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IRL does anyone else look at others at wonder if they are swingers? We are now playing a game where I see a man and ask my husband what does he think, he looks at the woman and gives a thumbs up or down. My husband never has a problem talking to strangers, I’m usually quiet and tell him he’s never going to meet swingers with random conversation. Reading comments on here we understand that talking before doing anything is very important and all the talk we are having is fun fantasy talk. He asked me if we picked someone up what would be the first thing I would do with him, I ask him what he would do with her. The real question he asked me was how would I feel watching him do what he said to another woman. Made me think 🤔

It is nice to get the chance to suck another man's cock but why? I just did this for my man and wow he loved it! Two friends came over and I did what he wanted to be the very the best I could be.

When one reads this sort of article on CNN https://www.cnn.com/travel/article/best-nude-beaches-world/index.html It's pretty clear that nude recreation has become mainstream.

Been with gf over 5 years now, sometimes feel like sex life is getting boring. She's mentioned fucking other people before but we never did it. One day her best friend and her bf are visiting us. We have a few drinks and eventually we play truth or dare. Truth or dare ends with the 2 girls making out naked. I go over start fucking my gf and the other guy does the same. Eventually move to bedroom and switch partners. I'm happy with the friend but while I'm fucking here I see the bf fucking my gf. I'm not insecure about my dick, it's a good size( 7 inches) but the friends bf had the biggest cock I've ever seen. Must have been 9 or 10 inches and very thick. My girlfriend was squirming and she told me she came three times while fucking him. I think I enjoyed watching her get fucked by that massive cock more than I enjoyed fucking her friend. We're visiting them again soon and I hope I get to watch him fuck her again. Any tips?

Talking before doing was a crazy exciting time for us as we focused on the friends we were invited to start with. Excitement and fear are the two dominant feelings we experienced and the reason we joined here to ask questions. There are plenty of opinions from experienced educated posters that can guide and answer questions even if none can know your deep feelings and insecurities. Keep talking and keep asking, you will know when it’s right, then still have the fear.

I usually take the pussy but I can do either. Having the guy get a nut out before going in her ass in DP is probably a good idea.

For purposes of this thread the question remains, however - when did you two become non-monogamous? Were you already committed to a life of non-monogamy before you met? Was it later, but still early on, before you were married? Was it during the early stages of marriage? Or was it as empty nesters moving into a different stage of your lives? Whenever it was, in retrospect, would you have done anything differently? For most couples, it's when they want to have a child. Although for us it didn't preclude soft swinging, including Daniela performing and receiving oral. Anal was out because the openings for the two passages are too close together. She was back at full play after her pregnancy was confirmed.

There are a few other non-hormonal, non-condom BC methods I've used, but it's mostly been 'VCF' - vaginal contraceptive film. Comes in a box of 4-8 foil packets. It's a small square of semi-gel she inserts. You're supposed to wait 10-15 minutes before sex, and add a new one each time. I thought they worked great. Portable and discreet and little imposition. Maybe an idea. I think the sponge is available again, but I've never used it. Only info I have about it is my ex's friend got pregnant using it. Apparently doesn't work so well if you've had kids, which she didn't know. I really wish there was BC for men. I know there's a sperm-blocking injection that's being explored, and is in use in India. I'd go for that.

