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We may be misunderstanding this situation, but it appears to us, that you are driving this wagon, not her. Our suggestion, would be that you let her at least sit beside you upfront on the wagon. The situation you seemed to pine for is potentially a lit match in a fireworks factory; if everything, absolutely everything lines up as per expected, all good. All it would take would be one spark for this to blow up in your (and her) faces. This is not a great choice for a first activity; the combination of the lack of your experience coupled with your obvious lack of understanding of this pursuit has us questioning the wisdom of your plan. Take this in small bites my friend before you jump into the all you can eat buffet.

OK, I'll bite: How are you finding these men? Are they bringing STI test results? She's never done this before so she obviously doesn't have a network of vetted men. One strange man can quickly turn out to be erratic and dangerous, especially if they've used substances beforehand to get comfortable for something this intense. How are you planning to manage the behavior of 10-15 people of the sort of people who are likely to show up to have explicitly unprotected sex with a stranger? If she's a submissive to you as you're implying, her safety is your ethical responsibility here. How many are you overbooking to deal with flakes? My advice to you would be that if you're both serious, that you go to a club on a theme night oriented toward this type of play. You will find people who are at least somewhat familiar with each other and safe play in a staffed setting. Put aside the creampie thing for now.

I believe you. I'm not being mean here. It's just that there are outlets for fantasy fiction and niche kink discussion on this board. Most "curious" people aren't going to have much to say about getting rawdogged by 10-15 strangers in one sitting. In fact, most experienced swingers won't. This is an extreme scenario with health and safety risks involved, and may scare off serious newbies.

But is it her fetish? She is on the receiving end of the barrage.

Hello I’m after other peoples thoughts on a topic I have, me and my wife are happily married for 7 years both in our 30s and have great sex together. Now while we have sex we have a bit of fantasy type dirty talk and it’s great now it gets saucy and she says she would fuck someone else and she would even go bareback with them, now some my think I’m crazy but that thought drives my dick wild! Now the other bit of this is when we don’t get in that sexy moment it never gets mentioned, and I honestly think she wouldn’t do it. A little part of me thinks what if she did and how hot it would be seen her do it, now from others experience do you think that it’s just the heat of the moment talk or is it something she does secretly have on her mind?

I see we're doing "overly-graphic hypothetical scenarios for first posts" again.

I think he means, "A gangbang with ten guys for a initial foray into the lifestyle? Hmmm. Good luck!"

Fear not. Nobody handles polite rejection better than those in the swinger community. It's a core skill.

Personally we would avoid the situation all together, because like your wife we are picky! Same reason we really have no in lifestyle parties. We prefer to get together with people that are of interest only.

Yuummmmyyyyy! A man with a mouth full of cum and pussy juice is a true man indeed to me!

"Im sorry, no, I don't want to." should be good enough.

First of all you said your sex life has been lacking! Personally I can’t think of anything I would want to do less then bringing other people in if our sex life was lacking. To me that is something I am going to want to fix on our own before throwing someone else in the mix. I can see why that would cause resentment and insecurities. If my partner is frustrated by another guy with a bigger dick not being able to get it up because her sex lifestyle is lacking I am going to feel like I am not doing my day to day job of keeping her satisfied. I would fix that myself first and foremost. As for her rushing you when it was your turn I can see why that would make you feel unwanted! I can’t speak for her, but it could be that as you said she had just finished getting pounded by a guy with a much bigger cock. Something I assume she is not used to. Maybe she was just sore and overwhelmed at that moment. Women are not machines. They can only take so much. Sometimes they need a little time to recover before they can continue on. Porn has given people unrealistic expectations of what multiple partner sex is like. Reality tells a different story. As others have correctly said put the brakes on for now! Which you have said you have. She feels guilty and probably just doesn’t know what to say or do to correct this. Is this worth letting your marriage go down hill over? If the answer is no then try to look at it from her point of view, let her be comfortable enough to be honest and open without being worried about saying the wrong thing and let this be a life learning lesson. You can’t change what happened, but you also should not let it consume you. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe this will be a turning point in your communication once you work things out.

She needs to sharpen up and take responsibility for her actions. This heat of the moment excuse only goes so far. I agree with the swinging break suggestions.

This doesn't get better with only time. It might be a good idea to step back from playing temporarily until you can sort this out with her. There's a misunderstanding here, and swinging right now is only going to make it worse.

As Othello told Iago, "Thou prove my love a whore, be sure of it, give me the ocular proof." Pictures, or it didn't happen.

As others posters in this thread have recommended, talk it out coolly and calmly with your wife about what she really wants, then give it to her and make her happy. (Although the conversation will start dispassionate, you'll probably end up making love afterwards.)

You think the best way is if this was something she wanted to try and make it reality that I should let her do exactly what she would want and even fuck bareback with a stranger? I think deep down it’s something I would let her do she always talks during our sex about having dirty sex and not knowing the person who she is fucking makes it more intense, it’s just trying to get it out of her if she does feel that way truly! I drop little hints when we talk she says no I probably wouldn’t do it but she has that bit of a smile also so I’m totally unsure

Over morning coffee, driving down the road together, or sometime neutral and relaxed like that, just say: "Hey, the other night when we had sex and you were talking about _____. That was really really hot!" and then just see what she says. If it is just 100% fantasy to her, she'll almost certainly make that point in her reply. If she is 100% interested, she may use that door you just opened to directly express her interest. If she is somewhere in between, which is most likely, then it will be up to you to decide where to take that conversation. Everybody has a "how we had the first swinging talk" story. Ours was along the lines of "hey, what do you think about going to a swingers club just to check it out?" Some friends of ours, it went like some out of town friends of theirs came out that they were swingers. Driving home from that visit, they were talking about it. That discussion turned into a hypothetical "Well, if WE were to do it, how would WE do it?" When the answers to that question came quick and easy and everybody on the same page, then it's a short leap to "Maybe we OUGHT to do it?"

Honestly the only way to know is for you two to talk about it when you are not in the moment playing! Nobody else can speak for her. If you can’t just openly talk about these things with each other the lifestyle is not for you.