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I do like a blowjob but prefer it in the 69 position, me looking up at the lady parts or boy bottom although in the latter case I would rather be eating the distaff member of the MMF threesome from between her thighs while the guy half works on my....

My wife doesn't flash strangers and we don't post nudes on line, but something Daniela told me about while she was in college still sticks in my mind. Before we met, my wife went to strip club amateur nights with some girlfriends and danced. She said it satisfied her exhibitionist desires at the time. What I remember from what she's told me is that they all became totally naked, but my wife did the reverse of what the other girls (and they were "girls" at the time) did. The others danced topless for a while then took off their panties and flashed pussy at the end. My wife became bottomless early on and spread her lips and ass while dancing. She only removed her top and flashed her tits at the end. I wish I were there.

Daniela and I do vaginal/anal DP with other members of our closed group, both together and with other partners. It can be exciting and pleasurable for all involved, although the most mind bending situation for me is watching my wife with two other guys. Despite everything that we have done, it's still like WTF whenever I see it. Like other sex acts (and nonsexual activities) we engage in with our group, there are certain people with whom twosomes, threesomes, and foursomes work best, and not necessarily involving one's spouse. But that's why we all do this, to maximize our pleasure finding things we may not necessarily do, or do well, at home. I love watching, or even just knowing, my is enjoying herself sexually.

I love blowjobs! Ive always liked giving them. Do you like blowjobs? Giving? Getting? I'm always a little surprised when I run acroos a guy who says he can take them leave them.

LOVE giving blowjobs most anywhere and quite frequently! However I do prefer them in a 69 FMMM with the man on top eating my pussy as I suck and handle him. I love to looking up and under while I play with him as his ass is getting fucked over me and I am getting done and eaten in between him sucking and placing the cock back forth from my pussy to his mouth. A good bit of anal play and even penetration on me can lend to his eating me. I tend to be able to take more cock deepthroat in this manner than most ways. I call it my sword swallowing scenario. Most of my friends have it down to a science but it can get rough occasionally as the guys get into the m/m anal above me. It's when I am able to get both sets of balls close enough to suck on back and forth. It freaks the guys out sometimes when I nab them. I have been rewarded with several back to back loads in this position. I also love the super sticky mess I am afterwards. My husband loves to lick me clean which gets me all riled up all over again for more sucking. I know, it's a viscous cycle.

The highest starred hotel in Cap is Oz inn (official 5 star), but even that Mrs and I have not been there, it is probably not a match to Desire or Hedo by the looks on the website. Aside from Oz there is no other higher-ranked accommodation. I also know that Oz is really, but really expensive. But if anything helps. I have been to all the posh ski resorts in France (Meribel, Courchevel, Val Thorens etc) and, unless you are a Formula one star or similar, the accommodation is similar to Cap, so it must be a cultural thing. Nothing personal to the area.

Sorry to say that we are older and spoiled and we like nice accommodations.

Thanks, Just to warn you that Cap accommodation will look like Alcatraz but if you can support this you will have a lot of fun, Visit Glamour Beach foam parties (100% nude and couples only), rent a bed (around 50 Euros for the classic or 240 Euro for the VIP with Champagne next to Jacuzzi) and have fun in the bed, in the jacuzzi or in the foam. There is no limit.

My ranking: Desire Pearl, Desire Riviera Maya, Hedo. Most Lifestyle activity: Desire RM Best facilities (accommodations): Desire Pearl Singles and Couples: Hedo. I would go to Pearl having been to the above three. Would like to go to Cap one day.

I love going down on a woman, it is very fulfilling, maybe because I do feel as if she is under my control. But I do also like her to order me to do specific things, go faster, go slower, suck her clit, put fingers in her vagina, put a finger in her ass... As for blowjobs, those are third on my list of enjoyment after regular fucking and eating pussy. I like it as foreplay, it just makes me want to go into her pussy.

Swinging is natural once people get rid of societal constraints.

There is so much truth and depth in this statement. Each of us has exactly one life to live, an instant in geologic time on this pale blue dot adrift in otherwise (to our knowledge) lifeless space. The core question becomes, "how will we choose to live this life--our lives?" We think that joyful (personal experiences) and joyous ( events, things, times, places) are important. We think not only is the LS compatible with a moral, responsible, and honorable life well lived, we think the honesty, respect, and freedom of the LS might actually be a better foundation for such a life.

