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2 pointsK and I never have anal sex because K isn't into it and I can take it or leave it. I have had swing partners ask for it especially if they want DP, or just anal from me. Most partners that ask me for anal has told me that they don't get it at home. I would rather get great oral instead of anal.
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2 pointsThe reason I wanted to hear from couplers is that she is the most clearly defined "poly" contributor on this list. Before generalising on this her input was important. What I am seeing in the answers above: Your questions and concerns are genuine reasonable and reality facing. 1. You may be letting the term poly throw you. 2.Try considering this in terms of just normal human to human relationships. 3. If the situation has changed from what you have accepted and expected, then it is time to reexamine. 4. Talk this out with your partners. Perhaps some mutually satisfactory clarity can be had. 5.If this can not be worked out to everyone's happiness, then it may be time to move on.
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1 pointFor me, whether I feel dominant or submissive doesn't depend on the activity or the position, it depends on whether I'm the one asking for it.
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1 pointWe go our of our way to avoid being the "Other cpl" this courts it
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1 pointYes, wasn't Ashley Madison the site that used a bunch of fake profiles to make it look like more people used their site. A couple of years ago they were hacked and users names were exposed. Wouldn't touch it!
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1 pointWe would never use the site personally! I imagine the quality of people you would find on there is shitty! Unless you don’t think people that lie and cheat are low quality people. Don’t think there is much safe about playing with people that don’t even respect their own partner. What kind of respect are they going to show complete strangers? Pretty sure if they are okay lying to their spouse they are not going to have much problem lying to you about any disease they might be carrying.
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1 pointI have met men with no intelligence and have toys that know what they are supposed to do
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1 pointOriginal poster hasn't returned since Feb 28...
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1 pointI feel dominated when allowing anal, in charge when doing oral. I absolutely love having a dick in my mouth and Michael screwing me, or another man screwing me or giving me oral. Our therapy sessions are very interesting when we discuss this. I think many of us do it as a favor. I know some say they can orgasm from it, I don’t without other things happening.
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1 pointNot all of us can succeed in the endeavor, but the "in sickness and health" thing does set that standard. I have witnessed some cases of that kind of devotion , at least two involving several years of 24/7 complete personal care. The spouses were scary impressive in their devotion under duress. I am grateful that, thus far, neither myself or my spouse have been thus challenged. I like to think that I would be up for it. You never know until you know. None of the impressive spouses mentioned above thought of themselves as special. Their Loves were in trouble and they reacted. This case is a different sickness, but it still is a couples problem. The question on him is how to best be of positive support. This is more like an addiction problem than having a spouse with a stroke or MS.
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1 pointNot into the cuckold kink specifically, but a screened stranger is what I originally wanted, too. I thought it would be drama-free and easy to back out of any social fallout from the experience if we didn't like it. Still lean that way and suggest that to others. However, what ended up happening in practice was that she needed a high level of trust to get over the hurdle and do it, and got a "referral" to an old friend's ex-husband. The two of them play together and he'd often fantasized about her when she was babysitting their child. (No age difference, just something she did for them back then.) It worked perfectly. Once she got over the initial nerves and got her top off, she had no qualms sucking his cock, and he was visibly thrilled with the experience. It was just the way I imagined it, and we met them again for hard swap in our hotel room the very next night. A lot of teasing from his ex-wife about finally getting to screw the babysitter. The first time we did work with a stranger, she grabbed him off a beach in Naxos. He struck up a conversation while she was sunbathing topless and I was getting us drinks. I doubt he could believe his luck when we invited him to hang out.
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1 pointAn excellent, succinct post. You covered it all in four points.
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1 pointIt's a favor I do for men who love me and treat me well. I can't orgasm from anal (can any woman really?) but I don't from giving oral either. But doing vaginal/anal DP brings me to good orgasms (similar to regular screwing with him putting a finger in my bum) and it's psychologically satisfying. OTOH, I hate having a dick in my mouth when I'm screwing and trying to cum. Not only that, I require him to go through a ritualistic cleansing process that involves harsh chemicals and scrub brushes.
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1 pointI am flattered by your wanting me to give my view on this. Two points. As with many terms in the general non-monogamous lifestyle, the words “poly” and “polyamorous” mean different things to different people and get thrown around loosely. For us, it defines our family as being very tightly bonded by emotions, love, sex, children, finances, and a shared home. Although we can’t have a traditional marriage among us (and don’t expect society and the legal system to recognize us as a married fivesome), we have tried to cement the bonds among all of us by a number of other means to achieve the same ends with agreements drawn up by lawyers, accountants, insurance policies, tax experts, commonly owned real estate. We even have plans vetted by our attorneys of who should marry among us if certain things (like death) should happen. It helps that every child is biologically the products of a mix of only us in the family. In short, for us “poly” means as tightly together as possible. But there are plenty of other interpretations given in the posts above and no official definition anywhere. Second, it is up to you, and only you, to decide what is right for you. If the couple that you are involved with is changing the arrangement among you all in any way (emotional, sexual, financial) you all need to talk about it. If it no longer suits you, leave. I, and all the others in my family put the others first, most especially the children. We are all generous with the others in our family. If you are not getting the respect to which you are entitled - honesty, transparency, fairness – have a serious conversation. If it is not what you want, you must be prepared to move on. It doesn’t matter what you call it – poly, a throuple, polygamy, fuck buddies, friends with benefits, swingers – the point by point attributes of you relationships with both of them must align with your needs and desires. Your concerns are genuine. Choose the best course.
