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This seems like more of a topic for Slate.com’s sex advisor column than The Swinger’s Board …

I heard stories of private parties at pool clubs with 150 or more partying, never a house party, even 30 at a house party is big.

Hello everyone, I am 21 years old, and I have been studying a bit at a summer school these last few weeks, and one guy in my class is this super-hot guy who all girls are crazy about, and he is basically put on a pedestal. I ended up following him and 3 other girls out on a weekend party two weeks ago, and we followed him home that same evening. And after probably just a few minutes, I saw the other girls starting to get naked and line up for him on his bed, and I was a bit unprepared for that, but I guess I sort of fell for the group pressure, and decided to go with it. The next several minutes were essentially him just having his way with different girls from behind (including me), and I did think that this was hot, but I also felt like I was just one in the bunch for him. It was also a bit frustrating to spend a lot of time waiting (it had kind of become that moment when he was the one switching around), especially when I saw him go at some other girl, and I would just be like "come to me instead ffs". xP I feel tempted to try to get him on a one-on-one date, but I am not sure if he is that type.

Let me see if I understand this: he has already seen you (or at least a large part of you) naked and you have already had sex with him, and now you're afraid to talk to him...?!! You already know the answer to your question. First, you should be able to talk with him and see if he in interested...however, he probably isn't interested in dating one person right now. Why should he, he has multiple women willing to have sex with him whenever he wants it? Second, he had already 'chosen' one of the other women to be 'first'. Third, you deserve better. Just know that whatever happens, having sex with multiple partners is (apparently) the norm for him and he isn't going to change that any time soon, so unless you are 100% okay with him always doing this, then he isn't the guy for you. What he is doing isn't (IMHO) swinging...he is just 'hooking up' and moving on. Swinging is something you usually do with a partner while he is just having sex...with as many girls as he can, at the same time. I don't know if I should call him a cad or a God, but know this is who he is and he isn't going to change any time soon.

The biggest house party we ever went to was in a four bedroom house, maybe 40 people there; it was crammed. (Insert your pun here . . .)

Compliment him and ask him. Don't be shy, be yourself and you'll stand out among the others. All he can say is No, and that would be his loss not knowing what you can give him. Then you can decide whether he's worth another date. Please let us know how it goes.

We are going to the party this weekend. Wil be our first experience.

It was nice to see old friends who found us and our friends Saturday on the beach, it was so packed on the beach I even had a hard time finding my way back to our chairs. I found it funny that the world is small and our small group truly consists of six degrees of lifestyle. We were amazed that our friends who we were on the beach with knew other people we knew, and they knew other people who knew others we met. It proves that you would be surprised who you know that are lifestylers. We were with three couples on a nude beach when we saw a couple we had met 2 years ago who ended up being cousins to a friend we were sitting with. We joked that they can now become kissing cousins or more. Life is fun, go out and enjoy.

We only do soft (oral) swap so, yeah that would likely be a dealbreaker for us. However, we know and acknowledge that we are in the minority.

There aren’t that many clubs in the LA area. The ones that are typically open on Fri & Sat. Randomly on a Sunday if a holiday weekend and Wednesday’s here and there. I see Club Labyrinth is open every other Thursday. This is the only outing we’ve had since Covid started. It scared us back into our Covid hibernation.

A young man and a young woman are going at it. After a quick finish, the boy says, "If I knew you were a virgin, I would have taken longer." She replies, "If I knew you had more time, I would have taken off my pantyhose first."

It was interesting, a huge party, over 150 people. We watched and mingled only, keeping drinking to a minimum. We did see all the drunk people we were warned about! But what an experience! We'd definitely go to another, with less nerves next time.

Between the byob swing clubs and the houseparties we have seen some seriously inebriated Lifestylers. Don't be that couple!