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This Forum, posting and now more open talking has opened up a new future of friendship, enjoyment and new look at sex. Even with having sex at a younger age I didn’t talk about sex with anyone. I had ideas what others did, learned sex through my own experiences only slightly talking to friends about sex in a non-specific way. We all had sex and joked about the boys we had as boyfriends. I new when sex was just sex, when sex was good and when sex was great. I never discussed masturbation with friends even when guys freely spoke about jerking off. Now I have friends on here and a new friend that have opened my mind to enjoy and discuss sex to find the best ways to enjoy. I’m not embarrassed to speak freely how to have the most pleasure I can. I am lucky that my husband and I see our future sex life the same way talking more about what we like doing. There was a post on toys for the bedroom that interested both of us that led us to a toy that made me feel something that I’m now using everyday. I had toys before, I used alone and with others, basic vibrators in different shapes, sizes and for some reason in colors. The Magic Wand we just got is very intense and we are having mutual fun with it. We then got a Womanizer, different kind of feeling, it uses air it says and it’s for me, fits over my clitoris and works so quick and intense. I soon realized I need a towel close when I use it. Now I know more about squirting something that may have happened before to me nothing like this. I’m going to do a review on their site. Our original post on here gave us nerve to meet another couple with what we thought would just be sex then ended up we made friends who ended up as puzzled as we were. Two silly women and two horny men not sure what sex with others would do to our own relationships. Again we talked cautiously at first afraid to open feelings and wants. I don’t think I could just have sex with strangers I needed to know them first. Just writing this makes me a hypocrite, I had sex guys on first dates and now I waited for a third date with another married person. Thank you to everyone who responded to our post and to the messages we received privately giving us advice and encouragement.

I’m sharing because others shared. If I didn’t read about that toy most likely it would not get my attention when browsing ads. I would buy my husband male oriented toys then I think they would only make him go faster not slow him down as he certainly doesn’t need help in the orgasm department. He also doesn’t want toys in his butt as someone suggested. In the future I’ll share more experiences as we reach out to more people. Right now we feel positive with the one contact and they say the same about us. We have no reason to rush to find others we have plenty of time to digest our first.

Hello everyone, I am 21 years old, and I have been studying a bit at a summer school these last few weeks, and one guy in my class is this super-hot guy who all girls are crazy about, and he is basically put on a pedestal. I ended up following him and 3 other girls out on a weekend party two weeks ago, and we followed him home that same evening. And after probably just a few minutes, I saw the other girls starting to get naked and line up for him on his bed, and I was a bit unprepared for that, but I guess I sort of fell for the group pressure, and decided to go with it. The next several minutes were essentially him just having his way with different girls from behind (including me), and I did think that this was hot, but I also felt like I was just one in the bunch for him. It was also a bit frustrating to spend a lot of time waiting (it had kind of become that moment when he was the one switching around), especially when I saw him go at some other girl, and I would just be like "come to me instead ffs". xP I feel tempted to try to get him on a one-on-one date, but I am not sure if he is that type.

This guy is not a one woman guy. Maybe once for variety. If that’s enough for the OP, go for it. In my youth, this group set up would be unimaginable.

Exploring, I (and I think I can say 'we') are so glad we've been able to help you out, to assist you and your husband as you travel this road, finding out what you like and what is right for you. I don't believe that you are a 'hypocrite', you simply were lost in the mindset you came into this with - and we've all done this - and then by experimentation and reflection you've opened a world divergent from what you had been seeing. I (we) wish you so much luck and good times in the future. I hope as you mature in the LifeStyle you'll check back here and give others advice that you've gathered from your experimentation ,

Yes, it would be. One person is (apparently) looking for sex and a fun time, but that doesn't mean that they are looking for anything more and anything more shouldn't be assumed. Sure, trying to take it further MIGHT work out...if you buy a lottery ticket you might become a millionaire...but don't be surprised when it doesn't work out how you had things planned. It doesn't hurt to try and see, but going into this with high expectations...hurt is probably on the horizon.

There is so much truth and depth in this statement. Each of us has exactly one life to live, an instant in geologic time on this pale blue dot adrift in otherwise (to our knowledge) lifeless space. The core question becomes, "how will we choose to live this life--our lives?" We think that joyful (personal experiences) and joyous ( events, things, times, places) are important. We think not only is the LS compatible with a moral, responsible, and honorable life well lived, we think the honesty, respect, and freedom of the LS might actually be a better foundation for such a life.

