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None of us drink beyond one beer or glass of wine. Quite frankly, when I'm having sex, I want to be as sharp and aware as possible to enjoy the experience. To me, getting drunk before sex shows that she doesn't enjoy it.

Sure, it's nice to have interest. Yes, I'm glad you liked our profile. I say, hey, we're interested, just need to find time to get together and Kik with y'all. We get together last night and do that, they don't answer, and then this morning I've got five messages... Hello? So you guys are new?You there? Hello? Oh well.... Never mind... Jeez. In less than 12 hours I went from interested to cold... Because of a little impatience. Just a rant, really.

I would never depend on a partner for birth control, I take responsibility of my own body.

I’m a woman but can say if a man enjoys it why not do it. I had a lover who took my hand and placed it on his butt during oral not know he wanted my finger in there until he guided my finger in. I thought I was doing a very good job with him in my mouth when he kept say deeper, I already was full deep throat on him. Your finger deeper was gasped out as he reached the point.

Please grant me the liberty of throwing a wrench in the works. Alcohol. And its role in "taking one for the team". When we meet with couples and the other wife (my potential partner) has been drinking heavily, I have to ask myself; why? Is she simply nervous, and to overcome this does she need 8 drinks? Is she not happy with the whole swinging thing? Is she taking one for the team? This has not happened often, but the few times it has, it puts me on my guard. Also, I must confess, that for me, the issue of consent also rears it head. My wife and I were just discussing this situation today; for us, the issue with alcohol has been one seen more frequently with women than men. Odd.

How (short of producing a medical report) can you prove to someone that you HAVE been snipped? Now a condom cannot be lied about...either it's there or it isn't. Also, as already mentioned, the risk of pregnancy is only one reason to require a condom. Wrap that rascal or it's a wrap.

I've always enjoyed when a woman does that unexpectedly during a blowjob. One particularly memorable occasion at a swing club with a random couple we met that night graduated to her clasping her hands and two index fingers together at her waist and getting behind me and mimed fucking me. She surely enjoys pegging but didn't have the equipment on hand. I thoroughly enjoyed that but I could certainly see that being a problem with people who have hangups.

Something weird about people who get angry when their instant gratification isn’t satisfied. By you.

It is a non factor! Condoms are going to be used regardless. Guys seem to think that saying they are snipped is going to allow them to not have to use a condom. Wrong.

Condoms cut down on sensation and STIs. You make your choices… Even though condoms are hit or miss for HPV and HSV, they can’t hurt and must afford some protection. And they work against other STIs. We go condom for intercourse.

We are the same. It's interesting that the final frontier in swinging isn't French kissing or bareback or anal, it is caring. I have an intense, two-dimensional attachment with one of the women in our group - our fondness for the arts (which has taken us out of town for events) and sex. The way I love her (and my wife and her husband know that I love her) is strictly a two dimensional thing, and that our respective spouses mean much more than that. Our plays and concerts are something our spouses have no interest in, while the sex is something shared. My wife's primary outside love is another couple. Their petite vie is centered on no specific interest other than FFM sex.

I emailed a couple my wife's kik Id at 10 pm. The next morning there were 5 messages, then a long nasty message cussing her out because she didn't respond. My wife is far too nice and took the time to explain that people work, sleep, have kids, and very busy lives. She also explained that she doesn't have notifications turned on kik, and only checks kik once a day. She also informed them we only get out maybe once a month, so meeting us can take awhile. She got another nasty response back. So we just blocked them on both kik and SLS. It seems there are people that just don't understand life. There are many couples like us where swinging is a very low priority, and we respond only when we have extra time, which may be the weekend or even the following week. People also seem to be offended when you say lets meet and then give a date 3 weeks or a month from now. Seriously, if that doesn't work, our next time to meet will probably be after the new year. If you are impatient or get offended, you will miss many of the "real" couples that do actually meet.

Just like some people take too long to meet, others (usually noobies with too much excitement starting out) have too little patience. This is a HOBBY and just about everything else comes before it (as far as we are concerned). If it happens, it happens. It isn't the center point of our lives and there's always another couple coming along...