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Your terrified? What is wrong with you? Really, if you're not a bit nervous you're probably part of just 1% of new swingers who aren't. It is so normal and exhilarating as well. Enjoy the feeling. It's exciting, it gets blood flowing, it tells you you're embarking on something new, it's perfect...you're perfect. Yes, they will be nervous as well. Maybe they will be better at hiding it, maybe not. Maybe it will be a topic of conversation. "Nice to meet you. My god I'm nervous, you?" Our first time, we were so nervous. But we jumped right in. Took each others hand and basically never looked back. The excitement was part of the fun. One of our early meetings was just a meet and greet in a coffee shop where other patrons could definitely hear us. There we were discussing sex, swinging in the open with a couple we had never met. So crazy. So fun. Definitely gets the juices flowing. Have fun, remember you are in this together, look to each other for support and know that you can stop anytime you want.

Anyone here care to share about their largest gangbang experience and where was it held? For me it was with 12 guys but there was another women (my BFF) in the room. It happened 3 years ago at my house. We knew most of the guys in it. There were 2 husbands, 3 guys from our circle of swinger friends, 2 guys of our parent's swinger friends, and 5 guys from a swingers site and our local club. It was loads of fun. We did pretty much everything you can think of, minus guys doing each other. None of the guys were bi. Most of the guys went bareback, only the ones we did not know wore condoms. We all played for a good 3 hours. I was so sore after that, I needed to take a few days off from work just to heal up. Haha

Vulnerability accompanies many first-time events in life. Your first sexual experience. Your first child. If you are training to be a surgeon, your first operation. If you are a senior attorney, your first case argued before the highest court. If you are a pilot, the first time your instructor gets out of the airplane and tells you to fly it alone around the airport. We manage vulnerability by specifying our intentions, creating boundaries, and accepting that no one is going to be perfect "the first time around". This goes for hitting a golf ball, or writing an essay, or picking up a brush and palette and painting a first watercolor. The first non-monogamous experience in a marriage is one of those events. Am I risking my marriage? What if we don't like it? What if we do like it? What if it goes badly? What if I can't perform? What if the other couple thinks badly of us? And so on. You are "putting yourself out there". A reflection on those other vulnerable moments that went badly--maybe you were stood up for a date, or failed a test, or lost a job, or whatever--they look different in the rear view mirror. You picked yourself up, dusted yourself off, and asked what you learned from the experience. But on further reflection, you realize that those occasional vulnerable moments that went bad are swamped by all of the experiences that went really well. You enjoyed something new, you learned something about yourself, you (and those with whom you shared the experience) say "we did that!" Non-monogamy is the rule, not the exception, in marriage. Most of the time it's cheating. Here, you and your spouse have said "let's try this and see what it feels like". You have chosen to put a toe in the water together. It's consensual. That means you can lean on each other. And both of you can lean into a shared experience. The first time you drove a car, the angst was there. The first time you kissed someone romantically, the angst was there. The first time you said "I do", the angst was there. (I know. While Mrs. FL was getting hair and makeup done, I dealt with my pre-wedding jitters by going to buy a pair of athletic shoes. No, I did not wear them to the wedding. ) It's okay to have butterflies and wonder "how did we get to this point?" Just make sure you are clear with your spouse on intentions and boundaries. Then go have fun.

A new one - Clair and I both put one of a pair of Bluetooth ear buds in us while they were playing. And danced.

I read this thread again and see that I never answered the question. It wasn't set up as a gangbang, but the most I've had is four men in one afternoon. It was the two guys in our family (boyfriend Red, husband David), the boyfriend we women share Frank, and Lora's ex-husband Walter. The best part about it was that it was part of a special occasion for me, so I got the first ejaculation from each of the men before they played with Becky, Clair, and Lora. It made a holy mess and made me feel special.

First time meeting or first time meeting to play? If it is just meeting, have no fear and just dinner , drinks , and conversation. Pointed conversation , yes, but nothing beyond a kiss. If meeting to play then a bit of trepidation is normal, terror not so much. If terror is the correct word, then take a step back and untwist your mind. You are probably just over thinking things

I think it's completely normal and the other couple probably feels the exact same way. Sometimes it helps to agree there will be no sex on the first meet (subject to change), but like every other daunting task, the jitters usually vanish once the meet happens. Take a few deep breaths and go in. Remember life's biggest regrets are usually the things you didn't do.

After thinking about this, I must ask: what are you terrified of? Is it you having sex with someone other than your spouse? Surely you've done that before you were married. Same with your spouse. Is it that you may not like the other couple? That you may end up doing things that you have never done before? And why have you chosen another set of first timers? There's a lot to think about.

The best way to get over any anxiety is to do it and gain experience. Notice how those who have been in the lifestyle for even a short while are very comfortable with it and look forward to their next encounter, and to go on new adventures. And then there are people with FOMO - fear of missing out.

