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These are legitimate concerns, you should never risk your financial and familial stability for a "good time". It should be noted, as an IT professional, that there is no 100% fool proof way to stay anonymous online. Trust me, coming from someone who was contacted on a swingers site by one of my former high school teachers, AND I ran into my sister at a swingers club (at the bar, nothing weird, pervs!). You cannot remain completely anonymous online if you plan to swing IRL All is not lost, however, there are a few first steps you can do to help limit a good 90% of that risk or more. - Keep your face(s) private! Don't post your faces as your public profile picture, or if you do, obscure it in some way. Wear glasses, or if you just gotta show off those baby blues use a mask, we all have a ton of them now! Then if you get to know someone open a few face pics temporarily. Most LS sites should allow you to "lock" certain albums and allow you to grant access to whomever you choose. They also in most cases do not allow for saving pictures, though screen shots are a thing. Keep in mind that these LS sites will almost always watermark your photos for you to offer a little protection. - Block Free Accounts! This is a big one. Most employers aren't going to want to spend the money and take the time to create a whole profile just to try and find an employee, even if you're outed by a snitch coworker. Imagine trying to explain to the accounting dept why a paid subscription to a swingers site is charged to the company account, or to their spouse if they decide to use a personal account instead, AND they're certainly not going to want to explain to the IRS why it was written off as a business expense. - Use a general location in your profile! You are swinging not coordinating military campaigns, there is no need to use your exact location. Let me explain before the haters pounce. If you live just outside a major city, like we do, (in a one horse town nobody has ever heard of) just round up so to speak. Within a limit of course. If you live 150 miles from the nearest major city, use the absolutely closest town someone may have heard of. For us, it's Williamsport, PA, we usually get a hotel there when we play, our "visitors" can usually find it easily, and most people have heard of it because of the Little League World Series. Then once you get to talking to people and get to know them you can drop the "well we're actually from {insert town name}, but we tell people we're from {insert city name} so they know where we're talking about" conversation on them. - Don't use your real names! - At First This is just like the others and sounds worse than it is. When you first start a conversation online use initials or nicknames. Then when you get to know someone, you can formally introduce yourselves, usually before you meet IRL. These few things will significantly reduce the chances of an employer or family member finding you. At some point somebody is going to get fired and try and classify swinging as a "marital status" or "sexual preference" (I know that term is not used anymore and frowned upon, but it fits this situation) and there may be some protections offered against termination based solely on that "preference". Until then, keep smart and swing on!

Welcome to the site! All great advice above. We've always followed the strategy of to find swingers, go where the swingers go. So either clubs, or online swinger sites. Most people don't "get" swinging, and that includes single guys, either truly single or cheaters saying they are single. Even those within the lifestyle often don't get it, and when you are talking some random dude at a bar, the odds are going to very low on finding one that understands the situation and where he fits into it. But, if we were going to try that route, then here's what we'd do. Have her do the approach to anyone she thinks she might be interested in. She invites him back to your table to "have a drink with me and my husband." If he bolts at the first mention of the husband word, then there's your answer on that one. If he comes to table and you pick up that he is all puffed up under the mistaken idea that you obviously can't satisfy her, then there's your answer on that one, now you just have to figure out a way to make him go away quick. But, if you can find one that clears those two early hurdles, then just spend some time chatting. Everything keeps going good where he is interacting with both of you, then maybe she asks him to dance. If he still sticks around, then maybe the next dance, she sort of drops the hint to him what you all are looking for. If he reacts well to that, then once they are back at the table, all three of you get down to the nitty gritty on what the deal is, and if all are still good, take it from there.

I would consider a partial retirement. Nothing would stop me from eating pussy!

I love sex outdoor, nothing like having sex on the deck and the neighbor's dog comes over to watch. We like to find a trail camera and have sex in front of the trail cam. So many different sex scenarios when outside.

I put "Always," but sometimes my wife and I do not kiss, even when having sex between ourselves, for two reasons. The first is when one of us is having a very non-romantic fuck doggy style with a partner where not kissing is part of the milieu. Sometimes it even happens between my wife and me. The second situation is when either or both of us is fucking one partner while orally engaged with another person. We find it particularly hot (and bonding) for Daniela and me to kiss while one or both of us is engaged in intercourse with someone else. When most of our closed group is able to get together we can do more the orgy thing where one couple (not married to each other) stars screwing while their mouths are on other genitals or mouths. So kissing a partner you're screwing isn't prohibited, it just doesn't always happen.

If a woman wants to put a lubed finger in my ass, I enjoy it. I don't ask for it and it doesn't happen often.

Some people inject their dick after oral ED meds no longer work. I would retire.

