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We just returned from a very interesting vacation with the first friends we met after moving to a new city. They asked us if we would be interested in joining them with three others in sharing an AirBnB in Florida. The house was near a beach, something we love, and had its own pool, a truly luxury house. They only knew one of the couples who knew the others we were sharing the home with. Big surprise, one of the couples at the house were two women who are married, a lesbian couple. At first I didn’t know why they were joining a group like ours or did they not know. I questioned one of the other men what their story was and I was assured they were married and knew exactly what the others were there for and it wasn’t only for the beach and sun. I always thought lesbians are turned off by men, possibly revolted by the thought of being with a man then I was enlightened. I didn’t realize most lesbians had sex with men at some time in their life and a percentage continue to enjoy men sexually. Of course women use phallic toys if not an actual man in sexual play. These two women fell in love and married just as heterosexuals do, and are not completely monogamous just like those of us posting.

There is remarkable truth here. "Feelings/concerns of being judged negatively" is, in short form, vulnerability. It's not just a matter of "getting comfortable with being vulnerable"--there is a transition to self-worthiness and positivity in many matters, sex being just one of them. Your observation mirrors ours: when we are among other LS couples, the women gravitate to each other not for protection (as seems often the case in vanilla settings) but rather find strength in themselves sharing their experiences with others. It's a different dynamic.

I assume at least some groups of them did. Once when I was in my mid-20s my then wife and four of her female med-school classmates were hanging out at our house and drinking wine. After a few glasses the conversation started getting pretty sexually explicit — almost raunchy. It was like they stopped even noticing I was there. And part of me wished I wasn’t. My wife was pretty discreet, but over all I’d never heard women talk like that. 😳😂 (I’m way more jaded now…)

Trying to give thought to this, two people in love marry whether in the traditional heterosexual sense or in the very now excepted same sex way. A homosexual, male or female, finds an attraction to one sex for a loving relationship and does not preclude getting pleasure from the other sex. The difference between be bisexual and being homosexual and being able to have sex with the other sex is interesting. Unlike Ms. McCray it doesn’t sound that these women have “gone straight”, they are just enjoying a freedom to be sexual.

Interesting. In 25 years of swinging we have encountered a few gay male couples who swing but never a lesbian couple. But since a big part of swinging is about pushing boundaries and trying new things then why not? Q: did the lesbian couple play with the husbands at your AirBnB?

We have met many women who were straight and had bi curiousity My thought that there are lesbians who suppressed those feelings to blend into the accepted norm. Gay couples, male or female, are happily more accepted now with people loving others regardless of gender.

Yep we've been to the lux they have rooms for such things. Some things are better left to a personal level rather then a big crowd or a big crowd behind closed doors. We are looking for a place that we can search for a couple go out for drinks and establish an actual friendship that has its intentions to see each other naked eventually or planned ect.

Chirlane McCray, a Wellesley graduate and the wife of former NYC mayor Bill de Blasio, was exclusively lesbian before falling in love with and marrying de Blasio. "In the 1970s, I identified as a lesbian and wrote about it. In 1991, I met the love of my life, married him." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chirlane_McCray

When in college I was picked up more than once by women with husbands wanting to watch me fuck their wife. In college 21 year old men don't worry about getting robbed, drink spiked, or fatal attraction, all they are thinking about is that pussy! During college, we frequently went to a bar/ dance club where married women would pickup college men, it was well known for this. Most college towns have a place like this. Were I reckless, sure when you are young and dumb, you do dumb shit. These women were not meth heads looking to rob you. I would dance with these ladies and the topic would go to sex back at their place so her husband could watch. Does it happen? You bet it does and just think of everything you done in your teenage and college days.

Will do. Don't want to mess too much with near perfection. I've been told that the walls are a nice pink, so that will stay the same. Maybe look for any damage the kids did on their way through and patch that up. The illumination isn't great, perhaps add some mood lighting. A couple of Georgia O'Keeffe paintings would be appropriate. I'm not a fan of bling, but what's the female equivalent of a Prince Albert? That would give the guys a surprise.

