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If they’re close enough, meet ‘em for drinks and dinner. If you hit off, you’ll get to play with a younger couple. If you don’t hit it off, you’ll still get drinks and dinner. 😉

If you can't afford to pay the few dollars it costs to join most websites, you may not be able to afford swinging...just sayin'

We STRONGLY recommend that you don't ever play with people who aren't already in the L/S. You need to have the mindset that sex isn't love and love isn't sex and all too often, 'vanilla' friends don't understand this. They can't keep the two separated and that leads to problems. How do we know? Ms. Gold and her ex tried swinging to save their failing marriage and decided to hook up with their close friends. A hot tub, some alcohol, and the swim suits came off and...pretty soon the other couples husband was offering to leave his wife for Ms. Gold. Only problem was that Ms. Gold wasn't interested in having a relationship with him, especially since he was married to one of her best friends. The wife quickly found out his plan and that was the end of the friendship and seriously damaged the other couples relationship...but that wasn't the end. All of the juicy details came out as to what they were all doing to their other friends and family leading to many awkward meetings. Lets just say it wasn't pretty and more than just embarrassing for everyone. Most swingers don't want to be found out by their vanilla friends...why would you invite a vanilla friend to find out. Also, just because he may joke and ask about something (that he most likely thinks will never happen), doesn't mean that he would actually be interested in it if he was given the opportunity. Best to keep the two worlds separate and not take the risk...

Or if you do post dick pics, don't send them out unasked for.

There most likely are. Try the swinger dating sites, like swinglifestyle.com. Set up a profile, PAY for the profile, and write a great profile. Don't include dick pics. Your profile is your billboard to the rest of the world. Make it a good one!

Obviously wise to be careful with personal info, etc., but I don't think it's as uncommon as you're envisioning. A lot of people have preferences that shift quite a bit when it's "just sex" and there's little risk of anybody finding out and it impacting their perception in their circle of friends/family. Mrs. E's first husband was 10ish years older. I'm almost 15 years younger. The couples we've played with were similar in age to her, but she gravitates toward grad students in their 20s for random fun. Now I'm around 40 and it's not at all unusual to get a 20-25 year old off Tinder who wants to suck-and-fuck an older man, or a 50-year-old woman on business with a boyfriend who wants a video of her getting a facial from a younger guy. Don't read too much into this. People have their reasons. If you seem to like each other, enjoy.

In general, I think a little caution might be warranted, but not too much. I’m in my mid-70s and in my two decades of being regularly active in the lifestyle It’s been my observation that a majority of couples/singles prefer to play with folks within a decade younger or five years older than themselves. But there are a lotta people in the lifestyle and you aren’t trying to fuck all of them. Before I took a pandemic break most of the couples and women I played with were 20 years or more younger. There may not be so many of them, but there are a sufficient number who are open to or even actively seeking significantly older partners. Their reasons are their reasons, but I’ve never been asked for remuneration. I have a date for play later this month with a couple 15 years younger I’ve been socializing with for over 18 months. The one partner I’ve played with since becoming active again is 30 years younger and I’ve twice had social dates with an engaged bi couple who are literally both young enough to be my grandchildren. The woman is very beautiful. (So is he!) They play together and separately. I assumed it would become a no-sex lifestyle friendship (I have lots of lifestyle friends I don’t fuck) but she says she’d like to include a sexual dimension. I think they are both at a point in their lives where they want to experience as much as they can. If I’m the beneficiary I won’t complain. (After our first social date I had sufficient information that I could check her out on LinkedIn. She was precisely who she said she was. And I know her industry and her position. It’s a great job and they truly don’t need to be running financial scams on old men…😂) From the other side (and as I’ve posted on this board’s previously) about 10 years ago at a party I played with a couple in their mid-80s, who had been enjoying ENG sex since before it had a name. Why did I join them. It was a spur of the moment decision; I wondered what it would like. It was enjoyable.

Don't be shy to ask. I was not a big strap on fan but did it for others. My husband at the time was not either. Nowadays we have so much fun doing it. It had nothing to do with gayness. Flat out, it feels amazing when done well and the only way to do it well is to practice at it. My husband will now take men anally which I thought would never happen and he is the least gay guy I've ever seen when he sucks with me as gets fucked. Sounds weird I know but its true. It is sexual fun, not about the gender with us any more.