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1 pointUnlike the Swinger Lifestyle polyamory and polygamist relationships are far more complicated. There are relationships, feelings, a deeper connection/friendship that can happen in the swinger LS when couples/single/solo participants become common and steady playmates. It can border a polyamorist lifestyle to some degree but the couple involved maintains a primary relationship but not necessarily exclusive relationships. Some poly relationships also include the swing lifestyle while remaining emotionally attached to primary partners. Most often polygamy does not include Swinging or partners outside their family environment. Developing a loving, connected, emotional relationship in monogamy is challenging enough. Sharing, growing together establishing a life together and goals the give and take in relationship for two compounds greatly when three….four….five or more are attempted. Certainly doable. Certainly can be very loving, supportive etc as with any monogamous relationship and like that relationship has to be equal across the three….four or more. In our experience we have both had relationships that developed with another but in the end did not become a forever relationship do to individual needs. With our additional developing female relationships one younger wanted children that I/we could not provide. Later an older relationship after two years, very close and loving…family health issues took her out of state for those family obligations. With the male relationship all was growing well and looking like a living arrangement in the near future……and circumstances beyond our control and his brought to a very sad and abrupt stop…..a sad loss. Communication and open sharing (not sexual) is a must and constant checking in with each other, sharing thoughts and concerns, needs, desires…..and the big issue, time. How to share time, time with, emotional and support time. And another big hurtle……..open. Being out as a thruple or quad etc. Because hiding it is the first step to distraction. we know personally several expanded living relationships that involve multiples. More that were called poly….but in reality only extended sex partner based that never really grew….or had a chance to. Number of “family members” the gender mix never really factored in. Nor did sexual interests/identity. What did work was the communication, emotional mix, commitment and willingness to give to each other what is needed at the moment. Again, not talking about sex. It is our belief that many “poly” relationships seem to all revolve around a third for sex. Not a committed poly relationship. As such someone is bound to be hurt, not get what they really need from a relationship…..devotion, emotional support and growth. A true three or more way relationship. And again not talking about sex. That is totally sepperate.
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1 pointThis is so true in our poly family. Together Clair, Lora, and I are much stronger.
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1 pointI use mine in the evening. I will strip down turn my radio on and soak while looking at the stars. Yes, my vanilla friends come over to soak and drink a few beers. They know ahead of time that I will be nude, they can be nude or wear swimsuits, most had seen me nude before because we went to high school together. We bring up all sorts of topics but try to avoid politics and religion. I really don't use my hot tub as far as sex and swinging. Neither me or K like pools or hot tubs for sex, maybe foreplay. Really it surprises me how many of our vanilla friends go nude. We have a 72 year old female neighbor that will jump in nude!
