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Welcome! We're glad you're here So, let's get the blunt part out of the way. Single males in the lifestyle are a dime a dozen. There's scads of them. GOOD single males are a lot less common. So, how do you make yourself a good single male that a couple would want to play with? Here's a few tips: Set up PAID profiles on various swinger sites. Find one or two that are popular in your area (sdc.com and swinglifestyle.com are two of the more often used ones). You can start free and see how many couples are in your area looking for single males, but once you settle on one or two, then pay. If you don't pay, nobody will take you seriously. Don't be short in what you write on your profile. If all you have to say is "I like hot, sexy fun! Let's hook up!" you'll get nothing. You can write well about what you're looking for, what you're hoping for, what you can offer, and why they would want to choose you. Don't be the prototypical stupid male and include dick pics in your profile. Women know you have a dick. Honest! There's manual somewhere that says something about men having a dick. You don't need to prove it by providing a picture of it. If you have professional pictures of you, use them. You can blur out your face for your public images, but being able to see your face is something many couples will want to see. Put those in your private gallery that you share with interested couples. If a couple is communicating with you, don't treat them like a hook up. Treat them like it's a first date, and you're trying to show what a great guy you are. Do not treat either of the people in the couple with disrespect. They are both part of this. If you're straight, you don't have to play with the husband. But, treat the husband with a lack of respect, and you'll get nowhere. The couple may want to know why you want to be in the lifestyle. Some couples, like us, will be looking for telltale signs you are married and cheating. We don't play with cheaters. If you aren't really single, don't bother trying this lifestyle without your spouse. It won't go well for you. There are plenty of good reasons why a man may be single and not actively looking for a long term partner. My wife had two such men as boyfriends for years. Be honest. If you get to the point of possible playing with the couple, make sure you understand their rules well. You don't want to inadvertently cross a line, and end the evening early. Respect their rules. Don't try to gently push the boundaries or anything like that. Stay within the boundaries they set up (if they have them). Understand the husband of the couple isn't being an idiot allowing his wife to get some with another guy. It's not like that at all. Many husbands, myself included, enjoy their wives having all the sex filled fun they can have, and actively enjoy watching their wives have sex with other men. We're not stupid. Treat us like we're idiots and you won't get anywhere. Understand your role; in some ways you are little more than a live sex toy. That's not to demean you. Just understand where you fit in with this. A couple may only want to play with you once, even if you're great. My wife and I choose to keep single guys around if they're great. Some couples don't, because it can lead to emotional complications. Just be clear about your role. That's some good ground to start with. Feel free to ask us more questions! Others will probably chime in with advice here too.

After reading it twice, commit to memory. Especially the part about not pushing boundaries. The single man that has been part of our fun for years now, waited patiently in soft play mode for a long time before we invited him into full play. It has been that way for 3 years or so now.

We're not gonna top that reply from @bbarnsworth. All we can add is that some single males do very well in the lifestyle while many don't. So read @bbarnsworth's reply twice.

Twice, at the insistence of my wife and the wife of another couple, I've had homosexual sex with the other husband. We did both oral and anal, each side of it with the others. You may not think it is possible, but I came in both their mouths and asses and didn't enjoy it. Same with being on the receiving end. The girls thought it was amusing. Haven't done it since and don't plan on doing it again.

We were on a hike with another couple in our group. Usually the guys walk and talk together and the women do likewise, but this time he was with Daniela and I with his wife about 40 feet behind them going uphill somewhat. She and I were talking about our work. He and Daniela stop and Daniela pulls down her shorts and off one leg over her hiking boots. He pushes down his shorts partway and starts fucking my wife doggy. The other wife and I just stand there watching. As the show goes on, she grabs my hand and kisses me deeply. They finish, pull up their pants and continue on. The thing that sticks in my mind is the sounds in the woods (including Daniela's moans and shouts) while we were stopped and silent. The rest of the hike we talked about sex, including what we were going to do later.

I prefer small to medium but breast size would never be a deal breaker. Not a fan of implants as a rule, so I’d vote that you celebrate the real you.

Part of me thinks I went into slut mode as a way of getting back at him. That and I figured since I was single I should have some "me time" or, what's the term people use today, "self care". Not to get to deep but being married now, I think my reluctance to get back into the LS stems from not enjoying and being some what forced the first time. Where as when I was single I did what I wanted to do. Just afraid being married might (in my mind anyways) make things more complicated. Sorry I'm going off on a tangent.....

