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We were six couples originally, and added one couple. No one has left the group, although like anything, some play more than others. On weekends we usually get together in two groups, although people don't stick to just one group. It depends on who is hosting, when, the location, who else will be in a particular group, etc. The emails and texts are flying during the week making arrangements. It's also not unusual for spouses to split up between groups for a particular get together, depending on where a favorite play partner will be. Around every six weeks we all get together. During the week there is a lot of alone play, threesomes, and swaps where the spouses switch watching the kids while the other mommy and daddy are elsewhere fucking. Explaining to the kids may be a problem when they're older. The one couple that joined us after we initially formed weren't even really swingers, they had just done a little honest playing on the side. They knew about our group, discussed it and really wanted to join. We all talked about it, and tentatively let them start the process. First, the pledge to be monogamous between themselves, starting the multiple STD testing, and in addition come to some of our get togethers for soft play, let us watch them fuck between themselves, and they watch us. Although they both had had partners outside their marriage before, nothing like our group arrangement. We wanted to be sure that they both had no problem with a group environment, casual swapping, and him and her being hands on with multiple people. Everything went fine (the women talked with her, the guys with him during the week to assess where their heads were), they passed the STD tests, and we voted unanimously to let them join. They are also very fit and attractive. We had an everybody attends party after they were accepted. I worried that maybe it was too much for the first time, especially for him seeing his wife getting a lot of attention, but all is fine. I wish we could find another couple like them.

Compared to a vanilla couple, it is less likely that there will be cheating. With whatever is agreed upon in the lifestyle, there is enough variety and quantity of sex that there is a much lower need or desire to go beyond the arrangement than there is for a couple locked into a monogamous marriage.

I and my wife have known friends who played with their friends, some foursome swinging, others a single male for her. In some situations, someone either developed feelings. In others, simple misinterpretations of words or actions caused hard feelings. Not everyone who swings is an adult. It happens, and then it gets messy. It never happened to us because we never, ever played with vanilla friends. But it does happen. Not every time, but sometimes. You need to be prepared for the worst when playing with friends.

At first, Daniela and I were doing regular, couples swap swinging with condoms. We found that many people/couples really preferred and wanted to go bareback, but were afraid of the disease risks. A group of us (all married) got together, put a plan in place to be tested several times while only having sex with our spouses, and waited. We took an oath not to play with anyone outside the group on penalty of death. It took a couple of months and multiple tests, but after the all clear we had one big party with everyone. Now we sometimes all get together, but it is usually smaller groups and alone play. If you want to fuck outside the group, even with a condom, you have to leave. At least until more testing after being monogamous for a couple of months again.

My wife has had enough lovers before me that I don't need to fantasize, I just ask her to tell me another story. The stories that I find fascinating and turn me on are the ones where a married lover of Daniela would come to see her shortly after having sex with his wife. Saturday and Sunday mornings were frequent. Daniela found pleasure in giving him satisfaction that he didn't get at home. The more my wife tells me about her past, the more I realize how intricate her relationships were; especially that she felt that the guy's wife was present, even though she wasn't physically there.

Yes I will talk to her and see how she reacts to it, if she seems to like the thought of this I will see what he says in some kind of way

You are doing well by not pushing her. You've opened a door. It's up to her to decide if she wants to go through that door. Keep talking with her. Try to have the best communication possible with her. Tip; don't judge her comments, or she yours. Don't be even slightly sarcastic or make jokes about what she says. Trust is built in this way. She will learn she is completely safe in telling you her deepest thoughts and emotions. Many couples are not able to do this. Whether you get into swinging with your wife or not, this is still an important thing to do. If you do get into swinging, having this level of communication is quite important.

