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Thanks just trying to see if there’s any possibility of swingers being there. Looking for a couple interested in a bi male. I’ll go anyway just to be able to get naked with other people and if something happens it will be a bonus cheers

The couple we met that first time was understanding when we explained our situation. They were hesitant to get involved with us and our problems at first, then became our good friends and sexual friends. I see so many posts about having a good marriage before swinging, for us it gave us more meaning to enjoying our marriage and life. Joining this board at the suggestion of the couple we met has led us to understand the many facets of the lifestyle, things I never knew or realized. Hall passes, separate rooms, hotwifing, poly families, and sexual situations have been an education. What one person finds weird another person enjoys which in some ways has led us to many new things.

The distinction is I cheated with ladies I knew while she searched for random sex. Finding swinging as an answer was not a romantic loving answer that I could make it sound. Unfortunately or fortunately we went through plenty to get to this place. The exact road we took is now mixed memories of her one upping me. My memory and hers are different, I’ll give you my abridged memory. She found out I was screwing a client on my road trip. Not the best time in our marriage after that. I must have told her to go out at find a guy if she wanted. To get back at me she joined Ashley Madison that she remembered Howard Stern advertised. I said to go ahead, not that simple conversation, I remember it was a nasty go ahead. I couldn’t believe she would do it but she did. I wasn’t happy to know she met a random man then another and more. Almost divorcing we sought out therapy. Was not a pleasant situation at all. Trying to keep all the bad stuff out of this, she continued her meetings with my knowledge, I traveled less with less meeting my road women. I then suggested that she join a swingers site which would allow us to do things together. Is it a perfect situation? We are married and enjoying new things. We don’t fight and argue the way we did, we are still seeing a therapist. We have a better understanding and I am less jealous. We now share passwords, no secrets.

Yes. And it could also have an effect on couples where there is asymmetric interest in some LS event etc.

Good communication is not something we had, I got caught. Communication consisted of fighting and arguments that was leading to almost separation and worse. Her revenge was joining an affairs site meeting married men for sex and extra relationships. Marriage therapy and individual therapy helped us get through some horrible times. Time and understanding let us work through those times where we agreed to be honest with our meetings. My affairs were more a fact of travel and situation, hers were seek out and move on.

I'm not a guy, but I pretty well know how guys work, including when they're near orgasm and when they've ejaculated, even if it's just a little because he's cum already. If I let a guy in me, it's only polite to let him finish. Even if I came ahead of him, it's almost always enjoyable taking the additional ride. Or offer oral. So yeah, I agree that there is a problem here.

While I respect your style of play and relationship dynamics; the way our relationship works is that we as a couple always are the main priority and concern. We come into a situation together and we should finish together. I am not saying your dynamic is wrong but personally I don’t think it could ever work for us. As of right now we have been discussing things and it’s been rough. I will write more later I just got out of an 18 hour shift and having a hard time putting letters to words.

Physical and emotional/sexual characteristics of mine that I used to be ashamed of are attributes others find attractive and I am now proud of. Joining this forum, describing my desires, practices, and body (as well as sharing my opinions) was freeing and gave me confidence.

My Obsession is having oral sex with random men not controlling them. Most men think they are controlling me because I asked them to allow me to act out my wants. They don’t know my why or my thinking when I am acting out. Our therapist and Michael have heard me describe my feelings during our meetings with all types of men. Others have described similar feelings as being out of body or possibly out of mind feelings. I wish I were able to describe what I’m thinking to those reading this without afraid of some denigrating me and my wonderful husband.

I may be paraphrasing. What concerns her is who we are meeting and the way we find them. Mike doesn’t feel he is Hotwifing, a new phrase for us. He says he enjoys that men find me attractive though that is the primary reason he enjoys watching as his comments lean to the enjoyment I get when I am with these strangers. He doesn’t want to see me hurt physically. He has stopped guys who became sadistic. He knows the signals and my limits.

Question: When you ease into 69ing without discussion guy's, do you assume the partner is going to swallow. Do you just go for it and assume she will swallow? Ladies when you sense he is about to cum, do you pull him out or do you just go with it even if you don't usually swallow. Curious if the position changes the thinking and feeling about it. Not to generalize just saying my experience is that most women swallow even if they don't usually like giving a BJ.

I have never assumed a woman wants me to cum in her mouth (swinging or otherwise). I think it's polite to ask if that's what she wants.

That's a good policy. But as a woman, if I let a guy into my mouth, pussy, or bum I assume that he's going to ejaculate. Orgasm is the goal after all. If it's in my mouth, I swallow unless I'm going to pass to another girl, which we sometimes do. That's my preference as well. Oral has its place both before and after the main event, but I prefer to mutually orgasm p-in-v.

Male here. I like 69 as a warm up, not a conclusion. As to swallowing, I ask the partner. If there is enthusiasm, ok. Hesitation is a no. 95% of the time, I ejaculate during intercourse with a condom.

Guy here, I don't assume anything when it comes to sex. I like the woman on top and me on the bottom, never liked 69 on your sides. Actually, I like 69 as foreplay to intercourse so I don't want to cum during 69. 69 is great for me during the refactory period, if you want to go a second round, 69 is the best way to get me up. I have said it before in other threads that 69 is my favorite position.

After we started swinging my wife realized what I had been saying for years she is really good at it. And as an added bonus she really likes an audience.