The pace thing will work out better if his pace is yours. If someone decided to "Take one for the team" that is on them not you. Do not sell yourself short. On another thread I have spoken of a lady that my dear wife watched (and allowed) as I fell in love. This lady was wheel chair bound and as we were together gradually lost everything to MS. She was also smart, funny and had a kick ass attitude. It has been almost two years since her husband and I lost her. I still wake up some mornings with her on my mind. The point is that desire and attraction are in the eyes and heart of the beholder. Again, DO NOT sell yourself short.

You don’t want to participate because of your insecurities or you just don’t want to participate? Somebody found you attractive, he married you. I can tell you I don’t always love what I see in the mirror. Swinging is much more than looks or body shape. If you want to participate make sure you include a picture of both of you and let the others decide if they want to meet.

Other than your negative self assessment of your appearance, have you any other reason for doing nothing? OR Are you just fearful of not being asked? You would not be alone in that. Wallflower syndrome is what I call that. At one time I suffered from it. The fact that my lady got a fair amount of attention and I got a lot of reading done, did not help. My wife, bless her, told me"It wouldn't hurt if you put yourself out there a bit". It turns out she was correct. I still am not an extrovert by any means and that is okay. My comfort level is what it is. Being in the middle if the crowd and participating even if only in the work at a party, is far better than standing on the sidelines watching. It seems many people appreciate the quieter types. If on the other hand your question is based on your not wanting to participate for personal reasons ideological, personal or moral, I would suggest you stepping back a bit and continuing "the talk" with your partner, until and if you get it squared away.

Have you tried talking to him about this yet? He might not realize that he is doing this, and might not realize how it's making you feel. If nothing else, it sounds like you two could use some quality time talking about your rules and limits. Also realize that just because he seems to be attracted to women that are 'different', from you, it could also just be that they are different from you which is why he is attracted to them...not that he likes or prefers women like that. Remember, even experienced, long term swingers can still benefit from checking in with each other.

Good for you for letting him enjoy himself. Both men and women swing to get variety, whatever it is that their spouse doesn't have or can't give them. It's not a failure on your part. I can't believe that a "neat" woman like you isn't getting a lot of attention. Concentrate on finding partners that like what you are and have some fun!

Quick background that was posted on our intro. In our 30s, our sex life was tamed down when we married, no 3somes after the I Do. Lin met a guy at a dispensary where the spoke about the purchases they were making and invited her back to his place to try some together. When she said no because she was happily married he he invited me to join him and his wife. We went and had a nonsexual high time. By the time the night was over he invited us to join friends for a camping trip. We later learned sex might be happening amongst the friends. Linda and I decided what the heck why are we becoming our parents, let’s have fun. Before the camping we were told one of the women was most likely not going to be sexual while the other was extremely sexual and very wild. Our first play was Linda and the wild one under the stars. I figured nothing could top what I watched and then it got better.

You did hit the jackpot, you have a wonderful, understanding, generous husband.

Our camping was almost spiritual, enlightening bringing back to days we left behind. Everyone was new to us, even the ones who invited us we just met. We went with a very open mind with only our imagination letting us to what we might expect. Free spirited was a phrase used when told about one of the friends, quiet about the other. We found out free spirited was an understatement when we met, 1960s came to mind. Was that my parents when they met? Our day of hiking was tiring, we hadn’t hiked or camped in some time, it was also time to get to everyone. We felt as outsiders at first leading to a feeling that we were accepted. The free spirited friend took a liking to Lin at one point stopping, saying I Like You and giving Lin a very deep kiss. Lin looked at me and shrugged her shoulders, laughed and said I Like You Too. Campfire time started with some edibles and plenty of laughing, some eating, some wine and Lin and I telling our story. They told us they go camping a few times a year mostly with tents and we learned the other woman doesn’t have sex only giving oral to the guys. I think she was afraid to get naked because of being overweight, Lin later agreed. Sex!!! Connie, made up name, the free spirit said it was time for initiation. Okay you two, get your shorts off! She made sure we knew she wasn’t kidding as she unbuttoned Lin’s shorts. She took out a vape and passed it around, took it back and she said now be prepared. Told Lin to lean back and spread in a nice affirmative way. She took a big draw on the vape and blew the vapor on Lin’s crotch and said Nice Pussy and gave her a kiss right there. This had us all laughing until she shhh’d us and pointed to me and said Big Guy let’s see your cock here, took a another draw on the vape, blew the vapor on me, grabbed my dick and kissed my balls. Everyone was hysterical, again she quieted us and went back to Lin. Lin looked to me to join but Connie said just shut up and be ready to enjoy a magic tongue. Of course much more laughing and I was finally brought into the fun.