Maybe I'll redecorate my vaginal walls.

Anyone have a clue on this? We aren't looking to swap pretty sure we don't fit the criteria of soft kinda up to whomever your dealing with. But we are looking to go out flirt laugh and maybe go back to the house and watch another couple have sex or vice versa but....how do you search that??

How long have you been thinking about wanting to swing and/or discussing it with your SO?

From a open discussion with LS friends on Friday night. Everyone at the table have been in the LS for eight or more years and have been quite active and have explored and experienced various activities and fantasies that interested them. The common thread was the women present ( several wives, girlfriends and three single ladies) had all experienced and enjoyed having at the least two men (MFM) to several at a time (or throughout the evening at a party). It didn’t take long into this conversation for it to turn into a ladies only animated conversation of their experiences and accomplishments with only their husbands/boyfriends asked to chime in verification/confirmation of the event, act or result of the experience. Hands down all of us males had enjoyed whatever happened in the shared stories. It was awesome to sit and listen to these women sharing their adventures, thoughts and results of their experiences and there was quite a bit of excited chatter and teasing…..lots of loud shouts and laughter. I was glad due to our number and time of the evening we were seated at the back corner of the dining area well away from the few dinners still present. I am sure there were a few servers who got an ear full. One noticeable revelation from observing all this was the common result of these experiences for the women. All revealed in one way or another the personality…..confidence…..level of comfort the all experienced as a result of their sexual sharing and experiences in the LS. Echoed by their spouses (those present). 1. Ability now to discuss openly anything with their SO. 2. Discuss, ask for what ever they had an interest in, desire, openly on any topic as well as sexually. 3. All openly discussed that sexually in their private lives prior to the lifestyle they rarely if ever initiated any activity with their SO only were reactive to initiation by their SO. And NEVER asked for or discussed their personal desires, needs or fantasies. (the single ladies present agreed they felt the same with any partner they might have. Including the husbands and boyfriends of other women that they shared) 4. Their personal sexual/sensual lives in their relationship have become broadened and deeper, a much closer intimacy (not just sexual) then before. Far more satisfying. It was not just a fun evening out together as a group (sex was not part of this evening at all, just social gathering) but so enlightening. Sitting having coffee this morning it occurred to me that all this, generally, is probably true to some level to anyone who is involved at some level in the LS. Dependent of course on what level or type of involvement in an alternative Lifestyle they are in. I also thought that there are common takeaways: 1. Situational shyness, intimidation, lack of confidence, appearance concerns and feelings/concern of being judged negatively. 2. That last part “feelings/concern of being judged negatively” is they largest shared issue that women have. From the time they are self aware 6, 7, 8 years old and on…..they are told, threatened, educated etc that their sex is private, not to be displayed shared discussed experienced and in many cases told any negative experiences are their fault….not being a good girl. 3. The confidence, personal strength, emotional discovery over growth and feeling at peace with themselves. Acceptance of who they are. 4. Sexual preferences and desires. Even with in their group a funny but eye opening discussion…and truth concerning size, preferred size and what/how it all relates. It really isn’t what it seems. LOL everyone grows in this lifestyle to their own comfort level. But to watch these women and listen to them (including my Queen) was just hands down amazing. This group of women discussing to only their experiences but some of their not yet experienced fantasies/desires. Their emotions. Support…..no negative judgements at all. Even bragging rights and one up man ship between them. A chance to get a peak into a part of the LS not often discussed……at-least with males present.

A lot of women and some men that swing claim to be bisexual. The question is how bisexual are they. My wife is very bi she could love a man or a women on the same level. Her bisexuality is not only for the purpose of having sex with another women. Given the hypothetical situation of me not being in the picture she could be happy with a man or a women for her next partner. Me on the other hand call myself a situational bisexual, for lack of a better term. Men do not turn me on, but my wife's enthusiasm to see two men having oral sex does turn me on. I have been known to receive the oral pleasure (from a man) and the reaction from my wife really gets me off. So the question is how bisexual are you? Is it just for sex, could it be more emotional, or is it for the people around you to enjoy?

