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It was interesting, a huge party, over 150 people. We watched and mingled only, keeping drinking to a minimum. We did see all the drunk people we were warned about! But what an experience! We'd definitely go to another, with less nerves next time.

We knew a couple who were in their 70s and threw parties like that. We thought it was the stuff of legend until we attended a few. Epic bacchanalian feasts that had to be seen to be believed. Perhaps some of the more mature swingers here from the NY/NJ area know what I'm talking about. There were always a few people shitfaced out of their minds and I pitied them for basically missing out on what was going on around them... in the pool... in the yard... on all floors of the house... one hundred plus ppl fornicating to yacht rock being piped in from the home entertainment system. More average is literally 4 to 8 couples or so. Sounds like you had a hell of an experience and I'm sure you both got an eyeful!!

Yes, most house parties are on the smaller side...maybe 30 people or less. 150 is an epic party. They must have a really big house and/or very understanding neighbors...

I can’t remember meeting a guy who didn’t want a blowjob from the very beginning of my sexual life. I do remember girlfriends first starting to have sex talking about their first time getting over the gagging so many years ago. Back then the girls talked more about giving oral not as much as receiving knowing not every guy was quick to do it. Things changed in college where oral sex was just part of all sex it wasn’t even a question. Swinging without oral has never come up. Additionally I never heard of using feet but I’m not aware of other’s kinks and wants like that.

If you are interested, go ahead and attend a party. At the very least, you'll be exposed to what the Lifestyle really is, not the stuff you've read about, and not the fantasies in your head (either bad or good.) I do suggest that before you go, have a good talk between yourselves. Decide how far you want to go that first night, then make sure you don't go any further than that. You can always take another step your second time, but you can't make a mistake just go away. Watch your alcohol consumption, too much booze is not good for following rules. Also, there are various birth control options that don't require condoms, talk to a doctor or do on-line research.

You are at a perfect age to enter the sport, we all welcome you. Experiences such as BBC can happen at a club, a house party, through a swinger's site, and other ways. The possibilities are virtually endless. You question the need for condoms. Is the lady post-menopausal? If not, there is pregnancy to think about. But the other aspect is STDs, some of the risk can be tempered by the use of condoms, others not so much. Educate yourself on the risks (we're here to help,) and make the choice that is right for you. Keep asking your questions, we'll be happy to help you!

Between the byob swing clubs and the houseparties we have seen some seriously inebriated Lifestylers. Don't be that couple!

We make it a point to drink very lightly at parties. Our go to drink is a white wine spritzer, meaning a little wine mixed in with some sparkling water in a tall ice-filled glass. It allows for the shared experience aspect of drinking while allowing for how "light" the pour, and the pour gets lighter with each subsequent prep. https://www.thespruceeats.com/white-wine-spritzer-759850 Experienced LS folks will generally agree that as experience accumulates, people ratchet down the amount of alcohol they bring and especially how much they consume. People who attend house parties typically need little (if any) of the social lubrication aspects of alcohol. They attend to have fun. Booze tends to dull that fun, not enhance it.

On an intellectual basis, we control our fertility before we have sex. But in the moment when engaging in sex, instinct takes over and much of that is to instictually do the things that make a baby and get the woman pregnant, which includes pushing in hard and ejaculating inside her. I don't see them, but I know they are there, a living part of a man. A pro-biotic of sorts.