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Searching for new friends was an excitement I shared with my husband looking mostly at profiles similar to ours. Our first connection was with a profile that could be ours. Newbies, our age, with likes that matched us. We searched for physically fit people, maybe being too picky, it was our want. I found someone that after a short time consider a sister in not a perverted way, we just think the same way. Now I am back to looking at profiles this time with that sister. Where the first search with my husband was analytical searching with her is full of laughs and much less terrifying. The first time looking a nude picture was a turnoff now we are looking and laughing. Two of us can now laugh at giggle out loud when we see men just hanging. There are sights you just can’t unsee when it comes to nudes. Sites for swingers are there as a good starting point and can be fun to search through with like minded friends. Set your standards at your comfort level then be overly cautious.

All good folks and thank you all for replying. I was just curious if others experienced this nonsense and I never bought into the concept “it’s swinging and no room for jealousy” when others especially married ones cheat on their spouses (lowest of low swinger if u ask me) … it’s quite hurtful to the other side and don’t do. Lol. Sorry. Listen to me. I’m moving on. She can do as she pleases. Time to really enjoy my retirement. Hitting the road for a long road trip visiting various friends. leave Sunday. Good news is I don’t have to get a nasty divorce with kids involved or sell a home. Lol. Been there done that. Good luck to all you horny as f people!!! And thank you again .

First of all, it's not 'swinging.' According to you (since we haven't had your partner's point of view,) she's not being honest with you, and she's hooking up without your knowledge and approval. That is wrong, and in almost all cases, it leads to the kind of hard feelings you are having. I'm very sorry for you for that. Now, where do you go from here? 1) You say you want out. You've make it clear in your message that you feel she's cheating. Okay, so what's to stop you from taking her out to a coffee shop and telling her you're out? It's going to be hard - I assume you are very fond of this woman, if not in love - but assuming you'll eventually break up with her no matter what, it'll be hard then, too. Doing it this way just brings on the sadness earlier and saves you a lot of pain. 2) If you feel that there's any chance that the relationship could be saved, go to with her to therapy under the following condition: Until you are finished with the therapy, neither of you will have relations with anyone else. If she doesn't accept that condition, it means she's not invested enough to have therapy work. If she breaks the condition during the therapy, it means she has a problem that couples therapy isn't going to fix. But . . . if both of you keep your word, and you're able to work it out through therapy, then perhaps you'll have a loving companion for the rest of your life. As I said before, this really isn't a swinger's question, it's a relationship question. I wish you the best of luck.

...just one more reason that men shouldn't post dick pix. Guys: just say NO...don't do it, it isn't necessary, and no matter how big or impressive you think you may be, there will always be someone bigger and/or more impressive than you. If the only thing you have to try and impress women is your dick, then you are going to be very disappointed in your searching.

Hunter and njbm: When a couple is swinging, life doesn't need to be an open book...but usually it just is because of the trust and communication. I've never ever felt the need to question my partner or verify what she is doing because of that trust. However, what has been happening in this case, she has been cheating, which is a betrayal of trust and if someone wants to try to continue, things need to become transparent on her side to verify that she still isn't in contact with the other guy and that nothing bad is happening so that trust can start to be rebuilt. Trust, but verify is the first step to repairing a relationship. In this case it doesn't sound like the relationship is able to be or going to be repaired. It sounds like Teddy is good with this and is looking forward to his next adventures and experiences. Teddy: enjoy your retirement and whatever you do next. We wish you the best and know that you deserved better. Good luck and good times as you move forward!

This is not a swinging issue. She has a new boyfriend. Talk to her, but I think this is not good news for you. Take appropriate steps in your best interest. She did.

Moving takes time and planning, this has been in the works since the beginning. She must have known that is what he was doing. if he’s already moved in 1 1/2 blocks away without you knowing in advance, it’s time for you to move on. Sorry buddy

Nit so sure about this. Swinging is a lifestyle that can accommodate many different arrangements - except paranoia and jealousy.