I found this very interesting article by an author named Mark Manson, 'Your Honest-To-God Guide to STDs.' It’s at https://markmanson.net/std-guide It’s a good read, and I found it to be reasonable. (I don’t promise it’s accurate to the nth degree, though.) He talks about the various STDs, their effects on you if you get it, and a few statistics. Then he gives his RAW score, an *average* of how many different partners you would need to have *unprotected* penis in vagina sex with to catch that disease. Here it is: CHLAMYDIA - 36 partners GONORRHEA - 179 partners SYPHILIS - 1,841 partners HPV - 4 partners GENITAL HERPES - 13 partners HIV - 1,250 partners Now, I’m not advocating unprotected sex here. In fact, my advice is to wear a condom each and every time. For example, the risk of catching gonorrhea is low - but you could beat the odds and catch it the first time! The RAW score is just an average. Let the debate begin. Play nice, kiddies.

We are friends with a couple who were married as long as we were, about 35 years, had two children. Husband left wife for another man. Not swingers as far as we know.

The women in our small group have so many laughs, albeit at the expense of our wonderful partners, when we are together talking. We have a new girlfriend who I thought was shy has been the most vocal and can be called raunchy as we are more open with each other. Before having this group of friends Alan and I would talk about our meetings but it so much different from the laughs we now have. It is funny how I am having fun exchanging experiences with the ladies now, it’s bringing back to my college days and the big laughs my roommate and I had comparing sexual trysts.

Interesting. I wouldn't want to be slapped in the face with it, but if a guy hit my bum with his dick, that could be fun.

All are paid

Free or paid? Most won’t take you seriously if it’s the former …

It was a cold night in SWVA, but that didn't stop me from trying to get laid. I sent one of my favorite cuckold couples a message on Fetlife. Lucky for me, both of them were going to be off from work for the next couple of days. So I got in my care and made the 2.5 hr drive. Yep, I sure did. This was only the second time that I planned to meet up with these folks. The last time we hung out I had a blast. When I arrived at the hotel I sent them a text to let them know I had made it to the destination. She text back that they were on their way. The first time we met there was a lot of talk before playing. I took a different approach this time. She told me that she had bought some lingerie and she was wearing it under her clothes. I encouraged the cuckold to undress her so that I could see what she looked like in her new lingerie. Immediately, I got hard. Before he could finish helping her get out of her clothes, I moved closer to the two of them. I started making out with her. The cuckold seemed like he was shocked that she would start making out with me while he was helping her get undressed. As he stepped away to put her clothes in a bag, the two of us lay on the bed and continued making out. By the the time he came back to the bed, she was already mounting me. We switched positions and he tried to stick his cock in her mouth, but when I grabbed a handful of her hair, it ruined any chance of that happening. The more she moaned the more turned on I got. We switched positions again. I climbed in between her thighs. The cuckold tried to position himself to get some head again but there was no room for him to join us. She had reached down to grab her ankles. My hands were on here tits and around her neck. Finally, I heard her say Im sorry baby! Pretty sure my erection would have lasted longer than 4 hours after she said that, but it was late, so we finished up and they went home. The next day as Im driving home I started to wonder if I had been too aggressive with them. I mean, you never know in these situations. I have played with people, thought we had a great time together only to never hear from them again. All of a sudden I see a notification pop up on my phone. It was a text from the couple. When I read the message it said something to the effect of....."We are off again today. Are you still here in the city"?

I see people on swinger sites looking for exactly the same thing you are looking for all the time! Not something we look for at all, but they are out there.

can easily do that at a club

One day in band camp In HS guys would brag and discuss conquests and there were some girls that a few of us had in common. I always wondered if the girls had the same conversations.