We occasionally check our profile we have posted to see if we were contacted or if there are any others that we find interesting. I caught Mrs. MLF (midlifefun) scrolling while I was watching sports on TV when she asked what I thought about a profile, I laughed as the profile was of a couple half our age and thought why would they want us. Their profile stated interested in others 25-55. I thought it was weird, why would someone half our age want to meet, something wasn’t right. The Mrs said she would contact them, I said it was a scam. We know there are plenty of posters that are just looking for online sex chats and I said that should be careful, send no other pictures, give no personal info. She received a reply about a week later from the wife. Doubting it was a woman answering I suggested a real call to confirm. An hour later they spoke, it was a female. The big question I wanted answered why would they want us, we could be their parents. We were told they liked our pictures and profile, they had been with older before, still younger than us, and enjoyed the experience. She is an RN, the husband is a new attorney, they married two years ago. I’m still skeptical.

Some of the worst swinging sex we had was with a 23 year old. Some of the best with someone in their 50s. Younger isn't necessarily better and lots of people like their guests to have more experience.

Helen here and god yes there is no point being in the lifestyle if you cannot enjoy DP

Nothing perverse in meeting those of a different generation for sex. We drew the attention of players twice our age, Honey fucking a man more than twice her age many times most likely Viagra assisted. The older friends give a different experience that is interesting and more grateful. I think you should go with an open mind, remember they aren’t judging you on age.

Not cuckold specifically but not terribly unusual for people to only play on vacation or when out of town in order to avoid family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, etc.

There is something to be said for maturity. 21 year olds might be hot to look at, stay hard, or have almost zero refractory time but if you talk like you text, and your interests are all about caping and TikTok, it’s not going to matter. Yeah, a broadovergneralized, stereotype but hopefully you get the gist of where I’m headed. If there is a spark, see if it leads anywhere. Seems tough enough to meet people since Covid. Maybe it’s time for everyone to dip their toes outside their comfort zone.

If there's one thing the LS ruined for us, it's porn, lol. We'll still watch it some, but it's so much less of a turn on once you've taken a walk on the wild side and much of the porn the emulates "swinger scenarios" is pretty corny and unrealistic... Mostly we do what couplers said and make our own videos, though we *prefer* having our faces and our friends faces in our content. None of our friends have ever minded and I have plans with two lady friends to hire a LS friendly videographer to take some professional content of us (whenever my wife ends this LS break... sigh) Feel free to post some links if you find some winners!

I and my wife have known friends who played with their friends, some foursome swinging, others a single male for her. In some situations, someone either developed feelings. In others, simple misinterpretations of words or actions caused hard feelings. Not everyone who swings is an adult. It happens, and then it gets messy. It never happened to us because we never, ever played with vanilla friends. But it does happen. Not every time, but sometimes. You need to be prepared for the worst when playing with friends.

Understand that this *might* work. But studies show that it's more likely that it could cause drama and problems. Are you willing to lose this person as a friend if it goes bad? If you are, yeah, go ahead and raise the subject with your wife. What's the worst that could happen?

You are doing well by not pushing her. You've opened a door. It's up to her to decide if she wants to go through that door. Keep talking with her. Try to have the best communication possible with her. Tip; don't judge her comments, or she yours. Don't be even slightly sarcastic or make jokes about what she says. Trust is built in this way. She will learn she is completely safe in telling you her deepest thoughts and emotions. Many couples are not able to do this. Whether you get into swinging with your wife or not, this is still an important thing to do. If you do get into swinging, having this level of communication is quite important.

Personally I love fucking other men as well as taking it from them too

I usually take the pussy but I can do either. Having the guy get a nut out before going in her ass in DP is probably a good idea.

Neither my wife nor I had any type of threesome, let alone DP, before we were married and started in the lifestyle. The feeling of his dick moving inside her, regardless of who was in which hole, was strange and wild for me. I mean, after the visuals of her fucking other men and the sounds and movements of them in pleasure and orgasm, the feel of another guy's dick inside her was something else that I never expected. Afterwards for a while, when I was in her cunt or ass at home alone, I would put a finger inside her other hole just to experience the sensation more.

What's the accepted way to let others in the RV Park know you're swingers?