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If only there was a photo gallery section on this board...WAIT! There is! All too often, a person thinks that their partner loves them just because they are supposed to. They forget that they really are a sexy and desirableness person. When we first got started down this path, we both suddenly started paying more attention to how we looked and dressed (or not dressed) knowing that others would be looking at us. It's nice to find out that others like looking at you/us/whatever and liked what they see (instead of our partner who is supposed to like us, regardless to how we actually looked or felt). It's a great ego boost (especially to most women) to find that they are still attractive to others.

We are a married couple. We like to play with couples who are married or committed to each other. We find that they have a long term interest in their partner’s happiness. We’ve met “couples” who are only a couple for the purpose of swinging. We have had limited success with them. We find that the man is gung ho and the woman is blasé/disinterested in a few of our meetings. No offense to “couples” in this arrangement. We just find it hard to connect with couples with this arrangement.

I think the swinger sites (many of which advertise here) are the best options for online exhibitionism bc you are within a like-minded community and those sites usually give you some control over who can access.

"Hey Honey, I'm serious when I said that it would make me very happy and proud if you found someone to have sex with. We can find another couple or you can choose who you want as a partner and do it however you want. I just want you to have some fun." Make it about her and how she wants to approach the lifestyle.

So the wife and I have been having fun playing with dirty talk and some porn in the bedroom. I’ve kinda been curious about next steps and have seen on other sites that couples share intimate pics of their partners/themselves for others to see. I can understand why that would be exciting and how it’s new for other people to see you/your partner naked. I feel like doing this together could be exciting if she’s on board. Is this a thing that people/couples do? Would this be a good step closer to getting nude around others?

I wonder if you're not putting too much pressure on yourself. I don't mean this as a slight, but maybe you just need to lighten up. We like to look at these adventures as just that, adventures. We also try to be playful, laugh, giggle, be okay with being uncomfortable and even awkward. If you are both new to this, then all the better. Be weird, clumsy, and nervous together as a group. I might suggest that your first meet up include other activities not specifically focused on getting naked in bed. We have gone to restaurants and flirted, girls without panties, traded partners and touched each other under the table. We've been to nude beaches or private hot tubs. We've gone to clubs and partied with a lot of added sexual tension. We've been to art openings, flirted, looked at art, traded time with each others spouse, kissed each other knowing that we couldn't have sex in the studio but might later on. It is a real turn on as a married couple to be kissing two women/men in public. It was a build up, but offered an opportunity to test the waters and spark the juices. I remember one time when it was my wife, a single guy and myself (MFM) at a club. We were dancing, touching, really being sexy on the dance floor. She was kissing both of us. Guys in the crowd were like, WTF. Trying to approach her, but she would tell them she was with us. That she was going to fuck us both later. The looks on the others faces was priceless. But the point is we were having sexy fun. Enjoying ourselves. Some of these evenings ended without any 'sex' and they were still a blast. If you're kind, honest, open and respectful you really can't go wrong. Have fun...

I feel stupid asking this, it’s strange asking intimate details. All of us have dated and ended up in bed even on a first date. Guys always think they bedded a girl without thinking the other side that we wanted it too. I don’t think I am any different from all of us growing up going back to a guys place, in bed kissing then touching and somehow both of would be doing it. I usually enjoyed the kissing and foreplay leading up to what I had hoped would be great, sometimes disappointed. What I’m trying to understand is how the dynamic changes now with swinging. Sure when dating I met guys for sex, it seemed natural. Now meeting others, two people it still seems crazy. Even thinking about bi sex is strange, maybe why I keep thinking why wouldn’t I. I am putting myself into your post thinking how did all this happen. Did you just get together, undress and wait for her to play with you. I am trying to visualize myself in your space on a bed naked waiting for a woman to do things that have only been done by my husband and old dates. With guys there was a pretense of romance with an expectation of sex. Here there is no romance and it’s a woman in front of husbands. One more thing, how did you reciprocate with the wife, I’m thinking sex with the husband which is still all the words like terrifying, exciting, uneasy will be somewhat less terrifying, sex with the wife crazy different. I know I’m overthinking, the ones we already met seem normal, safe and sane, and I know she is as terrified as me. Overthinking that we should find someone more experienced because they will know. I really can’t wait to write that we did and not be terrified anymore.