I was asked by "herbob" on a different thread how did I go from being an orally bi guy to topping other men from time to time. I thought it was a good question and would be interested in hearing from others how they got to the point of either topping or bottoming, which I personally don't like but whatever. The first time I ever topped another guy was during a swingers party my ex-wife and I had hosted at our home. My wife and I hosted a 'holiday' party where clothing was optional and sex was almost mandatory. LOL At the time we where playing full time with a bi guy who pretty much lived with us and who never wore any clothing while home. Which was ok by me because he was a shower, unlike me who is a grower, and I and the wife loved to watch it swing and sway as he walked or when he laid down or sat in the chair he would lift it up and lay it across his leg. God I loved looking at his cock and loved sucking it even more so! Despite his beautiful cock he had a really tight small waist and firm ass that if you didn't know it was a man's ass you'd swear he was a girl from behind. After the party I was still ready for sex but the wife had already had more than her share and as many of you ladies know she was sore and wouldn't go for any more but was open to "HIM" going down on her leaving me with full nuts and horny as hell. Despite my pleading she denied me again however while "HE" knelt between her creamy thighs licking her "HE" wagged his ass and said the words I'll never forget, "My ass hasn't been used yet so I'm nice and tight!" to which I looked at her, who was sporting a wide happy grin and his tight little brown hole and before you knew it I was lubing his asshole and then slowly guided the head of my dick into his ass. Just as I sank deep into him my wife looked at me and said, "Are you really fucking his ass?" and when I said "yes" she grunted and groaned the loudest I had ever heard her and she forced "HIS" harder against her pussy and she began to start to cum. It didn't take long before I emptied my own load deep in "HIS" ass. In a nutshell, pardon the pun, that was how I fucked another mans ass for the first time! I, and I'm sure others, would love to hear how any other guys got into topping or even bottoming.

We fully bisexual couple and love the oral and eating the spunk from another guy and love the feel of my cock as I slip into his ass and love him in me

We are part of a bare back full fluids sharing swing group and we all live close to each other and dirty chat is very much part of our fun

My wife is very, very skilled orally and to some extent has 'ruined' blowjobs for me as I've been spoiled and it's quite difficult for others to bring me to climax orally--only a few in the lifestyle have. Watching her perform is a sight to behold--it's extremely erotic seeing her fixated on the task, enjoying the process and looking watching the face of her partner as she's sucking out his soul. It's also very hot to see how another man responds to your treatment, losing their cool, speaking in choppier sentences, almost overwhelmed. Watching videos of my wife sucking other men is probably my most frequented porn.

OK, I'll say it. Sometimes when making love with someone in my poly family, I fantasize that (s)he has been having sex with someone who I don't know about. And (s)he is about to tell me.

Ah, but you do have one rule - It's okay to have sex outside of the marriage. And so, it's impossible for you to cheat. Those who haven't set up a firm rule about this are likely to overstep bounds, potentially hurting their partner.

At a party once four women got together to quadruple-team helpless me. It was clearly just a performative stunt. Two of them sucked my nipples, which did absolutely nothing for me. (I asked them to stop.) While I was reclined on a bed the other two took turns sucking my cock, which did a lot for me. 😉😂 Eventually I reached orgasm, ejaculating in the mouth of the woman who was then taking her turn. When my spurting stopped she raised up her head and french-kissed the other woman who had also been sucking me. It was a long kiss. I was totally spent physically and mentally; they’d left me pretty much in post-orgasmic la-la land. But if their object in sharing my semen was also performative I enjoyed the show.

Male half here. I’m the one who initiated the talk one morning after breakfast. I asked my wife to sit down with me in the living room because I had something I wanted to discuss with her. We had been in Amsterdam for only half a day a few months earlier, and we had wanted to go to see one of the live shows … but the cruise schedule didn’t allow it. I told her I’d been thinking a lot about how exciting it would be — to *me* anyway — to watch another couple having sex while we had it as well in the same room, and that I’d found a lifestyle club only 75 minutes drive from us and a bi-weekly house party right in our city where we could try to make that happen. She wasn’t the least bit put off and the rest, as they say, is history! 😉 The key point here is that I didn’t start out talking about swapping but rather just the two of us doing something really hot together. That’s a *lot* less threatening than, “So what do you think about the idea of us both fucking other people?” 😂

For me, when hubby developed an emotional connection for a woman, it intensified all of the feelings that I had. My sense that I had to reclaim him, his desirability, even my Lesbian side and the need to take her, eat her out. It was all good - it led to forming our poly family and our wonderful children.

The talk when it’s in the moment is just with a stranger, no one we know or anything particular, the part that also got me was her mentioning going bare with them also now if that was true and what she was thinking I’m unsure onit, don’t get me wrong as I stated it is hot imagining that dirty fucking with someone! And if she opened and said that she wanted to do that.. again like you said should I not criticise her wanting to go bareback and perhaps let that go ahead if it ever came to fruition?

The first time a guy cum inside me he didn't hesitate to eat my pussy out with cum in it

We were in a threesum, I was sucking the other guys dick and my husband moved his face towards mine for a kiss, but I mistook it, and offered him the dick, pushing it towards his mouth and he took it. So we then made out with the dick between us and sucked him off together.