Indeed there can be lots of duds. As you've noted, with 'vanilla' dating you get the same problem. We use a lot of filtering mechanisms to help weed out the duds. One thing we do is have a passage in our profiles that they need to say something like their favorite color in their contact email with us. That way we know they actually read our entire profile, rather than skimming trying to hookups. If they don't do it, we delete and block. AdamGunn is right; don't bother with those who have not paid. Ok, any idiot can have a few bucks to sign up, but it adds at least some certainty that they aren't drive-bys looking for a hookup who have no clue what the lifestyle is about. In person, if it's a single male we look hard for signs they are cheaters; missing ring on their finger (often easy to tell) for example. We also ask why are they single and in the lifestyle. Some guys have legitimate reasons. Others... it can get obvious rather quick that they are cheating. Also, anyone who is pushy is turned away. We started swinging in 2008. We've only had one true dud that we played with, and that was a couple. There were some who were not so good, but no other duds. There were a fair number...maybe half?...who were duds that we or my wife never played with. Along the way, we adapted based on our experiences and others relating their experiences here. We felt that if you find a couple or single who is a good match, and fun/good in bed, then keep them around for a while. Ok, you loose some sense of excitement over time as it's less "new". But, you gain not playing with our trying to sort out as many duds. This is how my wife had two long term boyfriends (not overlapping) lasting for years, along with a couple for over a year (and counting). You also gain intimate knowledge of what makes them feel good and vice versa, which is something that's hard to achieve on one meeting. It's not that you want a partner to add on to the partner you already have. It's picking up a play partner who is fun to play with from time to time, without the aspects of a full relationship wrapped around it. If you decided to try that route, you and your husband will need to figure out how your own emotions and that of your play partner(s) would work into that. The more you play, the more chances of more involved emotions developing. Some couples avoid that like the plague, some don't. We don't, and it's worked well for us. That might not work well for you, or it might. That all depends on what the picture in your mind is showing you :) Swing clubs are not all alike. There's commonalities, but there are also differences. In terms of the place, there's usually some common area where people socialize, and another area with separate rooms where people can play. Rooms have doors of course. Some clubs have a rope like you would see at a movie theatre that can be attached across the opening of the room, which means "It's ok to watch, just don't come in". I saw one club that had a window for each room. If you left your curtains open, people in the hallway could watch you. Clubs often have a general area where people can play in full view of others as well, if they so choose. In terms of people, you already know what swingers are like. You might be asking, "How do I know THAT?" It's easy. You're already doing it in you and your husband checking out other people and sharing they're a yes or a no. The average person in a store you run into is what you see among swingers. Swingers are not all Adonis or Aphrodite. They don't spend 7 hours a day 7 days a week in the gym. We're all just typical average people. Some better looking, some not so. Some more conversational, some less so. Some great lovers, some less so. The spectrum of society you see in your day to day world is the spectrum of society you see among swingers. That's who shows up at swinger clubs. If you're in a room with 50 other people, chances are rather high that at least one of them is a swinger. Can you pick out which one? Nope, because we all look like your average person :) Tangential; some people where swinger jewelry to let people know they're swingers. Some people like to do this on holiday, which lets others who are swingers know. There's lots of different options. Some are subtle, some less so. The most dramatic one my wife has is a necklace with a pendant in the middle, and two chains leading either side to nipple rings, which of course are under her blouse or dress. This tends to have a moth-to-flame effect :) You can look up swinger jewelry if this is of interest to you. It's a good thought experiment to consider. Everyone has their likes and dislikes. How someone else is might not be to your taste. It's also possible your husband will respond very positively to that, and that might not be what you want. But, another way to think of it; if he's having fun, is that a bad thing? He's not replacing you. My wife frequently will make sounds with a lover that I don't hear her make with me. She's not a "screamer" but she definitely makes delicious sounds when she's having sex. The first time I realized her sounds were different, it registered with me, and not entirely positively. But, that subsided quickly as I realized she was having a great time, and that's why we were there after all, right? She makes sounds with me she doesn't make with other lovers. It's not conscious on her part, it's just how she reacts. Don't expect perfect. It won't happen. You and your husband aren't perfect either; you're just perfect enough for each other that you married. There's an often quoted idea here; don't go into a swinging evening with any other expectation than having a pleasant evening out. There's no way that another man/woman or couple could ever meet all your expectations and hopes. Plus, having many expectations and hopes will lead to disappointment when they aren't met. If you go to dinner with a friends of yours (just friends, not swinging) you don't have any expectations of anything other than a pleasant meal and conversation. Think of swinging in the same way. You and your husband will have rules on what the limits are for the evening. Stay within those rules. Anything within those rules that is fun is gravy. Also, the diversity of the sexual experience you have with someone else is not something you can specifically expect; just generally. So, just imagine having fun, without expectations other than you and your husband staying within your agreed rules. There isn't a biological science book out there that will tell you that as a species, humans are monogamous. We're not. We've developed societies where the vast majority support and encourage monogamy, but there are many societies that have developed and still exist where monogamy is not the norm. Cheating us common; as many as 20% of marriages have one or the other spouse cheating. Among college age singles in a committed relationship, those rates skyrocket to 2/3rds. If monogamy were the norm among humans, those figures would likely be a lot lower. Our society has many pressures to be monogamous. We're effectively trained to be monogamous from early in our childhood. We have many structures in place to support and encourage monogamy. Thus, there's an expectation of monogamy. But, it's not how humans are really wired. You did the right thing by not playing with that couple. You weren't ready. You didn't by any chance get contact information for that couple, did you?

