sat in the chair. I pulled the robe belt and opened slowly opened the robe. She was naked and moved her chair in front of me and opened the robe and leaned forward and kissed me deep. She moved my head down into her crotch and I got on my knees and went at it not believing what was happening. She was enjoying the moment, she moaned she was coming and squeezed her legs around my head. When she released my head from the grasp of her legs she took my hand and brought me into her bedroom. She sat on the bed as I undressed. I rubbed her legs gently and picked them up high and spread them apart, she fell back, and I penetrated that wet beautiful tasting pussy. I pounded her over and over and when I stopped I got on the bed. I laid on my back and she put my hard cock in her mouth and started sucking me and would not stop until I came, and she told me how good I taste. We laid there for a few minutes not speaking and I was ready again and I turned her on her side and lifted one leg over my shoulder and began pounding her again. We went on for awhile and she had another orgasm and told me to cum inside her. She got on top and pounded me and made me explode inside her. We laid there together for a while, eyes closed resting, when her phone rang. It was Tim, he made it to the mountains and just checking in. I was feeling bad for what just happened, but it was a great experience. She repeated out loud what Tim asked - "What are you doing?" Jean replied - "Well, Allan stopped over to pick up Susan’s purse she left over here last night. I invited him in and we had a cup of coffee. I was in my robe and one thing led to another and I had Allan’s face in my crotch. Then we took it to the bedroom, and we had a giant orgasmic experience. I will tell you all about it when you get home. Are you OK with this? Good, I will tell Allan. Have fun skiing.” So, in discussing this with Jane I said I was shocked at what she just told Tim. She said, “We are always honest with each other. It will be so hot when he returns home, I will be in for another great time. So, I am also going to be honest with you. You wife left the purse here on purpose. She asked me if I would give you some great sex because you were a sweetheart last weekend. You worked it out so she could be with the gentleman she picked up at the club and she felt that you missed out, so she came up with this idea. But please understand, I was looking forward to it and it was a fantastic morning fuck with a good friend. Tim was not aware of this, but I will work it out with him when I explain the story. Susan said she the four of us can get together, or she will get with Tim alone if he prefers and you are OK with it. You have a great caring wife Allan. Please tell her thanks for including me in this scheme.”
  15. 1 point
    Ever fall asleep then wake up still inside her? (She was on top.) One of my best college memories.
  16. 1 point
    Playing with another couple. His gf passed out. My wife and i, and him, were still up. So my wife took us both on. He had necer given anal, wife loves it. So ahe let him fuck her in her ass, while she sucked me. He came in her ass. We then switched places. I entered her ass just as his cum started to drip out. I fucked her ass, lubricated with his cum. I came so haed. When i pulled out, so much cum flowed out. She went to bed for avout an hour. We sat up. Playing with ourselves obviously still ready to go. So we got her up. She laid on him while he entered her pussy, i fucked her ass. We both came at about the same time in both holes. So much cum in onne tired and satisfied girl. Anyone in colorado want to play?
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