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1 pointI consider myself a fortunate person. I love to dress as nasty as I can and show off, and I have a husband that enjoys seeing me that way. Oh, by the way, he also enjoys seeing me with other men too, and that is what this story is about. We have had many threesomes before both with men and woman, but when we have had a man join us, he always holds back and does not give his all. We think it’s because my husband is there so we came up with the idea that would fix this. I was going to dress as a woman on the make, we would go to a club at a hotel in town but go in separately. I would take a table, and my husband would be up at the bar. It did not take long for guys to start making a pass at me. One man that asked me to dance was a very good-looking man: long hair, tall, dressed very nice. So we started dancing a couple of fast songs, and I asked him if he wanted to join me. We made some small talk and then a slow song came on, and he wanted to dance. This is what I wanted, to get close and see if he would pick up on my signals. And did he, he started grinding his crotch into me and then started working my ass with his hands. When we got back to the table, I slid in nice and close and let my already short black skirt ride up, just enough to show my pink thong panties. While we were talking I put my hand on his leg and he did the same to me. I let my legs open just a little to show him I wanted him to touch me. He asked me what I was doing there alone, and I told him my husband was flying in the morning and I wanted to have some fun tonight. Then he asked the question I wanted him to. He wanted to know what kind of fun I wanted to have. I told him I wanted to have a threesome with two men; his hand moved a little higher, so I took that as a sign he liked my idea. Then he wanted to know who the second was. I told him there was a guy at the bar that looked nice. So I pointed out my husband and asked him if he would ask him to join us as I asked him this I gave his crouch squeeze. He asked me if I was sure I wanted this guy too, and I told him I would know better after I talked to him. So my soon to be lover got up and went up to the bar. He sat down next to my husband and ordered a drink and at that point, I thought he had second thoughts. Then he started talking to my husband and then the two of them got up and came back to the table. When they got there, they sat on both sides of me. My lover put his arm around me, and I slid over into him. Keeping one hand up on the table and the other on his crotch. We all made small talk and then I asked my new lover if he minded if I danced with our new friend (that is, my husband). He said no, go ahead and have fun and he would have another drink. So I gave him a kiss on the cheek and got up with my husband to dance. It was a slow dance, so I was able to talk to him and tell him what this guy was like. All the time my husband's hands were all over me. When the song was over we went back to the table, and I told them I was going to freshen up, and my new lover should tell him what we were up to. While I was in the bathroom, I removed my panties and put them into my purse then I opened two more buttons on my top. Just enough that you could see down it. When I got back to the table the guys were joking and laughing; my new lover got up to let me in, and I slid as close to my husband as I could, then my lover slid in next to me. I asked them what they had been talking about while I was gone. Then both of them said sex and me, I asked my lover if he had asked our new friend about tonight and he just nodded. So I dropped my hand down into my husband’s lap and asked him what he thought about my idea. My husband played the part well, he told me he had never done anything like that and wanted to know if anything would happen between the men. I told him no that I wanted all the attention on me. At that point, I felt my lover's hand on my leg so I opened up a little to make it easier for him and so my husband could see. Then I told my husband not feel left out, and rubbed my leg on him. He put his hand down on my leg and started working up. Then their two hands met. My new lover moved his hand out of the way and told my husband to go ahead. I was so wet from the two of them and the booze that I set up and lifted my skirt a little more. So we ordered some more drinks and started talking so more. Then my husband wanted to know when we were going to get a room. I told them I had a room already and that they could not spend the whole night there. They both wanted to know why, so I said to them that my husband was flying in the morning and that when one left the other would have to go too. That I wanted a threesome and that I would need some time to clean up for my husband in the morning. So three of us got up and headed for the elevator when I got up my skirt was just covering my ass and I had so much to drink I didn’t care. We got into the elevator, and just before the door closed, I saw the desk clerk checking us out. The room we had gotten was on the 12th floor. When the door closed my lover turned me to him, and he was kissing me and working my tits. Then I felt my husband lifting my skirt and playing with my ass and kissing my neck. All the sudden the elevator stopped and the door opened. This really great looking guy got in and just stared at us with his mouth open. I wish this had been in the nightclub, I would have all three of them going to the room. My husband was trying to pull my skirt down, and I just put my hand on his to stop him. It must have been the booze. The guy that got in must have thought I was a prostitute or something, but at that point, I did not care. Then our floor came up. As we got out, I blew a kiss to the guy that got in with us. His mouth all most hit the floor as the door closed. We got to the room, and I give the key to my husband to open the door. When we all got in the room, I told them that I was their little slut to play with and there’s to have. My lover just stood there, my husband opened his fly and pulled his dick out and told me to get on my knees. While I was down there, there was my new lover's dick too. So I would take turns sucking and using my hands on them. All the time they were stripping out of their clothes, then they both pulled me up and started taking my top off. I have large breasts, 36D's, so I shook them a little. Then they pulled their pants all the way off, so I turned around and bent over to pull my skirt off. Then they walked me over to the bed and laid me down on my back. Then they asked each other who wanted to eat me first. My husband told my lover to have me first, and he would get some head. My lover got me to climax fast, then I told my husband I wanted him between my legs. So they switched places, and I started going down on my lover while my husband was pumping as deep as he could in me. Just then I could feel my lover beginning to shake, so I pulled him out of my mouth and stuck out my tongue and got him off with my hand. He shot past my tongue and down my throat. Just then my husband started to cum. He must have been turned on cause