I think can agree that we agree. 🙂

We have been together since we were 16 no break Ups both of us 40 at the time of this post …. As far as the fmf it was her idea to try something new …so does that mean I have to be ok with doing something I never suggested? And as far as being selfish I’m at least considering how a mfm would be even tho the whole thing isn’t my idea …. We have been to swingers clubs and enjoyed being watched and same room sex with other couples btw

I love listening to women talk sex openly, you get a much different view than from men. I guess what surprised me was their conquests and raunchyness of their conversations. I have heard stories that would make a sailor blush and to top that is if some of the women are nurses talking about sex, they will flat gross you out!

My advice, from my experience, is to let your partner decide your path and the speed you travel. Be generous with her in letting her do things without requiring reciprocity for you. Swinging, or the lifestyle, does not require symmetry. She may start playing while you don't, then you may do MFMs and not FFMs. Let her feel secure and comfortable exploring and she will then bring you along shortly thereafter. All I can say is that it worked for me. I enjoyed my wife enjoying herself, then she wanted me to enjoy playing too.

Throughout most of the the history of man, when children were more of an asset as labor than an expensive hobby for twenty years, you can be pretty certain that childless couples had the wife fuck other men. You did what you had to do to achieve the happy result. The words cuckold and wittol are very old, so that's not a new thing either.

After following this thread for a few months, and reading that something happened (no details provided as to what went on), I decided to chime in. The idea of picking up a stranger at a bar or club and doing him bareback is pretty hot, I would be concerned about any guy who would go along with this so easily. Yes, the lady says she's on birth control but what man would trust that? My SO wouldn't. Not a chance. A single guy at a bar/club jumping on a one night stand with a strange woman who says her husband is on board with it? This is the script of a lousy porn movie. ...Mr. Discreet here...Ignoring the risk of ending up with a child with a strange woman (anyone remember Fatal Attraction from 1987?) If an unknown woman approached me with the suggestion of having sex with her without protection (with her husband watching, participating, etc), I'd leave immediately. I would figure I'd been targeted based on the suit I was wearing, the watch I had on, etc. This is a robbery report I've seen dozens of times (most victims don't report it due to marriage risks and/or embarrassment). The mark gets as far as the woman undressing before the spiked drink knocks him out. He wakes up without clothes, without all his belongings and whatever logged in accounts on his phone cleaned out. I'm really curious to hear about how all this went down. How did you convince a man to do this? Mrs. Curiouscouple2001 must be something to be able to convince a man to gamble like this (especially the first time out trying to find a participant).

Great observations; may I add one more? All of this is true and simple if viewed from the perspective that being nonmonogamous is the natural state of being human, even as we form close emotional attachments.

Yes we did

Hello from Canada, It is a pleasure to meet you Irishcouple123, welcome to the swingersboard. As you navigate the waters of the swinging life, consider that we all started somewhere and that there are many people here that have experienced the same sort of issues that may arise on your journey. Reach out to us here, this is how my wife and I came to join this board, with it becoming a combination therapist and sex coach for us. The experience here is broad and deep and can help you stay out of trouble in many cases. Best regards to you both and good luck in your swinging journey.

So it’s been a couple of months since last spoke on here, after more talking about it with my wife and getting over the Christmas period etc we have planned a night away next month, chose a location away from our home town and then on the hope of letting the fantasies come out. a club, bar no preference really as aslong as it’s hot dirty sex back at our hotel or a club. My wife has said she would use a condom but really wants it without so maybe half way through if the guy was also willing and she still wanted to to remove it and Fuck the rest of the session bareback so it will finally happen and it’s going be hot

