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(I realize this is an exceptionally old thread, recently revisited) It's exceptionally rare that I disagree with Couplers, but... I would never, ever, ever, in a million years engage in swinging sex with a woman with a significant chance of getting her pregnant, or likewise a man to do so with my wife. Ok sure, your wife gets pregnant, she has the child, you raise the child as your own. Doesn't sound too problematic, does it? Except, it is. Consider; The child won't be certain of half of their parental medical background. This could cause problems later in life. The child might harbor lingering concerns their dad is not their dad, and the dad might not ever know their concerns. The child might some day get a DNA test. What if the parents are no longer among the living? Questions arise that will never have answers. Same concern; what if the parents are still alive and they ask? Now the child will know their father was a random fuck for their mom. For me, this is just the beginning of the potential problems. I won't inflict that on an innocent child-to-be. My wife and I have always taken strong measures to ensure we don't get pregnant and don't get others pregnant.

I'm glad that you did. I reacted in haste, particularly to the statements: OK, if you want to feel the men ejaculate, I can understand that; some women don't want to or can't take hormonal contraceptives. But sex has its fundamental purpose of creating new humans, so take responsibility for that. There are IUDs and diaphragms. But this situation (if true) goes further beyond that. She has a desire to set up a competition among the men to get her pregnant with the thought that she will conceive the most robust child. I don't think it works that way. What she will get is the fastest, luckiest swimmer. So it is a conflict between the husband and wife over the paternity of the child she plans to have, and apparently he doesn't want to go along with this plan, and I agree, but for a different reason. An article I read long ago said that upper middle class couples adopting children are often frustrated when they adopt a child from a disadvantaged background because sometimes the child doesn't grow up to meet their expectations. Despite the best schools, a stable family, etc., trouble arises. The article pointed out that a child's overall development in intelligence, disposition is half environment and half genetics. The adoptive parents can give him or her the environment, but not the genetics which they do share with their parents, siblings, grandparents and have set their expectations for a child's development. If they decided to chance a bareback gangbang (I can't believe I'm writing these words) and don't want to conceive, then use an IUD, diaphragm, or plan it during her non-fertile period. If she gets pregnant despite precautions, then consider an abortion. If you decide to have the child, then I stick with what I said above. There are many children who turn out well growing up in an adoptive home with the adoptive parents and the child not knowing their parental provenance. Although nowhere nearly the same, our poly family started when Clair became pregnant by my husband (she wasn't having sex with Red at the time), which was totally unexpected and unplanned because she was on birth control at the time. Our relationship was only beginning, and Clair offered to abort so as not to upset our nascent relationship. Instead, I pushed hubby and Red that I get pregnant as well so Clair and I could go through it all together. I went off birth control and over the next two months hubby and Red did it "pot luck" so I could get pregnant as quickly as possible. It was the best decision ever. (Reciting this, it does give me a little sense of what this guy's wife is talking about; it was an amazing feeling having two men trying to conceive with me. But keep in mind, both knew, supported the situation of what Clair and I were doing, and either man would be a responsible father just by himself, but Clair and I have the support of both.) On the other hand, if one of us conceived a terribly defective fetus or were raped, we would abort without hesitation. We are lucky to live in these modern times where the joy or sex can be separated from reproduction. Use those tools wisely.

Nobody is putting a needle in my dick unless my life or my penis itself is in mortal danger.

When we're on the prowl my wife will wear necklaces or anklets that communicate our intentions to those who are observant enough to notice

Good advice bbarnsworth. Welcome to the swingersboard Jjattala. As my eminent colleague above has stated, you likely won't have trouble finding a third to join you two. May we suggest that you put a bit of thought into exactly what you are looking for. Are you looking for a guy to join you for a "one and done"? Are you looking for an ongoing thing with this fellow? What's important to your wife in terms of qualities/characteristics of this person? What's important to you? As bbarnwsorth stated, they are numerous online sites that are gateways to finding what you are looking for; we agree that using that vehicle is likely your best option as people on these sites are all there for the same reason. Create a profile that states clearly who you are and what you are looking for. It would be our suggestion that you chat with any prospects, and then you (by yourself) meet with them and if they pass muster, then a meeting with the potential playmate and the two of you comes next. You, and your wife, need to be comfortable with any potential playmate otherwise this is going to create a problem for your relationship. Single males are plentiful in the LifeStyle (LS); take your time and think this through and the odds of you having a good first experience increase exponentially. Good luck to you both.

https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamanetworkopen/fullarticle/2792726 see this report in the medical literature.

https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/facts-about-female-orgasms-213802713.html

I found out something about estimating penis size recently. This was an actual study done, not some quack survey online. If a man's ring finger is longer than his index finger, he has a higher chance of having a long penis. They're also more likely to be nice to women. I'm really not making this up. https://www.livescience.com/49883-finger-length-in-men.html I encountered a guy in a group shower once. This was in the Navy. He had a very large cock. I'm sure he was a shower, not a grower, but I sure as hell wasn't going to ask him! Laughingly stereotypically, he was from Texas. I still sometimes fantasize about my wife playing with mr. huge cock. In particular, the two of them on their sides, him fucking her from behind, his hand on her breast, and she's moaning and looking into my eyes. Ok I gotta go now 😄