Last night I ask Rocky if he read this about being terrified when we met others. He said I was always excited to meet, eager until we would get to the meetings. Most were fakes he reminded me and I looked relieved when we realized nothing was going to happen. Our first real meeting was with a great cpl we remain very close to. We called them and asked how I reacted when we Did It the first time. She said I was terrified and shy. I never thought of myself as shy, I might have had body issues, not 20 years old anymore. Even talking last night we relived with plenty of laughs how shy I was at first. She said I was trembling or shaking and very quiet, I wouldn’t take a towel off my waist. It was our first time doing this, the very first time letting a woman touch me. Rocky said I just closed my eyes and didn’t say a word when she used one of her toys on me, quiet for about 10 seconds and then biting my lip until I made my orgasm sounds. We were laughing again when Mrs Cpl said I pushed her head down making me bi and very quiet again. Laughing at my expense, I said I didn’t remember that. She said I still get shy when we play. No longer nervous like the first time I still get excited. I never thought of myself as shy.

More fun for the guys maybe, but not for me.

I left my terror feelings at the door and it followed me in. Meeting a couple that will work with your fears is what is needed. You are now on equal ground with another couple opening up to their fears. Jokes and laughing takes away the fear that every new situation brings not only sexual situations. You will always remember the first time you meet, your meeting was a success without sex, you made friends.

Relieved. I’m relieved, they are relieved. An hour before we were going to meet I got a text, can we talk? Followed by a call. She said they didn’t want to ghost us, they are having second thoughts. I burst out Thank You. I told her how terrified I was, I was still convincing myself that it would be fine. After exposing our fears she said they would still want to meet us just not for “you know”. 90 minutes later we met them at restaurant bar. Relieved. They looked better in IRL. Pictures were current. Conversation started slow with the men quiet, I tried to talk normal shit. I didn’t know how to start sex talk, when it did we tried to keep the talk low so nobody would hear us. Once we started the talk became funny and the men warmed up. It’s hard to say why we want to meet to others, I’m still asking myself. We all had sex stories to share finally leading what we would do if we did do it. Kissing, oral, condoms, we both are on the same bc. It was easy for me to admit sexual things I never told anyone, she was going head to head with her past. The guys weren’t as open they just laughed. Three drinks in I think I asked if he still wants to fuck me, she asked the same of us. Both guys said a big YES. No sex yet, we plan to meet and try this again. On the drive home I felt better and said if we met someone experienced we would like be swingers now. He asked me if would feel better that way. I was happy to know our new contact were very much like us, terrified and now relieved. We will find out if they liked us as much as we enjoyed our meet. I also know I will still be terrified if we make plans, and I am sure she will be too. Our adventure is to be continued. I’m sorry to disappoint anyone hoping for juicy graphic post.

What can go wrong if 4 terrified unsure people meet for sex? Strangers meeting for the first time with no experience to guide you is not the best idea, guidance is needed. You are on a swingers site giving you the opportunity to find a match based on your criteria, looking for a little experience could be a better entry.

Vulnerability accompanies many first-time events in life. Your first sexual experience. Your first child. If you are training to be a surgeon, your first operation. If you are a senior attorney, your first case argued before the highest court. If you are a pilot, the first time your instructor gets out of the airplane and tells you to fly it alone around the airport. We manage vulnerability by specifying our intentions, creating boundaries, and accepting that no one is going to be perfect "the first time around". This goes for hitting a golf ball, or writing an essay, or picking up a brush and palette and painting a first watercolor. The first non-monogamous experience in a marriage is one of those events. Am I risking my marriage? What if we don't like it? What if we do like it? What if it goes badly? What if I can't perform? What if the other couple thinks badly of us? And so on. You are "putting yourself out there". A reflection on those other vulnerable moments that went badly--maybe you were stood up for a date, or failed a test, or lost a job, or whatever--they look different in the rear view mirror. You picked yourself up, dusted yourself off, and asked what you learned from the experience. But on further reflection, you realize that those occasional vulnerable moments that went bad are swamped by all of the experiences that went really well. You enjoyed something new, you learned something about yourself, you (and those with whom you shared the experience) say "we did that!" Non-monogamy is the rule, not the exception, in marriage. Most of the time it's cheating. Here, you and your spouse have said "let's try this and see what it feels like". You have chosen to put a toe in the water together. It's consensual. That means you can lean on each other. And both of you can lean into a shared experience. The first time you drove a car, the angst was there. The first time you kissed someone romantically, the angst was there. The first time you said "I do", the angst was there. (I know. While Mrs. FL was getting hair and makeup done, I dealt with my pre-wedding jitters by going to buy a pair of athletic shoes. No, I did not wear them to the wedding. ) It's okay to have butterflies and wonder "how did we get to this point?" Just make sure you are clear with your spouse on intentions and boundaries. Then go have fun.

