Leaderboard

We make it a point to drink very lightly at parties. Our go to drink is a white wine spritzer, meaning a little wine mixed in with some sparkling water in a tall ice-filled glass. It allows for the shared experience aspect of drinking while allowing for how "light" the pour, and the pour gets lighter with each subsequent prep. https://www.thespruceeats.com/white-wine-spritzer-759850 Experienced LS folks will generally agree that as experience accumulates, people ratchet down the amount of alcohol they bring and especially how much they consume. People who attend house parties typically need little (if any) of the social lubrication aspects of alcohol. They attend to have fun. Booze tends to dull that fun, not enhance it.

Quick background that was posted on our intro. In our 30s, our sex life was tamed down when we married, no 3somes after the I Do. Lin met a guy at a dispensary where the spoke about the purchases they were making and invited her back to his place to try some together. When she said no because she was happily married he he invited me to join him and his wife. We went and had a nonsexual high time. By the time the night was over he invited us to join friends for a camping trip. We later learned sex might be happening amongst the friends. Linda and I decided what the heck why are we becoming our parents, let’s have fun. Before the camping we were told one of the women was most likely not going to be sexual while the other was extremely sexual and very wild. Our first play was Linda and the wild one under the stars. I figured nothing could top what I watched and then it got better.

Based on our experience at house parties, your handle of “rug burn” is very appropriate to describe the festivities.

I left my terror feelings at the door and it followed me in. Meeting a couple that will work with your fears is what is needed. You are now on equal ground with another couple opening up to their fears. Jokes and laughing takes away the fear that every new situation brings not only sexual situations. You will always remember the first time you meet, your meeting was a success without sex, you made friends.

So we are going to our first house party this weekend. I have no idea what to expect. The invite says bring your own drinks/liquor. We read an article recently that said you aren't supposed to share liquor? Anything else we need to know? Any help/advice would be appreciated!

There is a reason that most who have discovered they CAN do it end up coming back for more. It's more of an occasional treat for us, in large part because any anal penetration is a closer for the night, but if you can find a good rhythm it is very intense for all parties. We tend to find DVP more enjoyable though and run with that whenever the opportunity presents.

It isn't about putting up to get in your cunt, it's knowing how good it will feel once I get in there. Plus I think women really enjoy whenever the second gets in there right after the first cums. I asked about if women want to try just to see if they can do it because I have had 3 different women mentioned this when we tried. Never had a problem getting positioned for pussy/anal DP, we more trouble with double vag.

I would. And did. 🙂 She gave you everything you wanted, including a spouse. She saw things that you didn't and made it work. I don't know if my husband saw so far into the future, but he let me do things that has taken us to a wonderful place. Including some crazy sex.

More fun for the guys maybe, but not for me.

It really comes down to the individual party and host. We've been to house parties where it was sexy flirty fun with no playing at all, parties that mixed social and play and house parties that were straight up fuckfests, so its really tough to say based on this info what you can expect. I can say what you read about sharing liquor is puzzling... Is that like a prison thing where inmates will try to get the new guys jello to see if he's weak? Lol

Yes, but the word we choose to use is "excited" Once again, think of it as excited and not terrified. One is a thrilling experience and the other is frightening. Absolutely...as you found out. This is why we always recommend that the first meeting be for drinks or dinner with both couples knowing that playing is not on the board. It takes the pressure off and lets everyone get the chance to just get to know each other. Afterwards, both couples can then decide if there will be a second meeting where things may (or may not) happen. Definitely takes the 'terrifying' and pressure out of the equation. This is something that we have always been surprised about...we are all there because we are interested in sex, yet all too often, nobody wants to bring it up. This is one of the more 'fun' thing we enjoy about swinging...being able to openly talk about sex with others. Yet, all too often, even though we are meeting another potential couple, they steer away from talking about sex (even though we keep trying to steer things back that direction). Meetings will become easier and you will both become more comfortable as you get used to doing them. We were the same way when we started, then realized that almost everyone feels the same when they started as well. It's all part of the adventure that the two of you have undertaken. Enjoy the ride as well as the destination...

Set up a free account with all of the swinging websites, then see which one has the most people in your area then PAY TO JOIN that website. Lots of paying members assume that if you have a free account you are just a lurker, faker, or there just for the thrill and not actually serious in playing. Then start contacting people and arrange meetings (do NOT get caught up in endless emails and texts...MEET people and see if there is any connection/interest). Also, look for any local swingers clubs and go meet more people. Swinging is a numbers game and you really need to get out and meet people. Ever since Covid, it seems like there just aren't as many people as before making the numbers a bit smaller so you need to mingle. BTW, we both loved you in that red dress. Too bad there was never a sequel to your movie...

Hot either way!

Well, because that's the way we liked to do it. Mary had a thing for exploring what a new man was like and could give her, and didn't want to be distracted (at least that much.) That was fine with me, I loved being a voyeur for the first hour or so. And then she and I would go at it while the guy was recuperating, which more often or not led to round 2 (round 3?)