Unsure or afraid. How can we find a true connection by looking at profiles when it seems so unnatural and then I remember the duds I met on dating sites when I was single. Most guys overstate or brag, I know I picked a picture to post that showed me much more glamorous, my mother’s words at the time. I was uncomfortable the times I had dates from the app, you try to meet with an open mind then instinct takes over. I don’t think either of us are ready for a club, the picture in my mind is most likely not reality or is it? We read the post about meeting a couple on vacation that at first read was perfect, with deeper reading I notice the imperfections that occurred. I don’t know how I will react the first time and what would I do if the other woman took more control. I wonder who wrote monogamy is the normal way to live or is it just hypocrites lying to the world. We won’t be condemned to a place of fire for eternity, if we are there will be many religious pious preachers joining us. We are trying to find that comfortable spot, both of us realize we had a chance that came naturally, a way life is supposed to work, then we slammed the door of opportunity. I was taught opportunity will knock again and to be aware of that opportunity when it comes.

Not sure if we are up to that point of making contact on a dating site, looking at profiles is interesting. It’s interesting that we are even having discussions about this, discussing and having fun. We look as unpaid lookers, not seeing total stories attached to profiles we wonder how many are fakes, the majority we saw we have to attraction to due to age, location or admittedly appearance. I read your story and think that it could have been us if we just said yes to the invitation of joining them. It made me think if I could do what you did, alone with a stranger for sex, probably not because we said no. I hope the when or if we do take the next step that we have the same feelings you have now from a positive meeting. That is where we are now, talking fantasies, I know some of his past, he knows mine, both of us have nothing exciting or earth shattering to hide. He has met my old boyfriends, I met some of his former girlfriends. That scares me, how will I react? I’m a jealous person.

So many memories, good and not great ones. I try to remember that first night as a great night that lead to more fun and memorable times. I also try to erase the uncomfortable times that is all part of mostly positive change in our life. It’s many years now from when I saw my husband with the woman he slept with, naked in what was my bed. Even if my night was great I still had that jealous feeling of seeing her. My husband assured me he was thrilled that I had a good night. He asked me more, I didn’t ask him much. Our next day play has bothered me for years, even if I try to play it off. I had been the brunt of some jokes the times we met them later on. My husband enjoyed watching at my expense me having sex or a man having sex with me, totally different from the man I was with the night before. He enjoyed watching me be uncomfortable having a woman rubbing on my mouth for my first time, enjoyed being in a woman who orally made me orgasm when I didn’t want to. I still wish that next day didn’t happen the way it did, a day we no longer talk about, and now a day that changed me for what I like to say for the better. Better because it prepared me for things we eventually did together and alone.

We jumped in one toe at a time. It started by us talking about our past sexual experiences (interesting and sexy as well) and moved on to talking about our fantasies. as trust built, we just kept talking and asked if we wanted to try and make some of the fantasies come true. We kept talking and developed our own rules, limits and boundaries, even though we were both 'nervous' (for lack of a better word) as to what it could cause to our relationship. More talk and we set up a profile on SLS and started meeting people for dinners, just to see if there was any interest. There were LOTS of dinners that went nowhere other than a fun night out with another couple and some sexy talks as we exchanged experiences and the like. Eventually, we met another couple that we 'clicked' with and we started 'dating' them. We all talked and set common rules and modified them as we found them unnecessary (or just silly...we started with the 'no kissing' rule that didn't last very long) Next came same room sex, then soft swaps, then vacations, concerts, weekends, etc together. It has been an amazing experience! Nothing like having another couple that you are best friends with...AND you can get naked with. You don't need to jump into the deep end. You can just wade into the water and get used to the temperature. If it gets too cold, you can just as easily get back out. One rule that we have always had was if wither of us wanted to stop, we both would stop...never looking back, never asking questions. Since this is more than either of us thought we would experience, we are SO FAR ahead of the game and so much closer than we ever could imagine that it would be okay to just stop (but that hasn't happened...it might some day, but not yet). The only 'sad' thing is that the other couple that we had been dating for so many years finally had to move further away. Now instead of being able to get together as much as we liked, it's become a once every several months thing, but sometimes life intervenes. Just remember to always keep talking and don't rush things...you have your entire lives ahead so enjoy the trip as much as the destination. Good luck with whatever you decide and let us know how you are doing no matter what it is.