What brought out my Lesbian side and established my bisexuality was the jealousy I had watching my husband fuck another woman. (I had chosen her, so she was already attractive to me.) I just had to reclaim my husband afterwards by licking his semen out of her vagina and sucking his sloppy dick. I loved every aspect of it and my favorite arrangement is FFM.

Like many wives, Mary enjoys dressing the part when we head for our swingers club. When we arrive, she’s usually dressed suggestively, but not erotically. Think thin blouse with a modicum of cleavage, short skirt. Guys sit up and take notice. After an hour or two, she’ll slip off somewhere and dress in lingerie . Think a transparent babydoll, g-string. Guys will approach her and make lewd suggestions, which are often acted upon, particularly if they have wives that appeal to me. Yes, I love it when my wife shows her erotic side. I enjoy watching men study her breasts, her kitty if it's exposed in the hot tub. I want them to desire her, that's why we're swingers. Because she’s in a professional position with ties to the community, she almost never shows that side to the general public.

Couplers, I actually prefer smaller breast A’s & B’s are my favorite, Butt like any man I like breast to suck & nibble on.

I enjoy showing her off as well, just not on the net. 10+ years ago when we were just starting to date, we went for a walk around a lake close to where we live. At some point, I removed her bra and had her walk the rest of the way with her large breasts bouncing and her nipples pointing the way. At the time, it was the most daring thing she had done and something she wouldn't have considered if not for me. Having other men (and women) watching her walk by...she thought she was just the biggest slut out there, but she also loved doing it. Fast forward to now and after her being naked at a nudist resort, going to Desire RM several times, topless boating with our FWBs, and so many other 'naughty' adventures and the first thing she does when she gets home from work is takes off that bra. Just about whenever we travel anywhere (even if only a day trip) I take a picture of her flashing so I have a reminder of the trip. Heck, on weekends it's hard to get her to put on clothes (we are lucky enough to live on several acres that is well protected from prying eyes). If only there was someplace here that you could post pictures (for those who enjoy posting pictures on the net)...wait! There IS!

