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None of us here knows, and perhaps at this time even your wife doesn't know. My advice is for you to enjoy the adventure that you and your wife are starting together, beginning with looking at different types of dildos, talking about them, and letting her decide which ones to purchase. She may be interested in more than one, including a vibrator. Then let her show you how she wants to use it. Be very sensitive to what she likes, doesn't like, and new ideas that she has. A small step would be asking for her to switch it around - suck the dildo while your cock is in her pussy. Encourage her to tell you her fantasies, like whose cock she wishes the dildo is. Let her be the leader, don't criticize her, and enjoy the journey.

Well lots of talking, discussion, communication is key. However do not start now. Now is the time for mutual exploration. she has opened a window…not a door. She has shared a desire with you. To expand your mutual sexual pleasure…….this very well over time will expand as you both discuss and explore together and very well may never include another live person joining with you. Couples will in time find their sex lives become common, reactive, the same activity just repeated. The first step is open discussion….over time. Learning and knowing the difference and recognizing the need for intimacy, love making and sex for fun and pleasure between and for the two of you. Just between the two of you. And the separation of these activities. And more importantly when and how to make the time for each other for these activities. Also add in the fun of search and discovery not just of each other…..but of things, situations and locations to also explore with each other and expand…..again new discoveries with each other. Toys of every imagination, role play, different locations ie B&B, hotels, outdoors……keeping things fresh and erotic…..not just love making. this will and should be over a great length of time…..years. We know of many couples we’ve met at fetish fairs and LS parties and themes that absolutely do not play with others at all but love the atmosphere, the toys and activities. Some graduate to same room or open room play but only between each other….just same room sex….enjoying the eye candy….the sexual energy….the vibe. But never with others just between themselves. Also know of couples who have learned and enjoy double penetration for the wife….yet have never had a live playmate. The husband uses a strap on with a sized real feel attachment to mount and simultaneously penetrate and fuck the wife vaginally and anally. One of our vanilla friends enjoy talking to us about their personal adventures with just each other and they love our stories in our adventures…..but have not and do not have a desire to have others join. Just between themselves. They even act out some of our adventures….but just between each other. Various dildos, vibes etc. they even use two different cumming dildos that they research and found a recipe foe a safe Semen or artificial cum….for her. Side note they also discovered the great importance on how to keep this toy clean/sterile…..for her health and comfort. Point is she opened up to you a small window of her desire. Not an invitation to kick open the door and barge through. Could lead to something….but more than likely just expanding sexual adventure for just the two of you. Baby Steps.

It is the word "there," but it doesn't mean possession, it should be "their." And neither "they're." Actually, I am flattered when David calls me "my wife" or Red calls me "my girlfriend." Or even if either would call me "his" woman, girl, partner, SO, mate, slave, or cunt. What does make me jealous is when hubby David or boyfriend Red refers to either Clair or Lora as "his" whatever, or she refer to one of them as "hers." And BTW, once when I was at the service desk of a major retailer, the store was playing the song "Me and Mrs. Jones." The manager was there and I told her that the song was inappropriate, that children were in the store, that it is setting a bad example. It should be "Mrs. Jones and I."

Went dancing with our first couple in a different town. When I saw my wife kissing the other guy I felt like my heart stopped. "Aroused" was an under-under-statement. And I was turned on by the other woman. As time went on, watching her naked and sucking and has always excited me. Today, we're in our 70s and I don't pass up a chance to see my wife enjoying herself with another man.

I'm not remembering any topics directly related to this question.. granted other topics may have spun off onto this.. but there is nothing wrong with asking again. Personally, anything but doggy style - unless doggy style includes a 69 with a woman under me...

My wife is conservative, we are 10 years together. Our sex life is just OK. Due to children and busy life, we don’t have sex often. I asked her if she wants me to buy a dildo for her. She said she would like the dildo. When I asked her how she will use it she said that she would like to have the dildo in her pussy while sucking my cock. Ladies what do you think, does that means that she is into 3some? I know that most of the replies would be .. go and ask her but I would love a different reply. I forgot to mention that we don’t have any experience in SL P.S sorry for my bad English

Last night we visited with Lesley and Ken. We were sitting around chatting when Lesley came and sat besides me. "Why did you just take off your glasses" I asked her. "Like you can't guess" was her reply. I put my hand inside her sweater and began to fondle her boobs. Amy asked Ken if he was in the mood and he replied "like you can't guess". Lesley said she wanted a same room awap and we began in the living room. We swapped back and forth a few times before Amy asked Ken to finish inside her. I came inside Lexley. We had another drink, and then went for seconds. Somehow, seconds has become one of the most exciting parts of swinging. A perfect reason not to have separate rooms.

