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House or Hotel party??

It was interesting, a huge party, over 150 people. We watched and mingled only, keeping drinking to a minimum. We did see all the drunk people we were warned about! But what an experience! We'd definitely go to another, with less nerves next time.

The wife usually requests this, but I would say it is mainly because her husband wants to see her being "naughty" or "used."

I feel cheated if I don't ejaculate in a woman. When I insert myself inside a woman, my mind is on a mission to get this woman pregnant. The more she talks about me cumming inside her, the harder and deeper I go. I think it's in all men that by instinct when having intercourse with a woman is to get her pregnant.

It really is a preference. My sister-in-law (Mrs. FL's sister) is perfectly content with her toys that run on AA batteries. Mrs. FL rolls her eyes at that. After all, we owned and had lots of fun with a Sybian some years ago. You'll get Mrs. FL's Rechargeable Cordless Hitachi Mini when you pry it out of her cold dead hand. As for using a vibrator in the first place, it's all a matter of preference. As a practical matter, Mrs. FL wants to be totally sated at the end of a sex session, which for her means at least 6 and often 10 orgasms. I am grateful to the Hitachi folks...

I used to ask David and Red to let me hold their dick while they peed. Maybe it was a control thing or just curiosity, but I like to do it. I haven't done it in a while.

I didn't know this is an issue. I have never had a woman that wouldn't suck my cock. Hell anymore women will give you oral as easy as a good night kiss. I love to go down on my partner then roll her over, stick my thumb in her pussy, rub her clit with my pointer finger while I lick her asshole. I guess there are men that don't do oral, but I don't know them!

Possibly the first few times I sucked a dick was difficult, the smell, the taste, my jaw, not knowing what to do with my teeth, was I doing it right, afraid of coming off as dumb and inexperienced. Difficult when the guy popped in my mouth, trying not to gag or throw up. Difficult having a dick shoved down my throat. I’ve learned after a short time how to make all those things enjoyable and don’t find it difficult for me. Do men find it difficult, or do female gays find it difficult doing oral on a woman? Is it physically challenging to move your tongue to satisfy? Throughout my sexual life oral sex has never been an issue, every guy I have been with I think was pleased with my not making it an issue.

I think that the problem of no oral sex occurs only in heterosexual men. I judge only from my own experience, and I don't want to offend anyone. But really heterosexual men, i.e. those who have never sucked a dick, do not understand how difficult it is physically. Especially if they have seen a lot of blowjobs in xxx videos and think that every girl can blow down the throat of a dick.

Do people really not have oral?

Our first MFM was our first Lifestyle experience. We were only dating and still in our 20s. We started going to nude beaches together, and we visited one while on vacation on Sanibel Island, Florida (that nude beach was not an officially designated nude beach and apparently no longer exists). We set up not far from a single male with a mop of shaggy blond hair, six-pack abs and bulgy shoulders and biceps. After a short while we engaged him in conversation. He was local and we were tourists so mostly we picked his brain about local spots to eat and drink etc. Soon after that we stood up to go down to the water and I invited him to come with us. The three of us stood together in the waist-deep surf talking. I sensed my wife (then girlfriend) was attracted to him and I started to formulate an idea that this could possibly lead to our first-ever threesome. Although we were nudists we had never even discussed swinging or threesomes before, I made the bold move to ask him to join us for drinks after the beach. I braced myself for a shocked reaction from my wife but didn't get one. She was actually keen on the idea. Drinks turned to dinner and again I sensed it was time for another bold move. Without any pregame discussion whatsoever I asked if everyone was interested in coming back to our hotel room. He agreed but my wife was stonefaced and silent. As we got up to leave she pulled me aside, put her face right up to mine and asked "Are we really doing this"? My reply was "We don't have to do anything we're not comfortable with". With that the three of us went to our hotel room together. Gory details aside, the night was a success. We enjoyed a long, hot passionate threesome and in the morning I checked in with my wife and she was in great spirits. No weird feelings of regret or jealousy - just a shared feeling of bliss and togetherness. After we returned from vacation we made the decision to visit a swing club together and the rest is history 😀

I can understand not wanting to perform oral, but not wanting it done on her is strange. Now that would disappoint me.

I wouldn't say it's a huge issue, but it may cut down on your play opportunities. Everyone is entitled to have their rules and boundaries. The tighter they are though, the smaller the sea you will be fishing in. Nothing wrong with that, just be upfront with people about where the limits are at and then they can decide whether they are compatible or not. For us, it wouldn't be a total deal-breaker. Even sex with each other may or may not involve oral foreplay. We can have satisfying sex without oral. No kissing, that is a rule that is a deal-breaker to us though. I guess because we can't imagine intercourse without at least some kissing involved somewhere between start and finish. Oral sex we can.