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We recently completed the build of our 'forever home', which we designed to be clothing-optional (aka nude-friendly) from the ground up, with an interior courtyard, hot tub, outdoor eating area and so on. It's therefore not surprising that some guests are looking forward to shedding their clothes, swimming, sunning, and using the hot tub nude. What's a bit surprising is how many choose to exercise the clothing-optional option. Maybe it's the simplicity. Maybe it's the time of life. Maybe it's a desire to relive years past. Maybe it's the judgement-free setting. Maybe it's the 'zen feel' we have created. Regardless, it has become the norm. Given an invitation to a clothing-optional home, what's your preference for a simple social event?

We would follow the lead of the others. I would also stay away from the grill.

It would really depend on the nature of the visit. Just social the clothes would be dispensed with. Helping cut fire wood or playing at the forge I'd probably stay clothed.

My wife and I sometimes play separately with our friends. My wife especially likes playing with women solo. She doesn't always enjoy being watched, it makes her self conscious which takes the fun out of it for her. Last Friday I came home from work early. When I got home I heard my wife upstairs in our room, and she clearly had company. I went upstairs to use the bathroom. Our bedroom door was closed but I could hear my wife quite clearly. As I walked into the bathroom I quickly saw the second door which connected to our bedroom was half open. With the lights still off it is pitch dark in the bathroom and I knew they couldn't see me so I took a peek. My wife was on the bed on all fours and a very pretty much younger girl was behind her wearing a strapon. The younger girl was fucking the hell out of my wife, and my wife was very clearly loving it. It was so sexy and hot. I've never seen my wife having strapon sex like that. I didn't even know she owned a strapon. Her orgasm was incredibly intense, she collapsed on the bed her legs stiff, and visibly trembling, toes pointed. When she came down, she rolled over and they started again but this time in missionary. Not too long after she had another very vocal orgasm. It took her a while to come down. It was the sexiest thing I'd ever seen, she was so intense and passionate. Afterwards I asked her about it. Once her embarrassment died down she told me she has always loved penetration from men and women. She said she came so hard for two reasons, first because the strapon isn't on a clock so she can be greedy with her time, so she edges herself on the rubber dick till she can't take it anymore. Secondly, she said the woman she was with could really fuck. She knows all my wife's buttons and is extremely good at pushing them. So do other women find that strapon sex is a little more intense given the fact it never goes limp?

You should have her (or her hot friend) use that strap-on on you!

I used to be self-conscious about the (slight) smell my pussy had at the end of the day, and would offer to shower or wash up when offered oral. The answer was always, "No." After becoming bi and going down on women, I now understand why. It is a pleasant, human aroma and taste, sexually stimulating.

My wife had a wish to engage in a Double Penetration type situation and really want to try double Vaginal sex. I found most guys were not into that much dick to dick Contact. So DP was easy to find but The DV fantasy went unfulfilled for a while. Then we met a very pretty bisexual transvestite, named Armani who was game as well as being bi. While we are having sex together the dick to dick contact was pretty intense. After my wife had her share and was recuperating Armani and I fooled around. She sucked my cock, we made out and she rode me. I've always considered my self straight but fucking Armani was very fun. We've met up with her 3 times now and there has been sexual contact every time. My wife is very into it.

Yes both sets of parents knew each other and he and I met at a christmas orgy we both attended

That is probably my #1 fantasy... to see two guys together.

