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Our first MFM was our first Lifestyle experience. We were only dating and still in our 20s. We started going to nude beaches together, and we visited one while on vacation on Sanibel Island, Florida (that nude beach was not an officially designated nude beach and apparently no longer exists). We set up not far from a single male with a mop of shaggy blond hair, six-pack abs and bulgy shoulders and biceps. After a short while we engaged him in conversation. He was local and we were tourists so mostly we picked his brain about local spots to eat and drink etc. Soon after that we stood up to go down to the water and I invited him to come with us. The three of us stood together in the waist-deep surf talking. I sensed my wife (then girlfriend) was attracted to him and I started to formulate an idea that this could possibly lead to our first-ever threesome. Although we were nudists we had never even discussed swinging or threesomes before, I made the bold move to ask him to join us for drinks after the beach. I braced myself for a shocked reaction from my wife but didn't get one. She was actually keen on the idea. Drinks turned to dinner and again I sensed it was time for another bold move. Without any pregame discussion whatsoever I asked if everyone was interested in coming back to our hotel room. He agreed but my wife was stonefaced and silent. As we got up to leave she pulled me aside, put her face right up to mine and asked "Are we really doing this"? My reply was "We don't have to do anything we're not comfortable with". With that the three of us went to our hotel room together. Gory details aside, the night was a success. We enjoyed a long, hot passionate threesome and in the morning I checked in with my wife and she was in great spirits. No weird feelings of regret or jealousy - just a shared feeling of bliss and togetherness. After we returned from vacation we made the decision to visit a swing club together and the rest is history 😀

Very, very true words. I was a bit more reckless in my 20s, and my wife was indeed an adventurous soul. The experience was completely unplanned and spontaneous and in retrospect I feel very lucky it turned out as well as it did. It helped that my wife-then-girlfriend knew I wasn't the type to pressure her into doing anything she wasn't ready for, and she knew I would absolutely respect her decision to halt the whole process at any time. Without that level of trust I'm certain none of it would have transpired.

hunterdonNJcpl, from your posts over the years it’s clear that you and your wife enjoy a lifestyle relationship that would be the envy of many, if not most, members of this board. In retrospect, clearly your then GF (now wife) was already an adventurous soul. But a note of caution to others who might take a similar "play it as it lays" ad hoc approach to entering the lifestyle with their partner. While you successfully guided this encounter to your desired outcome without having previously had a specific or even general discussion with your GF about bringing others into your bed, I think it is important for members of the board who have not yet taken the step of acting on their interests, to understand that in most cases this approach doesn’t end well. Either the woman shuts things down, often in a huff, or (particularly if there’s been a substantial loosening of inhibitions due to alcohol or drugs) she goes along in the moment and then in the aftermath there are serious recriminations. (As an analogy, one might jump out of an airplane without a parachute, land in a haystack and walk away. More often the impact will just make a small dent in the ground. 😉)

We come from a different background than you, but started the same way. My wife appreciated it, took advantage of it, and it made us both happier. She got more and varied sex, I got everything I wanted and needed from her. Same for us.

This is so true. We'll also add that "rare and wonderful" involves strength and partnership and being enhanced by the relationship rather than being defined by being in the relationship.

Some guys don't recognize a rare woman when they have one. I count myself lucky that the men who proposed marriage to my now wife wanted monogamy and she didn't, otherwise we likely wouldn't have found each other. She did assume that was how it would be when we got serious and headed towards marriage, and we were monogamous for a couple of years, except for her lesbian encounters, which don't count. Sensing what I did, I sprung it on her that she should get back into her comfortable rhythm of having more than one male sex partner at a time. She took me up on it, starting with two old boyfriend, separately. As things went on she decided she wanted me to play as well, and do FFM threesomes, so we moved to couples swaps.

For me at least, it's because 95% of the time my wife will put that dick inside her pussy and fuck him, which I enjoy even more.