Time to turn fantasies into reality. Ask your wife which other two men she wants to have sex with, and it shouldn't be difficult. Enjoy the adventure.

Thanks for the reminder. A balcony is not "the outdoors", but I really enjoyed (several times) sitting naked on the balcony of our hotel after sex with one of my guys, looking out onto the ocean, and being eaten out. By him or another love. We've done it in the winter on a ski trip as well looking out at the mountains on a sunny day, but I kept my clothes on and did the oral on Clair and Red after they finished inside. Clair inside the room and Red inside Clair.

During my first marriage after a couple years things were not going well. My then husband talked me into swapping a couple of times. I felt uncomfortable and never was able to relax and enjoy it. I kept telling myself that if I went along with it, it might help the marriage . Of course it didn't. I think the main reason he wanted to swap was he wanted to fuck other women and really didn't care about my needs. Soon after that I found out he was having an affair with a coworker and we divorced. I was able to have some fun after the divorce, but part of me wonders if I swung a bit just to get back at him in some strange way. Though once divorced I was able to relax and enjoy my sexual encounters.

Just fyi we have not swung as a couple. Marla did a bit of swinging a long time ago before I met her. We still talk about it once in a while but as of yet nothing. We joke never say never...... Porn helps sometimes but I find my imagination works best. A few years ago we had been out wine tasting, Marla was a bit buzzed and we came home and were fucking. During a break in the action out of the blue she told me that her first husband had talked her into swapping a few times. She didn't really enjoy it that much. But after they divorced she had some fun with a group of friends that would meet up 3 or 4 times a year. Previously she told me they were just group "camping trips", but she then confirmed it was more of a group sex weekend getaway. Anyways, she continued to tell me about some of her past encounters. This got me rock hard again almost instantly. To this day when I think about some of these encounters she told me about I still get hard. Just writing this post and thinking about them is getting me erect. Main fantasy is visualizing Marla with 2 men....one can always dream. lol

Yes I keep it completely shaved! I am 62 and look like an 8 year old below the waist! I love to get oral so I keep it hairless for the convenience of my partner.

ABSOLUTELY NOT! Why would you ask such a question? Maybe because you never wanted to see them again? I don't care about big or small. I have enjoyed them both but mostly enjoyed the woman behind them...

Well I'm Bisexual and I'd never snub a woman I was clicking g with for smaller boobs.

It's not just big and small, although I agree my wife and I like all the different sizes, it's also the shape, how they hang, how they bounce. And don't get me started on nipples! The variety is wonderful.

Obviously, those in my poly family like my tits well enough. Among the three of us girls there is a good variety of me being tiny, Clair being fairly large and Lora nicely in the middle. My point in commenting here though is that of all the other guys who have commented on me being small breasted (at the gym, at work, running partners, etc.) secretly, down deep, really want to have a peak at whatever is actually there.

When I was younger I was very self-conscious of my late development. I never met anyone who ran because I wasn’t big.

Just speaking for myself as a pansexual person, I have big breasts and I am probably most attracted to smaller breasts in other women. Something about the contrast really does it for me on a mental level. That being said in general I don't tend to scrutinize or linger over other people's bodies in a bad way. Maybe some other people are different but when I'm mentally attracted, I naturally focus on what I find attractive about their body and everything else kind of fades away. Even stuff like amazing eyes, big hands, a really delicate neck, etc.

I know no woman who is completely happy with what she sees in a mirror. I suspect that if you know how others perceive you, you would feel lifted.

I have two friends with breasts that are probably smaller than yours and both of these ladies are extremely popular in the lifestyle. They are wonderful, sexy people and I'm sure you are too. You are enough.

Yes, we met this Asian couple, and we both were very attracted to her, she was really special and the chemistry between us was so high, but her husband... he was a guy that in other circumstances I would never ever even think to fuck. We had a little chat and we decided to proceed and play with them. I did my best to "speed up the things" with her husband, I managed to finish him before she and my husband were done. Then I joined them and we had a really good time with her. Later on we all decided to go for a second round, I knew this time I was not going to be that easy for me to "speed up the things" so I turned the situation in a foursome were most of the time I was in direct contact and participating with the girl and my husband. Honestly, I can't say it was a bad experience, they have tried to organize dinner with us again but we haven't played with them since and probably we never will.

I was out fishing with a friend just yesterday when I caught a fish. One of the guys that was with us made a comment about it being a 'small salmon'. I quickly pointed out that fish are like breasts: what is more important, the size of them or just being able to see them? Size doesn't matter, seeing them is all we care about.