My vote is for Womanizer Pro my new best friend when alone or with my bestie husband. I can’t wait to share it with our friends when we see them. I wish it had a cordless recharge capability like our phones. It does have one benefit over my phone, it’s waterproof which I think my iPhone is even if I don’t want to risk drowning my phone.

I think it's great that you like your new sex toy, last year a woman had what sounds to be similar to your new toy. She used it while I was with her and she really enjoyed it. I like these threads because how open people are about their experiences.

I am near 63 and I and another couple, who was both a year younger, did a DP. The female had only anal one time and didn't care for it, but wanted to try DP as a bucket list thing. The 3 of us talked about it while we were nude around their swimming pool. So we got the lube and her husband laid on a pool lounge chair and she rode him cow girl.I got in behind her with plenty of lube and it happened a lot easier than I expected. She came very quickly and her husband came next with me shortly afterwards. Now about the age, I do take viagra and don't know if her husband did, but what amazed me was the ease to enter her anally. I have had anal sex with various women of age, but in my opinion, the older the woman, the easier it is to have anal sex. And as far as athleticism, it's just knowing that the bottom man has to put his legs together while inside her pussy so the guy that enters her anus can have easier access. To me, I think DP is easier from 50's older simple because more relaxed.

DN, your wife isn’t the only person for whom battery level might not be front of mind. As in your case mine was years ago. We had four cordless phones and my wife had a habit of not replacing the handsets in their charger-cradles. I once phoned her from a lengthy business trip. Our call ended prematurely after the last of the four handsets died. 🙄😂 Somehow we still have a landline, though I never use it and she seldom does. But in the era of "devices" she keeps her phone and iPad. Her vibe? No worries; she has a corded MagicWand (a gift to her from one of my lady play friends).

We've done it by ourselves with me in her butt and a very realistic dildo in her pussy. I thought that was very hot but can't wait to try it with a real guy. DVP too, but I'm not sure she stretches that big and still be comfortable.

I agree that it's not really a swinger topic, but she is asking for advice and I see no harm in giving it, especially since we're all experienced in relationships. Jessica, I think this is a classic case of looking for what you want in all the wrong places. I agree with GoldCoCouple; he isn't going to suddenly drop getting to have sex with lots of women at once to have solo sex with you. Possible? Yes. Likely? Very much no, especially given his (approximate) age. In today's dating scene a woman like you can likely have the pick of anyone you want. You can find what you want, and don't have to think about sharing your guy with someone else. I mean, sharing is FUN, don't get me wrong... but it sounds to me like you really want the 1 on 1 attention (which is great!). I'm glad the sex with him was great!

This seems like more of a topic for Slate.com’s sex advisor column than The Swinger’s Board …

The best recommendations I received were from the women I work with. I found out about that suction toy making it a now favorite for me. Another recommendation sounded horrible, in reality it is strange and is much different, an e-stim toy that causes shocks and muscle contractions which in turn stimulate to orgasm quicker.

Some of my most exciting memories of potential sexual play were out-of-town short vacations where we would bring along a female friend or acquaintance of mine. I would try to seduce her into having sex with hubby and possibly me. We would pay for everything, get her a separate room; there would be no pressure, but I would create opportunities. Let them go off to do something alone, I would change clothes in front of both of them. Regardless of whether it happened or not, it was fun. And none of them ever had regrets either way.

Not into cuckolding specifically, and we aren't strict about it, but we have had a loose "two county"/fifty-mile/hour's drive rule for meeting new play friends. We've risked local gossip before, but the towns here are small and interwoven enough that even thirty minutes means a pretty good chance of being seen out by someone you know.

Not cuckold specifically but not terribly unusual for people to only play on vacation or when out of town in order to avoid family, friends, coworkers, neighbors, etc.

the swingvillage.com site is very Iowa oriented we found.. J&R

Check the listings for clubs above. There, however, only seems to be one in Iowa and it's in Cedar Rapids (not knowing what small town you are from). After this, it sounds like you need to find a house party or meet and greet that's being held near you. The best way to do this is to join an on-line swinger site (use 'find swingers' above). Most likely being in the mid west you should sign up for SwingerZone Central...it's our understanding that its more mid-western, but then both SZC and SLS are free to join so it doesn't hurt to sign up for both. I know you don't want to find people online, but by signing up you should be able to find some gatherings you can attend. Hope that points you in a direction.