It is wonderful every time that you tell us the story, each with a little more context or detail. It immerses me in the situation and makes me think about the experience and how you felt. You jumped in with both feet, taking a lover. The next morning you saw your husband in bed with his wife... In my mind, it seems as though there is still so much to share; for instance, what was going through your mind as your husband looked at you for the first time afterwards? As I have often said before, I find these situations romantic, compelling,thought provoking.

Years ago on a vacation cruise we ran into a situation like yours, meeting a good looking fit couple that we went to an island beach with. The difference was the beach was clothing optional, a thing my husband and I discussed beforehand knowing we would never see these people again. It’s funny how something that we wouldn’t do at a beach close to home we now did with a few couples we just met. If you are like me you spent days shopping before your vacation looking for that perfect bathing suit that hid what you wanted to hide and made you feel sexy. So here I was exposing my self with nothing covering up flaws to strangers. Sure none of us are perfect but in our small group no one was too bad. That night with a little too much alcohol, I’ll always blame the alcohol, we and one of our new friends decided to swap spouses. I still joke they got me drunk to convince me, I know it’s my excuse if it went wrong. I went to his cabin, she went with my husband to our cabin. Being naked to a man on a beach is not the same as him undressing you to have sex, for me it came easier. Alcohol ease? Alone with him it went easy without much thought. As many times as I have repeated this first time I’m amazed how I enjoyed the night and how I enjoy reliving it each time I tell the story. What I thought was a one time with a stranger has become a years long more than friendship. People say the first time is the hardest, I say the first time was the best of many great times.

Her first ones were actually my friends and her coworkers. No regrets at all but maybe we are just lucky. I think a friend makes it easier because it makes the situation more comfortable and they are already screened. I am not saying everyone should choose a friend or that everyone would be comfortable with a friend but it works for us. I am also not going to say there have been no downsides to engaging with friends either as there are and have been but overall it has been well worth it. Having said that we've also had great experiences with strangers as well.

We decided to have a first with friends my wife’s choice. Most will say to stay away from friends because it leads to hard feelings and loss of friendship and to find a stranger. We went the friend way and it has worked out fine for all of us. As a benefit I get to be with my wife’s best friend.

We are vaxxed as part of vaccination protocol. Also Covid and Flu vaxxed. Maybe stupid vax should be developed because we always go bareback. Anyone say Cum Bucket.

So, my fiancé and I have had many long, detailed talks about trying just about everything there is to try together, to make new fun memories with each other and fulfill fantasies along the way. So far, the farthest we’ve gotten is sharing pics/vids with a few couples, solo F and solo M. We’ve kept it to people we know well as our initial thought is that we’d like the idea of trusting them to be clean, and also that we already have a connection to. What are your thoughts on what typically works out best, and what our next steps should be to attempt getting past the sexting stage…

It has become natural for me to watch her now and natural for me to give and get oral sex, not so much the first time. Our friends were swingers before we took our first play with them. My wife and her friend planned to get me to agree to swinging a thing I was sure was wrong. My wife was very eager and looking back I wondered if she and our friends had already done something without me, they all deny deny deny. My wife never seemed bothered or afraid to go between his legs and take him in her mouth, it went too easy no stopping. I watched her enjoying as I got to enjoy her friend who steered me to my own first time. I now enjoy watching her enjoy whatever she does and I enjoy most of our play.