We never did. we started dating in High School February 1976. We were a bit advanced for most our age. Not shy about being nude…..skinny dipping etc. We were a custom to being nude with each other and from time to time would secretly be nude while swimming in local lakes. Swimming out to the bouy line at the public beach and hang our suits over the ropes and slip them back on before swimming ashore. Always slept nude and sat at home nude until the kids got older. But we still found us time. A lighter version until my daughter was 17ish…..allowing us to venture out. We are both very open minded and accepting of others. We have not assumed much about anyone or their lifestyle as long as it harms none. Yup, Pagan, Celtic with a dash of Clan/Tribal spiritualism. Guilty as charged. We have been to many non sanctioned “nudist” areas as well as nudest events and organized parks. The closest to us is as many are family orientated so any form of outward affection is frowned on and sexual contact activity gets you banned. They do not even allow jewelry, worn or pierced. we have been to adult camps and camping trips that are nudist based, yet open about activities. You would see non swinger nudists enjoying their SO as well as swinger activities by nudists….yet most often never shared between the two. Campsite by campsite….camping area by group area. just like labeling anything activity or people as an assumption in any walk of life would be a grievous error so would assuming that just because they were nudist they were also swingers or that just because they were notice that in an adult only gathering there would never be any erotic touching or stroking or more with Store not qualify them to be swingers and just as swingers would get nude to enjoy sex play with someone else or others or in a group situation does not mean that they are also comfortable being nudist in public. we live in an interesting yet a bit crazy world don’t we isn’t it great we’re not all the same.

I found women look to other women to share more than men look to men.

Yes and no. We have met new friends with our participation expanding each time we meet. Lin has never been a big anus fan and would at times give me the pleasure of trying with mixed results. With our new found fun it looks like everything is open for experimentation including taking it in the butt and since we read these comments and many more things we never discussed. Lin read this post and asked me my thoughts and I said if she wanted I was willing to play with a penis that close to mine. The other night at our new friends place Linda said she wants to do a double. She pointed to one friend and said she wanted him. Now I shrugged my shoulders and said let’s go. From my vantage he looks about my size down there possibly thicker I think. My thought then was I thought I would watch her with two of the men, think I wasn’t fully in with being with another dick near. Linda insisted. I was told to let Linda take me in while she was on top, Cowgirl, and he would do the work. It’s not as easy as it sounds, I tried to stay still while the other wife got us prepared and Linda’s butt lubed. After a few attempts I felt him in her. I didn’t think I was going to feel that. I know this crazy but I popped almost as soon as he was in. I tried staying hard while he was sliding in and out, nature said no. I got out of her and he continued for a few minutes. About an hour later Linda shouted out who wants to double fuck her. Wow. Again I shrugged and said go for it. What ended up was a triple penetration, me in her mouth. I think I have to work on control for the next time.

I was taken to a nude resort by a photographer I worked for. (He said I needed to work on getting a full body tan). I should add that I'm an orphan, so I had no family to object. We arrived there late on a Friday, I remember, and were invited to stay with the owners in their small cabin. With our clothes locked in the car, we all sat around in the common space cross-legged, and drank wine. I wasn't used to drinking and it hit me. The owner made the statement, "You two have to be initiated, so we get to watch." The photographer openly took me and I didn't resist. During the night, the owner took me too. I was introduced that weekend.

I happen to have a pretty wide pussy for being so small, but muscular, so I love a good DP and DVP, so size doesn't matter. I like to have my hubby rubbing with another hard cock and then they can lean me up afterwards. I did do double anal twice and actually liked it when younger. Laura Dave and Laura vegas nude couple

A number of years ago my wife and I were having a threesome and it turned into a DVP. It was a very enjoyable experience so we did it again a few weeks later.

In the early 70s we hiked up to Nevada Falls in Yosemite and my girlfriend and I fucked next to the river in a sleeping bag it was really hot. Another lady friend and I took the logging road right before you get into Yosemite and drove in about 2 miles stopped the car put out a blanket and fucked our brains out with her on top right on the road. My X wife and I wanted to have a full moon fuck so we walked to the beach and right on the Cliff we got naked and I bent her over and fucked her doggy style under the full moon. Sex in the wild is really wild.

This is probably where I am. When a lady is willing to mess around with me back there, I seem to want to do more for her. And if she might have some area that she is unsure as to whether I might be interested, I think knowing that I have broken through a social more could give her the resolve she needs to let herself go somewhere she has thought about, but hasn't yet gone, too. I guess I'm kinda curious as to what a real one would feel like but haven't been able to convince anyone that I'm not Bi just because I might think about it. There definitely is a stigma involved and it's just a realm that, so far, not many guys can discuss with each other. Fem D and I have anal sex fairly regularly and she seems to enjoy it more every time. I love it when she remembers that I like it too... Male D

My husband LOVES anal play on himself. But I think he is actually very embarrassed by this; maybe he is not aware that it is a commonly held enjoyment, but he really does enjoy having a finger or a dildo up his ass while we are having sex. There is so much stigma attached to a man’s being bisexual, which he isn’t, but I think he is not ready to be open about his anal enjoyment simply because of this stigma and the social mores and expectations placed on men to be “straight”. One of his biggest fantasies involves anal play (on himself) but he doesn’t want me to post it anywhere on our ads or talk openly of it … and I know that’s because of the shame that society almost forces men to feel about certain aspects of THEIR sexuality.