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2 pointsThe question of what act is the most intimate took me to thinking about our recent vacation with friends who are all in the lifestyle. Our vacation was at a very popular resort that was neither lifestyle nor nudity centered, just a resort that people go to relax. Other than the group we were with we kept our secret arrangements to ourselves. I was totally intimate with each of the men and one of the women, spending a night alone with each, including a night alone with my own husband. On each of those nights I had intimate relationship, loving and affectionate and completely different. The sexual acts were similar with each man yet no two nights were the same. The intimacy you have is dependent on the partner you are with, each partner finding their own way of sharing. My intimacy with a partner cannot be duplicated by others as the interaction and feelings between partners vary. The way you touch, hug, kiss or have sex is intimate to the person you are with. To that point the intimacy I had with the woman I spent a night with is no less from the intimacy I had with the men yet obviously the sex was different. I can’t answer for the others, for me the least intimate nights were the ones where I was with two others, both a man and woman or two men. Those nights were very sexual, I just would never label them intimate. Now for what I am thinking is my strangest takeaway the most intimate night was the least sexual one, it was with the person I have the most sexual and intimate person in my life, my husband. I will repeat, Intimacy is not an act, it’s a closeness between people sharing affection and feelings. It’s a connection mentally as well as physically. I have learned over the years to allow myself the intimacy I enjoy with others without demanding my partner to have the equal commitment. My husband understands my intimate feelings for others, without him feeling jealousy. What I love is appreciation of my happiness and enjoyment I get from the connections I can make with what I call lovers.
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2 pointsThis reinforced a feeling I experienced where I spent a full night with someone with Rocky’s knowledge. Sex is one thing, bonding with a sex partner is much deeper.
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2 pointsThis post has me thinking if I have ever been intimate with anyone but Alan. Your points make sense to me that sexual acts are not intimate acts. Your vacation with friends are a novel idea and interesting possibility that I need to discuss. I wonder how we would feel spending total nights with a different partner every night. Part of vacations is the change of scenery intimacy Alan and I get, a recharging as we call it. We don’t normally have sex without the other present or involved. Your trip is interesting, I just don’t know if our little group would agree.
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2 pointsSpot on. Sex is an act, mostly physical…..but much more enjoyable when there is some level of connection beyond the strict physical act. Many in the LS will develop very close friendships, even some closer relationships and with each there is a level of intimacy that would be particular and defined by each individual. As such it would not and should not affect or diminish any level of intimacy with anyone else.
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2 pointsMy husband gets tons of sex, I generally fuck him pretty good while catching him up on all my latest naughty sexual proclivities. Hearing about my slutty adventures gets him hard as a rock, and I'd hate to waste that. We haven't divorced so I can't answer that part.
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1 pointUltimately in your case it will have to come down to what YOU can discern from scripture., not what someone else has discerned. For your own peace of mind please do what research seems proper. A good concordance and linguistic guide will help. One of the problems is that all we have is a translation and more often than not a translation of a translation. Translators, even the good ones are limited by the words available in their own tongue and their Knowledge of the language that they are translating. They are also affected by their own cultural biases, even when they try not to be. A simple not sex related example of a pretty basic text would be one we are all familiar with. " Thou shalt not kill." Simple yes?? Not so much. I have seen people use it as biblical justification for being a vegetarian. Problem with that is that one must still kill the plants involved. A translation closer to the original would be "Thou shalt commit no murder." That one got messed up with the best of intentions. The translator understood what he wanted to say. It just is not clear in the translation. The translator only had to go to a copy of the Jewish Scripture , which has been faithfully preserved word for word for thousands of years inside of essentially one tradition and culture. It is also a pretty much accepted meaning. Switching to your question things have been meddled with for thousands of year and hundreds of cultures to reach us. If you concern is to discern the will of God on this topic, as viewed from the Christian Scriptures, a thorough scholastic deep dive is required. If you are just interested is my and others opinions, then you get what you pay for. We have decided that there is not a problem with the acts themselves. There may be problems with the mindset and reasons that we and others have for doing them. Basically any reason that devalues our marriage or other people is wrong. That opinion though, in terms of your concern, is worth what it cost.