3 guys and 1 girl , all of us guys were 18 years old and she was 29 and looking to get back at her husband for cheating on her. We met her at a beach on a local lake while she was with her friend. She told us the story and wanted to know if we would be interested in helping her get back at him. We took her back to her house, where all 3 of us fucked her twice without condoms cream pie her. I guess that is where I learned to like sloppy seconds. We were all kinda worried about getting her pregnant but one of the other guys talked to her while shopping and said she was not pregnant. Not real big on gangbang and neither has any of the women that I have been with.

Actually it was this past Halloween and it was 10 guys

I have never had or planned a gangbang event per see, but a few times during parties with friends I have ended up "entertaining the boys by myself" for a little bit while the other girls take a break and cheer for me. 3 has been the maximum number of men I have entertained at the same time.

This is was not a gangbang even if it was 3 guys. We normally look for one good man which is sometimes turns into 2. We enjoy inviting an unsuspecting man to our room it could be a businessman or two men at a sporting event. Business travel was not happening much and sporting events were a no go. We were in Florida and started talking to a few guys at our hotel, one was getting married in a few weeks. The next morning we saw them at breakfast and Mike asks if they got lucky the night before. He was seeing if they were looking to have fun before the friends big day or if they were just there to drink, sun and fish. Normally I do the talking and do the inviting this time he was very blunt and asked if before they went out for the day if they wanted to have fun before the beds were made. Three guys and none of them made it to the five minute mark. We weren’t in the room an hour and they were out. Luckily we had other fun on vacation.

Possibly. I havent really tried 4 or more. I just remember that 3 persons standing in front of me too overwhelming. But when we tried to space it, and do it one at a time or in twos over the weekend, it worked well. Maybe in that way, it can be more ?

Parent's swinger friends...tell us more. I am sure there's a bigger story behind that

Exactly. Sex with perfect strangers has never been our thing and, frankly, we have no idea how that would be a turn-on for some people? For us, there is no shortcut to the pleasure of having sex with someone who has taken the necessary time to learn your turn-ons, and turn-offs, or helped you explore and discover new ones. Our sexual stimulation begins between the ears. What happens between the legs is a direct result of that. Seduction, titillation, sexual tension, fantasy... these are the things that get our pulses racing. Also, in a practical sense, once you get beyond three people, four at the max, involved in simultaneous sex... um, being delicate... she only has so much "attention" she can handle, right? I'm not attempting to shame or undermine people who engage in anonymous sex, or sex with large groups of people, or question their freedom to pick their own poisons, as we all do. I'm simply saying, in our experience, sex is far, far more than a simple biological response. This has only become more true as we have "matured" (read: grown old! Lol...)

The Queen had 11. We hosted two different party groups and this was the second most common request by ladies and couples in our groups after MFM. We hosted dozens of these designed to meet the lady’s desires/fantasy. Always safe. Several where specifically designed for requested bareback/natural wet endings. Those had fewer more selected male participants usually 4-6 males. largest group was 26 men with three women. Most of the men went twice over a five hour afternoon.

4I went to a swinger hotel with a friend. He supervised so I could be blindfolded. He said he lost count after a few hours but it was over 30. A few came back a couple times I guess lol. It was marvelous.

My wife and I have done it normally in singles nights at local Clubs, 3/4 guys each time we venture in the orgy rooms, what we do some 3 times. Her record so far were 15 that I saw (17 or 18 in her account because once I did not follow her back there). On another night we got into a cabin with 5 other guys and she did all 6 of us during over 2 hours nonstop, and we all DP'ed her at least twice each.

My largest number is 18 guys. Normally it’s 5 to 10 guys.

There was a woman at our club in Indy who did regular GB's with at least 25 guys. I participated on two different nights. Hubby would sit in the corner and masturbate and pick who would be next. The woman was one of the most beautiful creatures I have ever seen, so thee was not trouble getting lots of willing participants. I once tried to wipe some of the overflowing cum off of her buy hubby stopped me. Part of their thrill was to have her pussy overflow. It was messy (some would say disgusting) but remember that I said she was truly beautiful! Eventually, they moved to CA to go into the porn industry. Prom may have been the winner, but our club really lost a STAR!

Holy crap, people! I feel like we are such lightweights compared to some of you. Thelargest group working on the Mrs. was one time when she was the center of attention with four guys and two women at once.

two guys five women...I had a great time!! Ended when my wife needed me...sigh...the things you do for love.

I was fortunate to be the only guy with 5 hotwives in a reverse gangbang. Still one of my favorite memories. :-)

The largest gangbang that I've ever been a part was me and 8 other guys. It took place at a gangbang party in long island new york. It was a lot of fun, I mainly got my dick sucked while other guys fucked her.

Mine was about 12-15 guys, but I can't remember for sure. It was at a local swinger club who organized the gangbang. There were a few wives there also but I was the main attraction since I asked the club to organize the gangbang. It was a lot of fun and a lot of soreness afterwards.

Our largest was 10 guys that played with her, including me, but some came back for seconds, so it was around 15 rounds. Others were at the party, men and women, so not every guy played with her.

I think our largest was ten guys, maybe more. It was a big party at a local swingers club. We set up in one of the play rooms with a couple of guys, left the door open and pretty much invited the gathering spectators to join in as they desired. It was a thing done pretty much to say we'd done it, but it was fun.