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Was this “date” more about him or you? Not a therapist here I just wonder if the lights on were for him to see your beauty as a woman not as a sex craving person. I’m thinking if you were meeting a married man for sex you would want a virile experienced man who would please you, not a man you had to give a biology lesson to. And you had him see you fully naked without comparison to any other woman.

Addressing this post, no random meeting is absolutely safe, my feeling is it is safer, random pickups are dangerous. My AM meeting was completely different from any other man I met just for sex. I knew this when I set up the date, not expecting a highly charged sexual night. He did not lie on his profile or in our conversations prior to meeting him, he was a true novice to sexual anything. I assured him that it will be fun for him but he was nervous about being with me. He kept talking about his wife and kids, showing me so many pictures. My understanding it’s an upbringing of his wife that is the problem, sexually repressed. The big take away is that he had sex with the lights on and saw what a naked woman looks like.

Teens are wired to explore. The idea of "putting a lock" on any exploration is just than, an idea. We said "no" to drugs in our home. That didn't stop our daughter from trying marijuana. As for putting a lock on exploring sexuality, the best you might do is delay. The question is, how much of a delay makes sense? Giving time to reflect on the impacts and risks (STIs, pregnancy, breach of confidence) of intimacy makes all the sense in the world; "not while you live in this home!" is a strategy that is likely to fail and certain to harm things like trust.

My ex wife was with me on a nude beach in Jamaica, I was sitting in a lounge chair at the beach and she was laying by the shoreline. A young man was walking the shoreline looking for shells. He and my ex started talking so he sat down by her. My ex said they started talking about all the nude people and he stated that it was the first time on a nude beach for he and his wife. The conversation turned to sex and my ex could see he was getting an erection and the conversation got even more graphic. My ex said that she was flattered has he was now at full erection. He apologized for which my ex said no problem, and continued talking dirty to him. She seen that he started squirming and told him to let it happen and he ejaculated 3 long squirts of cum. He waited till his erection went down and left to sit by his wife. Has anything like this happened to you at a nude beach ?