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1 pointIf you need to question you belief system regardless of what it is then maybe you have the wrong belief system for you.
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1 pointWe are vaxxed as part of vaccination protocol. Also Covid and Flu vaxxed. Maybe stupid vax should be developed because we always go bareback. Anyone say Cum Bucket.
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1 pointCan’t really be helpful due to us being agnostic, but I do believe in following through with the things I do believe in! Although I was not brought up with religion I was brought up with values and knowledge of how to treat people how I want to be treated in all aspects of life. Don’t do to others what you would not want done to you. I do not want others to steal from me so I do not steal from others. I do not want the person I dedicated my life to cheating on me emotionally or physically so I do not cheat on them. I treat everyone I meet in life regardless of race, religion, sexual orientation or social standing with the same respect that I want to be treated with in return. I guess what my point is that I have a way and belief system that I live my life by and if I find an excuse to go against that I am really just living a lie! That doesn’t work for me so I don’t. That is not to say that I know anything about what the bible says is right or wrong, because I don’t. I do know however way to many people that do claim to have a religion and most defiantly do not practice what they preach in regards to many things.
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1 pointNicely put @Shore2Please. If intimacy was the same with everyone then swinging wouldn't exist, In the words of Carl Jung: "The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed."
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1 pointIn my Catholic schooling we were taught that our conscience is a God-installed guide to what is right and wrong. But beware, if you ignore it, it can be worn down and no longer work. When I started having sex with the man who would become my husband while maintaining my relationship with my ex-fiancé (they both knew), it immediately felt absolutely right. Like, shared by two men was what I was supposed to be. What ultimately felt wrong was my jealousy of wanting them to be monogamous with me. It was hard, but when I got over my jealousy, life was better. For them certainly, but also for me. In retrospect, my sin wasn't the premarital sex and adultery, it was the jealousy and not opening.
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1 pointLast time I attended Sunday Service with a friend, I looked around and saw people who couldn't even refrain from destroying their health by eating way too much.
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1 pointI have read these posts and I want to throw my towel in the ring. I go to a Baptist church but don't consider myself overly religious. I am not going to criticize what anyone here has posted, just tell you what our pastor told the congregation 2 weeks ago in his message. Our pastor said marriage is one man and one woman and unmarried people are to refrain from any forms of sex till marriage! Now, all I could do is look around our congregation and wondered how many followed what he preached. It sounds good, but I truly doubt that many people do that. Like I said, preacher said this, but I can't believe that people have the willpower to follow thru. My opinion, people can find anything in the bible to back their agenda.
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1 pointAncient thread here, but I really do love this topic. I've been involved in polyamory where people aimed to have equal love in relationships, but the woman shared between the 3 of us was married to one of the guys. I don't admire polyamory like I once did, after more than a decade of dating in a large poly community in a big city. I still think allowing my partner to have 1 on 1 sex is great though. I also think that if the guy is good at sex, and she see's him multiple times, it makes sense that some bonding would occur. Can romantic love be stopped from forming? I do think that it can be stifled by various rules. The best rules aren't just "no romantic love". Saying that without best practices in place is silly, but I see that all the time in the hotwifing and cuckolding world. New couples fly with no rules about how frequently to communicate with or hookup with a new guy. I think a little bit of feelings is probably natural, but people don't need to share in detail. They can appreciate their sex partner in a platonic love. To me, romance is about the TYPE of actions and behaviors, and not just about feelings (or ideas that run through people's minds). There's not too many places online to be able to discuss this without people that feel very strongly about polyamory, or sport fucking, steam rolling the conversation, or giving super short blunt answers.