Petra here. Jealousy has always been my enemy and my friend. I met the man who is my husband David while still romantically and sexually involved with my ex-fiancé. David said that he was fine with it continuing, being monogamous, having threesomes, got married. It took me two years before I reciprocated by setting him up with my female friends and acquaintances, which was surprisingly easy. It was a control thing for me; if David was going to fuck other women, it would be my choosing. This is the long way around to answering the question. Until hubby started fucking other women, I was 100% straight, couldn't imagine myself playing with another pussy or even tits. But after he came home from having the sex that I had arranged (or after I came home if they screwed in our bed), I wanted not only him, but wanted to find every trace of her on him. And the biggest one was smelling and tasting her on his dick. Suddenly my jealousy made me want to see them together, see how they performed - actually, I wanted to see her and how she performed. As easy as it was to set up women to fuck my husband (BTW, he never protested) (women prefer fucking a married man (David is very attractive) , any hesitancy goes away when the wife is ok with it), few would let me be there and watch. When I asked Clair to let me be there the second time she and hubby had sex, she said, Sure, great. It made me mind-numbingly jealous as I watched them. But instead of wanting to smell her on him and suck his dick, I wanted to reclaim his cum out of her cunt. I wanted to know what was so good about her. Clair had previously mentioned to me that she was bi, so it gave me the courage to ask if I could get closer to her. She hugged me, I went down on her to reclaim the semen that belong to me and felt her breasts. I must have been a natural since I made her orgasm pretty good.

A live g/f I had started fucking a rival of mine. He became a friend but it was obvious he looked down on me because he was fucking her. He started bragging and soom I was the butt of jokes. And she didn't help at all. It was plain she was an easy piece of ass and I would do nothing about it. Of course soon other guys wanted a taste and she was just the slut to give it to them. He would come by all the time while I was at work, have her call me so he could tell me how he was fucking her. She loved the attention and theres always a "buddy" around to take care of your woman. I pretty much waited my turn and mostly it was used pussy I got.

I had the opportunity to meet a new cuckold couple over the Memorial Day weekend. The encounter was different because I did something that I have not done in a long time. We met on another social networking site and I only saw a picture of their genitals. No face pics and we didn't even talk on the phone. Normally I don't meet anyone that I have not had a conversation with on the telephone. Despite the many times that I have been stood up when I did this in the past, I decided I was going to take a chance. I was pleasantly surprised. After reaching out to them and telling them that I was going to be traveling to SW VA, the wife sent me a reply telling me they had planned to be in that area for the holiday too. I was excited as it has been a while since I played with any cuckold couples. I told her to keep me posted and let me know when they get close to the hotel. She text me and said that they were 30 min away. I showered, got dressed, and got to the hotel at the same as them. To set the mood we smoked a joint and had a little to drink. Everyone was horny and ready to go by then. I started taking off my clothes and then ordered both of them to get undressed. I had both of them kneel in front of me and start sucking my cock together. She told him not to forget my balls. He started on my ball and she continued to work the shaft. I got so turned on I had her stand up and then kissed her in the mouth. He continued sucking my cock until it was erect. Then I told her to get on her hands and knees and scoot towards the edge of the bed. I ordered her cuckold to prep her so that I could let her feel my cock. As soon as he moved away, I slid my cock into her. We played twice that night. They decided to stay in town and get a room the second night. I went by to smoke and have a drink with them. Ended up playing again the second night. Like I was saying, this was totally out of character for me because I usually don't even leave the house until I have seen pics of both people and talked to them on the phone. However, I took a chance that weekend and it really paid off.