I definitely prefer my wife performs her oral's skill on other guy's cocks for sure as long as she enjoyed it. Luckily,She has no objection to that saying since it's already there why not enjoy it beside she loves sucking cock.It's a routine to suck my cock to start then the fucking came along.

I want to see my wife get gangbanged. It is a fantasy of mine. Have any other husbands wanted to also see this? Are there any women out there who also fantasize about it? How many men should there be? Any suggestions? Did you enjoy it if you did engaged in one and what did your partner think afterward?

Experienced this last weekend. Met a bi m/f cpl for motel play. We all agreed to bareback sex, since all three produced written records of our latest test results beforehand. She was very nice, and an expert @ what she was doing. He was toned, and pretty hot, with a PHAT cock, very thick. He expressed that he wanted me to fuck him while she watched. So we all got naked & he and I started sucking each other. He then rolled over to the doggie position. I lubed his ass really good. This was only his 2nd time bottoming. She came over to the bed as I slid my stiff cock into him. She maneuvered herself underneath him, 69, with her nose rubbing my balls with each stroke. It was an erotic moment. He started grinding his ass into me as I was balls deep. She stated she wanted me to cum inside him, and he concurred. As I neared the point of no return, she started licking my balls, and that's all it took. I sprayed my load deep in his ass, while he was moaning & grinding against me. When I exited his hole she sucked his cock. He unloaded, and she said it was the biggest load she'd ever had from him. It was an experience not soon to be forgotten. They expressed the desire to meet again, so he could fuck me. I agreed wholeheartedly

Mrs. fit enjoyed MM Play, being in the middle, sliding cocks in asses, etc. She enjoys CD's who enjoy getting fucked and filled and cleaning up. One of our favorite scenarios is ANON sex, where I'm licking Mrs. Hot wet pussy ass up, and a stranger comes and starts to fuck me. Eventually, we switch it up, where he's fucking her from behind, I'm under licking her and his balls and offering a place to empty into or clean up.

My husband is perfectly okay with whatever I want to do and I do oh so love sucking cock. I am a cum addict. I love cum play and love to share it as much as I love to share sucking cock. He has never asked me to suck another man’s cock but he does openly tell me how hot I look doing it especially when the guy takes my head and begins humping my mouth. And when more guys do it back to back, he says he feels as if he will himself explode at any second. Of course I am all about that! I do love that he enjoys my addictions and has opened up to sharing with me. For me it is something I simply love doing adding him to the mix now makes it even more of an addiction – yummmmmm! I love having his face right there with me.

In joining the LS she found out that she likes putting on a show. And she really likes giving blow jobs. The first time in a club we had sex so many times in so many rooms I couldn't walk straight for a week. It really turns her on and I get turned on seeing how hot it gets her. As mentioned above the look on guys faces as they get a back breaking, eyes rolling back in your head blow job...... priceless.?

I think it goes back to the old adage, when asked what a perfect woman was one man said, "a perfect woman would be a cook in the kitchen, a lady in the parlor, and a whore in the bedroom?" Then the other man replied, "My perfect woman is a whore in the kitchen, a whore in the parlor, and a whore in the bedroom. Men may enjoy the prestige of a proper wife but behind closed doors they want a wife that truly has an insatiable sexual appetite. They want us to give into our sluttiest desires, and what is more slutty than tasting another man's cock, and sucking it dry.

I don't know about other guys, but I like the way it looks. I think a woman sucking a man looks very sexy... and I can't really appreciate it the same way when the man is me, because the sensations of being blown distract from the visual impact. I love watching the show... which works perfectly for me because my wife loves putting on a show.

Our best swinging experience was inviting a very good male friend into our marriage. For us it was the it was what we would consider a poly relationship. Him & I shared my wife and he had even lived with us for a time.

