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About your worries Normal enough. There is always some risk with anything new. Choosing a new grocery store, or doctor, first dates, first day at a new job. Can / will something go sideways? Eventually, probably yes. How big of a deal will it be? It is most likely that will be entirely up to the two of you. For the most part though the things that go awry are little things that blindside one./ How you agree to approach such things makes all the difference. Our rule is that we both appreciate that neither of us will ever do anything intentionally to hurt the other. That rule turns any "bad" experience into a learning experience and therefore a growth experience. Yes there is the rare, occasional thing we hear of in the LS, that to anyone would qualify as an unmitigated disaster from which there is no recovery. Those are mostly either very predictable because people are not thinking ahead, are not well balanced , or truly know each other from the start. Others are the stuff of myth and fable.

The enemy of jealousy is communication, truth, honesty, and love. I know that no matter how 'good' someone else may be in bed, we are still going home together. Sometimes one of us even learns something new that our partner enjoys and we can add to our own intimate times together. Keep talking, set your boundaries and limits and don't exceed them, never move faster than the slowest person is comfortable with (there's no reason to rush anything) and you should be fine. Also, one of our original rules that still remains in place is that when one of us says no, we both say no (no matter what it is about or for)...and if one of us wants to stop, we will happily stop, no questions asked, and take the memories and enjoyment with us as we leave.

If you’re both sure you’re ready for this then I have one simple piece of advice that can make or break your experience and possibly even your relationship……Your first time, you both should concentrate on the other person…..NOT YOURSELF. If you make sure he’s having a better experience than you and he makes sure you’re having a better experience than him this can be awesome. If you focus on yourself and ignore him….or vice versa, that’s when things go to shit. Both you and your husband should ask yourself one simple question to see if your ready…..can you look in the mirror and see yourself honestly saying “ wow, watching you fuck that other person is a huge turn on! If you both can do that, your go to go. If either one of you can’t see yourself saying that…..RUN, don’t walk away from this. I don’t know about you but my marriage is worth way more than sex.

I could speculate (because it's better to give than receive?), but it's a mystery. My advice is to embrace that feeling. Don't try to deconstruct it. Let it all wash over you like a wave and enjoy the complexity of it all. Best of luck and please keep us updated.