I finally got the opportunity to play with a married woman that I have had a crush on for a couple of years. She is a middle aged woman with wide hips and a big ass. All of my friends know that is my kryptonite. Met her and her husband at this BDSM event I attend every year. The first year we met neither of us made a move. Im sure she saw me staring at her ass a couple of times as we passed each other at the event. The next year she asked me if I wanted to do a scene with her. I took her up on that offer and later that evening we went to the dungeon and I spanked that ass. Well, actually it started out as a spanking and then she told me that she would prefer if I just used my fist. I was more than happy to oblige. A few weeks ago she messaged me and asked if Id like to schedule another playdate for this year's event. Of course, I replied. The plan was to bring my paddles, floggers, and some canes to work her over properly but she told me that she wanted me to use my fists instead. I didn't ask a lot of questions and agreed to meet her one afternoon in the dungeon for our playdate. After watching her wiggle her ass up on that spanking bench and listening to her moans, I got turned on and asked her if I could taste her. She said yes so I got down on my knees and started to kiss, lick, and fondle that pussy. When I was done she turned around and we made out for a few minutes and I couldn't take it anymore so I asked if she would like to fuck. To my surprise, she said yes, so we moved to the sex swing. She proceeded to get down on her knees and suck my cock. I was so excited it didn't take long before I was hard and ready to go. She got up, positioned herself in the swing, and I moved in closer so that I could position myself to properly fuck my friends wife.

Thinking about it, I achieved having sex with more women after marrying Daniela than before, 12. But she is unlikely to exceed her number, around 60, because we now play within a closed group. As my wife has pointed out, however, I had a lot more sex than she did, albeit with with only one woman, my ex-wife. We had sex just about every day, and sometimes even during and after our divorce. Although Daniela's number was five times mine, she didn't live with anyone so she had sex only two or three times a week. Since we got married and especially since we started in the lifestyle, she's been making up for lost time. Ten times a week maybe, five with me (I'm older now) and five with one of her play partners. And to think that when we got married Daniela said that she was ready for monogamy after living a life of overlapping lovers. She didn't need much convincing to go back. I'll need to do some calculations to determine when her total number of intercourse exceeds mine.

Confession from *last* weekend: We have been playing around with apps more and decided to have a meetup. It was supposed to be a drink only but worked out. We didn't realize it at the time, but the bumped "how many" thread got me thinking. Mrs. E managed to get over the hump to having intercourse with more men since she met me than when we started. (Her first husband was #3, I was #7. This made #15.)

Wenn i left today morning the house to the work, my wife makes herself ready for the visit from her toyboy.

Nothing unusual for us, but it could be classified as cuckold: our daughter and I ran a few errands and did chores at home while mom was at another couple's house engaged in a threesome.