It’s inevitable if you go to parties that one day you will see someone you know. We have seen people from business and others we know but not well. Before posting this I searched and saw others say they have met daughters and sons, in-laws, and others they never expected. I always wondered how I would react. We recently were invited to a house party. We have enjoyed a party at these people’s house before. Big clean house and they do it right. Private bedrooms, play areas with air mattresses, and a kinky room that’s interesting. Stacks of clean towels and robes in a dressing room. The couple who owns the house are older and sweet. They greet every couple at the door with a glass of champagne which I say is so classy. We go to the changing room put our clothes in plastic bins and take a robe. Another couple is in there with us and we start a conversation. I am looking forward to maybe being with them. Mike was very friendly to both and suggested we have a drink together. While at the bar getting to know our new friend I hear “Patty”. Nobody calls me Patty, I am Trish or Tricia, nobody calls me Patty anymore. EXCEPT FAMILY. It’s my cousin, technically a second cousin, my Father’s cousin’s son. We really only see each other at funerals and some family occasions. I don’t know when they got there. They were already in robes too. We had some family talk that chased the other couple to excuse themselves. I really didn’t want to spend the night like this. My cousin is good looking and his wife is also except he is family. Others are already getting busy and we are still talking. So much going through my head. We ended up in a bedroom and playing. Were we wrong? Is this taboo?

The difference between swinging and cheating is that swinging is done WITH your partner with their full knowledge (and usually participation). Cheating is done WITHOUT their partners knowledge...which is exactly what this sounds like. If it is 'just sex', then why is she even hesitating about you wanting her to stop seeing him? At least, for now, swinging (cheating or whatever she wants to call it) is on hold and she needs to STOP SEEING HIM (PERIOD). As for staying or leaving, that is up to you. If you choose to stay, her life needs to become an open book (especially her phone) and counseling is not a bad idea. But it sounds like there is more to this story than just this making you want to leave. Either way, its your decision. Good luck and let us know what happens.

I hated reading this as I can easily visualize something like this happening which is a reason I've resisted playing separately. If you give a mouse a cookie / you can't put the genie back in the bottle. Good luck whichever way you go and I agree with the second piece of Adam's advice above. That can be a litmus test to see if the relationship is worth saving.

LOVE giving blowjobs most anywhere and quite frequently! However I do prefer them in a 69 FMMM with the man on top eating my pussy as I suck and handle him. I love to looking up and under while I play with him as his ass is getting fucked over me and I am getting done and eaten in between him sucking and placing the cock back forth from my pussy to his mouth. A good bit of anal play and even penetration on me can lend to his eating me. I tend to be able to take more cock deepthroat in this manner than most ways. I call it my sword swallowing scenario. Most of my friends have it down to a science but it can get rough occasionally as the guys get into the m/m anal above me. It's when I am able to get both sets of balls close enough to suck on back and forth. It freaks the guys out sometimes when I nab them. I have been rewarded with several back to back loads in this position. I also love the super sticky mess I am afterwards. My husband loves to lick me clean which gets me all riled up all over again for more sucking. I know, it's a viscous cycle.

People change, personal tastes change over time. Neither is wrong.

In order to get out of my marriage with the least amount of emotional bloodshed, I agreed to a lot of things that weren't to my advantage. There were a lot of threats and attempts at various sorts of blackmail. I wasn't exactly shocked, because it was more an escalation of the things that finally wore me out, but I was troubled by the lengths he was willing to go. And, yeah, he definitely was kicking at my most vulnerable areas. From that, I have the following advice: Eliminate any ties you have, even if it means giving up the dog (or getting complete custody). Wrap up all financial business quickly, with the help of a mediator if necessary. Erase any idea you might have of getting him to see how his actions prompted yours. Let go of the story of why you left, because it doesn't really matter right now and will only keep you enmeshed. Let it all go. If you need to continue anything, do so with a third party, preferably a mediator or attorney who specializes in conflict resolution.