Sorry the forum has been so slow to respond to you. That's usually not the case! There are a variety of lifestyle dating sites. swinglifestyle.com is one of the most used ones in our area, but it might be different for your area. Such sites are great for finding single males who are in the lifestyle. Be aware; you have to do a lot of filtering to find good single males. There are lots of single males. Good ones are less common, but you can find them. My wife has had a number of good single men to play with. Two of them she turned into long term boyfriends, which worked out really well. I recommend you put something in your profile, some ways down in it, that asks potential single males to say something in their email to you. If they don't say it, they didn't read your profile. Delete, block, move on. Be specific about what you want. If you're going to a bar or a concert and are trying to pick up single men, be aware there's a fair chance they will be cheating. That's your call if you want to deal with that. We don't. If you go to the bar of a nice hotel, you might find nice men, but they'll be traveling...and likely cheating. Sometimes there are telltale signs, sometimes not. But, if you go that route there are ways you can be more apparent that she is available and willing, for the right guy. One of the easiest ways is to wear swinger jewelry, something fairly blatant. There are some rather good options on this etsy.com site (I am not affiliated, I just found it searching) https://www.etsy.com/market/hot_wife_jewelry I particularly like the hotwife anklets. If you go for subtle, you might not get the message across. If your wife is wearing a nice dress, she can cross her legs so that the leg with the anklet can be clearly seen to her prospective target. A bit more subtle, but there's sexy jewelry that you can get as well. My wife has a necklace that has two chains leading from it to nipple rings. Men can see the chains leading out of their sight towards her breasts, and it draws them in! There's lots of potential variety here.

Our therapist who always keeps a very straight face almost burst out laughing when I used Nessy as a euphemism. I have told men I want to see their Loch Ness Monster, some understand, some don’t have any idea. It’s no surprise that some men are bigger when flaccid which plays into my want of that first look of a man. A larger flaccid one reminds of all those pictures we see of Nessy sticking its neck out of the sea with that bend. Size is easy for me to estimate, I know exactly how wide my hand is, very few are two hands. I have been with men not getting totally hard, a few, no matter the size I still have fun, I never blame him or myself for it. Size is more important to me in that initial showing, less important in the sex act.

Am I the only one missing this? Did your girlfriend's best friend have a good time? Did you give her a couple of Os? Since she was stepping down a size or two in dick size, were you extra skillful? Did you give her oral? Did she have to go back to her bf to finish off? It's good that you like watching your gf getting fucked and enjoying herself because if you don't take extra good care of the other woman, that's all you may be doing.

An interesting way to play, I suppose. The nudity of the people in such a situation is a common undertaking, and I don't mind if someone wants to look at me. I too will part my legs slightly to improve the view. I find myself looking much more at other women than the men.

As nudists we try for an even all over tan with no pale creases around armpits, buttocks and genitals. I would say that is pretty much true of most of the crowd at the AANR facilities we visit.

A cuckold is the man whose wife is unfaithful. I am not unfaithful because I have sex with Michael’s knowledge so he’s not a cuckold. I am not demeaning him by having sex even if some of the ungrateful guys try making fun of him.

And that's the beauty of it couplers; women, you are all beautiful.

My hips are somewhat narrow. What others find interesting is how the front of my hip bones stick out. And without much of an ass, you have to put a pillow underneath.

My belief is that if it is consensual, it's not cheating. Any agreement can be modified by further agreement of the parties. For us though, it doesn't matter. Since I already had my relationship with Red when David and I got married, we left "forsake all others" out of our vows. David was monogamous with me at the time, but I didn't want to be too obvious by making our vows non-reciprocal. My parents were astounded that Red was even at the wedding since he was my ex fiancé.

My wife sees other men/couples more like three to six times a week. It is not for really long sessions, but she's young, sex is fun and recreation for her. And yet --- Same with us. Talking about our past sexual experiences is what initially put us on the road to hotwifing and now swapping within a closed group of married couples. (Before we married, Daniela liked having relationships with married men and always met their unknowing wives. She likes it even more now that the men she plays with are married and the wives know, often most are involved.) Even on those rare occasions where she seems temporarily sexually spent, I can come on to her and with the right kissing, licking and fingering, she is as ready as ever.

I used to share my ex-wife, (she's my ex because of other reasons not her riding other men). The guys would cum in her and one guy in particular would have sex with her quite a bit. No contraception at all. I would do her after. She got pregnant with our second daughter and the time frame could possibly have been his but I have no idea don't care and never checked. It's my daughter period.

Me/us too. We started our marriage monogamously but then opened it up with Daniela playing with other men alone, then with me watching and/or participating. It wasn't because I was into hotwifeing, or cucolding, just because before she was my wife, Daniela usually had more than one lover going at a time. I sensed she missed the variety and adventure. After a while she wanted me there in MFMs, which she hadn't done before, then wanted me to play as well, so we got involved with couples. Something that I cannot deny my wife.

When ever we travel and have time in an airport or other public place with lots of traffic, we play a game. We call is maybe, maybe not, hope not. This is where we point out couples to each other and guess if they are or are not in the lifestyle.

If the girl is checking on me and her partner seems content about it, "DING, DING, DING, we have a winner"

Am I the only one vaguely horrified by this thread?