I probably should keep my mouth shut but... I haven't learned yet. I have read a lot of porn/erotica... and just viewed stories that featured two males interacting as part of the story... erotic, exciting what ever... mildly interesting. I knew my hubby had no interest... W h a t s o e v e r ... and I would never have requested that he indulge my curiosity. then I happened to be at a bdsm club one night and there was a gay couple there. and they were interacting and frankly... I hope I concealed my emotions because as judgmental and hypocritical as this sounds... it was far from appealing (to me at any rate). it is not an experience I want to witness again. we left early and on subsequent nights are always careful to take seats where the option of NOT observing is possible but not obvious. was it because of the activities that they were indulging in? was it because it was my first experience at a bdsm club? I don't know...either of those are possible ... but any possibility that I might have ever found it interesting has been completely obliterated from my mind. I feel like everything out of my keyboard is a wet blanket these days

It would be interesting to know just how many female halves have a fantasy of seeing their hubby with a guy. Are there some of you out there that harbor the fantasy, but never mention it because you know what your hubby's reaction would be? Christine and I seem to be in a very small minority because neither of us are interested in seeing the other with someone of the same sex. I know I know....how can I be normal if I don't want to see her with another woman?? (that's totally tongue in cheek btw!) It's just SOOO much more exciting seeing her with another guy! Anyway....back to the original topic..... I've always (and still do) consider myself straight. If Christine was interested in seeing me in a bi situation, then I guess it's something I would seriously consider. But since she's not, and I don't think it's something I would ever seek out on my own.... Then again, who knows, when we got married I never thought I'd see (much less enjoy!) her riding another guy. Isn't exploring our sexual selves what this is all about anyway?

I am in total agreement. We have a crew working on our place this week. I said to my wife, as much as I fantasize about giving head, I just don't find any of these guys attractive. But, I'm fairly sure that if they were naked and hard, fucking my wife, I'd be all over it. For her part, she thought one of the men was really cute/hot. Thought he was so sweet and had a nice personality. I think that is the difference between her and I. I'm more focused on the looks not the personality. And frankly, I think a lot of men are unattractive. Sorry guys. Maybe it's conditioning. I don't know. Either way, back to the original question. I think swinging has certainly expanded my mind and certainly offers opportunities to experiment, but I think I was probably fairly open to bi male play before.

Even before swinging I did enjoy WU's finger or various didos up the rear but had no desire for a man. After starting swinging in a club group and seeing other sexual situations I started getting more curious and ready to try most anything with people I liked.

That is a reasonable position, but I'd carve out the exception for not wanting what you don't know. I had plenty of opportunity over the years for MM contact but never wanted it. The closest thing in porn I enjoyed to it was passable trannies fucking women... As mentioned above, it wasn't until watching my wife suck cock during our second swap that I got really curious and started to consider it. Then a couple years later when it actually happened, and I performed oral on another guy during a threesome with my wife, my expectations were shattered. Holding another penis in my hand felt completely different than I imagined and having it in my mouth was infinitely more erotic than I anticipated. I don't really find men attractive (though I do find some unattractive) and have no interest in kissing, dating, cuddling etc with a male. But in a fluid sexual situation, I enjoy giving head which wasn't a repressed fantasy for me--it was something I'd have NEVER tried but for swinging.

Just wear nothing but an apron. You'll be ok.

It really was a joke, but a quick Google search reveals black women on average spend more than 4x that of white women on their hair preparation and products. Contrasting the hair care needs of my Caucasian wife with what I've observed from AA family members and friends, this seems on point.

Love to see pics of the new place if you wouldn't feel like your privacy is at risk. I'd prefer no clothes. I LOVE to be nude.

This quote right here from one of my favourite contributors to this forum that unfortunately told me they were leaving a while back when a troll was running rampant here for too long nails it for me! It is super sexy watching her passionately working over a cock with her beautiful mouth and it is easier to appreciate the visual when it is being done to someone else.

Keep it simple, start slow and enjoy the thrill of just thinking and talking about fun with others until the you want to actually do it. You can't second guess what might or might not happen until that moment arrives. Just take things slowly until you actually meet people you feel comfortable with. You can only know how you feel emotionally when the moment arrives so it is essential that you and your partner are on the same page. And the first swinging encounter needs to be one that leaves one or both of you not feeling so good about it. Good luck to you and just have fun.