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1 pointNewtothis; WELCOME! While I can't claim to be evangelical per se, my wife and I are most emphatically Christian. Of course, God calls us to evangelize regardless of how we label ourselves, and we do. For the record; we attend both an Anglican church and a Baptist church. Getting into swinging and reconciling that with a Christian life was something that was challenging for us. We didn't want to approach it as the sort of thing where we tried to ram it through, and twist and contort the Gospel to meet our idea of what we needed it to be to support swinging. We wanted to approach it with truth, honesty, and openness. We concur with jamesok; adultery is cheating. It's an interesting word. Work through that in the context of the Bible. Read the Gospel about this. What we found in our own understanding was that adultery is the act of one spouse bespoiling themselves by having relations outside of marriage without consent of the spouse. The penalties for this are the same for either the husband or the wife; death (Leviticus 20:10). Jesus removed that as a punishment, though the penalty remained. So it would seem to be a grave sin. But is swinging adultery? Is it cheating? Is it bespoiling? That's for you to reconcile within yourself. For us, it came to this simple truth; there is no victim. If there is no victim, where is the harm? If there is no harm, where is the sin? My wife and I choose to have sex with other people. They come away from it happier. We come away from it happier. Our lives have been more fulfilled by having an open marriage. We are closer, more loving, better communicating, and more trusting. Nothing has come from swinging that in any way has been a negative. We were ready to swing because we had a great marriage to begin with, and because of being able to find answers mostly on this forum. For those who are not ready, it can cause damage and that would result in a victim; themselves. But, dating someone monogamously can cause harm to ourselves. Obviously we are not cheating because we both consent to it. But are we bespoiling the marriage? If it generates such happiness and positive impacts, how can that be the case? Are we bespoiling our bodies? When a man cums inside my wife, is he tainting her by leaving behind his semen? Define 'taint'. My wife can not get pregnant, so no child is being created within her that is not mine. She enjoys the act, as do I. So, how is it bespoiling her? Likewise for me. This is your journey. Don't force yourself to reconcile the concept of swinging with the Bible. Answer the questions, yes. Contort the Bible and yourself to fit this paradigm? No. Prayer, communication, and reflection will guide you.
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1 point“Hey, Hon,” Tina yelled when she came in the door and didn't see Larry in the living room. She walked around the bar and, when he wasn't in the kitchen either she yelled again, “I’m home.” She saw that the back sliding patio door was open with the screen closed so she figured he was out in his workshop. She smiled to herself and was sort of glad that she had a few minutes alone anyway. Tina went to the bedroom, carrying the bag she’d brought in with her, and took off her work clothes except for her panties and bra. She looked at herself in the full mirror and couldn't help but feel good about her appearance. At 45 she was still in pretty good shape. Her tall, 5’ 11” frame handled her 160 pounds quite well and she always admired her own full breasts that, with the help of the bra, didn't sag a bit. Tina stood there several minutes before turning and looking over her shoulder at her own bubble butt. She grinned when she imagined it being Larry’s bubble butt and wondered just how cute his butt was going to be in the new panties she’d bought for him. As she took the panties out of the bag she remembered buying them at Sears. They were close enough to her own size that it wasn't going to be at all suspicious at the register. But the bra had been a different matter all together. She knew that Larry would take at least a 46, which was obviously way larger than she would wear, and she wanted the cup to be appropriate and the B cup she had chosen would never fit over her D breasts. She was relieved when the clerk at Sears had simply rung up the panties, slip and bra without even looking up. Her heart was beating so radically when she pulled into the parking lot of the Adult Super Center at the exit to Wildwood, off of I-75, that she didn't think she’d have the courage to go in. But she looked at the bag in the passenger seat and knew she had to. Tina got out of her car, composed herself quickly, and walked directly into the front door. She had tunnel vision and looked only at the shelves, ignoring the many men who were staring, lustfully, at her. She saw the shelf she was looking for and picked out a pair of undies that worked as a holder for a dildo. She figured it would seem more natural. She then looked at some of the dildos but couldn't decide on one that would seem real enough. She decided to simply act much more experienced than she was and turned, walked straight up to the man behind the counter and asked, “are those the only dildos you sell?” “If you’re looking for something for that”, the clerk nodded toward the panties in Tina’s hand, “we have some that are more expensive in the showcase,“ he pointed to the glass case to his left, “but I’m sure your girlfriend would think they’re worth the price.” ‘Girlfriend?’ Tina thought to herself and hadn't considered that anybody would naturally assume that. “Well,” Tina now had more confidence, “she is worth any price.” Tina looked around and noticed that every man in the store was watching and listening. “The woman simply loves to be fucked!” Tina was now really enjoying this task that she had been so dreading. She looked at several of the dildos and then saw one with two ends and a bend that had an obvious purpose. “That one,” the clerk had seen Tina lingering on the Feeldoe, “is so you and your partner can both feel the experience together.” “I’ll take it.” Tina placed the panties on the counter and, while the clerk was getting a box with her Feeldoe in it, she found her credit card in her purse. She paid, went quickly back to her car, and had driven straight home. Tina reached in the Sears bag and pulled the bra out. She hoped that she’d gotten the correct size. Then she took out the slip and panties and layed all three items out on the bed. Tina then slipped her own panties off. She took the Feeldoe out of the box and went into the bathroom and washed it, first with alcohol, and then with antibiotic soap that was scented enough to cover the smell of the alcohol. She looked for some lube but remembered that they kept it in the dresser by the bed. She started to go find it but realized that she was so turned on that she’d likely be wet enough not to need any lubricant. Tina was even wetter than she would have believed and when she placed the end of the Feeldoe that she’d selected for herself, it slid right in to the center ridge with no effort. Tina stood there for a moment adjusting to, and enjoying, the feel inside her. Then she got the panties out of the bag and slipped them up, over the Feeldoe, and on herself. She looked in the mirror and was pleased that the panties had been a flesh color and it really looked like she had a cock. She couldn't help stroking it and, when she did, found out exactly what the clerk had mentioned. It moved enough under the panties, and in and out of her vagina, that it felt really good and she was sure that she’d be enjoying this outfit even without Larry at times. Tina suddenly realized that she’d been standing there jacking off instead of getting ready and she quickly slipped her other panties up and over her ass and new cock. The bulge was very obvious in her panties but it was fairly well concealed when she slipped her skirt and blouse back on. Tina, now dressed again, went out the back door and walked directly to Larry’s workshop and walked right in. “What in the world?” Tina exclaimed when she saw her husband with his pants and underwear around his knees and his cock in his hand. “And just what are you looking at?” Tina didn’t wait for an answer and looked over his shoulder at the photo album containing pictures that had been shared with a couple they’d known years before. “I didn't know you saved those,” Tina looked concerned then added, “I wonder if he saved ours too?” “Probably,” Larry had let his softening cock go and was pulling up his underwear and pants, “he’s human, isn't he?” “I don’t know about the ‘hu’ part but he is the ‘man’ part so,” Tina smiled and let her husband know that, although busted, he wasn't in trouble, “if he enjoys getting off looking at me then who am I to feel badly.” “Well,” Larry closed the photo album and was about to put it back on the high shelf where he kept it. Before he could finish his sentence Tina interrupted, “I’ll take that now.” Tina took it from him and quickly opened it and turned to the pages with the other husband’s photos. “I’m going to look at this for a few minutes and while I do I want you to go to the bedroom and change into the things that I put on our bed for you.” Tina didn't even look up from the photo album as Larry, obediently, turned and went through the door. ‘Damn,’ Tina thought to herself as she looked at the pictures of Dave, ‘he was pretty darn hot,’ she remembered again the weeks that the two couples had cybered and exchanged these pictures and it was turning her on, ‘what a gorgeous cock,’ Tina then remembered that she now had one herself and couldn't resist reaching down and rubbing that bulge through her skirt and panties, “mmm…”, she now spoke out loud as she felt her cock fucking her own vagina. Tina enjoyed a few more minutes but then figured that Larry had been given enough time to be ready for her. She put the album up on the shelf where Larry had kept it, made a mental note to come back out there when Larry wasn't home, and strolled slowly back to the house, feeling the movements that her walking created in her underwear. “Didn't you want me to shave first?” Larry looked very uncomfortable about standing there with a satin slip over his panties and bra. “I did,” Tina sounded confident and in control, “but I changed my mind when I thought about how the stubble would feel,” she made it obvious that she was looking him up and down, “besides, your blonde body hair is soft,” she stepped back a step, “turn around and show me your ass.” Larry turned and, when he did, Tina saw that his ass was gorgeous in that slip that fit just snug enough that she could see the panties through it. She was drawn to it and she couldn't resist stepping in and pulling him back into her. Tina felt his ass and, when they made contact, the pressure of her pelvis against his ass caused the Feeldoe to push more deeply inside of her. Larry felt the cock against his ass the moment contact was made. After a second of surprise, Larry pushed his ass back against it. As he pushed back, he felt Tina hunch forward and the two were quickly dry humping each other. Tina kissed Larry’s bare shoulders and reached her arms around him and felt of his breasts through the thin fabric of the slip and the sheer cups of the bra. She could actually feel his nipples getting hard through the fabric and wondered why she’d never noticed how large and firm his nipples could be when he was