Sorry for the lengthily response above….but we have seen to many couples rush into the lifestyle due to something said or done in the moment that had bad results……and caused relationship issues that were not present before.

When me and my ex were swinging, we swapped with a Baptist preacher and his wife. The preacher's wife had always wanted to strap on a cock and give it to the preacher, which he would not allow. So she asked me if she could me, and I said "you can have my ass, if I can have yours". She surprised me how good she was, because as she fucked my ass she also reached around and jerked me off. I really don't find this too odd, I think alot of women have this fantasy of strapping it on and giving it hard to her man or another woman,.

It's true, and I do think masturbation habits have a lot to do with male responsiveness. There's something called "death grip" that tends to be anecdotally associated with excessive "dry" masturbation to pornography, no lube and very hard, which can be desensitizing over time to the point that it's very difficult for a woman to provide the kind of oral stimulation the man now needs to ejaculate. She does have excellent vaginal orgasms, easily and frequently actually, and almost always upon ejaculation - she thinks it's the anticipation when she realizes a man is about to climax. They do tend to be smaller, more like waves, though. She frequently has to masturbate very hard to the point of discomfort to get off without penetration, and usually to pornography. (Which, now that I'm typing it out, resembles the so-called "death grip" situation above.) It's very possible to give her an extremely high level of stimulation with oral, but she tends to perceive it as painful and can't stay with it for more than a few seconds at a time. (I'm not actually sure how to interpret that, and neither is she. Lots of women find intense oral hard to handle, to the point restraint can be required to keep them from pushing my head away, but I've never had one use a safe word. Mrs. E is not into BDSM stuff, and doesn't tend to play through discomfort. She was actually pretty surprised to learn that her experience of receiving oral is somewhat different from others.) I do know that when Mrs. E had her FMF with her friend's boyfriend, she ended up riding him while her friend sat on his face. She thought it was hot, and hot to taste her friend on his lips as they wrapped it up. It was midnight and she had to get going and thought the face-sitting was distracting him from getting off so they changed it up to finish the night with her friend riding him.

Everyone is different. As a bi woman I would take this as a challenge. Women's internal genital wiring can be along different paths. Does she have good vaginal orgasms? But it's not totally surprising, some men can't get off from blowjobs. And a few, I've read, only from blowjobs. There are times when one of us women in our poly family is feeling particularly sexually aggressive, we will force a guy on his back and sit on his face for him to perform oral. Clair in particular sometimes will do this to a guy after she’s had a load dumped in her. She's never done that to me, or Lora that I know of, we've only eaten her out sloppy on her back.

These are interesting questions. - We've really only ever done this with other women on their back. She doesn't particularly like or dislike it more or less than anything else I do with other women, the nudity and arousal is hot to her but it's not a specific thing for her. It's possible that this has something to do with her never getting off from receiving oral - ever - it's just not as tantalizing to her as watching intercourse. - This is the specific fantasy we started out wanting to experiment with. She was not hugely confident about it the first few times, and kind of went into her own world focusing on the work. She's gotten more performative and exhibitionistic with confidence and practice, but I still do not generally try to let her run her own show her way. She is not a "submissive" type and doesn't really want direction. We've both come to enjoy sharing detailed discussions afterwards. - I love her watching. Pouring a small glass of wine and chilling out while I work on her friend can be hotter than having her actively involved in FMF.

JoeyT, this is a great story and it sounds like you two are a match made in Hedo! One thing I love about this site is that NOTHING is weird or wrong. I am amazed at how much it turns me on to watch myself with another man. Watching her suck a dick is incredible. Watching her ride one until she cums is insane to me. So no, nothing is wrong with you! Enjoy it my friend!