One of the first conversations we ever had about this, Mrs. E voiced one of her concerns, that if she did it once, she was afraid we'd keep doing it. "...I mean, if it's fun for both of us, why wouldn't we, right?" "Oh." I think getting past that initial hurdle of "let's try this fun wrong thing once as a fantasy" over to "this isn't wrong at all" can be a process, especially if sex being kind of taboo is part of your background.

I loved watching her suck cock then French kiss me. She loves me because am not the jealous type.

My wife never sucked cock she was afraid too, I told her that once she tries it and do it and repeat it over and over she will like it. Now she’s likes sucking my cock and swallows! Now if I can only convince her, that she will enjoy and have pleasure sucking other men as I watch!

I frequently swallow. I really do not see the big deal, if a guy blows in my mouth, it is already in my mouth, I've already tasted it, if I was to spit it out there is no way to get it all out some of it gets swallowed regardless. So I swallow it all. Plus, guys think swallowing is sexy and it gets me closer to them being hard again for more playtime.

I swallow if the guy deserves it. To me, swallowing is a sign of attraction and compatibility. If I meet a guy at at swing party or event and we have great conversation and he's an overall nice guy, I'll swallow his load if it gets to that point. I like cum, but love it if it comes from a nice guy.

Yes I enjoy swallowing when we know out extra guy well and BF loves me to also. It does make for a nice fun experience that we both love. Also we enjoy talking after about whit it did, and look forward to doing it again :)

She has always been a swallower and knows just how to apply the perfect sucking pressure to the finish. I was surprised one night when she knew I was about to cum that she took her mouth off and pumped me into her mouth. It seems that a man she met enjoyed that and she thought I would too.

Don't judge us but we prefer to play bareback so cum from all men involved flows pretty freely and gets almost everywhere. It's a natural outcome of having sex and if it grosses you out at first it won't after a while and neither of us have any problem coming into contact with the stuff regardless of whose it is. We should point out that std testing is a prerequisite for us. That keeps our circle very small but also very safe.

From a guy's perspective, I love it when she gets me close but I prefer to pull out of her mouth and jerk off to finish. I enjoy having her watch me and I tend to spill a pretty large load. Most of the ladies I m with seem to enjoy watching me cover their tits if they are kneeling or covering my belly and chest if i am laying down. I also love it when they take me back in their mouth after I shoot to keep me going.

I too always give a warning. Mrs Doc is a swallower, particularly if she's really in the moment but she also prefers a warning so she can decide if she wants to swallow of have him cum on her boobs. Sometimes its a tough call……..

Hey if you are near Cambridge, Maryland...just tossin' it out there! The first time I watched one of my girlfriends give another guy a blowjob was in high school (MANY MANY years ago! LOL) while we were playing truth or dare at a graduation party. At first I was sick to my stomach watching her but after a few minutes he looked at me with a great big grin and said "DAMN! She's good at this!" and that was probably the true beginning of my deviant swinging life and I haven't regretted one minute of it!

I loved 'sharing' my ex-wife and now my current wife, who is just getting into the LS, with other men and for me watching her with another man is just plain out hot as all hell. Watching her suck another mans cock, which is probably more intimate to me than kissing, is very intense. Knowing she is manipulating the sensitive head with her tongue and turning him on and making him probably harder than he's been his entire life makes me proud, hot, horny, and very very turned on!

I have to admit, and my wife knows it, that we learned early on in our LS experiences that I really like to watch my wife with another man. She realized this from the first time we tried the MMF with another male. At first, as she wanted to get comfortable and did not want to become overwhelmed with having sex with myself and another male at the same time. So, she preferred one male to watch while she played with the other (take turns with each of us). This soon evolved to full-on play with her playing with both of us at the same time. However, she knows how visually arousing it is for me when she is giving the other male oral sex and turns to me and asks me how much I like watching her suck on him while she is squeezing down on me inside of her. Gets me every time and I can't help but ejaculating deep within her as she moans while sucking on him. She really enjoys trying to make us both cum for her at the same time.

For some of us, it is the number one turn on. You feel so vulnerable when you are coming and to have someone swallow is the ultimate experience. Number 2 is a complete deepthroat without swallowing.

Swallow. What's the big deal? It's in my mouth and to me it's always been more fun (and easier) to swallow. I find that it's easy to re-excite a man orally also-- cannot see swinging as any fun if there was no oral (either way)--

I like watching my wife doing anything. I'm more into MFM for her, than I am into FMF for me. We've done it with couples and MFM, and I love watching her having fun! Originally I wasn't sure how much I'd like it, or not like it, but it is a rush to watch. The joy on her face was priceless!

While I can't claim to be obsessed, I have fond memories of watching (and talking to) the late Mrs. Alura while she gave another man head. The times I was uninvolved with Mrs. Playmate (or if she was giving me head while I watched Laura and Mr. Playmate watched his wife) were special. "Do you find this sexy, Darling?" Laura once asked, her lips still kissing the head of the cock that had just been in her mouth. "Oh, yes I do, Sweetheart. Don't you?" She slid the cock out of her mouth and kissed down the side. "Indeed! It's very sexy with you watching. I'm performing for you." She swallowed the head until I was sure it was touching her tonsils, her eyes smiling at me. "Well, you're my favorite porn star, y'know?" "I know... Ummmm... I just tasted some pre-cum, Darling. Wanna watch me swallow Mr. Playmate's load?" She was running her tongue in circles around the tip of his penis. "I'm all eyes and ears, Sweetheart!" "Stay tuned!" she said, turning her gaze to Mr. Playmate. "Give me all you can, Stud," and took his length into her mouth again. Alura