If another guy does your wife on a regular basis let's say he's longer and thicker than you & we stay active for 3 months inviting him twice a week where he gets to have 1 on 1 with wife anywhere from 45-60 min's in a Threesome twice a week for 3 months straight. And I have her 3 times a week once me and her and the other would be threesome 2x's a week. My wife knew I was 6⅛" when we started to be intimate but knows I lost some length but she thinks I'm around 5¼-5½" but I'm actually around 4½-4¾" in length. My girth is right at 5". For the New guy he's Right around 7" and girth slightly over 6". After awhile would my wife after 3 months would she not be as tight as before? & will she desire to have him like maybe just once a week just him and her without me and other times a Threesome If this happens this is where I definitely share equal time wit him. Share your thoughts and advice

I remembered this post from before. We have been playing with my husband’s best friend for a few years now. It was my husband’s idea. My introduction to group sex was based on a bisexual feeling I didn’t know I had. The only men I played with were at parties or my friends partners. We were newlyweds and my husband got to experience all my college girlfriends who partied. I never expected to hear that my husband wanted our friend to join us. I didn’t want to ruin our friendship, I truly like him as a friend. Fast forward a few years and I can’t remember the time before we started doing this. He is the only man I have one on one sex with outside of my husband. My husband travels for work and many times our friend keeps me company. It has not hurt any relationship. This most likely will not be as successful in most relationships.

Agreed 100%. True for my wife and even for me as a guy, I don't want to just fuck random women. I want to know her and like her, and that leads to feelings. As I've mentioned before, the wife of one couple and I go to cultural events that my wife and her husband have no interest in, while they screw. The other wife and I will only have quick sex or none at all. Same with us. We have no rules so there's no reason to lie. And we know how much we love one another because we know exactly where we stand. She gives me most of her time, energy and affection freely, not out of pretense or obligation.

This is exactly how we feel. My wife doesn't want to feel like a cum dumpster for guys that don't care about her. That isn't enjoyable for her. Sex is only good for her if she likes the person she is fucking. I would think regardless of who the person is, friend or no friend, if you are fucking them, especially on a regular basis, you would have to have some sort of feelings for them. Also, with regard to my wife "seeing him behind my back", she is a very honest person and I don't think that could happen... secondly my friend lives 8hrs away from us by car, and third my wife would know I want her to fuck him so she wouldn't have any reason to hide the fact that she was going to fuck him if by chance they were together alone sometime somewhere without me.

First, a big welcome to the board Imnewhere8484! You are definitely in the right place for couples who are curious about swinging, and as you say, not tripping at the starting line. My wife and I would never play with a married person who is playing without permission. We're into swinging to enjoy ourselves, to enjoy each other, and to enjoy the people we have sex with. We would never...ever...want to contribute to the unhappiness of another couple. Just the thought that we are effectively backstabbing the unknowing spouse, is completely repulsive to us. Even if she never found out, it's still 100000000000% wrong. Neither my wife nor I would do it. Think of it this way; she wants this guy because she could vet him for STDs. So, do you trust a guy to tell you he has no STDs when he's willing to stab his own wife in the back? I would never trust such a person, not in a thousand years. You can find decent single guys who are in the swinging world. My wife has found several, and has been fortunate enough to have had long term relationships with two of them. I would recommend finding singles guys on swinglifestyle.com, and filter them well. As in the vanilla dating world, there are going to be some of them that aren't worth the time of day. But, there are some great guys out there to be had, guys whom you can trust. To other points; you're going to have some uneasiness whether it's this guy or another. The first time your wife has sex with another man, even if you're very much looking forward to it, it still going to be a bit of a nervous moment. Kinda like they say...the first is never the best. Same goes for swinging :-) I've watched my wife have sex with a lot of men now, and it was definitely better with subsequent men. It was better for her too, as her own nerves were on edge the first time. And there's a piece of advice for you; don't judge swinging by the first encounter. A lot of what you are saying sounds great. The communication sounds wonderful, and the desire to help her achieve her greatest sexual satisfaction is a wonderful basis on which to take your first steps into this lifestyle. Chances are, she will love having sex with other men as much as you enjoy watching her do so. If you have any other questions or thoughts you want to bounce off of us, feel free. We're a helpful bunch here.

We have one couple that we play with regularly that will take it this far with the guys. My husband is the top and I absolutely love watching him fuck. The other guy is gorgeous, shaved and has a perfect small cock. He prefers to lay on his back so we can watch his cock leaking while my husband takes him. His wife and I play while we watch them and usually climax when we see the cum start to flow from him or if my husband pulls out and ejaculates on him. Super hot and super fun!