I am one of those brides who had sex with a man other than my husband on my wedding night. David, Red, and I were already living together as a theesome. David and I were going on an extended honeymoon, so Red and I made love in anticipation of me not seeing him for two plus weeks. David didn't do this to be aroused, he did it to be fair and generous to me and Red.

I'm in a similar boat. My gf was much younger than me and had an incredible sex drive. I became disinterested in her romantically and I knew something had to be done. So I began encouraging her to find someone else to hang out with in hopes that I would get a little jealous and want her again. So she found someone that agreed to have a sex only relationship with him. The first time she fucked him she really liked it and shared the details with me on her way home home. So there was a little jealousy on my part but I was overwhelmed by the idea of her getting so much pleasure from it. We had the best sex ever when she got home. I never imagined that I'd get so aroused when girlfriend fucked another guy. It was her sexuality that excited me. She's a gorgeous 23 year old blonde that does not fit the mold of sex machine. We talked about swinging but she was not secure with the thought of me being with another female. She was concerned that I might leave her because she was fucking someone else. Anyway she agreed to go to Hedo in Jamaica but made it clear she was not interested in swinging. She loved being naked though. I was afraid to strip down and needed her encouragement. Anyway she enjoyed meeting nice couples. The females tried to help her understand and I think she enjoyed the conversations as she became comfortable that they weren't trying to take me away from her. Eventually she let a girl we met play with my dick. Then one night at the pool where things get wild we did some ecstasy with a couple we befriended. She really opened up then. I was so high that I was all over the girl. In retrospect I would have kept my cool and not have been so aggressive but I was high and horny and sucking her big tits. I did glance over and watch my gf playing with the guys dick and kissing. Kinda wish I had played it cool and let her mess around first. She was kinda mad at me but I blamed the ecstasy. The next night I played it better. I told her to have fun and enjoy herself. So I spoke to the couple about letting her be the focus that night. Told the girl to focus on her more instead of me. So it worked great as he became a little more aggressive after his gf encouraged my gf to play with him. So instead of giving his gf attention I stood behind her and rubbed her ass as he rubbed her pussy. After I kept kissing the back of her neck and and rubbing her ass which made her more comfortable with his advances. So she began playing with his dick and making out with him. The cool thing was that the guy was very cool about me attacking his gf the previous night, smiling the whole time. So were in the pool at the time when his gf whispered in his ear. He then sat up on the edge of the pool with a giant erection about even with my gf's neck. So now were all anxious to see if she's gonna take him in her mouth. So I've got a throbbing erection at the mere thought of it. So I want watch her suck his dick so bad that I start licking her (which makes her super horny) I whispered in her ear and asked her if she liked his dick. She kinda turned red and turned around to face me. She asked if I was mad at her. I reminded her much we both enjoyed the excitement every time she came home from being with the other guy. So I repeated the question and she said yes. So she turned back around and began stroking him again. He then put his hand behind her head and rubbed her head while applying a little forward pressure. So now that she had my blessing she leaned forward and opened her mouth wide as he moved her mouth over his dick. I moved over next to his gf as to not crowd them. So this was the first time I watched her perform oral sex on someone else and it was more exciting than I could have imagined. The fact of the matter is that she loves dick and I had a choice to break up with her or give her the freedom to enjoy it. I made the right choice in my opinion. I still have hope that she will come around to swinging because I would appreciate her accepting it as I have with her. But shes 20 plus years younger than me and shes crazy about me. So as of now we love each other like crazy and I can't keep my hands off of her. She never stops giving me affection, its constant. She is less concerned with me leaving her or seeing someone else behind her back now. The key is giving her consistent positive feedback when she asks me if she can go fuck. I always kiss her when she asks that and show her my hard dick. And when she leaves she loves that I call to give her encouragement to enjoy the experience to the fullest. Ill tell her how horny I get knowing she cant wait to have another dick in her mouth. So I've enjoyed this more than I imagined I would. It is almost the same attraction guys have to porn stars I guess. Just wondering if there's something wrong with me? Lol

Upon reflection, when having a sexual session (there are sometimes more than one session with a partner during a get together), we go through two positions before having our orgasms. This is true with just my wife and I as well. The exception is the time constrained quickie, where we usually go missionary or doggy to get there.