aroused, and she knew that he, and she too, were very aroused. Tina continued her humping Larry’s ass and she rose one arm to allow her hand to slip down inside of his slip and bra and she began working his nipple the way she knew she enjoyed her own nipples manipulated. Larry wanted to go to the next level so badly but he was enjoying this level too much to leave. Tina was in no hurry and simply savored every feel with her hands and every thrust of her pelvis that worked her cock in and out of her vagina. Larry finally began losing his ability to stand and leaned over and put his hands on the side of the bed for support. Tina could now really see his ass with the bulge of her cock pushing against it. She glance up and saw them in the mirror and realized that they looked much sexier than she’d ever imagined it would be. “Turn around and sit on the bed,” Tina spoke with authority as she slipped her skirt and shirt off, “and take off your slip now,” Tina added as she slipped her bra off, “Now suck my tits.” Tina held them out to Larry after he’d gotten the slip off and was now only in his new bra and panties. Larry leaned forward and took one, then the other, into his mouth. Tina slipped her own hands down into Larry’s bra and began playing with his nipples and using her manipulations to let him know what to do to hers. After several minutes of this she leaned down and, pulling his bra cups down, used her mouth to give his nipples the pleasure that her nipples had received from his mouth before. “Are you ready to be fucked now,” Tina was really telling as much as asking and she walked to the dresser and got out the lube as she spoke, “no, keep them on.” Tina ordered when she saw that Larry was about to take his panties off. “I want a blow job first though,” Tina had second thoughts and stood in front of Larry with the lube still in her hand, “take out my cock and suck it good for me.” Larry didn't hesitate and when he pulled her panties down he was introduced to a cock that fit his tall wife perfectly. When he grabbed it he noticed that she flinched and when he took it in his mouth she flinched again. He had no idea that a strap-on cock would make a woman flinch like that but he loved it and began sucking in unison with her movements. Tina couldn't believe how wonderful it felt and knew that she would be able to orgasm with just the blow job. But she wasn't ready yet for her orgasm. She wanted her first orgasm today to be from fucking her husband. “Turn around now and get on your hands and knees.” Tina didn't need to repeat and Larry did as she asked. Tina pulled Larry’s panties down just enough to allow her to squeeze some of the lube into the crack of his bubble butt. She worked it around and then, when she worked it into his anus with her finger, she fingered him a few times with one, then two of her delicate fingers. When Larry was hunching back against her finger-fucking him, Tina squeezed more lube onto her own cock and worked it all over by jacking herself off. It felt so good but she was ready to do something that she’d been wanting to do since they first met. She guided her cock to the top of his butt crack and let it slowly slide down until it was in a direct line to enter him. She thought about, and wanted to, thrust one long, fast, time and simply impale him but she feared it might hurt him so she only went in an inch or two before pulling back and waiting a moment. She did this two times and was about to repeat a third when Larry pushed back and took all of her in. Tina now lost it and began fucking Larry with moves she’d never used before. She wasn't that good yet but she planned on becoming an expert in the future. It simply felt better than anything she’d ever felt. “Quick, turn over,” Tina pulled out and was trying to turn her husband over herself, “I want to do you missionary so we can kiss.” As Larry turned to lay on his back, Tina took the moment to put more lube on her cock. “Raise you legs up,” Tina instructed and then put more lube on Larry’s ass, “spread them baby!” Tina smiled and crawled up and onto her husband and, as her body slid forward, she guided her cock back into it’s desired location. Tina loved the feel of her cock fucking her husband but she was suddenly aware of another feeling she’d never experienced. She felt the silky softness of his bra against her hard nipples and it really felt good too. Each time Tina thrust in, Larry thrust back up. Their mouths met and the two were devouring each other in a way they’d never known possible in the fifteen years they’d been having sex. Tina could feel her own cock inside of herself and inside of her husband and she could now feel his huge clitoris against her belly. She had no idea how long they’d been kissing and fucking but she knew exactly when her climax arrived because she almost thought that she had more than a little death and had, actually this time, died. Larry felt the first orgasms that he’d ever experienced and was surprised how he could have more than one and still want more. Then the multiple orgasms came closer together and he knew that his ejaculation was soon to come. Tina felt the numerous shutters as she continued to fuck her husband even after her own pleasures had been satisfied and then she was elated, if almost relieved, when she felt his clitoris squirting violently onto her stomach between them. How long they’d remained in that position with her cock still inside her husband, neither knew or cared. But they finally realized they needed to move, if they were ever going to be able to again. “Are you sore?” Tina asked politely as she raised up and pulled her cock out of him. “Maybe,” Larry grinned and kissed Tina quickly on the lips before she was too far away, “but in a good way.”