I knew it when he screamed, “Yes Fuck ME, Fuck me in my ASS, Give me more COCK, fill me full of cum in both holes.” as he sucked one of our friends so hard he was yelping as was the guy who was fucking him bareback. My husband went along for the ride with me and bi couples we befriended over the many years, eventually giving a little here and there, until the day he did this. It still takes him a while to get to this point but he definitely gets there more often and in less time. There have also been a few times recently where I have gotten him so aroused kissing him after sucking some off that he latched on to a few of the guys without me even feeding them to him. And even though he never asks upfront for cock I know he loves it, as well as cum, and most definitely getting his ass cummed in. His orgasms are way to explosive for anyone not to love that. We have been very fortunate to have many extremely trust worthy friends who all get along smashingly.

I am a totally visual woman so I absolutely love this. I love to watch my husband stroking his cock and love to see him cum. Whenever we are with another man I love watching - I love it that they will let me into that secret world. It’s exciting to watch their cocks get hard and compare how much cum they shout. Getting steamy thinking about it!!

I got hard just reading that. I must say the moaning, groaning and body tensing up while I'm pleasuring another man is the hottest thing in the world to me. I usually have my left hand slowly moving up his lower abdomen towards his belly button (along the "happy trail") gently pressing harder and harder as he tenses up while my right hand is playing with the balls and jacking as I bob up and down on his cock w/my mouth. The HOT (literally) cum hitting the back of my throat is an unreal feeling. So I definitely agree, the cum is an awesome part of bisexual make play. It always turns me on when the curious ones will say "oh my god, I can't believe I'm getting blown by a dude...this feels so good". Makes me work even harder

****WARNING: GRAPHIC IN AN EFFORT TO EXPLAIN!**** For me (the male)/us it's the 'scene' of her watching me suck him and tasting them mixed together and anticipating feeling his hard cock pulsate in my mouth as I greedily take his entire thick load into my mouth where I swish it around, savoring the texture, flavor, heat, and most importantly taste, before gulping it down. Hearing him moaning and groaning under me as my hands grope and feel his tensing body with pending explosion coupled with hearing them BOTH telling me how much my efforts turn them on and how they love to watch me. Hearing my wife express her desire with the under tones of his grunting how he is about to blow his cum down my cum hungry throat just amps me up beyond any imagination! Before anyone says one of the words of many I hate the most: CUCKOLD. I'm NOT, nor is she, into that! For "US" it's not about humiliation, forcing, or domination it's about the exploration of turning each other on while enjoying the moment, the act, the outcome, and more importantly the experience TOGETHER. Turning someone ON to the height of total ecstasy is a power, feeling, emotion that is beyond words. So in short...go enjoy cum!!!

There's your answer right there. If you and your wife are happy, and you're not hurting anyone else, then live and enjoy. Congrats on embracing what makes you happy!!

I've never wanted or needed to wear a butt plug all day but I have for a couple of hours before having anal sex. It makes things much easier. Always do an enema before you put the butt plug in.

My idea of a good time: 1. Turn the porn on. 2. Turn the volume on the tv off. 3. Turn music on. 4. Take the clothes off. 5. Start having sex. Simplicity is beautiful. heh. Honestly, there could be a marching band going through my cranium while I was having sex and I wouldn't get distracted.

1. When we started out my wife knew of my teen sex experimentation, and the psychological pain it had caused me for many years. 2. After some years of swinging, we tried oral with several guys at the club and at home exchanges. I never did have a male cum, but it would have been sexy and erotic if he did. 3. At this moment, I would love to taste a cock before it goes into either Eileen or his wife, and then taste it after it has cum, and still wet with creme. 4. I also think it would be erotic to eat out Eileen or Doris while Don is using a small vibe on my ass, and then perhaps later butt fucking me while I am eating Doris or Eileen. 5. I have wondered what it would be like to be at a gay club in Seattle and really be reamed by a guy.; But with the AID epidemic, I will leave that to my imagination and stimulation. 6. I was once blown by a male -- and he gave me the very best blow job I have ever had. He seemed to know how to get every drop of creme out, and I felt so relaxed afterwards. 7. There have been other opportunities, but for one reason or another did not take them. 8. The description of "Tete beche" also sounds sexy and fun. 9. More than one of our female playmates has said that she would be turned on by male - male action. 10. As we have gone along, Eileen has come out more and tried more bi stuff with her girlfriends.

We are fairly new to this lifestyle, but I have discovered that the one thing that turns me on more than anything is seeing my husband with another guy. Luckily for me, he enjoys it too! In the few experiences we have had, things haven't progressed beyond him giving and receiving blow jobs, but he is very interested in exploring this new bi side of himself and I am very eager to assist him