My husband has talked about wanting to suck a dick, and my fantasy always goes farther with wanting to watch him get his ass fucked by another guy. He loves ass play though and I enjoy using a strap-on on him. I really just want to let him experience how good it feels to have a real dick in his ass. I love it and I think he would too. Of course it would be so hot to watch him with another guy. Huge turn on, but I can understand if that’s just my fantasy. It’s his decision in the end.

We started with playing with my college friends and their friends. We added my husband’s best friend who has become the person we play the most with. I agree that playing with someone you know and like is much better than finding strangers. We now also play with my best friend.

All three of you seem to have thought it through. I would go for it in your situation, with two caveats: Get your wife to promise you that no matter what, you'll always be your number one. Understand that it's possible that you'll lose this other man as your friend. How to get it started? If you don't have a big thing about watching, simply let her know that she has your complete okay with this. Then invite him over to hang. When he gets there, tell them both that they should have some fun and that you'll be gone for two hours. Then don't bother them for those two hours. If you want to watch, invite him over and play some sort of a strip game. If they don't take the hint after that, well . . .

Thanks everyone for the advise! So I have a little more time to explain the situation now. So we all went on that Mexico trip a couple of years ago and there was obvious flirting between the two, the skinny dipping between us three at night in the ocean, and him coming back to our room for drinks afterwards for several hours...more flirting, and the discussing of our situation/open marriage and how they are both attracted to each other, the whole time my wife was sitting next to him in just a robe, nothing underneath. They both said they would fuck each other, but we were all concerned about crossing that line of doing things with a good friend. Cut to now, we went to the Xmas party at my friends house last week, and she knew she had my full consent to flirt with him as much as she wanted as usual. It got pretty obvious, my friends noticed! Lol! They were on the couch holding hands and had hands on each others upper thighs. So after that I have talked with my wife and my buddy and let them both know that I am 100% good with them doing anything my wife is comfortable with doing. My wife seems really into him, and that has been the problem with other guys she has fucked since we have been together...she hasn't been into them, and she says she needs to feel comfortable with someone for the sex to be good. She was attracted to the guys she fucked at the time in the past, but they were one night stands she met out at a bar in Vegas or such, and so she didn't feel comfortable enough with them physically to cum or for it to be really good for her. So I feel like there is natural chemistry between her and my buddy and this could lead to a GREAT experience for both of them...my wife may even cum for the first time with another guy. This is a natural situation of chemistry and attraction and I feel there is mutual respect with my friend and respect and love between my wife and I. I asked my friend how he would feel if this happened, and how he would feel if it all ended eventually, and he said that he wouldn't "be hurt or weird if it stopped or if this step did not start at all...hope you all would be cool with it too!". So I feel like after knowing him all of these years, and how he is, and knowing my wife that this could work out great. Obviously there are unknowns and something bad COULD happen, but that is the case anytime you invite someone else into your bedroom I feel. Maybe I am justifying this, but I kinda want to see what happens, they are so into each other and my wife is always soo in control about her feelings and not getting into this. I want to see her lose her mind over another guy, not divorce me, but just be begging me for another man's cock. My wife has said many times, this is my fantasy, and if it is going to happen, it has to happen on her terms and naturally...so I feel this is the most natural situation we have come across. They have obvious chemistry and attraction. What do you all think?

If you count myself as one of the men, then the most the wife has had within one night has been three guys (though not at the same time) and that is likely the limit. In asking her this question, she is not into the whole "numbers" and "quick fuck" thing and much rather have a personal session with one man or two that she has gotten to know ahead of time rather then then a multiple "just a dick with no name" slam-fest and it's really not something I'm interested in seeing her in either.

Hey if you are near Cambridge, Maryland...just tossin' it out there! The first time I watched one of my girlfriends give another guy a blowjob was in high school (MANY MANY years ago! LOL) while we were playing truth or dare at a graduation party. At first I was sick to my stomach watching her but after a few minutes he looked at me with a great big grin and said "DAMN! She's good at this!" and that was probably the true beginning of my deviant swinging life and I haven't regretted one minute of it!

