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It sounds like you're pretty ready to me. Go to the club, you'll have a ball. Just remember to set any limits for the night at least a couple of days in advance. And then, when you get there, be very sure to keep to those rules, no matter how much you're tempted to break them. The next day, calmly discuss what you enjoyed, what you didn't, and make plans for your next time. Have fun!

GoldCoCouple, That is why I mentioned the group sex thing, as not necessarily being swinging. Thinking more on it , for me the question is who has skin in the game (pun intended). When a singleton is playing with anyone only their skin is in. When a Married , or otherwise fully coupled, person plays it is not only their skin but also their partners skin, even if the partner is not actively engaged. Any risk of disease,trauma of any type, unintended consequences such as pregnancy or dramatic attachment affects the partner. If both partners of the coupled are aware and in agreement then there is swinging involved, for the couple. For the single it is just having sex with a swinger.

I feel the need to chime in regarding younger women interest in older men in the lifestyle. None of the thought or suggested reasons are absolute and for the most part all and any thought of reasons are wide spread and for some, truthful on a individual to individual basis. we have been on both sides of the spectrum. We have been with couples and single men and women who were 10-20 years older as well as younger. All consensual, interesting, fun and in some cases enlightening experiences. From the older than us experience almost all were highly enjoyable adventurous, slow/not rushed experiences with a small handful of one or the other spouse limited capability due to health/physical limits but enjoy limited participation or straight up watching. From the younger than us experiences, 10-20 years it was interest due to attraction/personality, desired/curiosity, a wish to experience something new/different, some had limited sexual experiences and looked to expand activity/experiences and the biggest was safety/assurances. Most likely will follow their rules, no interest in developing feelings etc. The other is capability, sexual experience….experiencing new activities. The biggest reason we hear over our years and my personal experiences over the past ten years….safe. A non rushed experience with a wealth of experiences, longer lasting safe experience. so for us we never experienced a negative situation as we usually were able to recognize what might be an issue or one partner dragging the other along and we would step out of the equation. now we are not playing with twenty somethings but yes young/mid thirties and up. One for me was last fall (32-35, 30 years younger) And I have several single lady FWB from late thirties but mostly forties/fifties. We are highly social buy when interest/mood/need arises…… So not to say there are no people in the lifestyle that have an issue…..certainly no large percentage, most are following a desire/interest at that moment based on their expectations. Just as you might choose based on yours at the time.

Think we have that licked. That’s an Alan joke, sorry.

I have never worn a strap on or had one used on me. I enjoy penetration by a real penis in anticipation of his ejaculation. Clair, Lora, and I have strong Lesbian sides, which involve the desire for and use of the real parts of another woman.

After two pages of discussing fellatio, it was time to move on to the ever more popular cunnilingus.

Lynda Gayle was a wonderful soul. She was warm, kind and generous of heart. My friendship with her proved an avenue of growth for me in the erotic realm. My life is decidedly richer and for that I’m grateful. I miss Lynda Gayle and think of her often.

That has never been a kink I was interested in. It's also not a kink my wife is into so for us that wouldnt work out. My wife said she has never worn the strapon, she very much prefers to be the recipient not the delivery woman. She enjoys penetration and is very much a bottom. She would tell you when it comes to sex she wants to be the woman lol.

We were invited once by an MFM friend to a house out in the country with a pool on a pretty August day. We were experienced swingers, and Mary was an occasional hotwife. I couldn’t go because I was working the 2-10 shift, but my wife went. When Mary got there, of the approximately dozen people - a few more men than women - everybody was wearing shorts and tops, and although the vibe was sexy, it wasn’t over the top. She really wanted to go swimming in the nude, but it just didn’t seem right, somehow. Then the host invited her into the pool, and she and James took their clothes off and jumped right in. She said it was such a thrill, being watched by everyone while she stripped. Over the next fifteen minutes or so, everyone else - save one married couple - wound up in the altogether. There was no sex outside, because it was possible that one neighbor could get a view. But eventually, a few people moved indoors and had a great party. Mary was with James and when he was coming down they were joined by a husband, Mary didn’t remember his name when she recounted the day to me later that evening.

My Mrs has changed the parameters on our search from 25-55 to 25-35 way below our real age. She is still reliving our recent meeting thinking that others that age will want her as well. I’m thinking that we were fortunate that our meeting went well while thinking others that age might have sinister thoughts. I am feeling my virility as well. I was able with the aid of pharmaceuticals to keep up, no pun, while I had the anxious feeling that I would be a failure. I can understand why an older woman wants a virile younger man and question the need of a younger woman wants an older man. I don’t think I want a woman twenty years my senior, why would a younger woman want me?