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Suppose it depends on what you call it as well. Like on the Feeld app, there are many younger folks talking about their ENM/poly relationships and few references to swinging.

Shannon texted me and said it was great to meet me and when it’s possible that we should get together, she and Joe would like to meet David and our children. I don’t know when that might happen. I’m certainly not going through the same trouble I did just to tease myself again.

Agree with all the above. Additional thing; we have a line in our profile about the need to tell us you read that line when messaging us. If we haven't contacted them, they've cold-contacted us, and they don't mention that line? Instant delete/ignore. They didn't read our profile and aren't really interested in who and what we're about, which is a bad recipe for bedroom pleasure. Some understanding of their role, either in their profile or in their initial messaging, is useful. Additional men are in many ways a sex toy. That's not to denigrate them; they are more than that, but it is important for them to understand their role.

Excellent point. I have spoken with some young women (high school, college) who don't have a traditional boyfriend but rather date in groups of men and women. No one has a fixed partner, but go out casually in pairs or as a group and have sex the same way. It's just considered "dating."

As already pointed out, there's no good way for us to know. Accept the gift she has given to you and get her what she wants. She was willing to let you know this fantasy, who knows where it might end up...or it could also just end here. Baby steps...but let her know that you will not judge when she shares her fantasies with you and keep the communication open. See where this path will lead...

My guess is that more younger people are involved. It has always appeared to us that there is two groups: 20-29 and over 40 with the 30-39 group being involved with raising families. One possible reason that the 20-29 group is so low in this pole is because they might not call it swinging, but just playing or experimenting or some other word. "Swinging" all too often can bring up ideas of the 1970's: shag carpeting, sunken living rooms, fondue parties, and the like. If you don't actually GO to a 'swingers club', does it still count as swinging if a young couple has a threesome or swaps with another young couple? I think it might just have to do with where the survey got their data from and what the definition of 'swing' is/was...

None of us here knows, and perhaps at this time even your wife doesn't know. My advice is for you to enjoy the adventure that you and your wife are starting together, beginning with looking at different types of dildos, talking about them, and letting her decide which ones to purchase. She may be interested in more than one, including a vibrator. Then let her show you how she wants to use it. Be very sensitive to what she likes, doesn't like, and new ideas that she has. A small step would be asking for her to switch it around - suck the dildo while your cock is in her pussy. Encourage her to tell you her fantasies, like whose cock she wishes the dildo is. Let her be the leader, don't criticize her, and enjoy the journey.

Ultimately in your case it will have to come down to what YOU can discern from scripture., not what someone else has discerned. For your own peace of mind please do what research seems proper. A good concordance and linguistic guide will help. One of the problems is that all we have is a translation and more often than not a translation of a translation. Translators, even the good ones are limited by the words available in their own tongue and their Knowledge of the language that they are translating. They are also affected by their own cultural biases, even when they try not to be. A simple not sex related example of a pretty basic text would be one we are all familiar with. " Thou shalt not kill." Simple yes?? Not so much. I have seen people use it as biblical justification for being a vegetarian. Problem with that is that one must still kill the plants involved. A translation closer to the original would be "Thou shalt commit no murder." That one got messed up with the best of intentions. The translator understood what he wanted to say. It just is not clear in the translation. The translator only had to go to a copy of the Jewish Scripture , which has been faithfully preserved word for word for thousands of years inside of essentially one tradition and culture. It is also a pretty much accepted meaning. Switching to your question things have been meddled with for thousands of year and hundreds of cultures to reach us. If you concern is to discern the will of God on this topic, as viewed from the Christian Scriptures, a thorough scholastic deep dive is required. If you are just interested is my and others opinions, then you get what you pay for. We have decided that there is not a problem with the acts themselves. There may be problems with the mindset and reasons that we and others have for doing them. Basically any reason that devalues our marriage or other people is wrong. That opinion though, in terms of your concern, is worth what it cost.