Ta Da. We met them last night and my wonderful wife thanked me after. She urged me to call my old friends if they thought it was a good idea, I’m sure she knew the answer I would get. I did my own contact to the husband who is really an attorney and sounded like a young educated man. He assured me that everything is on the up and up and invited us for drinks first, more for sure only if we approved, at their new home. When I agreed my wife was very excited while I was nervously cautious. Driving home after our meeting my wife and I were talking about how it was being with a younger swinger when she thanked me. She said she wanted to feel young again and didn’t want to push me to say sex with younger people could be great. She kept saying our sex is great at home and that she forgot how much more energetic we were.

Curiouscouple, read what GoldCoCouple said above. Then read it again. Read it as many times as necessary for it to sink in. Now, consider...what is the potential upside to your wife playing with this friend? She gets a play partner out of it? You can do that on any swinging site, doing so with people who are already in the lifestyle and don't come with all the potential vanilla problems and all the potential friend problems. So, is it worth it for your wife to play with this friend? Seems like bad math to me. Another thing; single guys in the lifestyle are quite common. I'm very, very sure your wife can find someone to play with (and you for her). My wife and I have never had a lack of MFM opportunities when we wanted them.

Some of the worst swinging sex we had was with a 23 year old. Some of the best with someone in their 50s. Younger isn't necessarily better and lots of people like their guests to have more experience.

Usually my wife is on the bed on her stomach, legs slightly apart, bum slightly upwards, elbovs on the bed just so the tits are touching the bed. This formes a nice arching of the back and it's just wonderful to slip my cock between her lips. I'm then on my knees infront of her, knees apart and either giving her backrub or just bending backwards and supporting myself on the bed with my hands.

Yes,I'll admit to a little guy/guy play. Always in the context of an MFM or orgy situation. I never would have thought of it before we opened our marriage. When you choose to move away from a lifetime of monogamous perspective, lots of things become interesting and acceptable that you felt was taboo before, imo.

I think the smell and taste is better than the view, I like the smell and taste of a pussy that hasn't showered all day!

I try to be very sensitive to what a woman wants if she is being kind enough to suck my dick. Two things are at the front of my mind. The first is whether she is trying to suck me to completion or is doing it as foreplay and is planning to fuck. Over 90% of the time we have agreed that it is foreplay, so I hold back and/or pull out so we can have a good regular sex session. The second thing is if she does want me to cum, does she want me to ejaculate in her mouth. Among our group all the wives do and they all swallow, so no problem there. Then the third is where she wants my hands. It's divided among the women that some want to be finger fucked, some like a finger in her ass, some don't want any play on herself, she's concentrating on me. For me, I like to play with a woman's breasts while getting a blow job - even a different woman's tits (in which case I can kiss her as well). Finally, I always ask if a woman wants me to reciprocate, either as foreplay or after we fuck; I like eating pussy, especially to get a woman to orgasm. I let her know that the offer stands, even if it's later after she has played with others, if she wants to be licked, I'll do it. So this simple question has a complicated answer, but after all these years, it's my game.

I considered myself straight. One of those days my wife mentioned she would love to see me with another man. I accepted the proposition and posted an add, requesting a bi-curious male couple. We found one after a while and went for it. We both enjoyed and I felt a new kind of pleasure, never experienced before. That couple introduced us to a male friend, that called himself 100% straight, but after two encounters, he decided to be an active partner only. He enjoyed and I tasted an 8" member inside me. Now I can say, I am bisexual to a certain extent only. No kissing, just oral and anal contact. It is one of the the most pleasurable experience I had in my life.