I think it's completely normal and the other couple probably feels the exact same way. Sometimes it helps to agree there will be no sex on the first meet (subject to change), but like every other daunting task, the jitters usually vanish once the meet happens. Take a few deep breaths and go in. Remember life's biggest regrets are usually the things you didn't do.

Well I killed the idea of my GF being the "entertainment" for the whole group. I had too many questions about the guest list and it seemed a little dicey for a bachelor party. If this was a small divorce party or birthday party where I knew who and how many people were going to be there where I controlled it all I would have felt more comfortable. But that wasn't the case so I had to put a lid on the whole thing. However, it didn't end there... We went to dinner, a cigar lounge, and then finished the night up at a strip club. After awhile at the strip club guys started to dodge out as the night went on. I was texting with my GF throughout the night and I was talking to two of the guys there about my GF, one of which had sex with her before. It was clear what they were angling for. I texted my GF if she wanted me to bring back some company and of course she said yes. I told them who the guys were and she said she'll get ready. We were all different levels of drunk so we dodged out splitting an Uber and headed back to my place. My GF greeted us at the door in lingerie and things moved along quickly. It was a fun time and lasted maybe 4 hours. We finished up around 7:30 and then went to get breakfast. It was a rough next day but a great memory.

Hey I love to cum on yr wife pics , message me

Helen here and all our swinging is totally bare back both at clubs and in our group

Thank you. Even the D guys are curious about what I have under my shirt.

I don't have to show off my GF because she shows herself off plenty. Amateur night at strip clubs, sex in public, and countless guys who have taken videos and pictures of her while fucking her. Most people would be horrified of videos like those being circulated around but it turns her on.

First time my husband sucked a dick he was sitting naked on the couch and I straddled him and started fucking and kissing him. His friend came out and walked right up to us hard as a rock and jokingly tried to insert his dick in between our kiss. I grabbed his dick and swallowed it. When I pulled it out I said, "sorry babe did you want some?" And I offered it, and he put the tip in his mouth then kissed me and then put it between out lips so we were each on one side of his dick. Our friend was in heaven and shot quick. Then later that night our friend and I returned the favor. No penetration but dicks were sucked. I thought it was so hot.

Watching my husband suck a dick makes me wet as fuck. Never seen him fuck a guy.

Same here. During my period I just let the guy/ couple decide if they want to . Always up to give a good blowjob during my period. Or just fucking.

OK, problem on steroids, but, living in a tourist area we have a LOT of people that want to share our home. Now, wearing clothes in the pool, wearing clothes, period, not watching whom is kissing or fondling whom, etc, is problematic. Are we the only ones?

Maybe you were just unaware of this rule but fortunately you all have time to correct this. It's summer so you can put both to use as soon as you get either (or both). Speaking of non-swingers: Are we the only couple who spends too much time seeing various people in public and wondering if they would be interested in swinging and/or what they would look like naked (in a hot tub or a boat, of course)?

The no swimsuit rule for hot tubs is great. We had that rule because of the foam issue but found it had other affects. We never had actual sex with any vanilla people in the tub but it was nice to see how they would loosen up after losing the clothing. Seeing someone go from wrapping in a towel while sliding into the tub, with all lights out, to dancing on the deck in the moonlight. Nice. Concerning guests. We have (had) an empty nest. Now the mother in law lives with us. We would rarely wear clothes if it was just us. No nudity now...ever...sigh

Playboy has a good series on called "Swing"...it takes a new cpl and puts them in a house with other cpls that are experienced..My wife and i really liked watching it...

We've done that! I don't think we knew there was a term for it. We've checked into our hotel room, invited our friend over, played, then all gone to the social that night and had a great time. It works really well. It's before you've gotten all sweaty from dancing and kinda relaxes you for the rest of the night. I'd highly recommend it. Pepper

What drives sanctimonious comments like this? Every time someone posts about how they enjoy something that is not "safe sex" by someone else's standards, there has to be *someone* that chides them to some degree. What's the deal with that? Isn't part of being a swinger meaning being *less* judgmental?

I have a married girlfriend and just love fucking her when she is full of her husband's cum. Her pussy feels so wet and warm and I love taking my cock out of her and seeing it coated with her husband's cum. She knows how this turns me on and we do it when ever possible

In our opinion, two couples in a queen-size bed is no problem at all. In fact, we think its a lot of fun!