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Lizard, I think you do have a point, in that , even for the strongest most well balanced marriages there is most likely SOMETHING that could cause difficulty The stronger, more well balanced, marriages most likely also have a better handle on those things and have worked out a way of dealing with them before they become a serious factor. I know that for us something may come up and one will look at the other and we will know what we should do at the time without saying a word. We know that neither will ever do anything intentionally to hurt the other. If we get blindsided, the first time, then we get over it learn and move on. We have been together for a little over 40 years. The number of things that can be dealt with by a look, has grown over the years. That is part of the process of our relationship becoming stronger and more balanced. Are we invulnerable? Of course not. Confident enough in ourselves and our limits? Yes.

As the guy, I have occasionally cum sooner than I would like but I wouldn't call it much of a "problem." As for my GF, she would much rather have a guy cum too quickly than not get hard at all. We have seen plenty of guys with both issues though.

I think destroyed relationships happen far more often than we realize because most are not brave enough to share their story, like you have, or they are so hurt by previous advice from the Internet that they avoid it altogether. I do think there are many stories of where it didn't go right that we don't see. Many write/say that you should only do this if you have a strong relationship. Maybe. But I also think the lifestyle can destroy strong relationships. I can be like a drug and tough to stop certain activities, even when you see that it's hurting you or your partner.

Ammmy, if you are being candid in your post — for now I make that assumption — my opinion is that swinging is not for you. No one should be doing things that make them feel "dirty" or "ashamed". Unless it happens to be your kink, which I assume it is not, in my opinion engaging in behavior that makes you feel shitty about yourself, even temporarily, is self-injurious. Other sports beckon.

I had something a bit similar; long term girlfriend and I broke up, and we kept on having sex for many months after that. We've remained very close friends ever since, though the sex stopped. She's aware my wife and I are non-monogamous. My wife is perfectly ok with me having sex with her again, but it's not going to happen.

Not at all. That's just a rather big downside to shaving. Wife shaved a couple days ago and it was fun for the night. But she's been itchy and irritated since it started growing back.

I like it and wife only rarely shaves hers. Play partners have either been into it or didn't say anything about it and carried on. Only thing I really don't care for is an angry pussy covered in razor burn/bumps/spiky stubble.

Any women here ever let your armpit hair grow? Is there even one man who has a positive opinion of this natural phenomena?