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I think this situation is more common than ppl think. When we were young things were more even, couples swap etc. But as we matured I (hubby) took more of a backseat while my wife continued to expand her boundaries. Dating, boyfriends, weekends away... even a couple full-week vacations just her and a lover while I worked and stayed home. All with my blessing, of course. I look at it this way: sex, passion, a bit of romance... and even love are good things. A woman has the capacity to enjoy - and love - more than one man simultaneously. She puts me first but I know I'm not her only. I'm never afraid she will leave me bc I don't make her choose. With me she knows she can have it all. I LOVE being married to a highly sexual woman and I want her to have all the love and satisfaction she wants in life. Yes, I have to keep feelings of jealousy and mixed emotions in check. After 25 years in the lifestyle that's actually quite easy. That's just my 2 cents anyway.

Exactly. I wanted Daniela to hotwife me not because I got a thrill from it, but because she is by nature not monogamous and she found fulfillment as a woman with multiple lovers. (and I still got all that I wanted and needed.)

Thinking about it, we were the opposite. After us starting with just my husband, my boyfriend and me as an item for two years, I started setting up my husband with my female friends and acquaintances for sex. My husband is very attractive, but I was amazed how many women took me up on the offer. It was a combination of women liking to sleeping with a married man, especially with the wife's permission, and all of us being young. That's what moved our lifestyle journey along. Is there such a thing as a "hot husband?"

My simple advice is don’t be nervous or reserved to spark conversation with anyone that peeks your interest. Also, you’ll have a better chance of a connection with people sitting alone and not in a group. We recently met the perfect couple just by sitting next to them by the pool. We hit it off, had an awesome time with them, and stayed in touch. We just booked a weekend in October with them at another club.

We’re lodged somewhere between a swinging couple and a hotwife scenario. Maybe leaning more towards hotwife. Time will tell.

Agree. I trust my wife. I don’t read her mail, texts or emails. I will say in swinging, the males text the males and the females text the females. We have had a couple of guys who became obsessed with my wife and thought she was their girlfriend. Not our jam.

Lets see: She's full swap, he's not. She's okay with the women touching, but nothing more than that...(unless I have that wrong) that's not that long.

I am convinced that there are as many ways to do a relationship (traditional or not) as there are people engaging in them. I would suggest not putting too much energy into how to "Label" yourselves. (To some, that term is an abomination.) As was stated earlier, just be clear & honest about how you like to play. While your style may put some limits on how many connections y'all make, it is more likely that most of the ones you do make will be of higher quality, as you hone your communication techniques. An "anomaly"? I hardly think so. Try to think of yourselves as what you are: Two beautiful people, deeply in love with each other, and fond of exploring intimate adventures with others. With patience, everything else will work itself out. Enjoy the journey! bud :-)

I have had delightful DP experiences (Vaginal/Anal) but never tried DVP. Also, lately, I have become, or we have become (depending if my husband is participating or not), very good at guiding partners through the logistics of the positions, being the most enjoyable for me the classic doggy style where the guy in my ass manages the rhythm and can archive deep penetration.

Once an exhibitionist, always an exhibitionist...you may want to come back and revisit this with her...

How does your husband do this? Orally? Digitally? Do you like large labia too? My Lesbian desires always followed whatever woman my husband was with. My jealousy, I guess. Besides your girl play, do you soft play with other men, like give blowjobs or let them finger and lick your pussy? Just curious, did you full swap when you were single?

You did hit the jackpot, you have a wonderful, understanding, generous husband.

I want to bring this to light once again. Had my husband been bi prior to me meeting him I most certainly would have wanted him to tell me. I am with wolf-man, I don't know how you can keep it quiet and why would you? You are supposed to be best friends for life how could you keep this from your future mate for life? And what if he'd developed interest during our marriage, the same goes, keeping it a secret would only cause issues down the road. So what if we never venture down that road in real life we could have some serious fun in role play. Why not share everything in your life with the one you love the most? We play so many ways now that we have opened up to each other about all of our crazy thoughts, interests, and desires. Many we do not fulfill live with others but we do have fun with them. We love sex talk, discussing what is on our minds. If your partner cannot handle it, perhaps they are not the true one for you?

I agree, most women have many choices while men have to act in a special way to find a woman they would want to be with. The women I played with were business associates that knew me well enough, I didn’t hide the fact I was married, that they said they looked forward to my visits. On the rare occasion that I met someone at a hotel bar who went back to my room I considered myself a true salesman. My wife goes online and has her pick of willing partners. I feel lucky to have a desirable wife that can enjoy herself.

Well, theoretically if you are having any kind of sexual interaction with the people of the same gender you are are by definition bisexual. The trouble is there is so much stigma attached to the word that a lot of people are not not able to be honest with themselves about it. You see so many who say they are straight but like sucking cock, or whatever specific bisexual activity. As JandKinBoise said, there is a huge range of bisexuality - and it NO BIG DEAL. The problem I see for those who take part in bisexual activity but claim they are straight is that they either subconsciously or consciously feel like they are doing something wrong. That's a recipe for some psychological problems, guilt, etc. You can be just a little bisexual or a lot (or 100%) or only occasionally indulge, but you really need to be comfortable with it and not feel like you are doing something wrong. Personally I don't believe anyone is truly 100% straight - maybe 99.9%. It's not a black and white thing, it's all shades of grey. I think that those homophobes who do the most "gay bashing" are probably running as hard as they can from their own little secret inner feelings and over compensating. And a lot of men who do that are just fine with the idea of women playing together!! Hypocrites!! Why is it that it seems to be more acceptable for women to have sex together than men!! It can't be all about the macho man thing because frankly some gay men are pretty macho. Human beings are often so strange, complex and confused. Personally I'm bi and perfectly comfortable with it. Can't say I'm truly 100% bisexual because I'm virtually always sexually submissive to other men - I can be orally versatile but only if they want it - but with the right man I can be into the "kissing and cuddling" part too. But I am not romantically attracted to men - it's all about the physical sex. Maybe that's where the gay part of the equation comes in - the romantic attraction? BTW: My wife loves anal sex too and she pegs me with her strap ons (for the record, good but not near as good as the real thing.)