he came so much that I could feel it running down my ass before he could pull out. I was feeling great but was not ready stop, so we all got up and had a drink and a smoke. I sat in a chair and was playing with myself letting the guys watch and recover. Then someone was knocking on the door, my husband was the one who answered it. It was the guy from the elevator, he asked if this was a private party? My husband just looked at me since he could tell in the elevator that I like this guy. I had been drinking so much that I did something that even surprised me. I heard myself say to this guy that if he could keep up, come on in. It had to be the booze, I do not say things like that. So he came in, and the guys told him to strip and get a drink. When he had his clothes off, I got up and took him by the hand and led him to the bed. I told him he had some making up to do, as I laded down he was coming down on top of me then I could feel him entering me. This was just what I needed, my husband and other lover were watching us like we were a porno movie or something. They were both stroking themselves and talking, but I could not hear or care. All the sudden the guy between my legs started to cum, but he did not stop. He just kept going, this took me by shock. I love it, but it does not happen that often. Then both the guys came up and wanted some head. They were both as hard as a rock, then the new guy came again. When he had pulled out the guy from the bar was turning me over and lifting me up on my knees, he was going to take me doggie style. I love this position and moved to let him have me. My husband jumped in front of me so I could go down on him again. Then the new guy moved under me and started licking my clit while I was still being fucked, this made me climax in seconds. One guy behind me, one in front of me, and one guy under me. Then my husband pulled away from my mouth, and the guy under me came out. My husband told the guy fucking me to give it to me hard and did he. I started coming again, then I felt him coming. When he was done, he pulled out and then my husband turned me over and filled me with his dick. It was like this for three more hours, when one would cum then he would pull out someone else was in me. I lost track of how many times I came that night. Then my lover from the bar asked what time my husband was getting in, it was 5 a.m. already. I told them I needed to get cleaned up, they all gave me a kiss and left. I got up and got dressed to meet my husband who was waiting for me downstairs. The phone rang, and he said the guy from the bar left the hotel and the guy that showed up at the room had gotten off the elevator two floors down. So I met him in the lobby, and we drove home. When we made it home, my husband told me that he wanted me again. We made love one more time then I just drifted off to sleep. When I opened my eyes again, it was 4:00 in the afternoon. My husband was already up, and there was a rose next to me. He came in with a cup of coffee and told me he loved me and that the night before was the wildest thing he has ever done with anyone. He then led me into the bathroom and made a bath for me to soak.
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1 pointHi, Petra. As you probably know we swing very rarely. I don't see anything intimate or special about anal. When we do swing anal usually comes when I am bored with my partner, there is nothing to do I can't get anything out of him and want him to just cum so I offer it myself. Men usually get pretty excited and take my offer and come fast. Although they prefer to pound pretty hard toward the end and considering that we always use condoms when we swing, my bum gets pretty sore. I can and do survive, not a big deal. When I have a fun partner to play with ass play comes in a round 3 or 4 and usually it's more of a weekend thing when we used up all positions and just want do something fun and naughty. Can I come from it? Only if my pussy gets stimulated or clit. Otherwise, it's fun and enjoyable but I can't cum. My BF loves ass fuck and sometimes we have sessions when we mostly do ass play. We use vibrators on both of us, fisting, reverse cowgirl, my legs up, me riding him, doggy and whatever we can think of to make it fun. I come home and think ''Oh, the only hole didn't get filled up tonight was my pussy.'' Since we don't use condoms I don't get sore from him and he is not too big. He always makes that different moan when he enters my ass, it has a totally different sound of pleasure and satisfaction. Hubby gets in that mood too once in a while, when he is only interested in my ass. He is twice thicker then BF or most of the men I played with so it takes little more time to accommodate him, but once he is in, game on. As I said, it's fun, something different, just need to be in a right mood. The only thing is which may concern me about playing with new partner is I need to trust him enough to make is slow and take his time. If he is not used to ass fuck or overly enthusiastic he can hurt me and I will be uncomfortable for couple of days. About feeling detached ,yes, it's true, that's why it's always a last thing on a menu...
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1 pointWell, it's something Mrs had never experimented with in her 47 years on this earth. She recently started hinting interest about it, then one afternoon we were watching porn that had a lot of anal play. She was finally comfortable enough with herself to say "She's my hero" when the actress got DP. Minutes later we were into our first anal experience together (I have in the past). To add... if she told me tomorrow she wanted to do it with her playmates, I'd tell her have a good time with it. It's nothing I necessarily long for. We've played a few times with it and she wants to continue, albeit at a slow pace. She found it to be very intense. To her it still has a very "taboo" element to it, and she's not comfortable enough to do it with a playmate. The trust issue stems from her still learning to accept it, and partially because yeah, you could really hurt someone doing it. If she says she's ready to do it with others, I won't have a problem with it. I don't envision a situation where I'll tell a playmate "I really wanna put it in your ass." Mrs still wants to DP one day. And when she's ready, I'll certainly help her along with it. It's fun, she finds it very intense and has cum from it. We've used too much lube when we've done it and I haven't been able to cum inside her, which she is looking forward to. When I asked her about anal and swinging, she said she wasn't ready for it and wanted to keep it between us for now. That's cool for me. It's nothing I crave, and no one has told me they wanted it. Yet. To add... if she told me tomorrow she wanted to do it with her playmates, I'd tell her have a good time with it.
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0 pointsYeah, instead of thinking that it's a big deal for a woman to let a man put his dick in her bum, it's more amazing that he'd put his precious penis in there. What if she had Mexican for lunch?
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