Update post: A couple of months ago, I posted seeking some advice regarding my shy wife’s a few new experiences. We both are originally from South Asia and almost two years ago moved to Europe. She is Muslim and used to be quite conservative with her living and dressing style. Since being here, she has become just a little bit more adventurous with her dressing style. I always encouraged her and also she enjoy going to parties. At one of those parties, she met a guy (say Adam) with whom she kinda hit it off. They danced, chatted and became cozy with each other. They remained in touch and subsequently they again met in another party a couple of weeks ago. They decided to go on a small day trip to be away from the known surroundings. For me it was a mixture of anticipation, nervousness, caution- everything. Here is the update after that. It was her first date ever with someone apart from me. She had already been close to him in a couple of parties (as I mentioned before in my posts), but nothing extraordinary happened. Although it was quite clear that they both liked each other and enjoyed the company. So, they fixed their first date for last weekend. She went to meet him at around 11:00 and returned home before 19:00. I had to wait until it was the night to get to know what exactly went down. Before she went out, I joked with her that Adam would definitely want to kiss her, which she said not much chance of happening. So I asked her that how far would she willing to go. She just replied that she’d just want to spend some time, enjoy the company and see how it’d turn out. At night gave me the detailed account of the day and here is how it went: She was a little nervous in deciding what to wear as she didn’t want to look too fancy yet nice. Finally, she decided to wear an angular sleeveless top (like halter neck) with a fitting stretchy pant. Underneath she wore a nice pair of thong; while as under the armpit the top was a little deep cut, she wore a regular bra. They took the same train to the city next to theirs, but from different stoppages. After getting down from the train, at around 11:30, they met over there at the station. The greeting was apparently cordial but simple, only a hug, and no kiss even on the cheek. They directly went to a festival and spent some regular cozy time without worrying someone known might spot them. After having lunch, they went to a park to enjoy a little bit of sun. At that stage, Adam asked her whether she told me that she was spending the day and having a trip with him. When she said that I know, again he asked whether I knew that she went out with him like a date, to which she responded again in the same way. He then asked whether she’s in an open marriage type of situation, which she responded to by just saying that I always encourage her to explore her sexuality. After the conversation, right there while chilling, he kissed her on her lips the first time. She told me later that she was so shy and nervous that she didn’t reciprocate. It was the first time she felt someone’s lips on hers, who wasn’t me. Within a few minutes, he kissed her again and this time she kissed him back. Then the kisses went on for a while (she actually loves kissing a lot) and those were quite hot and passionate with tongue and everything. Then they walked around the city a little and at around 16:00, went to the train station for the return journey. This whole time apparently countless kisses happened between them, with which she was visibly shy but happy with. On the train, they stood near the door as it was only a half-hour journey and exchanged numerous kisses. After asking I came to know that being outside, while kissing, his hands didn’t get much adventurous apart from occasionally grabbing her ass a little. They both down at Adam’s stoppage as she needed to take another train or tram to her stoppage. At that point, he invited her to his place for a coffee, which she declined. But, figuring out it was a weekend and the next train would take a little while to arrive, she then agreed for the coffee and went to his place which was just a minute or so away. After getting to his place, he turned the tv for her while he made coffee. When he saw that she was still wearing her shoes, he just asked her to take them off and relax for a little. Right after she took off her shoes, she turned around and felt that he had gently grabbed her. Instantly they started kissing and fell on the couch. He was on top of her and kisses were way steamier than before. He started kissing her lips, shoulder, arms, everywhere. Over her top, he continued kissing her belly and her tits. She told him to stop but didn’t actually want him to. In a couple of minutes, she regathered herself and figured she should leave. She pushed him a little and sat down to catch her breath figuring that was it. At that point, he kissed on her lips again and went on top of her on the couch for once more. She told me that she didn’t know what happened, but over her pants, felt his throbbing cock being rubbed onto her pussy. At the stage, she couldn’t control herself anymore and just kept enjoying the kissing and rubbing. Suddenly she felt that under the armpit, into her low cut top, reached his hand inside her bra. He was grabbing a tit of her and kissing. She didn’t know what happened and the next thing she noticed that he had unclasped her bra inside her top. She remembers that she took her hands higher and Adam just took both her top and bra off. She said to me that she couldn’t believe that she was with another guy while being half naked! He kissed and fondled her tits for god knows how long. She grabbed his cock over his pants and kept stroking it. Afterward, when he started sucking her tits, she knew that she had to stop; otherwise, she’d do everything. She barely got up in time for the next train and dressed up. He mentioned that she was leaving him in such a state, but didn’t want to rush it. After she had dressed up, he grabbed her tits inside her top under her armpit for once more. They just exchanged a short kiss and she ran to catch the train. Upon returning, she made me wait until it was the night when she was extremely shy to tell me about the things that happened. She said that it went way too far and never expected this from herself. Still, she can’t figure out why she agreed to get to his apartment in the first place. I have assured her time and time again that if she had enjoyed it, there was nothing wrong. She says that she definitely enjoyed everything a lot, but is feeling a guilty and shy afterward.

You have asked questions on this topic twice in the last half hour. Both times you mention divorce. If that is as serious of a fear as it seems to me, I would suggest backing away from the LifeStyle as a whole.

thank you my ftiend , Very good wisdom, and can I get more clarification around? Do I stop sex with my wife for example?

My Ol' Pappy once said, "You CAN lead a horse to water, and you CAN make him drink if you make sure he's thirsty before you take him to the river."

Thank you very much my friend, the reply was great I will keep every word, it seems you spent a lot of time writing this, thank you again

A swinger's club in Yemen? Who knew?

Lucky to have a so hot wife