When did I change? Well, it had to be our very first swinging experience. It was in the late seventies, we'd been married only three years, and we had good friends over to watch 'Deep Throat' on 8mm film. This was very much in the news at the time and I'd managed, through some car sales friends, to get the copy. The other two couples were friends we'd known from my two years as a cop. Nothing sexual had ever happened or had even been discussed. After watching the film one of the couples left fairly quickly to get alone! LOL! The other couple stayed and we talked about sex which led to our first experience. As nice as it was to get undressed with three special people and to, for the first time, explore the other wife..., it was a complete turn-on to watch my gorgeous young wife being seduced by my friend. I think we'd each had intercourse, and lots of oral, at least twice when it happened. We were all laying on the bed together and when my wife and my friend began making out for about the third time I helped them. His wife and I were intently watching the two maneurver into position and when his cock came close to my wife's ready vagina the other wife and I both grabbed his cock and guided it in. It really, really felt good in my hand and his wife and I kept on massaging and licking them the whole time they had intercourse. I guess that was the actual moment that I went from 'straight' to curious.

I was homophobic when my wife and I started swinging many years ago. I was carefull not to bump into the other male and wouldn't even kiss my wife after she performed oral on another man. My bi activity, was a very gradual process over several years. It started with a couple. The husbnad started to suck me while at the direction of his wife. I was on my back performing oral on the lady and not in a position to protest. If I were asked, I know I would have said no. I accepted it and afterwards it wasn't even talked about. At a later date I was having sex with the same lady in a missionery position, when her husband came up to her for oral attention. She sucked him and then stuck his cock in my mouth. I was aprehensive but some how expected it. At this point I was divorced and was involved with this couple for several years. It took me several years to become totally comfortable with this. I now love the oppeness and the erotic atmoshpere that it brings. With me, Bi isn't neccessary with a couple but it does make it more comfortable and opens up so many more possiblities for fun.

1. When we started out my wife knew of my teen sex experimentation, and the psychological pain it had caused me for many years. 2. After some years of swinging, we tried oral with several guys at the club and at home exchanges. I never did have a male cum, but it would have been sexy and erotic if he did. 3. At this moment, I would love to taste a cock before it goes into either Eileen or his wife, and then taste it after it has cum, and still wet with creme. 4. I also think it would be erotic to eat out Eileen or Doris while Don is using a small vibe on my ass, and then perhaps later butt fucking me while I am eating Doris or Eileen. 5. I have wondered what it would be like to be at a gay club in Seattle and really be reamed by a guy.; But with the AID epidemic, I will leave that to my imagination and stimulation. 6. I was once blown by a male -- and he gave me the very best blow job I have ever had. He seemed to know how to get every drop of creme out, and I felt so relaxed afterwards. 7. There have been other opportunities, but for one reason or another did not take them. 8. The description of "Tete beche" also sounds sexy and fun. 9. More than one of our female playmates has said that she would be turned on by male - male action. 10. As we have gone along, Eileen has come out more and tried more bi stuff with her girlfriends.

We both find watching each other with the same sex extremely erotic. We're never content to just watch though, which is why we are interested in bisexual playmates! LOL!

I'd love to see Kermit with another man. That's on my top 10 list. :claps:

So as expected and going against all advice given in this lovely forum , swinging finally stole my relationship. Alongside me wanting to thank every person who has taken the time to give me advice I also wanted to vent my frustration. Me and my now ex partner were together for several years. We decided to venture into swinging and admittedly I was much slower than him in terms of wanting to have sex or swap. Our fantasies and I'd say views didn't align and I preferred the slow approach to protect our relationship, whilst going all in was his apparent approach. I craved the journey to be about "us" and he craved the journey to be about multiple sexual experiences apart or together. I feel so sad and devastated that although the chance to fix us should have been first priority, he made the decision to proceed in engaging, arranging meets and locking me out of our profile so he was able to continue on his journey without my awareness... To me that feels like betrayal and cheating. Our relationship came second to the swinging I absolutely felt a solid relationship first was the answer to a prosperous swinging journey and have been duped that my relationship was not as important as I actually thought it was. So now I am trying to process and decide if I should go solo on this journey as a female or pack it in altogether. Meanwhile only 1 hour after our relationship ending my ex partner is meeting and doing what swinging should be... But single and without concern for me or our relationship. I wanted to rant and vent, but I also wanted to say to anyone who has given me previous advice that... You were right and thank you ! A life lesson I guess xxx