Although I had engaged in threesomes more than once before (MMF, FFM, FFF), as well as a couple of orgies when younger and single, I'd never actual tried swinging; let alone when married. My husband had only had threesomes (a couple of times when married to me), but never more. After being married a few years and already a couple of kids, we were curious about swinging and started to look into it, but didn't really get into much online before stumbling upon a couple we met through my son's preschool of all things. They had two young children like us as well and we hit it off with them, building a very friendly relationship, with plenty of get-togethers like BBQs, coffee times, date nights to movies and the like. Over time it was clear there was more to our relationship than just friendship. My husband was constantly checking the other wife out (we'll call her Tina, not that you'd ever know who she really was! LOL) and her husband (Andy) was doing the same with me (and, yes, us girls were very flattered and reciprocated- it really feels good being noticed after having a couple of kids! LOL). Tina and I also had some sparks between us, as we had similar tastes in clothing (both pretty feminine/girly girl types) and a woman's form (I am bisexual and was openly so then, too). So over time we started drinking more together at one or the others' place (kids always babysat, if you're wondering!) and doing things like dancing (and, increasingly, swapping partners for that, plus sometimes the wives would dance while the men watched and, yes, it was getting more sensual and, even, a bit lewd). We eventually started playing games like strip poker, jokingly played spin the bottle, truth or dare, and other silly games that might lead to some more naughty results. One night, we all had a lot to drink and the tension in the air could be cut with a knife, when Andy made the first move and slide his hand up my thigh and under the skirts of my dress, then kissed me. I looked a bit shocked but also smiled and looked over to my husband and Tina, who were clearly enjoying the show, so I kissed back and deeper, putting my hand on his thigh and hitching up my skirts a bit more, legs a bit more open too. He saw this as his invitation and slide his hand well up my dress as we kissed. Tina then turned to my husband and kissed him, while running her hand over his crotch. So then things really took off. Soon Tina was on her knees fellating my husband who was running his fingers through her hair with one hand and the other in her blouse playing with one of her breasts, which he'd pulled from her bra. Andy had 2 fingers buried in my puss as this was happening and our kissing got more intense, my legs wider and skirts hiked up much more. In time, Andy had his head up my skirts licking my wet puss, my legs wrapped around him, as I squirmed and moaned. By then, my hubby was behind Tina, her skirt to her hips and panties to her knees, as she was on all fours, her breasts now fully dangling freely below her as he fingered her with one hand and felt her breasts up with the other. She was still lactating after the birth of her second, so he was basically milking her a bit, too. There was so much moaning, sighing, gasping and the like then, and the air was filled with our scents. LOL After fingering and licking Tina to orgasm, my husband then filled her wit his cock and truly pounded her from behind. It was such a beautiful sight seeing her jerking and her breasts swaying, as she grunted and moaned. Andy could tell I was excited by what I saw and told me to kiss her, so I went to her and did that as my husband fucked her. She had such a sweet mouth and she was so eager to kiss me, our tongues played for what seemed like forever. As I kissed her and kneaded one of her breasts, Andy got behind me and filled me like Tina was filled and soon there were two girls grunting, gasping, and moaning. When our husbands were ready to cum, we each licked and sucked their cocks together: two wives enjoying each cock on their own. Our faces and breasts were covered by their cum (and our mouths had some, too). It was glorious! After our men were spent, us girls got together and enjoyed one another, kissing, feeling/licking/sucking breasts, fingering one another, scissoring a bit, then ending in a 69 position that was a beautiful time. When we orgasmed again, we all cuddled together, the wives together with Andy close to me on one side and my husband on Tina's side. We were so content and knew this wasn't the last time we'd do this. I later found out Tina had limited experience with girls, but did experiment a bit in high school and college, but nothing significant and she never considered herself bi. That changed after being with me during our swinging sessions. LOL We were regular from then on and still see them from time to time as part of our little group of swinging couples, early 15 years later (and we have done a fair bit more than we did that first time! LOL).

I'm the male of this couple and this quote could have been written by me!

Mr. Learning is straight. I used to think I was potentially bi but after an experience with a true bi female there's no way in hell I am bi. She was way too experienced for me and she was way too over the top with me. It was extremely uncomfortable and I hurt for days so there is no way I can say I am bi now. That whole situation really has turned me off to females as that was one of the last experiences I had with a female before retiring. If we ever get back in, I think I would set some guidelines such as please don't try to pull my uterus out please.

Both of us enjoy giving and receiving oral with members of the same sex -- but only with the other present. And neither one of us is interested in kissing someone of the same sex. What that makes us, that's who we are!

I am a straight male; however, during one foursome the other male and I were sitting next to each other watching our ladies doing a 69. We both were very hard at that sight and we started stroking each other. Before too long he was on his knees giving me a blow job. I wanted to do him, but I just couldn't get myself to do it. So maybe I'm Bi - because I enjoyed him doing me.

Just have to stick my two-pence worth in... I often wrestled with this question... Having enjoyed the heightened excitement stage in which nearly anything goes anywhere... Bottom line. I have zero desire to kiss a guy. Period. Isn't if funny that one could actually enjoy sucking another penis, yet find smooching somewhat repugnant !!! Now, there's no end to the oral contact I enjoy with women (from head to toe)... So, it's situational. I guess. At least in my case. That's kind of how I figured I'm not what one might call "gay".

I am situationally bi. It is fun to play with a girl, on occasion and while swinging, but I want a man. I would desperately miss all that men offer. I have had just FF experiences, and honestly, the lack of penis presence bothered me and made me long for it! I could not see any type of emotional attachment (like partnering with) a woman, beyond that of considerate friendship.