Relieved. I’m relieved, they are relieved. An hour before we were going to meet I got a text, can we talk? Followed by a call. She said they didn’t want to ghost us, they are having second thoughts. I burst out Thank You. I told her how terrified I was, I was still convincing myself that it would be fine. After exposing our fears she said they would still want to meet us just not for “you know”. 90 minutes later we met them at restaurant bar. Relieved. They looked better in IRL. Pictures were current. Conversation started slow with the men quiet, I tried to talk normal shit. I didn’t know how to start sex talk, when it did we tried to keep the talk low so nobody would hear us. Once we started the talk became funny and the men warmed up. It’s hard to say why we want to meet to others, I’m still asking myself. We all had sex stories to share finally leading what we would do if we did do it. Kissing, oral, condoms, we both are on the same bc. It was easy for me to admit sexual things I never told anyone, she was going head to head with her past. The guys weren’t as open they just laughed. Three drinks in I think I asked if he still wants to fuck me, she asked the same of us. Both guys said a big YES. No sex yet, we plan to meet and try this again. On the drive home I felt better and said if we met someone experienced we would like be swingers now. He asked me if would feel better that way. I was happy to know our new contact were very much like us, terrified and now relieved. We will find out if they liked us as much as we enjoyed our meet. I also know I will still be terrified if we make plans, and I am sure she will be too. Our adventure is to be continued. I’m sorry to disappoint anyone hoping for juicy graphic post.

If she isn't your wife, marry her immediately. Before we met, my wife went to strip club amateur nights with some girlfriends and danced. She said it satisfied her exhibitionist desires at the time. What sticks in my mind from what she's told me is that they all became totally naked, but my wife did the reverse of what the other girls (and they were "girls" at the time) did. The others danced topless for a while then took off their panties and flashed pussy at the end. My wife became bottomless early on and spread her lips and ass while dancing. She only removed her top and flashed her tits at the end. I wish I were there.

Daniela has had the six men in our group (including me; the seventh couple hadn't joined the group yet) in her cunt at one gathering where we were all together. But it definitely wasn't the first cum deposit for all of them. Not all of them may have even cum in her during that afternoon.

We met some experienced swingers early in our career. Advanced our progress more than other newbies with whom we had staring contests. It’s fun to be a veteran, but we all have to walk the walk and have odd experiences to get there. Our motto was “This week’s tragedy will be next week’s comedy.” No shows, no shows by the female partner replaced by an escort, people who tried to sneak out of a restaurant without saying goodbye while we were in the bathroom, staring at other newbies for four hours in a hotel lobby, depositing a condom in a female playmate and unable to find it till she got home…we’ve seen some things.

I read this thread again and see that I never answered the question. It wasn't set up as a gangbang, but the most I've had is four men in one afternoon. It was the two guys in our family (boyfriend Red, husband David), the boyfriend we women share Frank, and Lora's ex-husband Walter. The best part about it was that it was part of a special occasion for me, so I got the first ejaculation from each of the men before they played with Becky, Clair, and Lora. It made a holy mess and made me feel special.

First time meeting or first time meeting to play? If it is just meeting, have no fear and just dinner , drinks , and conversation. Pointed conversation , yes, but nothing beyond a kiss. If meeting to play then a bit of trepidation is normal, terror not so much. If terror is the correct word, then take a step back and untwist your mind. You are probably just over thinking things

Your terrified? What is wrong with you? Really, if you're not a bit nervous you're probably part of just 1% of new swingers who aren't. It is so normal and exhilarating as well. Enjoy the feeling. It's exciting, it gets blood flowing, it tells you you're embarking on something new, it's perfect...you're perfect. Yes, they will be nervous as well. Maybe they will be better at hiding it, maybe not. Maybe it will be a topic of conversation. "Nice to meet you. My god I'm nervous, you?" Our first time, we were so nervous. But we jumped right in. Took each others hand and basically never looked back. The excitement was part of the fun. One of our early meetings was just a meet and greet in a coffee shop where other patrons could definitely hear us. There we were discussing sex, swinging in the open with a couple we had never met. So crazy. So fun. Definitely gets the juices flowing. Have fun, remember you are in this together, look to each other for support and know that you can stop anytime you want.

I sure will, she mentioned to me couple days back about if I’m been serious about this and going round one night, I said sure if it’s something you want have fun doing? She actually said you do realise by the end of the night I will be fucking his bare cock in every way possible, I was quite gobsmacked lol and I still haven’t said anything to him yet

After thinking about this, I must ask: what are you terrified of? Is it you having sex with someone other than your spouse? Surely you've done that before you were married. Same with your spouse. Is it that you may not like the other couple? That you may end up doing things that you have never done before? And why have you chosen another set of first timers? There's a lot to think about.

The best way to get over any anxiety is to do it and gain experience. Notice how those who have been in the lifestyle for even a short while are very comfortable with it and look forward to their next encounter, and to go on new adventures. And then there are people with FOMO - fear of missing out.

Sounds like the sex that you wanted as well. There's nothing wrong with starting a relationship on a strictly sexual basis. It may be one of the better ways. She played you perfectly. Found a guy who indulges her desire for crazy sex, got you to marry her, and now letting her have a little extra fun. You are both lucky.

Such a great story. Going away, change of scenery and for you renewing old ways. Watching my wife with another woman who happened to be our friend was one of the biggest excitement for me. Your new circle sound like real party people who know what fun is. Personally have sex under the stars with a full moon with a fire pit blazing, crickets chirping, and I think owls hooting mixed with the sounds of sex felt so natural and exhilarating.