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RnT, if you are not pulling our legs here and if your sexual relationship with your physician did not predate and end before your professional one, your doc is skating on very thin ice. The AMA says sex with patients is unethical. (See first link below.) Most of the legal websites I looked at (see second link for an example) agree with the AMA position and make note of potential legal liabilities in such cases. I did find one legal source (third link) that argued for some gray areas. One was almost ridiculous in its narrowness: A physician at an Antarctic research station perhaps should not be forced to be celibate. One I found thought provoking: The sole medical care provider in a relatively isolated rural community. https://code-medical-ethics.ama-assn.org/ethics-opinions/romantic-or-sexual-relationships-patients https://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/sexual-relationships-with-patients.html https://medicaljustice.com/is-sex-with-a-patient-always-unprofessional-conduct/ Putting that last example aside for the moment, I would be leery of seeking care from a physician who flouted medical ethics. What other ethical or legal dicta, some of which might compromise my care, might they be contravening? I’d be interested in the thoughts on this matter of some of the medical and other healthcare professionals on this board. And pruriently, Rock n Tits, was your doc a good fuck? 😉😂

I have been on a few vanilla dates while traveling and my policy is that if she knows I have a spouse, I tell her the truth that my spouse knows I'm there and it's fine. Mrs. E has been in the opposite position. I've only one date end over it, and on amiable terms. If they don't ask, they probably don't want to know, that's the reality of Tinder, etc. I don't think the "big picture" about swinging and other people is really their business. With that said, I wouldn't put someone in the position of thinking they have to pretend and I'm not totally clear from the question what she thinks the situation is. Does she know your wife approves or does she think she's doing scandalous with you and has to pretend it's spontaneous? The former I'd be open to, the latter, nope.

Our doctors know of our poly family situation because of the fundamental reason for sex - children. Each of us women have had babies by both men, but that of itself isn’t the reason for the doctors to know; lots of people have had their kids with different partners. It's because when one of them has to be taken to the doctor it isn't always the bio parent who takes them. (Enter the lawyer who knows all our intimate details.) So there isn't a problem when nappy haired Lora shows up with Clair's blue-eyed child for care. The only one of our kids whose paternity wasn't planned in advance was my first. Clair had gotten inadvertently pregnant by David (she wasn't fucking Red at the time). She and I had previously talked about going through pregnancy and birth at the same time, so I went for it "pot luck" with hubby and Red just to get the job done. We didn't know which man had won the race when I visited my obstetrician, so sometimes Red would go with me, and sometimes David.

Hoo, boy. I have questions. I guess first, what is it you want from this single woman? You seem unsure how to feel about the whole thing. Are you titillated by the idea of cheating? Of her "giving herself completely" to you (aka falling in love with you)? Is that something you want to happen, or is it something you're trying to avoid? I'm not a fan of dishonesty, so I don't exactly get warm, fuzzy feelings if, for example, a single woman thought my husband was stepping out on me and she was totally okay with that. It speaks to a lack of integrity which would naturally extend to the way she deals with other things, too. At least the logic would follow. I'm not anyone's babysitter, and I can't tell them how to manage themselves, but if I knew that a playmate was actually married and fucking around behind his wife's back...just saying...there comes a point where I get to make a decision about my involvement, too. And I've got enough bad karma already. A former friend of mine had a disastrous 3some with a homewrecking coworker - she had to get absolutely shitfaced to go through with it 🚩 because her husband was dead set on this happening 🚩. She worked with this woman 🚩, whom she knew had a history of breaking up marriages for fun 🚩. She went through with it but didn't remember any of it, then had to go back to work with this soul-sucking vampire woman who emotionally tortured her by saying things like, "I wonder if J is thinking about you or me right now?" 🚩 Oh, and she gave her the clap. In her throat. 🚩Good times. Anyhoo, if you're seeing any red flags like these popping up, maybe back up a bit and talk to your wife about your concerns.

I don't like it. If you're going to be a cheater, cheat. If you're going to be a lifestyler, be open and honest.

I live in a rural area and there was a kids camp where the club that sponsored it couldn't afford upkeep and had to put it up for sale. They sold it to a group that turned it into a fancy deer camp for out of state deer hunters during hunting season, but the rest of the time it was used to host swinger parties and never a complaint because it was private property and the property was so big nothing could be seen from the closest road. It was the perfect set up.

From a physician. The doctor-patient relationship is delicate and sacred. It is not a contract, it is a covenant, much like marriage is a covenant. Professionalism has to be maintained at all times. There's no good defense for the evolution of sexual relationship when a physician is actively treating a patient. If it can't be discouraged with a clear explanation of why the relationship cannot go beyond the professional relationship, the patient should be referred to or seek a different treating physician. It's not just the patient, by the way. It's not unusual for a family member of the patient to flirt with the physician. It's best to stay away from immediate family as well.

For me as a woman, anal can feel good but is never orgasmic. I prefer if a guy or woman just fingers my bum when fucking or doing oral on me. On the other hand, DP is really nice, both physically (great orgasms) and psychologically having two men in me cumming in me at the same time. The usual advice - plenty of lube and go slow. And the guy in back usually cums very quickly, so the overall timing is better if he's going for his second orgasm.

It was 20 years ago and yes she was

She suggested because of her age she only have anal sex with small cock guys but her Pusey is open for big business lol

Wow. I never quite thought of it in those terms, but you're right!

I’m a woman but can say if a man enjoys it why not do it. I had a lover who took my hand and placed it on his butt during oral not know he wanted my finger in there until he guided my finger in. I thought I was doing a very good job with him in my mouth when he kept say deeper, I already was full deep throat on him. Your finger deeper was gasped out as he reached the point.

None of us drink beyond one beer or glass of wine. Quite frankly, when I'm having sex, I want to be as sharp and aware as possible to enjoy the experience. To me, getting drunk before sex shows that she doesn't enjoy it.

Thank you so much for your detailed answers, Numex. We appreciate you taking the time, and making the effort to answer our questions. Good luck to you and your group!

Be honest with both women then ask what they would like to do. For your sake I hope they don't toss you aside and just get with one another.

You need to tell her you and your wife are swingers, and that your wife is completely onboard with her being around. Stop being dishonest.

If she knows about your wife, why didn't you tell her that both of you are swingers. If you get both in bed with you, do you think they will enjoy each other sexually? If you do pull this off and get both together in bed with you on vacation, how are you going to feel next time you go on vacation and your wife wants to bring a man on vacation to share a bed with you and your wife? What's good for the goose is good for the gander, right?