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1 pointMy hubby and I have been completely honest and open with each other from day 1 about our needs/wants/fantasies... One afternoon while I was playing with myself, he showed me a video of him getting railed by another man. I HAVE to say, while I watched he slipped his cock into my soaked pussy, and I came within seconds. He asked me how I felt after seeing that video and I told him I wanted to fuck the shit out of him just like that. So, we jumped into the car and hauled ass to the nearest porn store. We looked at a few strap-on's, and I found one I liked. The whole way home I had my pants to my ankles and was slipping the piece in and out of my pussy to get it nice and wet for what I was about to do to his ass... We got home, and I immediately laid him down on the couch and started licking his tight little hole, sliding my fingers in and out, prepping him while I continued to fuck myself with that long, thick cock we just bought. I began playing with the head of it against his ass and pushing it in until he loosened up. Then I got to work. I got in the harness and turned the vibration and pulse on against my soaked, anticipating clit and slid it deep in his ass. Hearing him moan and feeling him grind his ass against me and my new toy lit a fire inside of me and I started thrusting it deep inside his tight little ass... he was mine to do whatever I wished. I fucked him. HARD. I gathered all the adrenaline inside of me and pounded his hole while he grunted and moaned. I pushed his legs to his ears and while he told me how good I was at fucking him. I bent him over the couch and turned up the pulse on my piece. He was fucking LOVING it! When I was about to come again, I flipped him back over, held his legs in the air, and watched his cock spray hot cum all over his stomach. I pulled it out and slipped it off while licking his creamy cum off his cock. I bent over 69 and sucked the rest of it out while he licked and sucked and nibbles on my clit and pussy. Then he picked up the still pulsing piece off the floor and shoved it deep in my ass and licked my cunt until I came. We laid down next to each other when it was all over and decided that next time, we’d have a friend over to play with us. Still waiting on our playmate but I’ve taken his ass multiple times since and got it ready for when that day comes... literally. ? ?
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1 pointI've been asking this a lot lately, he started swapping with very good friends three years ago and it has been fantastic due to a strong connection developed over ten years and we are extremely compatible sexually with each others spouses. I like it rough and Adam likes it rough, Julie likes it slow and passionate and my husband likes it slow and passionate. Then to top it off Julie and I have developed a pretty strong Sapphic game with each other. So we've always had fun, they were selling their house at the beginning of March and their new house couldn't close till mid April so we told them to take our guest room instead of getting an apartment for two months. They moved in but then the quarantine hit and PA shutdown real estate as a non essential business, by the time it could close the owners had lost their jobs and couldn't get their own mortgage thru so they backed out. So now they need to find a new place, but we've been swapping regularly cause we all know we are safe living in the same house. And its gotten much deeper emotionally. I think we probably qualify as Poly now but we haven't defined it.