I loved 'sharing' my ex-wife and now my current wife, who is just getting into the LS, with other men and for me watching her with another man is just plain out hot as all hell. Watching her suck another mans cock, which is probably more intimate to me than kissing, is very intense. Knowing she is manipulating the sensitive head with her tongue and turning him on and making him probably harder than he's been his entire life makes me proud, hot, horny, and very very turned on!

My wife went out of town to be with a male play-friend over a weekend. He told her that he had invited a few friends over the next two evenings. It turned out to be one big sex party, and she ended up fucking 9 guys over the next two days. A few of them more than once. At one point, it was three at a time. So, it was mostly a train, but part GB. I think if there had been at least 3 or 4 more guys, she probably would have done them.

I am obsessed wIth the fantasy of my wife doing another guy and or several guys at the same time. I have fantasized about this on occasion over the years while masturbating; now it is the only fantasy that gets me off!! I try to think about other women while masturbating but my fantasy always shifts back to my wife with other men. I think I am obsessed by this because I know my wife wants to be with other men; either a full swap or a MFM with another guy and me. If we ever go through with any of this it might make our sex hotter it I liked it or turn me off if I hate it. Thoughts and reality are never the same.

For a long time my fantasy was a gang bang (involving oral and vaginal sex), I've NEVER used a dental dam for oral sex, and I can't even begin to estimate the number of dicks I've had in my mouth. That said, my first attempt at doing a gangbang I did something similar to what you described. I went online and tried to set up a group of guys. My plan was to meet them in a public place (with my husband at the time) and then go to a hotel room. Of the 6 or so guys I'd lined up 1 showed up. We had a great 3some. From that experience, I learned one thing. It's best to stick with guys you know. I did eventually get my gangbang but all the guys were guys I'd met and was already comfortable with. I'd suggest you follow the same practice in fulfilling your fantasy. Even if it's just a matter of meeting guys one on one for a while until you've met enough to fulfill your fantasy. You said you are active swingers already, perhaps just lining up something at your local swinger club, or even just with guys you already know to make it happen rather than involving a bunch of strangers. It's not any more safe because they are married, but it is more safe if you know them and feel you can trust them rather than just having random guys show up that you know nothing about and have never met. Trust your gut ALWAYS.

Watching my wife with someone else, male or female is a huge turn on for me and she loves watching me with another woman. The very first time we did it with another couple was when we were dating. We had made love with each other while my best friend and his girl were doing it. We all just kind of naturally agreed to swap and it was awesome! After we had all cum I moved over to my wife to be, and spread her legs to look at here beautiful pussy dripping my best friend's cum. It turned me on so much that I got instantly hard again, and started fucking her again. Ever since we have each enjoyed watching the other. My dear wife has had a lot of gangbangs through the years and I usually wait til the end to do her. Watching all those guys fill her up gets me going!

Alright, I admit it I have had A LOT of fantasies about a gang bang. Such as going to a porn shop and going into the "backroom" and finding myself getting offered money to do like 20 guys, and I would have to do what they said, because they had paid me to. LOL I don't know how I feel about accepting money for sex, in reality. What do other women think? I had done 3 men at once, bf included, so if that constitutes a gang bang then I guess I have done it, I was blindfolded too which made it so much hotter for me and prob them too. So I'm sorry about the "slut" comment. I just think SOME women would feel that way that's all.

I get totally aroused when I see my man with another woman. I like to just sit back and watch because he is such a gentleman with the women. I like to see the woman squirming and screaming from him pleasing her. When we first started swinging with couples I thought he was going to be jealous of another man being with me but he wasn't and it made the situation even better.

The idea of my girl with another dude is very exciting, and let me explain why. Part of it is voyerism, and part of it is that I'm very turned on by her enjoying sex. And part is viewing her as a purely sexual object. When you spend the day saying "I love you darling" and such, it can be a little hard to go straight into animal lust.

I always swallow, but then again, I have no problems with it/because of it. I think it's one of the hottest things I can do for my husband. Sometimes, if there's a particularly heavy load, or if really am in exhibitionist mode, I'll let him erupt and lick him up ice cream cone style. I just love watching what that does to him.