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1 pointSo I've always had the higher libido, even in my twenties but I was an exotic dancer so I was surrounded by sex 8 to 10 hours a day, and the mind wants what you feed it. My big change when I hit my 30s was more in what I wanted to do sexually started to evolve. In my twenties I was all about Male/Female vaginal sex, I sucked cock but not a lot, and I did zero anal. In my thirties I realized I loved sucking dick, and in the right circumstances I love anal. I also got less uptight about societal norms and started being open about my bisexuality and openly put women on my dance card.
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1 pointThe attorney that wrote the wills, etc. for our family told us flat out that one does not usually want to divide things equally among your children. One may already be out of college and working, another not having even started. One may have special needs. It makes lots of sense among the adults in our family as well, Clair is our stay-at-home mom so we each give her 20% of our total earnings. One of us may need some extra loving, time off, or attention from time-to-time, so we provide that as well. Equitable instead of equal.
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1 pointI Make love when we meet I Love what he does when we are together I Love what we do together I Love the anticipation of meeting I Love pleasing and being pleased I Love the snuggling, kissing and playing. BUT I ONLY LOVE MY HUSBAND!!!!
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1 pointThe common wisdom is that men want sex a lot more than women. The reality is that women have both a greater capacity for sex and (especially as we collectively entered our thirties) a greater desire for sex. I found the more I get, the more I want. Opening up to my Lesbian side made that even more true.
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1 pointI don't think a woman (or "wife") will "bond with her bull and leave her husband"! It is like saying a woman will bond with her dildo (the "bull") and leave her husband. A woman bonds with a nice, caring, and loving person (can be a man) and might leave her husband for that. We have to distinguish a cuckold arrangement where there is a bull whose purpose is to dominate the "wife" and humiliate the husband, and an open relationship, where a wife or woman voluntarily meets a man (not a "bull" and with honest communication with husband), in which case, it is possible to bond with him and leave her husband. I think Couplers' experience is more of an open relationship among the parties involved that led to her poly family. Imho.
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1 pointI agree, so long as the couple goes into it with both agreeing that it is what they want to do and one isn't dragging a reluctant partner into it. In our poly family there is plenty of opportunity for conflict that has nothing to do with sex. (Actually, the sex is a thing that helps smooth out the disagreements, and not that the two fighting suddenly become lovey dovey and make love. It's that we have others to turn to that give us solace, love, a dose of reason, and an orgasm to better the mood. Then all is forgotten.) We are fortunate that we all have the right temperament to deal with it and love one another enough to compromise, and therefore, have thrived as a family and individually. When it all started and it was just my husband, my boyfriend and me, I was concerned that there would be times when I wouldn't give hubby enough intimate attention, so I was always sensitive to whenever he wanted to pull my pants down. Now it's the opposite: with three women and two men in the family, the guys can't keep up so we women share a boyfriend. We are all sensitive to the others sexual needs.
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1 pointMy wife sees other men perhaps three to six times a month. Plenty of time for the two of us. The things that cause divorce when the woman are a hotwife is the exact same things that cause a divorce when the woman is monogamous and chaste: One (or both) of the partners is dishonest or behaves maliciously. Poor communications. Substance abuse. Domestic violence. etc. If the couple has good communications and are honest and kind to each other, divorce usually doesn't happen. It makes no difference if the couple is monogamous or not.
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1 point"No prejudice against anyone's preferences" Are you kidding?? You should "pre judge" those who engage in reckless activities such as employing hookers, bi/gay anal, strangulation, scat, IV drug users. That's how you keep your wife and you safe and healthy. I've heard time after time that "in the lifestyle, we shouldn't judge". I think that's a bunch of crap! We wouldn't engage in a random, unprotected gang bang and we wouldn't play with someone who did. Are we judging the receptacle? You bet. We wouldn't engage in sex with a guy who wanted to butt fuck both of us. Are we judging him?? You bet! All human decisions are based on judgements of some kind. Why shouldn't we judge the people being considered for the most intimate activities and decisions we make?
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0 pointsAfter seeing a couple that I know to have HIV come to a party and almost seduce some of the couples there, I will never go without a condom. Even if me and the couple have played before. No no no. If you're not going to cover it up, then yes I will avoid you like the plague.